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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Hate Speech versus Love Speech

Updated on January 30, 2017

On this day I had pain, my son reminded me to look up and not down.

We need to not look in. For we fail there.
We need to not look in. For we fail there. | Source

Are you socially redeeming?

There is a wonderful quote from a very prominent Supreme Court justice that has stood the test of many years and changes in our societal acceptance. It is very cool in it’s acceptance that even logic sometimes requires other innate senses. It is about pornography. And can easily be used to judge what is hate speech and what is not. Oh our fractured mind delving from the subjective to objective and back again with no warning to the thinker. As hard as man has tried feelings cannot be avoided.

So the Supreme Court quote and the case around it is just wonderful to look into even in a cursory manner like Wicki. What is pornography? And Justice Stewart say’s in his opinion that no definition is forth coming from the court but he “knows it when he sees it”. Now be careful here we are not talking offended as in, someone who gets offended because someone farts or calls someone an idiot. That just was not on the table in the ‘60s. This notion of offense taken because of unique or heightened sensitivities is a fad not an organic truth. Scared of cockroaches is normal but not rational.

So, I think you would be interested into looking into this court case. Again don’t pull up the opinions, as I think there were actually four. Just look up the phrase or the case of Jacobellis v Ohio. But most over 50 will remember something about Miller v. California which established pornography as something “without any redeeming social value”. Sorry it took so long to get here but here we are nevertheless.

It is the premise here that although we think every selfie ever taken and every foul word uttered against someone we dislike has socially redeeming value and in fact it does not. So what the heck is hate speech?

I ain't confessing but maybe one night down in Nogales this song rang true.

My son has never spoken in hate. Do I need to teach him?

Put down that drink of hate.
Put down that drink of hate. | Source

Could you imagine I said to you "may hate be with you"?

Now we have to get into the notion of brutal honesty. What happens if we truly believe that your friend is full of hate? Notice right away it is the changing of our belief into a fact. So we say I think your friend is being hateful. The only fact here is what is believed, not that which is true by empirical data. Now let us hear this phrase and you can fill in the parties very easily to match you own disguised hate. “I hear what you are saying be she/he is an idiot”. Well we see immediately a disconnect. And one should note that the word idiot was used up to about the ‘60’s to describe a fairly specific level of mental acuity. Very fascinating to look up “Moron, Imbecile and idiot. And of course we all know that we stopped using such terms at about the time we stopped using queer, yet here it is back in vogue.

So we can gleam from the evolution and sometimes devolution of words that certain words are now words to hurt another. Calling someone an idiot today is just trying to hurt them or their friends. There is no other reason for it. It is no longer descriptive of a condition it is hate speech. It is meant to hurt.

(now there is a caveat here and that is my older brother Brian. One of the most awesome men I have ever known. Rainey in “Into the Wild” and the world’s premier, without competition, river runner in the world. He never says “that was a bonehead move” he says with conviction that you are a bonehead. Kind of like in the Marines)

We hope that gets the point across about speech coming from the heart. The Bible says something like “your words are the overflow of your heart”. Hate speech = hate in heart.

Just a little place I call home above Sedona.

The pain you feel here is stubbing your tow and not the words you speak.
The pain you feel here is stubbing your tow and not the words you speak. | Source

I prayed this a few times and my guns and badge was my mouth.

I care that you do not speak in hate. I love you but you are speaking in hate.

Let us move into the area of love speech. One I like these days is “I love you bro”. Almost never sincere. But when my 31 year old poet, artist, leader of a band, and famous model says it to me, his old man, it is sincere. What son calls their dad “bro”? Well only a son who also thinks of his dad as his friend. That is love speech. “Honey you look fat in that dress”. The husband will be crucified. There is no way that he says that unless he really loves his wife enough to be honest and receive the wrath. Sometimes love speech is as nearly brutal as hate speech. But what is not overflowing from the heart is hate, it is love.

Let us take a moment to check out what is almost always said at a marriage ceremony. I had a County Clerk actually say it at my quickie wedding, my wife at the time Buddhist and the only witness a secretary. Not to worry we are now 14 great years and a wonderful, this Thursday seven year old son. She read: 4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. 11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity. (charity means love in a brotherly sense)

So notice this was not meant as between loving wife and husband but between – men.

Oh I just these wrap ups incorporating seemingly disconnected thoughts.

If you voice your hate of one side as opposed to another you speak in hate. If you speak of one issue as opposed to another, you speak in context. But if you speak that you do not care for a thought you speak in love. He is a “jackboot”, she is a “criminal” you lower yourself to hate. Please my friends do not slip into the easy way out of repeating what someone else says or just copying hate speech from another. It does you no favor. By repeating words of anger we simply create more anger. Let me be crude, people are not assholes, assholes are assholes.

Perhaps we can all look at what our hearts overflow with. I know I must and it is up to my objective to change my subjective into love.

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      John Hansen 5 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Great words of wisdom, Eric. it is far too easy for some people to resort to name calling and hateful insults when they don't agree with another on a certain issue. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and just because you don't agree with them does not make them wrong or give you the right to express hatred towards them.

