Find what you love to do

The most difficult and important part in life is to find out what we want to do? Blessed are those who can find it out. For most people its really difficult to find.

How to find out what we love to do in
life? That is our first and foremost challenge .

As per me,there are 2 steps in doing it-

Step 1-

Answer below question-

If in the World everything were free, then what is it that you would have spent doing all your life?

Step 2-

Once you find the answer to above question,whatever the answer is, just start doing it and do not stop till you find success.Sometimes people do not do the things they want , just because they think that way they will earn less or its a difficult career to choose or just they are not confident.

When I was working as a software engineer in one of my previous firms I met a person .He was a web content developer. One day on coffee table , he told me that he came to this field because it promised a great career. He was a good student and everybody including his parents wanted him to pursue engineering. I cannot forget his words he told me on that day,"Its 6 years I am working here, I have money and career.But you know what, I am not happy.The more years I work in this field , the more I am realising that i am working for money and not for my satisfaction.And i cannot leave this field because I am only person earning and have family responsibilities."

I asked him about his interest areas and told him, that if not full time atleast part time and weekends , he can devote to his areas of passion. This will help him in two ways.First , this will help ease out his frustration and he will be happy and hence will be able to contribute better way towards his family and job. Second if his part time career picks up good in few months or years he can leave his current job and shift full time to it. This stepwise shift will help ensure that, his family do not have to compensate as part of his career shift.

Now, he has his articles published in many magazines. and is a yoga instructor.Last I spoke to him he was content and happy.He told that ,though he is not earning as much as he used to but he and his family,is happy.

Just leave all fears and jump in ,to do what you really want to do and you will be successful and also do not forget to keep your mind open for new options.

"When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

He’s the fellow to please—never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear to the end.
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass." [Anonymous]

We are captured by some or other thought for which we are toiling day and night.It could be work as a software engineer, work as academician or open a business. But sometimes its very essential that we take a break and re-analyse where we are heading to ?

To illustrate the subject,let me give you a example. This is about one of my high school friend.She did her engineering and always wanted to work in software. During our lab practices I knew that her logic is not that developed and hence she can become a software engineer but will never be a success in that field. She is still trying her way , as a software developer in one or other company. She is not satisfied with her career but at the same time does not want to leave it. I tried to provide her with other options which she can try but she says she has put in her four years trying in this field and now she thinks there is nothing else she can do apart from working in this field.

I am not against determination to do something. But if you have tried a thing for say years and its not working just sit and re-analyse with open mind, look deep inside yourself, for you are the best judge for yourself and ask yourself two questions-

1. What are my abilities or strengths?

2. Am I working on my abilities?

If the answer to the second question is Yes, then go on. You will hit success.

If the answer is no, then its time to look for options,which will best utilise your abilities.

My friend could have been a successful beautician, massage therapist , administrator, teacher, councellor or ..the list goes on, only if she were not stuck in her own mental wave where she cannot and do not want to look for any other option.

What I want to say is, be open to options. I am not saying that determination is bad or keep on hoping from one profession to other. Infact determination is the base stone for success. But then if set backs are common on your way or you are not that satisfied in the field of your work, take some time apart and analyse, if you are working on your abilities for

"You never know in which form opportunity will come and knock your door"