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In the Beginning, God - Part 9

Updated on June 20, 2018

Previously - from Part 8

Although not clearly stated, I believe the picture God paints here in the garden can be likened to the garden we may find ourselves in today – the garden of family, and particularly in the position of husband/father.

So many husbands and fathers today have failed to complete their purpose in the role they find themselves. They have failed to dress their garden. They have failed to provide for their family. We see in I Timothy 5:8, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

Again, in II Thessalonians 3:10 we read, “For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.” God’s plan is for the family to be provided for. We will see the purpose of the woman soon, but man’s purpose was to provide and protect. It is the job of the husband to protect his family from harm, from defilement, from abuse, from unsafe situations (either physical or spiritual). The list goes on.

I have no time nor respect for men who sit around all day and do nothing. I have no time nor respect for men who expect their wives to bend over backward to meet all their whims, send her out to work, and otherwise abuse the leadership position God has given them.

I certainly realize there are times when a man cannot work. There may be times of disabilities that would interfere with physical or mental work. I understand that, but the responsibility of providing for and protecting the family still falls to the husband/father. Be creative. In times of disability, you will still be able to fulfill God’s purpose for your life.

We'll look next time at the beautiful gift of marriage as we examine the first wedding. God, Himself is the officiant as He gives away the first bride. It is He who instituted marriage, so it behooves us to take a detailed look at His plan.

Continuing

So . . . God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. It wasn’t long until the man found what God already knew was true. God instructed Adam to name the beasts of the field and the fowl of the air, and gave to him only one restriction – not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (we will study that a little later). Still, Adam was empty, not complete.

We see God’s remedy in Genesis 2:21-24, “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

God’s plan was yet incomplete. Adam needed a helper, one meant to be a compliment to the role God had given him. What a beautiful picture as God performs the first surgery and removes a rib from Adam’s side. From this rib, God created Adam’s counterpart – Eve, the first female. It is noteworthy to remember that she was taken from the side of Adam, close to his heart. It is also noteworthy to consider that the only human bone that can regenerate itself is the rib.

Notice also, that God Himself brought the bride to the groom. In a sense, God ushered Eve down the aisle to give her away to her waiting husband. Eve was God’s perfect choice for Adam.

Although divorce and infidelity happen over and over in today’s society, God’s plan was always for one man to remain with one woman until death parted them. Jesus discussed this with the hypocritical Pharisees in Mark 10:2-9, “And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

In this day, divorce is rampant because of the hardness of hearts. Why was it never God’s plan from the beginning? As God set the first marriage ceremony in motion, it was His plan for one man to live with one woman for the duration of his life. Why?

The reason – marriage is a picture of Christ and His church. And His church is to be pure. Ephesians 5:21-33 spells out the metaphor in detail. This can be summed up with two thoughts. The wife is to respect her husband, and the husband is to love his wife with a sacrificial love, even as Christ loves his church and was willing to die for her.

It works every time and it begins with the husband. If the husband truly loves his wife, his wife will respect him. As he senses her respect, he will love her more. As he loves her more, her respect deepens, and on and on. It forms the cement that holds marriages together. It is also the same cement that bonds Christ’s true church.

God's plan did not include divorce. It was the hardness of his Creation's heart that brought about divorce, and that is still the case today. Divorce happens on a large scale today. My heart goes out to all who have been affected by the separation of family, but it was never God's ideal situation for mankind.

We talk about falling in love, but in reality, love is not something we fall into. Love is not just an emotion that comes and goes. Love is a choice. When things get bad, we are to choose love. Love isn't dependent on the other person. Love depends on what I choose.

Jesus chose to love humanity even as His creation was nailing Him to the cross. He chose to love as they spit on Him, as they slapped Him, as they scourged Him, as they forced a crown of thorns into His head, as He bled and died for the very ones He came to save, for the very ones that were created by His own hand. Love is choice - sometimes a very hard choice.

Jesus makes another statement in Matthew 5:32, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

It would seem to many people that God is putting His blessing on those that divorce because of adultery in the marriage. Not so. Jesus is simply saying that if a man (or woman) divorce his wife (or husband), and she has another man, he has caused her to commit adultery. But if she is already fornicating (“. . . saving for the cause of fornication . . .”), he does not cause her to fornicate. She has already chosen that action.

There is really only one reason for divorce, and that is found in I Corinthians 7:13, 15. Paul writes, “And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him . . . But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”

© 2018 William Kovacic

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    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      10 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      " . . . not many fall in love with the perfect Christian . . . " Actually, Jackie, and I know you know, no one falls in love with a perfect Christian or anyone else. Life is hard and there are always tons of things to pull us down..

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      10 months ago from The Beautiful South

      I don't know. Some people leave it by divorce and some make the best of it when it is never right. Guess not many fall in love with the perfect Christian or Christian at all and shouldn't that be the thing to first look for? Probably the farthest thing from our minds when young and in love.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      11 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I know what you mean, Jackie. It's a sad world we live in, but it is a world of one's own choosing. If only people would more often choose the right.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      11 months ago from The Beautiful South

      In a perfect world man would love his wife and not expect to sit around and have her to do all things while he just watches TV or plays games or hang out with the guys. But then neither should the woman think she is too delicate to do labor. Too bad when couples cannot come together on all that and share equally. If it was agreeable to each what they want to do apart and simply share responsibilities at home everyone could be happy. I rarely see it though and it is such a shame. Another place true love could solve it all.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I wish I had known then what I know now, Tammy. Unfortunately, things don't always work the way I wish. It's all a learning process. Thanks for coming by for a visit!

