Fireproof Christian Love Dare - For Marriage and More
Love Dare Challenge
Fireproof is a Christian movie that came out in 2008. It can be found now on DVD, and also can be watched on a "U-Tube" link that I have included. There is a workbook that has been published to go with it, called "The Love Dare".
In the movie, Kirk Cameron plays a fireman named Caleb Holt. Caleb and his wife, Catherine (Erin Bethea), are on the brink of getting a divorce. In the beginning of the movie, they both have separate careers, interests, friends, and basically have grown apart. They are sarcastic when they meet, and just don't seem to like each other very much anymore.
Caleb feels that his marriage is past saving. He meets with his father, who disagrees. Caleb is not a Christian, and his father is. His father tells him how at one time he had been at the same point with Caleb's mother. With God's help, and by working through a forty day prayer journal, Caleb's parents had been able to save their marriage.
Caleb agrees to give his marriage a second chance, and his father sends him the manuel. Long story short, the challenge is not easy. At first, Caleb is frustrated, and doesn't really give it his best. In the end though, he puts his whole heart in it. Though it takes more than forty days, he does not give up. In the process of all this prayer, he dedicates his life to God, and becomes a Christian. His wife sees the change in him, and by the end of the movie they are back together.
This was just a short summary of the movie, because what I really want to write about is the "Love Dare" workbook. I bought the book, not because of problems in my marriage, but to strengthen it even more. I also have other relationships in my life that need work, actually more than my marriage. I have been working through the manuel, reading the daily Bible passages, and altering some of the exercises as I go. It's uplifting, and I believe can help anyone's relationship.
Scenes from "Fireproof"
Patience, Kindness, Thoughtfulness
The first week of the workbook can be summed up with the three words above. A quote from day one's exercise states "our words often reflect the condition of our heart." The challenge goes on to say "resolve to demonstrate patience, and say nothing negative to your spouse at all." I revised this, and added a couple of names along with the word "spouse", then continued the exercise. Day two is about kindness, day three - avoiding selfishness, day four - thoughtfulness.
As you can see, these are attributes that can be put to use in any relationship. Day six states that "Love is not irritable", a passage in the reading for this day states - Life is a marathon, not a sprint. This means you must balance, prioritize, and pace yourself." The exercise for the day asks you to "list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life." Now think about that, don't we all sometimes do things for the wrong reasons, then get irritated when other people don't see things our way?
Day 20 - Love is Jesus Christ
Day 20, halfway through the "Love Dare" challenge, gets to the real meat of the matter. The title of the lesson for this day is: "Love is Jesus Christ." This lesson is about salvation, and the change it makes in our lives. A passage from this day states "And when you have received this new life and love as your own, you are free to love in ways you've never been capable of before.
(1 John 3:16, 23 NIV) "This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers... This is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us".
The dare for this day is not about our spouse, brother, or sister. It is about our relationship with Jesus Christ.
Day 39 - Love Endures, Day 40 - Love is a Covenenant
Day 39 starts with a passage from 1 Corinthians 13:8 "Love never fails." What they are talking about on this day is not to let YOUR love fail. If you have done everything you can, and the person you are trying to repair your relationship with is not a Christian, and still walks away, don't let it be because you gave up, or did not love. This day's lesson ends with a powerful passage: "-even if you don't like me--I choose to love you anyway. Forever." This is the way that God loves us.
Day 40, the end of the book, states that "Love is a covenant." This lesson tells about the difference between a contract and a covenant. A contract is unemotional, just a written agreement. A covenant is a real commitment that is based on trust. A covenant is what we want for our relationships.
Sometimes, no matter what we do, some of our relationships will not be perfect. What we need to remember though, is that we are not perfect. We can not change another person, we can only try to change ourselves.
I have not finished working through this manuel yet. I like it though, and working through it has helped me to feel more content with my life. It was written to help the marriage relationship. I actually bought it more to work with problems in a couple of other relationships in my life, but reading it has made me appreciate the gift of the good husband that I have, even more.
The Christian Post
- Love Dare Site Invites Real Couples to Share Stories | Christianpost.com
Just in time for Valentine's Day, fans of bestselling book The Love Dare from the hit film Fireproof, can now share with the Christian community how the book has changed their marriage.
"The Love Dare" Copyright 2008 by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick, Published by B & H Publishing Group. Nashville, TN
"Fireproof" The Movie. 2008, Provident Music Distribution