Forgiveness- Do it Now!
We have all experienced a time when we have been wronged, hurt, betrayed, or blamed for something that was unfair. If was hard for us to forgive and it probably took us some time to get over the pain of the wounds.
Forgiveness is never easy, however, it is mandatory if one moves forward in a good way within our life.
From the corner of my world; I have been taught that we must examine our own behaviors. This is to see if we somehow made a wrong move that caused the need to forgive someone. It is not that simple, or is it? I doubt it.
There are some individuals who are easy to be offended or hurt than others. Some individuals are more vindictive, and less caring than others. When you put these two together; there can be a conflict that can turn into a terrible situation.
The Spiritual Answer
To be forgiven; we must forgive. This is confirmed in Mark 11:25 -
"And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any; that you Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses." KJV
Then when Peter asked the Lord; "How oft shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him, until seven times?" Jesus answered: "Until seventy times seven." We are also reminded in The Lord's Prayer to forgive.
God gives us answers and the answers are not always easy. If you follow Bible teachings and are a Christian; you know how important forgiveness is. Still another short scripture is: "the spirit is indeed willing but the flesh is weak." Matthew 26:41
Is Unforgiveness Ever Justified
There is nothing more painful than the betrayal of a spouse. It doesn't matter which one, both can be devastating. It is usually so much worse when little children are involved.
When one spouse takes the route of infidelity; it can make the other spouse feel so inadequate, insecure, confused and helpless. Time is the only healer. Lots of time, lots of prayer and thoughts. But, it can happen, and in the end; the results can be positive for the one spouse that was left behind.
In the end; unforgiveness would not be justified. Why? Most people will tell you that you cannot move on if you cannot forgive the person who betrayed you.
When you forgive you are enabling yourself to become engrossed in your own power to accomplish your goals, dreams and begin a new life of joy, peace, and satisfaction. You redeem yourself and live with inner peace.
The above is true with any person who has deprived you of a peaceful spirit or made you feel as if you were not worthy of their love.
Never let anyone make you feel like as if you are half of a person. You are whole!
How Unforgiveness Can Distort And Kill Happiness
If you hold a grudge long enough, you become a bitter person. When you are around other people who know you well; they will be able to see the bitterness and contempt for someone who reminds you of the experience you have not forgotten.
Happiness will leave your life if you ponder on the bad experiences in life. One must remember that bad things happen to all people. Those who survive and keep their happy life are those who are willing to forgive without being asked.
Revenge Is Not Healthy Either
Often individuals who have been wronged; want revenge,(another article; but briefly). They seem to think that this will clear the air and the old Karma......" what goes around, comes around."
Actually, I have found that what you do to others, comes back to you. It is usually when you least expect it, and suddenly you are reminded of what went down at some point in your life.
I have seen this happen more than once.
Revenge is not healthy and can turn brutal. One must forgive and forget. Let nature and God do the rest.
How To Let It Go...
Picture yourself as floating across the ocean. (In a boat, or just a swim). All of a sudden, you begin to sink. You look up and the person who has wounded your spirit is holding out their hand. Would you take that hand and be saved?
No answer is expected. I think I know the answer. Most would at that very moment forget about everything that had taken away companionship, friendship, motherly love, fatherly love, or whatever.
The moment would be like the scripture says about Jesus forgiving our transgressions:
"...as the east is from the west, that is how far He has removed our sins from us." Psalms 103:12
Forgiveness is Freedom and Power
- Forgiveness is like taking a shower after being in the hog pen; you feel so clean.
- It is like taking a long journey with no spare tire, and you make it to your destination with no blowout.
- Forgiveness is giving yourself the freedom to be yourself again.
- Being able to give forgiveness is taking your power back.
- When giving forgiveness you know that you are in control of your choices.
- Forgiveness is like sand, it flows slowly but will end big.
- When we have forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is something we do for ourselves.
"It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive." verybestquotes.com
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and realize the prisoner was you." positivemotivation.net
"Without forgiveness life is governed by...an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation." Roberto Assogioli
"Forgiveness and letting go are steps on our road back to happiness." Tina Dayton
"Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude." Martin Luther King, Jr.
© 2009 Linda Todd