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On Sacrifice and Perception

Updated on December 4, 2013

I remember several years ago, I was sitting with a Cossack friend of mine catching-up on Life. We do not see each other too often and so there were lots of things to talk about. At one point, somehow the conversation came around to my practicing of abstinence and celibacy. He asked me for how long I was still going to go on with my nuttiness. I did not know what to say … not like I planned to be celibate for a certain amount of time … I have made my decision over a decade ago and it is how I live my Life.

I told him that my decision was firm and I had my reasons. Life becomes a little simpler when one is not chasing skirts. And above all I am a Warrior. Warriors do not often have a calm family life-style. A warrior has to be ready for anything at anytime. If Life takes a strange turn, the Warrior has to be ready to drop everything that he/she is doing and follow the signs presented without worrying where the path will lead him/her.

I remember my buddy looking at me gravely and saying:

“That is a lot to sacrifice … I mean, no family, no kids, no wife …”

His comment caught me by surprise. Sacrifice? I had never thought about that … I was sacrificing a family life with my decision? I did not see it that way.

I make choices in Life and I do not regret them. I chose my path and I sacrifice nothing. Sacrificing means giving-up on something and it has a certain connotation of one being a victim in a certain way. Haha!! I could be many things but not a victim of my own doing … Some people’s perception on Life makes me laugh.

If I am making a conscious decision to do something, I am not going to cry about what I am not going to get to do because of the decision I had just taken. A Warrior weighs his/her choices carefully before-hand so there are no regrets. A Warrior only gains when making choices; there are no losses because the intention is clear and his/her path has heart.

Within the last week, I had a short conversation on this topic with a lady who told me that she had sacrificed many things in her Life. She gave me a list actually. Between other things, she mentioned how she had sacrificed so much as a mother, even her body by giving birth.

I personally did not agree with that statement. Why do something and then, play the victim? Nobody forces anyone to have children. Thus, if the choice is made to have children, that is a choice made and not a choice imposed (unless we are talking about someone being raped or some vile circumstance of that sort). There is no point in my mind to cry the blues after the fact. Accept the choice made and leave the regrets and sacrifices aside as the choice was made freely (if the choice was indeed made freely).

I sacrifice nothing. As I told the lady with whom I was conversing about this matter, when I donate money to Greenpeace or when I put-in time as a volunteer, I do not regard my time and money as a sacrifice. I do it out of love and because I wish to do so. I make a clear decision and in no way am I sacrificing anything. I suppose it is all a matter of perception.

I am not sure why some people like to victimize themselves but that is how I perceive this idea of sacrifice. As long as a choice is not imposed on someone, there is no sacrifice. We all make choices and decisions and we should live happily with our decisions, in my opinion.

I wish everyone all the best! Cheers.


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      Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Mrs. Shyron E. Shenko,

      Thank You for the visit and for leaving a comment.

      I certainly think that if we take calculated actions and if we act out of love then, there can be no sacrifice: everything we do, we are happy doing it.

      Thanks again and all the best! : )

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Mr. Happy, you are the one person who has written the way I think. I sacrificed nothing, I had to go through my life the way I did to get to where I am at this moment in life.

      Blessings to you Mr. Happy

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      Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I am not sure how I missed your comment, Mrs. Theresa. Sorry about that, not nice of me ...

      "Language is such a malleable thing and words can and often are given multiple interpretations, nuances, even spins" - I think this is a very big problem. One can end-up with miscommunication, misinterpretation ... some people take advantage knowing how to manipulate language ( i.e. lawyers, politicians, etc.) and difficulties arise.

      I often have to stop a conversation just to make sure the terminology used is the same for everyone. Haha!! What a drag sometimes ...

      "take responsibility" for our choices - I wish everyone can understand this part. It would make a much better world, in my opinion.

      Thank You for stopping by again.


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      Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Mrs. Backporchstories,

      your comment is priceless: full of wisdom and love. Beautiful!

      Thank You for your work, for sharing knowledge and perhaps You can thank your husband for me, for his work. I do not know much about the Sacred Pipe, although I have smoked from a Bear Pipe twice. Still learning ... I do see that those who carry It, are holding something very special.

