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Hey Kids Try Not to Point the Finger

Updated on August 14, 2018
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Hey Kids Big and Small ~ Try not to point the finger ~

We are His ~ we are His kids!

This world is mourning the loss of Eden. It is time people, time to stop the self-gratification and work harder toward understanding while living for the promises of God.

The loss of Eden is the awareness of the action equaling consequence. It is the sadness as hopelessness in this world perpetuating negativity. We found the negatives and skim over the positives. We all do it. It's not always an intentional act. We are conditioned to negate the fact that God is with us and in control.

If everyone were to come into alignment on this fact we could slowly win our way back to Eden through faith and service to the King of kings. Sadly, things limit this, and this is the reason the battle goes on. Our world is at war! We must arm ourselves with the teachings of God and spend time with His word for the win.

Stop pointing the finger at others. Look inside of yourself for there is work we have left to do. There is so much work to do!

We as a society wonder WHY? Why such violence, why the sadness, why the eagerness to grow up so fast, why the need for gossip, why the news expounds the horror stories and brainwashes those listening into a belief that there is no hope? Why do we spend beautiful time judging or being angry and not focusing on the good or the joy in the moments?

  • There is a notable decline of beauty displayed as true faith and trust in God is slowly being deleted from our society.
  • It is a minority to see one stand firm in their faith as they truly trust in God. When I say this, I do not refer to the many Christians who love and honor God in their hearts or homes or even their communities. I suppose this is the timid Comfort Christians can become. The one category, we can all slip into so quickly, is a state of comfortable. When faced with loud and boisterous denials of Christ and His teachings, it's not that one does not want to speak but, instead, some become stifled in overwhelmed silence.
  • We are a world living in the epidemic of brokenness, broken marriages, broken faith, and injured people. We quickly cast others away as we put on the religious persuasion of feeding the lost, however, are we, not all a little lost? Are we honest with the fact that we too are attacked by Satan's grasp, with our thoughts words and actions? Are we as reflective of the Christ we shine for, when looking in our mirror? Are we as Christians speaking out of both sides of our mouths in different languages, one in love and the other in hate?
  • For example, in schools, you're not to pray outwardly in or before class. We must not mix church and state. My favorite we must be politically correct at all times about belief systems when in a public forum. The “I love God, but I am afraid to stand against a majority pressure, kind of Christian.” The Christian that is quiet in fear of speaking up when not in the comfort of "other Christians." This type is not the judging Christian this is merely the fear of not being safe or standing out in a group Christian. How about when we do this in our so-called church families becoming the judge and jury, versus the hands and feet of God's love and discipleship of His word in and amongst the chaos?
  • Should we not want to stand out a bit in a group? At least enough for others to feel comfortable in seeking us out as someone to go to, is that light that others seek or, at least, one who will set their direction toward the script with the answers, The Bible. Are we genuinely loving and without condition? The old standby, "Do Unto Others."

Not as simple as it sounds


We do challenge some of these points. At times vehemently, yet not always correctly or in love. We must be respectful and loving of all people meeting them as Christ would.

Be accepting and patient with those struggling in their walk with Christ or more importantly with those who do not know Him. We are not to judge others, or for a better visual, cast a stone at another. If we have the image in our heads of a rock, we can relate to the physical pain the landing of said stone would make. We can access the damage and immediately understand the need to heal said wound.

We are less likely to understand the repercussions’ of our verbal assaults. Often these assaults are subtle and made quietly. Sadly, we're not even conscious of the attack at times. It's merely a reaction left deep inside from a previous hurt that now comes out against an innocent.

We are all guilty of these pains and judging. Many times when hit by such an attack, we do not respond, we ignore or walk away. We allow it to stew and fester, and then sadly we pay it forward. Usually, this is in a way that we're not aware of, and it can be somewhat of purging of past or pent-up emotions.

People do respond to these hurts; it's just that the timeliness is not always immediate. We see this so blatantly as we school in the typical childhood bullying. We also continue these habits into our adulthood and yet, we are more verbal and skilled in weaving our way through the chaos. Not necessarily better than our childhood reactions, perhaps just a tad bit more rational or not.

To think that we make mistakes, but believe we are justified in our judgments is wrong especially if used for self-preservation. If we are one of the quote “Christians” then you on the outside looking in may have significant questions. Especially when our behaviors don't match our claims of salvation in a life with and for Christ.

People are allowed to question us as a Christian, and they are seeking answers. If you come across a proclaimed Christian and on this particular day they are short-tempered, not interested, lacking grace, reacting to situations negatively or just not getting involved. Then please call us on it.

We need to be accountable for our actions as children of God. We are all human and have those days when not emulating real, Christian behavior. We also want you to know we struggle with emotion and frustration and our lack of luster that we display in our humanness.

I do admit there are times I feel limited in my abilities to do Gods works, or there are times of serious discernment as to where God wants my attention to go first. If we could all recognize our limits as “Children.” Then wow, we would be so far ahead of the game. It does not matter my limits as God is the power that fuels and I lean on His understanding.

