Failure: On the Belief, One is Totally Finished. Is it Conclusive?
Running the Wrong Way
I am one of the many who wrecks havoc on oneself through denial. When things are starting to go wrong, doing nothing or acting plain naivete on the issues, makes me run the wrong way. Our ego are our own worst enemy. Not trying to make things right adds to our inability to see our mistakes as challenges and use it as opportunities to succeed. When we try to convince ourselves that the mistakes doesn't matter, we are inviting riskier wagers where favorable outcome is uncertain.
Realization and admission of one's failure is the start for us to adapt and modify plan of action befitting to the circumstances. I thought that those success stories of people in their chosen fields were geniuses, destined for things exceptional. Then I learned that most successful people started with mistakes, failures, experienced setbacks and obstacles. What made them rise was their perseverance and willingness to stumble and stand up again.
Maybe you have heard of Roy Riegels. He ran the wrong way in the 1929 Rose Bowl college football game. It was a blunder he was so ashamed of, it overshadowed Riegels' football talents earning his All-America honors and served as team captain for the Bears in 1929. He almost gave up and does not want to return on the game for the second half. This can happen and already happened to some of us as Riegels was heard saying "I am ruined. I can't do it. I can't face that crowd to save my life." Coach Nib Price screamed back "get up and go back out there — the game is only half over." In spite of the loss, the example of how the distraught Riegels was persuaded to pick himself up, return to the field and play so hard during the second half.
"For many years I've had to go along and laugh whenever my wrong-way run was brought up, even though I've grown tired listening and reading about it. But it certainly wasn't the most serious thing in the world. I regretted doing it, even as you do, but you'll get over it." _ Roy Riegels
After every blunder, our self-esteem is so compromised it sinks to depression. This happened to me and almost to some. However, we can learn from those successful people we know that underwent the same. It is possible to boost our self-confidence and recover more quickly from failure when we are determined to do so.
Here are some thoughts:
Pick Over the Ashes - What did we learn from failure? Let's make our past mistakes a source of betterment for our personal growth. Rethink how will we do it differently, make amends or right a wrong.
Put it in Context - We may think at first, that a major failure defines our entire life. We have to regain control of our perception. Unload thoughts on negativity. Practice positive thinking and believe that our essential character, intellect, and future are best kept in the right perspective.
Build Your Skills - Figure out if the failure was caused by lack of preparation, lack of knowledge, or lack of skill. We then need to gain mastery or proficiency in areas where we failed. Set a standard for yourself as you learn from other people who are now successful.
Cut the Losses - It is best to play to your strengths, live according to your own values, and follow your inner wisdom, rather trying to be something or someone you’re not. This is a great time to examine whether or not you need to move in a different direction entirely.
Face Your Fear - Learn into your fear and accept it as a natural response to the aftermath of failure. But don’t allow it to control you. If you allow fear to have the upper hand, your self-confidence will remain harnessed to it.
One thing which is common to all mankind is that we all fail. There is no one out there who has not failed. Some perhaps, more than others.
"For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again." _ Proverbs 24:16