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How to prove the existence of your feelings. Did you know some people cannot do that? Are you one?

Updated on March 12, 2013

Some travels are not about distance and space, but more about when.

I know this place, I traveled it 37 years ago in France. My son sent me the photo last July.
I know this place, I traveled it 37 years ago in France. My son sent me the photo last July. | Source

Many people cannot express their feelings, much less prove them.

Still others cannot feel them. It is sad but true. And only sad to me and you. My wife was such a person.

Ask yourself how many times have you not done something in order that you may spare someone anguish. How many times have you held your tongue? How many times have you heard yourself say “well it is the truth” to justify hurting another? Most folks do not discuss such issues. And some folks never address them.

Still there are others that use phrases like “how does that make you feel” or “you hurt my feelings when you act that way”.

There is a rightful and easy middle ground. It works for both ends of the spectrum. Just carry love in your heart. Just put it there, do not question it or believe in it, just do it.

Do not trust anyone who has always felt deeply.

Conversion is the strongest proof!

My beautiful bride of ten years started out, with no love in her heart. She really liked some things about me and sometimes that rose to love. She was a non-practicing Buddhist. So upon marriage I took her to all the great temples in So. Cal., she found something missing. So I took her to all the wonderful churches we have here near the border with Mexico and with all our history. I must tell you we had a blast. Most often we would do both.

Then one day I was in the hospital emergency room with a self induced sickness, like nearly all are. But it was touch and go. She was staying with my oldest sister, and just decided to walk to the hospital on her own. (amazing but she could no way find her way out of a paper sack much less twenty blocks to the hospital.) It began to snow, she had never seen snow. She was poorly dressed but was not cold. She got to the hospital like a miracle. But again she did a miraculous thing, instead of coming to my bedside she ducked into the Chapel. She was filled with a feeling she had never had before. For some reason she felt the presence of a Lord. For some reason the God she picked was Christ Jesus. She darn sure was not looking for a conversion, but she sure got one.

She marched to my room held my hand I awoke and checked out that evening.

Now we wonder if that is proof or the deepest feeling, love. I do not and I dare say the doctors did not.

Yes he was baptized in church but also in this land and nature.

This child is baptized in love. That is my eldest, simply repeating to my youngest, I Love you.
This child is baptized in love. That is my eldest, simply repeating to my youngest, I Love you. | Source

Understand that no one can say; "you do not feel that". Understand your feelings are in fact truth.

Now back to proof. Proof is anything that tends to prove or disprove a given fact.

I know scientists do not like that. It is a funny construct; they think they operate on absolute truth. Totally silly from a logic standpoint.

My wife and I were doing fine. We had an awesome life with just the right amount of work mixed in with pleasures and travel, charity and a nephew we adopted. My wife had grown accepting but not embracing of my older children from a previous marriage. No illnesses and a perfect credit score. My wife could love but not express it. Then another conversion occurred. A child that we could not possibly conceive was conceived. The blessing and Love of motherhood converted a person without affection into one of the warmest people I have ever met. Oh how she and the older children conspire in love.

So back to proof. How can I prove what happened happened. Legally it is easy.

I am a witness. Many are witnesses. Our son is proof. Her gentle kindness and selflessness is proof. One look in her eye is proof. Her testimony is proof and the corresponding love in our hearts is proof.

Let it be understood: a person who cannot feel cannot comprehend the sense of love, cannot understand the sense of love and cannot perceive the proof of love. I know I married such a person. And now look.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      MsDora, My wife Hang, gives an amazing testimony. Thank you for your blessings.

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      Dora Weithers 

      6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Quite a story of transformation resulting from the power of love--God's love and yours. Blessings to both you and your wife.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Indeed Kathryn, Perhaps today I am a better man and that is why she stands by me. If we grasp the humanity and the humility and we are lucky others may find that within us. Thank you much for your comment.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mr Happy, May life allow us to see the great spirit and rise above our humanity.

    • Mr. Happy profile image

      Mr. Happy 

      6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      May Light always guide You and those You love Amigo.

      Cheers! : )

      P.S. Since You mentioned Mexico:

    • Kathryn L Hill profile image

      Kathryn L Hill 

      6 years ago from LA

      Love is, indeed, what we need to tune into. You are lucky to have such a wife who found love through you.


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