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Notes to Teens and Young Adults

Updated on March 11, 2019

A Few Essential Ideas to Save Your Life

Desires, Frustrations, Joys, Sorrows, Duties, Expectations, Dreams, and Hopes, all crash nonchalantly into one another, making this ever-changing kaleidoscopic life of teenage and young adulthood rather difficult. No one ever says it’s easy because no matter the age past twelve, we know for sure that it’s not. We have been there, done that, and really don’t want to do it again. However, despite, worrisome moments of attempting to ease quietly into this new age, you move, almost unnoticed, into this new found awareness of “independent” self. With this transition, it is imperative to take on essential actions to make sense out of what sometimes seems to make no sense at all…to implement some crucial things to save the life that God has planned for you.

"He has made everything beautiful in it's time."~ Ecc. 3:11
"He has made everything beautiful in it's time."~ Ecc. 3:11 | Source

“TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE”

William Shakespeare

You have to search for the real you, and know, with certainty, who you are. This is a mandatory task if you want to survive this world without too much trauma and drama. If you are one who must yield to peer pressure…must follow the crowd…must exhibit a timidity that allows abuse…must fit in… and must ignore what you know you really want, then HEARTACHE and FAILURE stand unflinchingly at your beck and call as you passively yield to FRAGILITY. Young people, the lesson here is simple. You alone must decide to let no one and nothing rob you of the truth that resides in your heart…those things that you stand for…those things that you want more than anything…those future moments that you wouldn’t trade for the whole wide world…that thing that had you to say, “I want to be a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, a welder, a fireman, a nurse or a million other different dreams spilling from the lips of babes.

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Have fun in your life.
Have fun in your life.

TAKE YOUR TIME WITH LIFE

Refuse to rush your life away, trying to experience things far too soon…things that you probably are not ready for at this youthful time. This is not to say you should not enjoy your youth. …far from it. Take the world by storm, but always with some degree of common sense. Let the voice of consciousness in your head be your guide. It will tell you the truth. …that indulging in things that you know are harmful is foolish…that fire burns. It will advise you that playing too hard and throwing caution to the wind will more than likely end badly. It will admonish you that harming yourself to get back at others will always miss its mark, and it will counsel you that looking back at the mistakes of others will create no winners, offer no prizes, and yield no bounty. Realize that this is your life, your chance to shine in God’s grace; honor the value of this gift He has given, and be patient with yourself and in your search for divine meaning.

Have fun getting to know each other.
Have fun getting to know each other. | Source

KNOW THAT LOVE IS PATIENT.

So now, at your age, you say life is difficult because there are other things that you want. You need LOVE. Well, it awaits you, but you must take the right road… the one less traveled. Unfortunately, the passageway demands, without question, something that you are not used to …PATIENCE. You live in the microwave generation…the quick fix…an instantaneous fulfillment of gratification. Well, LOVE IS PATIENT. It waits. Therefore the dichotomy of these two ideas cannot merge…will not yield to each other. The fast track, party time, jump in the bed on the first date or so, defies the very act of LOVE. The fast tract causes confusion between the definitions of real love, infatuation, and lust. Both lust and infatuation are powerful emotions that, for a moment in time, can make the heart soar and stomach butterflies take flight; however, both wear a mask and both disguise stability and commitment. On the other hand, Love is vigilant and protective. With true love, there is a necessity to know the partner, realize the strengths, the weaknesses, understand the flaws, learn if there will be respect, communication, compromise, commitment (in both sickness and health), trust, and perseverance. This knowledge, which leads to LOVE, takes time and a real search for the right person…the soul mate that only God puts together. Defying this path and taking the other seems most often to lead to disappointment, cruelty, loneliness, fear, tears, unprepared pregnancies, and sometimes even deadly or crippling diseases. It leads to a place where Love, for some, refuses to make even the briefest appearance. Instead this path is gorged with the personification of SADNESS, HELPLESSNESS, and REJECTION.

“WHAT HAPPENS TO A DREAM DEFERRED?”

Langston Hughes

In our youth, there is so much the feeling that anything can be accomplished. …A mountain never too high, an ocean’s floor never too deep, a winding road never too challenging, and a dare never too risky for rejection. However, somewhere in between here and there some dreams are lost, misplaced, put aside for some illusion, and the dream is deferred. Langston Hughes, says that at some point that dream may “stink like rotten meat…may crust over like a sugary sweet.” In any event, the dream is probably forever and unfortunately, in absentia.

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“LEAN NOT TO YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING”

Proverbs 3: 5

This kind of defeat does not have to happen, but to keep it at bay there must be strength, commitment, dedication, motivation, and a desire to keep in touch with all that is important to the heart inside of you. For the Christian, there must be a faith and trust in God that knows He will carry you, and that His promises are true. We must believe Him. The mantra must be that “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.”

Never is this thing called growing up easy. Truly, it is difficult, and all of us are bound to make mistakes. The comfort, however, is to know that there is always help…that Christ allows us to lean on Him. He is the one who will direct us before we lose our way, shield us when times are difficult, and sustain us when life’s journey is too hard. He is the one who covers us with His feathers when we need protection even from ourselves.

As we peer and poke around this globe on which we live, it’s easy to see the multiplicity of mistakes that we make, the many errors of our ways, our absolute refusal to stand firmly against the evils of our world. We can smoke whatever we want while we dismiss its ability to kill. We can take drugs regardless of the fact that we see the disorientation and devastation of the addict, or we can act with timidity and toss our dreams to the wind at the whim of some bully society. In the error of our ways, we can dismiss our own bad behavior as we hide from those in authority over us, but we cannot hide from God. He is always there willing us to be our best self.