      Regarding the dances ... I love them and the Drums!! Here is a link to a video I put together, which You might enjoy:

      All the photos are mine and the singing is from a cd I bought at a Dokis First Nation's Pow-wow. I have been going to that Pow-wow for three years now.

      I am stretching myself with this comment. Haha! I will end here but thank You very much for having this conversation.

      All the best!

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      backporchstories 5 years ago from Kentucky

      I loved this Hub! My husband is a Native American Sundancer. As a Sundancer, he is a warrior for the healing of the People. He carries a sacred Pipe and must give of himself daily and as the Creator calls upon him to be a hollow bone when needed for healing of others. People call this sacrifice, however, how can it be a sacrifice when he is simple doing what the Creator wanted of him.

      I have given birth to two children. It may have weaken my body or taken my personal time in raising them, but that is one of my purposes as a woman. Not a sacrifice. Yes we all have choices.

      Both my husband and I feel that what we give out, we do out of love and compassion. It does not matter what we have to give up in making these choices, but what matters is our spirit and what resides in our hearts! The word sacrifice, I think, should be only used in reference to that of the sacred and not apply to a personal choice in life. Sacrifice belongs to the alters and offerings.

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      Theresa Ast 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      White Wolf- You are correct. Language is such a malleable thing and words can and often are given multiple interpretations, nuances, even spins. Defining terms early on in an intense discussion or debate is often an important and necessary thing.

      I cannot overstate how important I think it is that we understand and "take responsibility" for our choices - stop blaming others, stop hating the world, stop blaming circumstances - because we had choices and we made a bad one.

      I am not sure how my parents impressed that upon me, but from a very young age I knew I had choices and that I was responsible for the consequences. This understanding has stood me in very good stead in my life.

      Although it also leaves me frustrated with people who continually complain and whine about the choices they have freely made - in other words patience does not come easily to me, I have to work for it, or using your metaphor from a recent hub, I have to diligently "hunt" for patience.

      Hope you have a good week. The heat here is a little less intense. :) Theresa

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      Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank You for the comment as well Mrs. Lastheart. Your words are wise. Indeed, everyone should take time to try to understand Life, why we live and what the meaning of all this is. It is good for the Spirit, in my opinion.

      All the very best!

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      Mr. Happy 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Mrs. Theresa,

      To begin with, I view the word sacrifice as I found it in my dictionary: "Sacrifice n. 1 the giving up of anything for the sake of another person, object or interest. 2 that which is offered or given up, a victim, an offering. 3 the act of offering an animal, person etc., esp. by ritual of slaughter ...". From this definition, we can see an understanding/meaning of "giving something up" and that of being a "victim". This is why I wrote the piece to begin with. I do not find in my opinion, a beneficial reason to having such a perspective.

      We have choices and any time we make any given choice, we renounce the opportunity for many other choices which we may have had, by that first choice we make. Therefore, we do indeed always give-up opportunities. For example now, I made a clear choice of writing this comment. I could have watched a soccer game on the T.V., read a book, cooked some food or anything else. The choice was made though: I will write a comment and all other possible choices have been put aside (or given-up) but I do not look at this instance as me giving something up because I gain this conversation with You. I wanted to have this conversation and this is my choice which enriches my life by it being an experience which gets added to all the other experiences (life lessons). Thus, I gain and see no loss or sacrifice ... Well, this is how my mind works anyway ...

      I think You understand my perspective because You wrote that: "I grew up in a family that viewed sacrifice as a noble choice made by someone in order to achieve a greater or higher good". I appreciate that!

      Lately, I engage in many conversations and discussions and I feel that before we can even talk about the topic at hand, we often have to see if we all (the people involved in the discussion) have the same understanding of the terminology ... Often, I end-up in misunderstandings which are based on misscommunication. I find this very counter-productive ...

      Thank You for taking the time to read and comment. I find your words helpful.


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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      I like these words. I think that many people live a life of labels. Many do not understand how to live a life...their lives...instead many choose to find what is weird in others. Deep theme no wonder you got long comments; I guess you inspired us.

