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Inner quiet, a place of your own.

Updated on April 30, 2017
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Tony is now a full-time writer and he has currently 4 published books with many others planned.

Try to imagine nothing

Close your eyes and think of nothing…it's hard isn't it. All those jobs and niggles, all those bits of unfinished business not to mention things that need remembering for tomorrow. So what is the secret of inner peace and contentment?

Forgive Yourself

Forgiveness is the answer, not of other people but of ourselves. It is often easier to forgive some body else rather than ourselves. We all have regrets and sometimes we can punish ourselves for past weakness, foolishness, or words we said but did not mean. It is good to have ambitions, it is normal to want to improve our lot for ourselves and our families, but you should not be so absorbed in your ambition that you lose sight of what you are trying to achieve.

You have to accept yourself for who you are, maybe you are envious of a certain celebrity or wealthy business person, but if you are both stood on the beach watching a beautiful sunset, do they have more than you? It is also about knowing what is important to you.

I used to want to be a 'rock star', I've experienced playing on stage to a live audience and loved it, but I wanted to play to the stadium full of fans, or a Woodstock concert. However, most of those who were my heroes either died of an overdose or had problems with drink and drugs, they were hounded by the press or fans wherever they went and lost all privacy, I didn't want that.

Looking back too often, can make you miss obstacles on the path ahead.

I had a number of things that niggled me all the time and would not let me rest, they were not important things but even so they made me cringe. It was only when I could forgive myself for my past actions that I felt that was beginning to understand what inner peace was all about.

Consider a meadow, it is made up of many things; brightly coloured flowers, long stalks of grass, herbs and what seem to be plants of very little significance, and yet they are all important and with out the least of them the meadow is not complete.

If you are stressed out, feeling lost, worthless, perhaps you feel a failure because all about you others seem to be more successful; I suggest you try meditation rather than anything else.

Meditation is Difficult but Worth the Effort.

I began meditation over thirty years ago and it has helped me see life for what it is, and to know how precious a gift it is. Whether or not you believe in God, you should not overlook the fact that life is a miracle. If you watch a program about astronomy and see how many countless stars there are and even more countless planets, some of which may have some form of life on them, we are still the exception. We are a tiny spec of dust amongst countless other specs of dust, but we have life; that is a miracle.

It took time to develop the necessary discipline to be able to slip into the comfort of that other place. I learnt to turn off my stress, but most of all I learnt to forgive, to be more tolerant, and overcome pain or at least subdue it.

Inner peace is not something you can pick up when you want, it has to be a way of life, if you really want to be able to sit down and think of nothing you have to work hard at it.

Yoga May Help.

I respectfully suggest that you learn Yoga, or Tai chi, condition the body first and then find the power that lies dormant within you. That silence you seek is there if you want badly enough to find it, you can.

Thank you for dropping in, I would love to hear your comments.


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      Tony Mead 5 years ago from Yorkshire

      Diane, many thanks for your visit.

      You inspired me today to write my story of panic attacks and share my experiences. I think once you know that you are not alone with this horrible illness, then it is easier to bare.

      regards Tony

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      Diane Minton 5 years ago from Evansville, Indiana

      Thank you for the nice comment on my Hub. You have lots of good ideas, but I have not tried all of them yet. More work to do here!

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      Tony Mead 5 years ago from Yorkshire

      Derdriu, you could include the sound of your peepers in your meadow, that is before I come up with the recipe for them. I suppose you could meditate and enjoy them on the barbe instead. A glass of cider would go down well with them.

      I am a serious meditator if that is the correct expression, my feelings on religion sway very much to knowing oneself.




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      Derdriu 5 years ago

      Tony, What a compassionate, generous, kind summary of knowing oneself, surviving stress, and taking time to appreciate self and world! In particular, I like your suggestions for envisioning meadows (I love the meadows which surround me on three sides), meditating, and trying out the emotional, mental and physical disciplines of tai chi and yoga.

      Respectfully, and with many thanks for sharing,


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      Tony Mead 5 years ago from Yorkshire

      Sometimes the hardest person to get on with is ourselves. With 5 children about I'm sure finding your own peaceful place is not so easy, but if you can get there you will understand other people better. I can use it to not feel pain, I don't need a jab at the dentists for a filling or whatever, I don't feel any discomfort from any injection. I recently had a biopsye performed on my ankle and I was able to just lose the pain.

      cheers thank you for calling by and for your comment; very much appreciated.

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      dadibobs 5 years ago from Manchester, England

      Your hub describes my idea of heaven. I have been lucky in my life, i have my 5 wonderful children and my beautiful wife, yet sometimes i do succumb to stress and pressure. I shall attempt to find my inner peace, as i think it would make me a better person.

      Thanks for pointing us all in the right direction :)

      Voted up!

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      Tony Mead 6 years ago from Yorkshire

      Hi Stressily

      thank you for the nice comments and your own input too, it is much appreciated. I was lucky to find the answer to my problems.


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      stessily 6 years ago

      tonymead60: This is perfectly presented, is filled with beautiful thoughts, and says so much with an admirable, yet poetic economy of words. I'll be reading and re-reading this meditation. I have found that forgiveness is the answer, and it begins with one's self. If more people followed your excellent suggestions about meditation, yoga, or tai chi, there would be an amazing improvement in the quality of life for so many people on this planet.Imagine that! All the votes, and thanks for sharing.

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      Tony Mead 6 years ago from Yorkshire

      Hi Tony

      I did my apprenticeship with IH. One of the lads from my office was trying to get work in SA after we were all made redeundant in 1979.

      thanks for the comment



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      Tony McGregor 6 years ago from South Africa

      Wonderful ideas. You have led an interesting life. I see you worked for IH - I was with Leyland in South Africa, their Truck and Bus Division.

      Thanks for sharing these ideas.

      Love and peace


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      Tony Mead 6 years ago from Yorkshire

      Many thanks for dropping by

      I hope you can find it useful

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      ImChemist 6 years ago

      Nice information , thanks.