My advice to a positive end is always the same: Maximize your talents with passion and fire while you have a chance. Push toward your dreams and goals in the precious few moments God has given you. Revel in your successes because you deserve them. Most importantly, walk close to God, seek His guidance, study His word, and always be ever ready to find your strength in Him. Be prepared to stand firmly against the wiles of Satan. Do this, and actualize the dreams that God has planned for you even before your birth.

"To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under Heaven" ~ Ecc.3:1
"To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under Heaven" ~ Ecc.3:1 | Source

© 2014 Doris H. Dancy

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    • manatita44 profile image

      manatita44 

      17 months ago from london

      You are one of the few great writers I know on HP. You can share in the spirit of Love here also. Write an article, such as this one from time to time. Your writing shines and you advice is always awesome. Act though, from a position of inner strength. Don't burn out. Glory be!

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      The advice here is timeless. My teaching career began in 1978, and ended in 2011, and this advice would benefit students no matter what year they exist, no matter where they exist, no matter sex, religion, or whatever...excellent, sound words of wisdom.

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Peachpurple, thanks for spending some time with my thoughts. I wish I could get at least our youth to hear this message.

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      peachy 

      6 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      everybody should read this, thanks

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      Mothers of Nations 

      6 years ago

      Amen. Thank you, Doris Dancy, the praise belongs to God as He allowed us to cross each others path and I'm grateful as well! God Bless You, dear.

    • Doris Dancy profile imageAUTHOR

      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Thank you mothersofnations. I am so glad that you answered one of my questions so that I could find such a wonderful child of God. I love your spirit.

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      Mothers of Nations 

      6 years ago

      Excellent article! I know plenty of teens & young adults that could make good use of the information you've provided here.

      I also read your bio. Your devotion to the youth is admirable. I look forward to reading more. God bless you.

    • Doris Dancy profile imageAUTHOR

      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      MsDora ~ Thank you for taking your time, time that cannot be returned, to spend some moments with my passion ~ writing. I see why Manatita thought this would be a great connection. I read that you were a teacher (once a teacher always a teacher) and so was I. I think that we both have extremely important messages for our youth, and it is my prayer that they will stop for a second in their whirlwind world of play and pay attention.

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      Dora Weithers 

      6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Doris, it my pleasure to meet you, and thanks to Manatita for the introduction. I can see that we are kindred spirits in our devotion to the young people. Your concern shines clearly through your message. My last hub has a similar theme.

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Pattyfloren, You honor me by wanting to share my work with your grandchildren. I could not ask for more. I hope they will read it, enjoy it, and take the advice seriously. My next hub is an honor to grandmothers. I hope you get a chance to read it. I'm not quite satisfied enough with it to post it yet. I keep messing with it. LOL

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      Patty Florence 

      6 years ago from Illinois

      You are truly an artist, and I enjoy reading your hubs. I will mention your caring hub to my gkids and hope they find something that blesses that zone of the heart. Thank you!

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      manatita44 

      6 years ago from london

      Thank you so much. I wish you well on your narrative. They can be quite challenging. I did three. Best wishes.

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Manatita44 ~ I have now read your beautiful tribute, "My Salutations to Mother's Love," and I have commented on it. I am presently working on a narrative dedicated to my grandmother. I will post it as soon as I can make myself satisfied with it. THAT is the hardest job.

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      manatita44 

      6 years ago from london

      Yes. I understood.

      Down in Grenada, WI, I said 'grace before meals' every day, and sang at morning assemblies. I was also born in a village, and the charm and innocence of village life is sadly lacking today. All joy and peace to our Mothers and grandmothers. Have you seen My Salutations to Mother's Love. God's peace to you from London, UK a.m.

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Manatita44, The richness was in the lessons I learned about the Spirit of God, attention from excellent parents, and a grandmother who loved me enough to remind me everyday to "love my neighbor as myself." Thank you for your very kind words.

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      manatita44 

      6 years ago from london

      You seem to have led a rich life and was blessed in abundance, Doris. More importantly the desire to share this shines bright in you. Human nature does not grow and cannot grow without selfless service. Your Hub reflects a Soul with a desire to love, serve and inspire. God bless your empathetic heart.

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Thank you, Alretha, for taking your time to read what I want to share with the world.

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      Alretha Thomas 

      6 years ago

      I absolutely love this. It was delivered with so much love, passion, and caring. Just the kind of delivery that will not put young people on the defensive.

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      Mrs. Vonetta B. Smith 

      6 years ago

      Thank you for taking the time to write this much-needed message to teens & young adults! I believe this advice can also serve as a useful reminder to an adult of every age who may need a spark in their existing relationship or a budding new one.

    • Doris Dancy profile imageAUTHOR

      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Thank you AKChenoweth2014 for your very kind words and the encouragement that you continue to give me. Writing hubs is very new to me, and I am loving every minute of this new endeavor where my hope is that the Lord be glorified.

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      bluebird 

      6 years ago

      You've got a beautiful heart. I hope they will too, they need all the help they can get in this day and age, it's a very dangerous world nowadays. Take care and keep your chin up!

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      Doris H. Dancy 

      6 years ago from Yorktown, Virginia

      Bluebird, Thank you for your comment. I pray that some will read this hub, and take the advice seriously. So many young lives are being wasted, and it makes me very sad to see it happening.

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      bluebird 

      6 years ago

      Good advice, let's just hope they will read it and do it, you know how it is when you're young, already smart and don't need to be taught a thing. There are a few exceptions of course, and they are a rare breed.

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