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      Theresa Ast 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Good afternoon White Wolf. Interesting Hub and interesting discussion. Some basic premises: I do think semantics plays a big role in our understanding, because clearly many of us view the same word quit differently. And I think family background and use of the word has a great deal to do with how we understand it.

      So my thoughts - I respect and admire the things you do and don't do in order to be a warrior. We need more warriors - our cultures and societies suffer and decay from lack of them. And some cultures certainly embrace the concept "that the warrior must be pure and chaste." (film - Farewell to the King - use this film in some courses - have a Hub about it).

      Similar understandings may underlie the celibacy of a nun or priest - abstaining from the normal obligations of daily life enables one to devote more time to God, or whatever high purpose one holds dear. I would probably think of celibacy as a "sacrifice." But my understanding of the word has nothing to do with victimization or a poor me attitude.

      I grew up in a family that viewed sacrifice as a noble choice made by someone in order to achieve a greater or higher good, almost always for someone else and with no concern for their own safety or security. Of course “good” may be defined in many ways...many soldiers, policemen, firemen may act sacrificially, depending on their character and heart.

      But not all soldiers are sacrificial by nature. Warriors to me occupy a higher level than soldier, although some soldiers may rise to that level, but certainly not all. What does come to mind, is the soldier who throws himself on a grenade to protect the other men he has been fighting along side of. I believe that is a noble sacrifice, with no connotation of victimization.

      Based on your essay and some of the comments, I can see why some people associate sacrifice (choices freely made after all) with victimization, because they have known people who constantly whined about their sacrifices they made and wanted special treatment in return.

      I started to say those people are martyrs, but that isn't correct. True martyrs suffer and die for something/one they believe in and they do not whine and feel sorry for themselves. They are making a choice and they know it. The best way to describe the other group is so say they have a "self-serving martyr's complex." A true martyr's does not whine, complain, or draw attention to him/herself.

      I really appreciate your essay and the points you made and how you explicated the. I think we are like minded (obviously I got married and had three children – I do not mean that of course), but we react to words and phrases differently based on context and past circumstance, but I see no major difference in what we believe and value. A great conversation. Thank you. Hope all is well. Theresa

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Making a sacrifice and not feeling like a victim is certainly an oxymoron in my mind but it is all certainly about perception: about how we understand the word sacrifice and our attitude to Life, in general.

      Thank You for stopping-by, Virtual Treasures and for taking the time to leave me a comment. Cheers!

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      Kacie Turner 6 years ago from Michigan

      Very interesting and voted up! I have always looked at sacrifice as having a sort of negative connotation. Looking back, I think I have sacrificed a lot in the merriam-webster sort of way, but I do not feel like a victim and would have done most of it all over again.

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank You very much for the kind words left, Mr. Avery. I appreciate You taking the time to read and comment. Cheers!

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      Kenneth Avery 6 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Mr. Happy,

      In a word: Amazing. Voted up and away. I envy and respect your talent at the same time. I appreciate the warmth and vibes your hub sends out. Keep up the great work.


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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Your comments never fail to make me smile: Thank You Mrs. Storyteller! I wish You all the very best. : )

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      Barbara 6 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      Mr. Happy, now I have two hubs to pop me up and out of the thermal doldrums!!! I love this hub. It comes from a high place. Thanks.

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Hello again Mrs. Amy,

      thank You for continuing the conversation. I do think that many times in life people are pressured into doing things sometimes (i.e. getting married).

      There are so many people who expect things from us. Like I was expected to finish high-school, go to university, etc. Luckily my sister is older and she got married, had children and all that. Thus, there is no pressure for that from my family: there are grandchildren running around anyway now ...

      I do have one friend in mind now who's father is literally asking for grandchildren. And I guess, it's nice of him wanting granchildren but is my friend and his wife on this planet to give him grandchildren? Or are grandchildren to come because the grandfather wants them?

