One word for Life "Relative"
There is one thing that I liked the best in studying science, how things are relative, even though I am not talking about Science here.
How many people do we see in our life who say that they are happy? I am not saying that there are no such people, but we rarely find people who are happy in their life. If a person earns $3000 a month, he would say I wish I was making at least $5000. and when the person starts earning $5000, he would wish for more. A human being is insatiable. And that's the main reason for our misery. We always want more, and mind you, all the things that we desire are relative to what we want to have. And that's the main problem right there, We always compare the things that we have now to the things that we don't have, instead of what we had before. We forget to compare ourselves to the right things. The comparison should lie within self. When we look for comparison externally, we should know that we are setting ourselves up for failure. We would never be able to outdo the expectations of everyone. Our society has made us what we are today. We are greedy animals. And the thirst is not to have more than what we had already, it is what other people have. If we are wealthier and happier than other people we know. On the way though, we may get the wealthier part, but we end up losing the happier part. This constant race of outdoing each other is what is making us miserable in our lives. We are never happy of what we have, always having our eyes on what other people have, what they are doing. The presence of Social Media has exposed us more to this disease. Where we are constantly competing for one thing or other. We see our Friends and relatives posting about their lives, and we start wishing that we also had what they have. That's not the way to lead a life. We want to compare our lives to someone, we should compare it to our own lives. How it used to be, and how it is now. We will know if our lives have changed for the better or worse. This is just one aspect of our lives that is finishing us from within. There are a lots of factor contributing to our dissatisfaction with our lives.
Like I mentioned in my title, the word "Relative" is actually relevant in most of the aspects of our lives, one of them is Judgment. we judge people everyday in our life, even though inadvertently. But what we fail to comprehend for ourselves when we judge others is what is the standard the other person lives his life up to. We have the differences in culture and religions, but we know about that and we can easily point them out and make our opinion based on that. But what we fail to comprehend is the differences in the same culture or religion. I have often heard people saying they shouldn't have done that, if I was in their place I would have done something different. People make themselves a standard for judging others. They always think of themselves as the basis when making judgment or criticizing others and when there is a deviation from it, it just means that the other person is wrong. If someone says to us that the other person is this and that, we shouldn't automatically take it as an absolute assessment. Who has given us the authority and validation that we spend our lives perfectly, that wee do no wrong, even if we do something wrong, there is an excuse. Why is it that we just can't accept that people have a different way of living their lives. Doesn't matter if we are from the same religion and follow the same culture. People are different from each other. Judging someone just because they are different from us makes us look like a fool and a tool. If we want to judge someone, we should judge ourselves. We want to reflect on someone's actions, reflect on our own selves. Try to be a better person than we were yesterday. We want everyone to be a good person, that we forget to apply the same principle on ourselves.
We need to be more empathetic and understanding. There is nothing like absolute, everything is relative. Everyone lives for a different reason than ours. Everyone priorities are different as well as their circumstances. Instead of judging, why don't we try to be understanding
At the end of the day, the only thing that will matter is how you spent your life. People aren't going to remember you for how other people lived their lives, but how you spent it.
