ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Gardening Analogies: Life Lessons from the Garden

Updated on May 16, 2013

Sweet Peas

Sweet peas have an amazing aroma. Growing them is a lot of fun.
Sweet peas have an amazing aroma. Growing them is a lot of fun. | Source

The Sweet Pea Massacre

I kind of knew that I shouldn't have pruned them so harshly. I'd been looking at them closely now for two weeks - wondering why they were rioting over the side of their bathtub container, yet still they had no blossoms on their massive tendrils. I thought that I had planted duds, that I wasn't going to get any flowers, or worse yet,that I would have this tangled mess of sweet pea vines just taking up room in my precious soil.

I'd been angry that day, and perhaps in reflection I realize now that I should never prune while angry. Worse than that, never prune while angry when you aren't sure of what you are pruning.

So whack whack whack off came the fragile tendrils. I had no remorse, the more I pruned the more I whacked and pretty soon all that was left were a few curling survivors, clinging to the trellis for dear life. After I was done I felt a huge sense of relief, the unruly mass was gone and in it's place were a few scrappy stragglers that had managed to escape the wrath of my pruning shears. Alas, the sweet pea massacre was over and I could start with a clean slate.

After all, they weren't going to flower so why allow them to just take up space? As I left the huddled mass of vines on the ground and retreated inside to sip on my coffee, questions instantly started buzzing around in my head- Questions like: What if they were going to flower? Did I just make a major mistake? Did I perhaps take off too many vines? Did I just kill any chance of having any sweet pea's from my surviving tendrils?

My worst fears were confirmed when I went outside a few days later to check on my little remaining vines. As I looked on the ground, I almost broke down and cried in guilty sadness. There on the ground amongst the ravage of the sweet pea massacre were tiny little pink flowers, straining toward the sun. Petals so perfect they looked like fragile little butterfly wings. Springing forth even though I'd chopped them off from the source of their survival l- the vine. I felt like screaming, WHY DID I DO THAT? I was probably about to have the most profuse blooming of sweet peas I'd ever had in my life and I had cut them down in the prime of their life! Right before they could show their real stuff - that flowery burst of brilliance that would have captivated butterflies hearts..........

And as always, I learn some lessons the hard way, and I also see so many analogies to life in my garden. Analogies of how life in the garden is so closely related to our lives as human beings...Of how somehow, God always shows up in my garden to teach me something profound that I am meant to carry with me and reflect on........

Lesson Learned? Don't be too hard on people before they are ready, maybe the best bloom of their season is yet to come . If we cut in haste and anger we may cut them down before we can see their true glory.

So sorry sweet pea's- I'll miss you this spring.

Helpful Gardening Video

Comments

Submit a Comment

  • Dorsi profile imageAUTHOR

    Dorsi Diaz 

    7 years ago from The San Francisco Bay Area

    Thanks you Mrs. J.B.

  • Mrs. J. B. profile image

    Mrs. J. B. 

    7 years ago from Southern California

    Great information

  • Hammerj profile image

    Hammerj 

    9 years ago from Cebu City

    It's nice..i like it..informative article..

  • profile image

    Gardening Angel 

    10 years ago from Southwestern Pennsylvania, Pittsburgh

    Hi---

    I love sweet peas, too! I will be growing some this year and hope to take some pictures.

    Please visit my Hub Page.

    Gardening Angel

  • desert blondie profile image

    desert blondie 

    10 years ago from Palm trees, swimming pools, lots of sand, lots of sunscreen

    Ah, pruning. We know it's necessary for a myriad of reasons. It can feel therapeutic, practical, efficient, and we know it's often the best avenue to a lusher future environment. But, as you witnessed, it can lead to feelings of angst, regret, sorrow. Yep, gardening, it does give one time to pause from life, and yet also reconnect back to life in a more thoughtful, sentient manner. Nice hub.

  • flread45 profile image

    Frank 

    10 years ago from Montana

    Very true on that subject.

  • premsingh profile image

    premsingh 

    10 years ago

    I am compelled to appreciate your imagination and comparison between plants and human beings. Recently I also made a mistake. I sprayed a herbicide instaed of insecticide by mistake. All plants ecxept few died as herbicide was a non-selective herbicide. I also felt guilty. You are right plants are just like children.

  • Dorsi profile imageAUTHOR

    Dorsi Diaz 

    10 years ago from The San Francisco Bay Area

    Thank you so much for the insightful remarks. And yes, you are right, children are not so resilient. They are so fragile, and the things we say and do can make or break- we can build them up or tear them down.

    And I found out my sweet pea's really did die. They made one last effort to come back but a few days ago I went out there and the vine was dead. I planted some more where the other ones were and I have new sprouts coming up, So another analogy comes to mind- it reminds me of my dad trying to rally from pretty much inevitable death but coming back round and trying to hang on- trying and trying.

    We fight so hard in this life, don't we?

  • Sally's Trove profile image

    Sherri 

    10 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

    The beauty of living plants is that they are forgiving. Often, pruning is the best thing for them, no matter how reckless you think you've been.  You may prune in anger, but what you do is what the plants need.  And now they forgive you, because they are sending up new and stronger sprouts.

    People, especially children, are not quite so resilient.  What a tragedy to stifle a child's dreams and imagination in a moment of anger.  The "...tiny pink flowers, straining toward the sun..." may never forgive, and you may never be forgiven.

    I love your account because of its duality.  Pruning can be the best thing or the worst thing, and maybe it's the anger that needs the pruning.

    Beautiful reflection.  You made me think of many things.

  • ripplemaker profile image

    Michelle Simtoco 

    10 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

    What a beautiful reflection Dorsi. :-) I liked what you wrote..."Don't be too hard on people before they are ready, maybe the best bloom of their season is yet to come but us, in our haste, cut them down before we can see their true glory."

  • Dorsi profile imageAUTHOR

    Dorsi Diaz 

    10 years ago from The San Francisco Bay Area

    Thanks I appreciate that- and I actually discovered a few days ago that the survivors are growing new sprouts- YEAH!!!!!

  • moonlake profile image

    moonlake 

    10 years ago from America

    Enjoyed your hub. Sweet Peas are so nice. Sometimes we all prune to soon.

working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)