      I honestly do not abide by such exterior pressures. As much as I can, I try to listen to my Spirit: "Does my path have heart?" I keep asking that, anytime I don't know which fork to take on my trail ... As long as the answer to my question is "yes", I keep going.

      Well, thanks for passing-by again and sharing your perspective. Many thanks. : )

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      Amy Becherer 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      At the risk of "butting in" and thoughts of "who asked you", I have to say I agree with CBartelmey's 2-date rule from someone who wished they'd practiced it. Married and divorced twice (the 1st enduring nearly 20 years and the 2nd, 14 years), were quick courtships and careless decisions. However, I have learned a lot. I realize that my first impressions, garnered by the 2nd or 3rd date, were far more accurate than I was willing to see. I have learned to listen to my gut. I have learned I would never be happy living under someone else's thumb. I stayed in those relationships beyond their expiration date, as survival for me meant comfortably numb. Exercise doesn't only build physical musculature, it builds brain power. Eventually, anger fired my neurons and my brain came out of hiding in a state of atrophy. I've found independence, which comes with accountability, responsibility and no excuses, to be challenging (I was laid off 2-weeks after my last divorce), yet freeing. Life is never easy, but being able to make one's own choices, knowing you must live with the consequences, means accepting accountability when things don't go as planned and reveling in those things that do. Well stated and inspiring, CB! Thank you

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank You for commenting as well, Mrs. CBarlemey.

      You are fully right in saying that my friend was not able to see Life from my vantage point. Hence, he could not understand my decision.

      "I think it takes a lot to find someone that you could literally spend your entire life with." - I fully agree with You on this statement. And sadly, I know many people who hurried in their relationships and are now in unhappy marriages and such ... I am not a fan of patience but in this circumstance I would take all the time in the world to make sure that my decision is clear.

      Thanks again for the comment. All the best!

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Cclitgirl,

      I think the trouble with the word sacrifice comes from my family just like You explained with your mom. For me it was my grandmother ... she never stopped telling especially us, the children how much she sacrificed for us. And again, like You said I loved her dearly but nonetheless, the sacrificing part was too much to take, especially as I got older and revisited those memories.

      Thank You very much for passing by and taking the time to leave me this comment. Cheers!

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      CBartelmey 6 years ago from Colorado, United States

      What your friend failed to do was step into your shoes and determine why you were prompted to make that decision. Instead he questioned its validity and noted all of the things, that in his mind anyway, you had sacrificed to make that decision. Which leads to your other point, that perception is key. That is one thing that I have always tried to be conscience of, that my perspective is not the only perspective. Sometimes the decisions I make I am sure do not make sense to every single person around me, but from my vantage point, they do. I also try to extend others that same courtesy of thought. That I will not always know why someone made a decision, but I can respect that they did, and simply just try to understand the why behind it.

      This also made me laugh because it gave me recollection to some of my own memories. As you find your life easier without skirts in it, I myself have always found relationships to be a bit difficult, one because I am so very independent and two because I am also very picky. I think it takes a lot to find someone that you could literally spend your entire life with. Most of my dating experience has consisted of the ‘two date’ rule, which is where a man gets two dates, and within those two dates I have usually found some reason to discount any possibility of them getting a third. Harsh some may say I know, but I really do know exactly what I want, and if you don’t have it, no sense wasting time. And at least in my typical style, I was always kind in letting them know that there would not be a third date. I also think you have to know what works for you, because the times that I have strayed from that rule, my life took turns left and right and all over the place. Everything eventually evened back out and I guess we all need a good roller coaster ride every once in a while, but well done for sticking to yours.