      Of course, you are free to debate the issue and tell them your reasons for thinking their stance is wrong .. but remember, they have the same right. We are all free to disagree, but lets do it in love.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My Lunar New Year is coming to an end. I am a rooster. We will do our best not to preach love but to be love.

      We celebrated Southern stuff today. My son was amazed to think that the Northern Hemisphere was all garbage as we do not know top from bottom to top. I reckon you guys and Vietnam have it right. For sure us Roosters crow no matter.

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      John Hansen 5 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Hey, Eric. I'm crowing as I was born in the year of the rooster too.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John it is tough going around here. My son comes running up and calling me a chicken and runs off to giggle :-)

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      Bill Holland 5 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I've got just three words for you, buddy....I love you!

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      John Hansen 5 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Haha.. Cockadoodledoo

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill starting a day this way is the best! Thank you I needed that.

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      Linda Lum 5 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, if ever these words were needed, it is now. I am hearing so much hatred or hate-speech on Facebook. It's sad that we can't seem to separate our disagreement with a thought from our feelings about the person. It's not "I hate your position," but rather "I hate you." Can't we just agree to disagree and then move forward from there? Thanks for a timely hub, and I love you too brother.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, you lead the way with wisdom like this great quote you relayed to us

      "A bowl of food served with love is a greater gift than a steak dinner served brusquely." That which causes pain has no value, that which uplifts is more precious than the finest gem.

      I reckon there are two kinds of people who just cannot refrain from attacking as a means of communication; Zealots and those who think they are victims. My son is a zealot about being anti poison. If he even thinks I have something with Sodium Benzoate in my home he gets all crazy. But I think he hates the chemical and not me :-)

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      Linda Lum 5 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric - he hates the sodium benzoate BECAUSE he loves you.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      True that Linda. All the lemon I consume for Alkaline balances make the sodium benzoate turn right into Benzene which is a cause of my follicular Lymphoma. Maybe not cause and effect but.

      We should put a label on the stuff that reads like a cigarette warning. For those of us that love citrus benzoates are a silent killer.

      (oops, I rant - sorry)

      You are right about my son.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I disagree with others, especially politically, but I respect all comments. Hate hurts, but each person has a God given right to their opinion. God is love and if we remember that, we'll be slower to speak hateful gossip.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ruby, yes indeed you do treat others with respect and show your love.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 5 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, recently a friend told me that she was being accused of angry (perhaps hateful) speech. I had to be honest and let her know that she does sound that way when she speaks; although I know that she doesn't mean to. Apart from the words, we also have to pay attention to our tone and facial expressions. Perhaps, if we feel loved (that's for us to work on) it will be easier for us to speak love, in loving tones, and more difficult to speak hate.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lady Dora you are such a blessing to us who are trying to love better. I will try to match what I feel with how I look. Sounds funny but we do not get to be stiff and look angry with others. I can do it with those close, I need to improve with others. Thank you.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 5 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Very thoughtful and wise words in this hub!

      Sadly hate is very easily available in today's World but genuine love is difficult to find. Sometimes I feel very much pained to see negative comments especially on social media.

      But there are people like you who spread love and advocate love. Therefore let's be optimistic and believe that there will be more and more of love and less and less of hate among humans.

      Thank you!

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much ChitrangadaSharan,

      I do believe that in many ways we are moving toward a realization that peace is a better way to go. But it may take a while for us to get to where it is the first thing we think about.

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      Tim Mitchell 5 months ago from Escondido, CA

      A very wise sermon that many 'should' heed. Agreeing with Carb Diva we are seeing (hearing) with conversations (yelling), " It's not "I hate your position," but rather "I hate you."! People who use social media can easily read yelling and see hate in words by the rhetoric even without there being caps or by what the image portrays. I agree with you, it is a warning sign for the hearts of all Americans perhaps worldwide.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim I am kind of studying this new climate of being victims. Since the perceive they have been victims, anything negative about them is hate. I think we get that. But now it as bounced back and those victims or champions of victims now feel entitled to use real hate speech at any perceived aggressor.

      I think I will write a question/answer on it and see if I am close.

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      Marlene Bertrand 5 months ago from Northern California, USA

      The world has come to a place where we have to remind people of this wonderful concept - speaking with love. Very nicely said. Lots of love to you, my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We move forward. And we grasp each moment. We do not expect perfection from ourselves. We are tender first to ourselves and the rest shall flow.

      It is so good to hear from you my friend.

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      Lawrence Hebb 4 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Sorry, I just don't connect with 'hate' speech! I don't use it, and don't tolerate it in any shape or form!

      Don't get me wrong, someone does a dumb move on the road I get frustrated, but it's the move that's dumb, not the person!

      I like the idea of 'love speech' but tempered with consideration for where the person is at!

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      Eric Dierker 4 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lawrence, it is an area of much interest. There is a great debate about forms of honesty in a book called "Honest to God". Two therapists of renown argue about the harshness, brutality or loving ways to tell someone the truth.

      So somewhere the notion of speaking hatefully about a subject is really just expressing your upsetness over a situation. Which is being honest if you do have hate in you. You quite simply do not have hate in you so of course you would not express it.

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