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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; “To Begin Again In Parenting”.

Updated on December 2, 2019
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

And Life Begins

New beginnings.
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Who Knows?

Can we really really begin again in Parenting? Maybe Parenting is too restrictive of a term. I find myself to begin again parenting to myself. Isn’t that strange. But I have a parenting in me for me. Perhaps these sermons are to begin again in parenting. I wrote the proper sermon on Wednesday last. Out the danged window it went. For some reason I must begin again in parenting myself.

So we ask ourselves. Is there guilt in not doing guilt inside ourselves when us as teachers find fault within ourselves? Now that is heavy. I do not even think that I can think that (Ala Dr. Seuss)

Those above are really not to be answered. Look at the morning moon or clouds going by, these may do you better.

So I am an understanding and supporting parent. Why am I as my own parent so hard on myself? If you deny this in yourself perhaps we should have a chat. It is not self condemnation. It must be self adoration. “Fault” is a great term. I like it. I find fault in many of life’s things. And mostly in myself for finding fault in other’s actions. This judgement of others is not so good. I need to begin again in parenting myself. Son who is me, you have got to knock it off. If you do not judge and only love all lives around you will be better and certainly not worse.

Once again the parenting begins. Today must be better than yesterday and tomorrow better than today. Bad stuff happens and good stuff happens it is how we parent ourselves that makes us thrive. Today will be in strife. I simply cannot let my wife drive. But she will fight me on it. She just did. But we will make it through because of my inner parent. That is just crazy talk but too real. A parent is gentle in the application of rule and discipline as must be the person within us. We are not the Judge and jury over ourselves. We are our advocates for peace and well being. I am not my brothers keeper and yet I am. I am not my keeper but yet I am.

Bow down to peace and love my friend. And let me be my friend. Internal strife causes war between nations as much as it does within us. Let us learn to be parental peacekeepers.

We Just Need Parents, But What a Show

What Kind of Parent?

We just do our best.
We just do our best. | Source

Bring It On

Today is a tough one. We are having to be separate kinds of parents. Perhaps argument is more the rule than getting along. Ha ha ha. Ain’t no devil got us. So we got at like cats and dogs and about every 30 minutes do our group family hug. Parenting is sometimes required to be tough. My wife parents me. I am kind of a kid. Loose cannon some say.

Now my wife in her 40’s can run four crews and four locations and demand perfection in work. I know that tomorrow she will command four crews. One is Russian born, One is Mexican born and the others American born. She works for a contractor and she is one tough lady. I think she is about four feet nine and weighing in at about ninety four pounds. My nine year old is the same in physical. I am over six feet and a big boned presence who has broken more noses than tomatoes on my vine. When I walk into a room either in my black leather jacket or tie and coat folks get my presence. I effect.

I was laughing hard over beer with a buddy. He declared that my wife was hard as nails. I simply told him that she was tougher than an 1849 railroad spike. My children parent me and for danged sure so does my wife. Even my ex-wife. Not to mention my five siblings.

A fine friend told me I was a good man. I just said that those around me were good like him. Not me. We have the opportunity to pick our parenting and our friends. If someone were to tell me I did it right I would have to say “not me but all my parents were such”. Do we teach ourselves? Or do we let others teach us? I like to sit in my big chairs and let my young son tell me about life. I just live to learn and it can even come from our small terrarium or maybe a song or scripture or a buddy. Around here we just learn. I think I should be the boss of everything. But those who parent me suggest otherwise.

Just A Hike

Where I Parent.
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Raise Up Friends

I was just picking up on my Italian. My mom and dad insisted on at least three languages. Not to speak it so much but to live and understand cultures. Clearly we were German in our home. But I did Latin area languages and then married a Vietnamese after years there. French still befuddles me. And I never get Finish though I study it, amazingly interesting. Cajun from Louisiana is way cool, my teacher there was awesome, we did it through music.

My point is that we must have parents in several places lest we fail to continue to learn.

So on this day I am back on the reed. I got’s to relearn it for a new beginning. Maybe I just need to do a new beginning in my head and not someone else. Or maybe I should do a new beginning in my God. That clarinet though is brutal to relearn. I have to wonder what the rich people are doing today.

New beginnings are fantastic. I do not even need to leave my comfy house. I just pick up a new thingy. Or maybe I just read the U.S. constitution one more time.

I do not like so much new beginnings with women. My first for 15 years and my now love for nearly on twenty years. My elder children I insist they have new stuff. In their 30s. But here is how it happens. My wife was on a high horse. Judging and demanding for a couple years. Fine for her. I know how to back off. But not good so much for a relationship. So a man steps back and knows that he just better just move to the action. And crazy crap happens. And gal falls off her high horse. And so we have new beginnings and that is fantastic. That is love. Even for years we deal with it. Her hard time has made her more happy with group family hugs. That is what we talk about.

Do not look in my direction, for God has not given me understanding of what to do but rather what to love. I ain’t found nothing lately.

Everyone should have a preacher and a psychiatrist. Mine do not charge me, they take me to lunch. One needs more preaching and the other more psychiatry. Yet each benefits my well-being and that gets passed along in all our lives. I need new beginnings.

We are made perfect. Our simple job is to strive for that perfection.

On my road to owning a security company after 911 I “covered” a gal. Tina, I think she was nice and not rude to me. She told me to stay safe though that was not my job. She told me she did not want another hero. She gave me a new beginning. Good on her.

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    • Sneha Bhat profile image

      Sneha Bhat 

      2 weeks ago from India

      Thank you sir.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for visiting and leaving a comment Sneha. And a big welcome to HP. I visited your article and like your style.