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      Cynthia Calhoun 6 years ago from Western NC

      Wonderful, thought-provoking hub. I am not much for the word "sacrifice" - my mom always used to use that word liberally and I always wondered why it seemed like so many things were sacrifices - marriage, children, making money, etc. Don't get me wrong - I love and respect my mama, but I have to admit I don't like the word "sacrifice" now. It always sounds like some sort of suffering will ensue. I'm with you - if you make a decision, then by golly, live with the consequences. No one makes decisions for you as an adult (except in extenuating circumstances and/or parent/child relationships) - but I just mean that we all have to reap what we sow. I'm a teacher and all too often I hear, 'but he made me do it' - that sort of thing. I will share that I almost became a mom once. I had a miscarriage and even before that I've had serious doubts about parenthood. I was ready to embrace it, but the fact that it has not happened, to me, may just be the sign that it's not meant to be. I'm fine with that. I'm happily married and I'm happy with the way things are. I have no regrets about my decisions, either. I married not too long after college, and I could have held it off to travel or something, but my choice was to stay with the amazing guy I found 10 years ago. Life is about making choices and the choices determine our future and help define who we are. Okay...I'd better stop writing now...I could turn this into a hub, haha, for all the thoughts that popped into my mind while reading. :)

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank You for the visit Forall.

      I do agree with You that we should not live with our regrets. We can learn from them but then, we should move on. Wise words. Thank You!

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Daughter of Maat,

      perception does indeed complicate things. To begin with, the topic of "sacrifice" is debatable because not everyone (such as You) looks at sacrifice as something detrimental. Some other people do - at least that is how I always looked at sacrifice because most people whom I encountered talking about sacrifice, they did it in a "feel sorry for myself" way; or "look at me, I'm sacrificing ...".

      That is why wrote above that I guess it does all depend on how we view the idea of sacrifice.

      All righty, I am off to the forest soon, to sacrifice my next several days with the trees and lake (lol). Cheers!

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      forall 6 years ago

      None is sure he did the right choice, yet the choice was his.

      A choice that is done freely without being influenced by any circumstance can't be called sacrifice. Yet it depends on people's definition of this word.

      It is Ok to regret things, to change decisions, opinion or whatever. What shouldn't be done is to live with our regret because it is past, nothing can change it. All what we can do is to move on and correct our life trajectory.

      Good luck with what you've chosen Mr.Happy :)

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      Melissa Flagg OSC 6 years ago from Rural Central Florida

      I'm not sure I understand the comment either Mr. Happy. Our perception IS our reality. You can't separate the two, just like one person cannot fully understand someone else's perspective because of their own perceptions. Just like objectivity is an illusion for most people, although many of us strive for objectivity, I think only the Dali Lama has reached it, if anyone lol.

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Mr. Iqbal,

      I am not sure I understand your first sentence. How does perception not discriminate between good or bad? Is good and bad not how we perceive things?

      I think I have an idea of what You are saying but I am not sure. Thank You for taking the time to stop by and comment though. All the best!

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      muhammad iqbal 50 6 years ago

      Perception is greater than reality because perception is a metaphysical approach of man that it is perceived by unseen forces even evilness or humanity, penetrates in human heart to impulse desire to fulfil needs or wants without discrimination of good or bad deeds.

      However, a noble soul never follows the perception of devils because they conceive guidance from the revelation which was descended on messengers of God that all messengers pay sacrifices to purify and nobility of soul of human-being.

      Sacrifice is practical act of man in form of life, money and instinct to render to other when they call to help.

      Sacrifices make the man great in front of God and his creation while perception enforce to do something that you have desire.

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Mr. Billybuc, thank You for the visit and the supporting comment. All the very best to You, Sir! : )

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      "You have chosen a path that guarantees the security of fathering no unplanned child" - that is indeed one of the reasons I have always been careful in terms of sleeping around, even when I was not practicing abstinence.

      Thank You for stopping-by and commenting Mrs. Amy! Cheers. : )

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Mrs. Lynnley, I do think that this topic may be understood differently by those whos opinion may differ in regard to what "sacrifice" means. I can agree with You that the Great Spirit does not ask for any sacrifice. I think it only asks for Love and Faith in the Great Mystery. All the best!

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Greetings Daughter of Maat,

      I apreciate your comment and your taking the time to do so. I agree with You that this subject has a lot to do with semantics and our understanding/perception of the word "sacrifice".

      I used the word as it is described in the dictionary: "Sacrifice n. 1 the giving up of anything for the sake of another person, object or interest. 2 that which is offered or given up, a victim, an offering. 3 the act of offering an animal, person etc., esp. by ritual of slaughter ...".

