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Forgiveness- Do it Now!

Updated on July 13, 2015

Forgiveness

We have all experienced a time when we had been wronged, hurt, betrayed, or blamed for something that was unfair. If was hard for us to forgive and it probably took us some time to get over the pain of the wounds from the aforementioned.

Forgiveness is never easy. Not from my corner of this world; especially when we have searched our heart to make sure we were not the cause of the wrong. It is not that simple, or is it? I doubt it.

Some individuals are easier to be offended, and hurt than others. Some individuals are more vindictive, and less caring than others. When you put these two together; there can be conflict that can turn into a terrible situation.


The Spiritual Answer

To be forgiven; we must forgive. This is confirmed in Mark 11:25 -

"And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any; that you Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses." KJV

Then when Peter asked the Lord; "How oft shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him, until seven times?" Jesus answered: "Until seventy times seven." We are also reminded in The Lord's Prayer to forgive.

God gives us answers and the answers are not always easy. If you follow Bible teachings and are a Christian; you know how important forgiveness is. Still another short scripture is: "the spirit is indeed willing but the flesh is weak." Matthew 26:41

Is Unforgiveness Ever Justified

There is nothing more painful than the betrayal of a spouse. It doesn't matter which one, both can be devastating. It is usually so much worse when little children are involved. When one spouse takes the route of infidelity; it can make the other spouse feel so inadequate, insecure, confused and helpless. Time is the only healing. Lots of time, lots of prayer and thoughts. But, it can happen, and in the end; the results can be positive for the one spouse that was left behind.

In the end; no unforgiveness would not be justified. Why? Most people will tell you that you cannot move on if you cannot forgive the person who betrayed you.

When you forgive you are enabling yourself to become engrossed in your own power to accomplish your goals, dreams and begin a new life of joy, peace and satisfaction. You redeem yourself and live with inner peace.

The above is true with any person who has deprived you of a peaceful spirit or made you feel as if you were not a whole being. Never let someone make you feel like half of a person. You are whole!



How Unforgiveness Can Distort And Kill Happiness

If you hold a grudge long enough, you become a bitter person. When you are around other people who know you well; they will be able to see the bitterness and contempt for someone who reminds you of the experience you have not forgotten.

Often individuals who have been wronged; want revenge,(another article; but briefly). They seem to think that this will clear the air and the old Karma......"what goes around, comes around."

Well, it usually does without anyone wanting revenge. I have seen this happen more than once. Often you never know it, but when someone intentionally does wrong to another; it does come back to haunt them.

Revenge is not healthy, and can turn brutal. One must forgive and forget. Let nature and God do the rest.


How To Let It Go...

Picture yourself as floating across the ocean. (In a boat, or just a swim). All of a sudden, you begin to sink. You look up and the person who has wounded your spirit is holding out their hand. Would you take that hand and be saved?

No answer is expected. I think I know the answer. Most would at that very moment forget about everything that had taken away companionship, friendship, motherly love, fatherly love, or whatever.

The moment would be like the scripture says about Jesus forgiving our transgressions:

"...as the east is from the west, that is how far He has removed our sins from us." Psalms 103:12

Forgiveness is Freedom and Power

Forgiveness is....

  • Forgiveness is like taking a shower after being in the hog pin; you feel so clean.
  • It is like taking a long journey with no spire tire, and you make it to your destination with no blowout.
  • Forgiveness is giving yourself the freedom to be yourself again.
  • Forgiveness is taking your power back.
  • Forgiveness is knowing that you are in control of your choices.
  • Forgiveness is like sand, it flows slowly but will end big.
  • Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is something we do for ourselves.

Quotes

"It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive." verybestquotes.com

"To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and realize the prisoner was you." positivemotivation.net

"Without forgiveness life is governed by...an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation." Roberto Assogioli

"Forgiveness and letting go are steps on our road back to happiness." Tina Dayton

"Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude." Martin Luther King, Jr.


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    • lctodd1947 profile imageAUTHOR

      lctodd1947 

      7 years ago from USA

      I agree it is hard to trust after we have been burned a few times. But, in the end it will make us free and open to trust again if we are able to forgive and forget. Easy....? No, but it will help us be wiser in the future to watch our steps as well. You are right when you say that some people aren't really sorry, but I have found that "what comes around, goes around" for everyone. In other words what they dish out, will come back and one day, their words of untruth will bite them.

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      Anya 

      7 years ago

      What makes forgiveness so hard is lack of trust. Lack of belief that the person is sorry for their actions. We have to release our conditional forgiveness and forgive for ourselves, not as a kindness to the other person.

    • lctodd1947 profile imageAUTHOR

      lctodd1947 

      7 years ago from USA

      Thank you Okmom23 for stopping here to read and comment. I am glad you found this on the day you needed it. Thank so much.

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      Donna Oliver 

      7 years ago from Midwest, U.S.A.

      Great message, read on the day I was supposed to read it!

      Thank you for sharing, voted up.

    • lctodd1947 profile imageAUTHOR

      lctodd1947 

      8 years ago from USA

      Thank you for reading ...I think I forget to say it. Anyway thanks

    • Putz Ballard profile image

      Putz Ballard 

      8 years ago

      Great hub and a great message.

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