We as adults understand the limits when a child is learning. We become frustrated and yet love as we try to re-direct their action or behavior. Knowingly we are aware of how these actions feel to us as the adult. However, as the parent of this child. We feel protective even embarrassed at times, as we are the one who “should have set a better foundation.” Is it that much about us as the parent of more about relying on the parenting of our Father in Heaven.

  • The truth is, we did set a foundation, and in our case, as adults, we do the best we can.
  • The second truth, we are human adult parents and living in the flesh. The thing we can relate to though is the love and the occasional frustration, one will feel when trying to teach or help a child. If I could only help them see what I already know, no worries, God is in control of their destiny and life plan. So do your best and hang on for the ride.

If we stop and imagine God and His heart as He watches, and then we continually deny His guidance and buck at His desires for our lives. Well, I guess then we realize the pain we cause Him. We also know it is possible to create great joy when we get it right.

I hope as parents and teachers and leaders of this next group of up and coming adults that we can treat these children as God treats us. He is all loving and all forgiving. He gives us time to figure things out on our own and when He needs to He gives us a little nudge. God is repeatedly planting seeds and watering them and yet with these gifts comes high expectation. He trusts that given life in Him, we will then want to share these gifts and as the plant grows, provide clipping to all of those around us.

How many of you young or old on a daily basis find yourself saying, “Gee God, I am so sorry I just messed up again, please help me to be better each minute. Thank you, God, for just loving me anyway, while I figure things out. Thank you for letting me know I am loved no matter what!”

We must be tolerant of others and respectful. We are not anyone’s judge. We are merely children ourselves learning and trying to get things right. We can say we are secure in the word and yes, this can be true. We can be skilled and knowledgeable as to life skills, and or, the teachings of the Bible. But we remain HIS children.

So, just as in our homes, classrooms, and workplaces we have sets of rules and policies, routines and beliefs. We still make mistakes and do wrong. Some of our transgressions are small and heal readily like a small pebble hitting an arm.

Some may be large and cause significant repercussions like a shooting or death. We must remember even a pebble if it lands in the wrong spot, like someone’s eye the damage can be more severe. Perhaps not intentional, but severe nonetheless. The larger the stones and attacks take time and counsel to heal.

The last is the stones forming, the ones we are not aware of because they are still hidden or in the works. Little pains are slowly building up and smoldering. These are the most damaging and, therefore, will require patience while turning to prayer and God for His intervention.

We do not always understand His plan, and yet we must comply with it so we can then be part of the beautiful outcome.

Sometimes the trickiest attacks to get over are the ones that build up and then slam. It's not that we do not know they are building up. It's just we're not sure how to deal with these or change our patterns. We need to go to God with these problems. We need to pray for His guidance and we need to surrender to His plan.

Sometimes He purposely has us change course for short periods as He works more directly on our walk as His student. I guess we could consider these a time in a desert, but what if we looked at them as Time Alone with God.

We would love to play a game of tag with just our mom or dad, all alone just us. We crave that alone time with a parent. So, we can think of this time as a timed exclusive for us with GOD. It can be amazing the things that happen when given this particular time with God.

I am a Christian, and I will mess up, it's a given. I am also a Child of God, and I am loved and SO ARE YOU! Let's do a little more of the GOD THING in our world. Help each other to be built up in the confidence of God’s promises. Let us share our clippings with others and let us love, more like Christ, unconditionally. Let us forgive as our Father in Heaven forgives us. Get our gear on and never give up for we are on His team. Here’s hoping when pointing the finger we try to look to ourselves first, always a right place to start the work.

Leaving Eden ~ Brandon Heath

© 2012 Kathy Henderson


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    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thank you Dear one ~ you are always so kind with your comments and thoughts ~ To be one of His children is all there is ~ So blessed to know Him as our Father in heaven. May you be continually blessed :)

    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thank you so much your thoughts means so much to me ~ I love when in the Bible we see His perfect example ~ the more time we spend in the Word the more the true promises and answers of our Lord come to be understood:)

    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thank you sweet Blossom ~ you are so right in your comment ~ I love sharing here and people getting it ~ makes one so hopeful for our future :) Blessing to you

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 

      6 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      We certainly all mess up, and like St. Paul said, it often seems to be our unruly tongues that are the problem. We speak first and think later and it lands us in all sorts of hot water. Great hub and voted up.

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      Susan Ream 

      6 years ago from Michigan

      Very thought provoking hub Kathy. God is so patient with us and amazingly loves us unconditionally. "You have enclosed me behind and before, And laid Your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it." Ps. 139

      Bless you dear woman of faith ...

      Voted up and beautiful.

    • glmclendon profile image


      6 years ago

      Good writing, and very thoughtful. I sometime wonder how one person can bring these thoughts to the forefront. You hit the ball over the fence. It was beautiful. It is really great to be one of God's children.

      Stay Well


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