      As You can see, there is a strong connotation of victimization on the part of the one doing the sacrificing. My opinion is like yours: if one is giving up something, one should do so happily and not feel that they are losing something, or perceive their giving of whatever as something which has been a pain/struggle. If it is viewed as such, in my opinion the action should not have been taken, as to not have anything to regret or feel bad about at a later time.

      I am grateful for your insightful comment. Many thanks - cheers!

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      Bill Holland 6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I can get on board this hub and ride it comfortably. Very nicely written.

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      Amy Becherer 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I have known those who enjoy the role as martyr. We make choices, yet that is not to say that any decision doesn't hold surprises, sacrafices, if you will, in the end. Still, we are all responsible for each decision we make. Most people learn early that for every choice there are consequences. I, too, have learned the hard way as I am bull-headed, but, once I know, I know. I still have empathy, but fall short of pity where there is no forethought. There are circumstances beyond our control, and I do feel pity and sorrow when great suffering happens through no one's fault.

      And, who is to say what constitutes sacrifice for another. If you had chosen family life, there are no guarantees that you be fulfilled or happy. The statistics bear otherwise. You have chosen a path that guarantees the security of fathering no unplanned child, absence of the fear of sexually transmitted disease and the freedom from turmoil that sexual relationships often bring. It sounds close to utopia to me.

      Great thoughts expressed in a clear, straightforward way, Mr. Happy!

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      Jackie Lynnley 6 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I agree with you. Sacrifice is giving up something you need or hold dear. That would come under different definitions to different people.

      God said we would be better to be celibate and I am sure if we gave it deep thought we could find all the reasons why. God did not consider it a sacrifice, just for the best. I take His word for it. And yours.

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      Melissa Flagg OSC 6 years ago from Rural Central Florida

      I love your hubs, Mr. Happy. They certainly provide a different view of life.

      Most of the time I agree with you, and I agree with many points in this hub as well. However, allow me to share my perceptions, because that is merely what they are, perceptions. I find it enlightening to share perceptions in an effort to gain wisdom.

      I agree with the woman partially. I've had a child and I agree that having the child is a sacrifice. What happens to a woman's body is truly a sacrifice, specifically the damage that is caused to delicate tissues, etc. It's a large sacrifice. However, I think the woman misunderstands the meaning of the word sacrifice.

      A sacrifice is the surrender of something for the sake of something else. You gain something from sacrifice. The fact that it is a choice is inherent in the definition. I chose to sacrifice my body to bring another life into this world. To say that I am a victim of sacrifice is completely erroneous. You can't be a victim if you've chosen to do something especially if something is gained in return.

      With this in mind, you indeed have sacrificed in your life. You have chosen to remain celebate for whatever reason. If you look closely at why you have chosen this path, I'm sure you're giving up sexual activity for something else, which is the definition of sacrifice. There is something to be gained by living a celebate life. This is not the definition of sacrifice that is typically understood. I think the term is gravely mistaken for an act of giving up something because one has no other choice. This is not sacrifice, it is survival. Giving something up because you have no other choice is an act of survival, giving up something for something else (a sacrifice) is utilitarian in nature and implies that a choice is made and something has been gained.

      Indeed, I sacrificed my body, but I gained a child. I have chosen to sacrifice a life of wealth, but what I gained in return was the love of a soul mate. There is a negative connotation to the term sacrifice, but this, again is erroneous. Sacrifice is a positive thing. While I'm not christian, Jesus' sacrifice is a perfect example. I don't think any chrisitan would say that Jesus surrendering his life so that humanity could be forgiven was negative in anyway. So, why does the term sacrifice have a negative connotation?

      Maybe I should've made a hub about this! I know I'm essentially "playing semantics," but semantics is an imperative part of the English language. It is the study of definitions. We can't understand life, or comprehend it's meaning if we do not fully understand the words we use to communicate that meaning.

      Again, I love your hubs, every time I read them my mind is stimulated to think outside the box, which I believe is your goal as an author. So, you are, by definition, a successful author. :D


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