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How to Deal With the Anxious Energy of a Loved One as an Empath

Updated on December 25, 2018
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ReneeSC has a B.A in psychology and currently studying for a MSW in Advanced Clinical Social Work. She is a mother of 3 and Empath by nature

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When I struggled with the conflict between a loved one, I realized that there was an anxious energy between us and I needed to learn how to cope with this.

As an Empath you feel the mental, emotional and physical energy of others. You literally internally absorb the energy that surrounds you. Because you are high sensitive and intuitive of the energy, it can affect you in a different ways.

I have family members that have a peaceful energy within them. Our energies blend and peace is what we value as and respect about each other. They even may be empaths. They are drama free and does not like to be involved with it. We will have some disagreements from time to time but no conflict.

I was struggling with the conflict between a loved one, I realized that there was an anxious energy between us and I needed to learn how to cope with this. I want to point out also that it was not merely the anxious energy that was difficult but also other issues involving mental health that needed to be addressed as well.

First ,the most important thing to do is pay attention to behavior changes in your loved one. If you sense that your loved one is frequently sad, has anxiety or burst of anger , yelling and are argumentative? Seek help for them. Secondly, instead of taking in the anxious energy, use your empathetic skills and remind yourself that your loved one needs help and express comfort and love.

pay attention to behavior changes in your loved one.

have you sensed that your loved one is frequently sad, has anxiety or burst of anger , yelling and are argumentative? It could be signs of mental health concerns seek help for them and encourage your love one to talk about it to you or a doctor.

Use you natural empathetic capabilities of showing understanding and compassion

Secondly, instead of taking in the anxious energy, use your empathetic skills and remind yourself that your loved one needs help and express comfort and love and care. You may not get the attention of your loved one if there has been ongoing tension among you both. Your empathy may not be received in a kind hearted way. My loved one and I were at ongoing odds with each other. The anxious energy carried caused me to get emotional with distress that I carried the anxious energy. I was so worried about the actions of my loved one. I realized that worrying was only making it worse it was not helping my loved one that I was worried because my loved one did not care about my feeling and trying to get my feelings understood was wearing on my peace in mind and body and spirit.

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Dont allow the your loved one's anxious energy to cause you to react

I realized that worrying was only making it worse. It was not helping. Worrying can be the cause of anxious energy from anxiety and depression. Worrying caused me to feel overwhelmed, restless and irritated. I realized that rather than trying to control the worry and I need to control my reaction. When there is conflict it is human to have a reaction because it is defense to the offense. But to reaction to intense and emotional situations can be like adding fuel to the fire. I learned that I can maintain my internal peace and the peace in my environment by responding in peace, or not responding at all. In the moment,I took a few deep breaths to release the anxious energy surrounding me, then I talk to God aloud and asked the Lord to please keep me from causing further harm and help keep my mouth closed. You can walk away or leave to calm yourself down. You can immediately start to prayer for peace to replace disharmony and the love and light of God to fill the environment. You can light candles, or an incense for aromatherapy. Take a walk, listen to some relaxing music alone in your room. What you have chosen to do is not allow the energy of anxious to have power.

Always be realistic about the conflict, assess the situation if you do not feel safe and if you need help get it, call the police or someone that can help if the situation gets out of control.

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      Avaline 

      2 years ago from TN, USA

      I haven't had the best relationship with the majority of my family and most of my encounters with them leave me drained and hurting emotionally and mentally. I hadn't taken the time to think of things with this light. I will for sure keep your article in mind next time trouble arises so I can better handle the situation. Thank you!

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