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Trolls are everywhere, Rodric. I know what you mean. I just ignore them.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Absolutely, Lawrence. It's a fascinating book.

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      13 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Bill

      Tremendous encouragement here, thank you for it. I think there is so much more in Genesis than we realise.

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      Rodric Anthony 

      13 months ago from Peoria, Arizona

      Thanks for the invitation to share my view here and on other articles. I learned from Bill that sharing my views that conflict with the writer's view can detract sometimes from the message. I will always respectfully share my point as long as it does not cause your article to be hijacked by trolls who want to start something. Heaven knows I have had my share of hijacked hubs.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I have no problem with people sharing their thoughts here as long as it's done with respect and consideration for others, which you have shown.

      I base my beliefs on the fact that Jesus said what God joined together let not man put asunder. Apparently, marriages can be broken. That's why He gave us this warning, The Apostle Paul also tells un I Corinthians that if a spouse passes away, the remaining one is free to remarry if he chooses. Jesus also eluded to the fact that when we die, we are as the angels in heaven that neither marry nor are given in marriage.

      Of course, the Bible also teaches that at the end of the world we, the Christian, will become the bride of Christ. Will we know each other in Heaven? I believe so, but Christ will be the central figure as we will then be married to Him. Again, I appreciate you adding to the conversation! I'm pressed for time right now, but if you'd like the scripture references, I'd be glad to supply them.

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      Rodric Anthony 

      13 months ago from Peoria, Arizona

      It is my opinion that because Adam and Eve were married as eternal beings, beings who could not die, that their marriage is meant to be eternal and not something to end at death, which is divorce. Death came after the fall of Adam and Eve. Marriage came first. Jesus Christ healed all death, and in my mind, He healed all separation including Adam and Eve's marriage. God joined it together and it cannot be torn asunder. This is another great article. Sorry for sharing so much of my view here. This is about your message. I just felt to share.

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      Tamarajo 

      14 months ago

      I agree Bill. I'm a big fan of the courting idea. It makes so much sense on this other side of experience.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I think the modern day concept of marriage stems from the modern concept of dating, which isn't found in the Bible. I'll date this one and if it doesn't work, I'll try another = I'll marry this one and if it doesn't work, I'll marry another/. Just my thoughts, Tammy.

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      Tamarajo 

      14 months ago

      Amen Bill,

      Our cultural concept of relationship is so feeling based it is no wonder marriages are so fragile and fickle and not at all how God intended.

      good article. I guess I was further along in the series than I thought. : )

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi, Jack. I think one of the biggest problems is that people see marriage like dating (by the way, you don't find dating in the Bible).I'll try it and if it doesn't work out, I'll move on and find another. As you say, it's really sad.

      I'm glad you enjoyed the video. I learned something from it, too.

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      Jack Jenn 

      14 months ago from Nelson Bay NSW Australia.

      Hi Bill,

      So very true yet so very sad that so many enter into a relationship, eventually with a view to marriage but don't take enough time or effort in letting that relationship grow and in any and all relationships, cracks soon appear over time. Those who are sufficiently grounded in faith can usually overcome these problems if their love is deeply ingressed to withstand everyday pressures but if it's only superficial, that is, only on the surface it won't have the substance to last the distance.

      If people would just take note of the divorce statistics today, which are increasing more than ever and I see two problems at play here - one bigger than the other. One is Satan is always at work, the other is a very common human failing that we all suffer to sme degree - it won't happen to me.

      I very much enjoyed the video on why God used a rib to create Eve - I didn't know that.

      Best regards,

      Jack.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi, Bill. It does seem that opposites attract. I'm not sure why. I guess that's the part completes us - til death do us part.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Congratulations, Eric. That's the way it's supposed to be!

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      Bill Holland 

      14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm not sure how our marriage works so well. We are complete opposites and I can, at times, be a royal pain in the butt. But it does work, and I'm a lucky man, and I'm all in with that "death do us part" business.

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      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, just to let you know. We went at it yesterday. My consternation about something and her stubbornness and refusal to listen. Hey I needed a nap and that gave her time think and me relaxed and refreshed. Very cool marriage. Love wins out.

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi, Dora. You're quite welcome. This was a hard chapter for me to write but felt it needed to be included. Thanks for coming around. I always look forward to seeing you!

    • lifegate profile imageAUTHOR

      William Kovacic 

      14 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi, Eric. It's beyond my comprehension, too. lol. No, actually, how could she not! I'm blessed to have you stop by. I don't take your visits for granted.

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      Dora Weithers 

      14 months ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for reminding us of God's purpose for the man (and his wife) in the marriage. Those who enjoy their union should continually count their blessings!

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      Eric Dierker 

      14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wonderful. I think that in that time there was something a little different though. Women had a role, that role has changed, like it or not. No conclusions here just an observation.

      I think marriage is sacred. A violation by either spouse of that "sacrament" is pretty much evil.

      OTOH, how my wife loves me still is a bit beyond my comprehension.

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