    • Sneha Bhat profile image

      Sneha Bhat 

      2 weeks ago from India

      Really Yes sir.. Parents learn a lot from kids..

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora I was just praying in thanks that I have teachers and those I can teach. What a wonderful world.

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, you've got so much to teach. Your idea that parents must continue to learn is fundamental to education, to life, as a whole. That parents must parent themselves is huge. Some profound lessons in this article.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Patricia you are so kind. Perhaps, love, love the wonderful thing the more you give the more you bring. At least all my children know that jingle I wrote many years ago.

      The child teacher is so innocent and kind to parents we must cherish it so. And hopefully that child lives within us.

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      Patricia Scott 

      5 months ago from North Central Florida

      Let us all be parental peacekeepers....Amen. We do have a lot of parenting going on in our lives even as parents to ourselves. I am so glad you wrote this as I thought I might be a little crazy because I find myself engaged in self-talk such as you have illustrated. Glad to know I am not the only one on the planet who does so. I am emailing this to myself to read again....it deserves more than one visit. Many Angels are headed your way ps

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Devika. I am very honored to be a parent.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Parenting has changed a lot from centuries ago and I did not believe in restrictive parenting for my son. It is tough when y our child has to heal from pain and to help with what is not in my control is explainable.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah I once road a bull named Moses, he near broke my back, I fell off a cliff once near on forty feat. But parenting has broken my heart more. So be it.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda we pray. My lady is having issues early. I have spoken with two experts and they suggested early onset. Dierkers do not ride in back we lead the charge. If life gets tougher, bring it on.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marlene, my son just said that he loves it when I harass him.

      Something about paying attention to him. Then he complained about my rules. I like my wife schooling me on matters. Oh of course issues and even harsh language. That is what I call the "give and take" of being a parent. My boy will teach me tonight and that is cool.

      I hear him pulling out some stuff. What has he got going on?

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      5 months ago from Washington DC

      If man are "children of God" God is our parent don't you believe, Eric? So yes, God blew life into earth to produce Adam which makes earth woman's mother, God our father and both our parents.

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      Linda Lum 

      5 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, parenting is the toughest job I've ever held. The hours suck and there's no vacation, but the rewards are unimaginable.

      Hardest parts? Having to watch your kids hurt and knowing there isn't a darned thing you can do. When they are little you can heal a skinned knee with a kiss and an ice cream cone. Ask me how to heal the broken heart, mind, and body of a young woman who has endured domestic violence from her macho Marine Corps husband.

      And then there is the time in life when you switch places with your parents. When you become the parent taking care of the mother/father who has become the child. Humbling and heartbreaking yet, finally, a chance to give back.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill to my limited knowledge it was a cannon aboard a ship that was not hunkered down and therefor would fire without direction. Maybe even hit a friendly ship. A "loose Cannon is one that goes off without direction".We do tough here and our cannons a ready for bore. But they are tied down and aimed squarely.

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      William Kovacic 

      5 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Just wondering Is "loose cannon" an Italian word? Oh, well. Thanks for your thoughts. Sometimes they overwhelm me. I have to slow down and think, so it's all good. Hope you and your family had a wonderful holiday, Buddy

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I have the shovels sharpened and the boy will get rid of the winter weeds with them. Then I give him a hot hot hand massage, hot shower and hot and cold packs. What a spoiled injured brat.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela, in our group hug this morning with issues flying my son scheduled for some ugly tests and my wife failing her driving test we refuse to have a good week. Our Lord does not settle for such.

      I am listening to Joan Baez on "We Shall Overcome:" Join us in kicking bad stuffs ass.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah my parents are dead. My birth parents quite long dead. God is not a parent God is God.

      And then I know that Mother Earth is my mother and she wraps me in her bosom and lifts me up. Alright God slaps my behind and gets me at it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Don't know about her bro Manatita. But know this; you help to parent me. Easy, no responsibility there. Just a good big brother.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill that is such a fun confusion. Hence the Boy Teacher articles. My son was teaching me about photosynthesis last night. But I almost stumped him on humans and need for vitamin D, he got close. Syncronism is cool.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      The old "ball and chain" hihihihi and are going on a test drive after her incidents.

      Scariest ride of my life. What the heck do you do when someone stops being safe to drive?

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      Clive Williams 

      5 months ago from Jamaica

      The new generation of kids needs to begin again in Parenting.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      5 months ago from Sunny Florida

      We never really received a list of rules for parenting. We just move along probably like we learned from our parents. We all make mistakes, but we always learn from them My mistakes have been my best lessons in life. Love conquers all!

      Guilt feels bad, and I really like your message of love. Your family has been through a lot recently with the car accident. Your wife sounds like a good and tough woman. You are blessed to have such a loving family. I hope you have a good week.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      5 months ago from Washington DC

      I have found that I am parented by everything anyone does to me, it makes me dig within myself to find an answer that does not inflame them but cause them to think of themselves in my position.

      My understanding of a parent is one who causes me to better understand myself and learns from what I have to say since everyone is supposed to be an inspiration to everyone else.

      Thanks for the read, bro. Eric, I needed that.

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      manatita44 

      5 months ago from london

      She was awesome coming on stage bro. I loved it! Now she chants mantras and sings devotional stuff to kids. Does she still sing?

      Parenting seems to be your theme here. My penultimate piece was about a dog. We have so many parents (teachers), and they are not all human. They show us our mortality and that's cool by me. Nice work, Bro. Peace.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 months ago from Olympia, WA

      My son is 35. Do I still parent him? I suspect so, but I also suspect he parents me at times. It's all so confusing! :)

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