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Seven Most Important Reasons Why A Born Again Christian Should Not Opt For Divorce-Part 2
Parental responsibility vs Ostrich apprach
Seven Most Important Reasons Why A Born Again Christian Should Not Opt For Divorce–part 2 (continuation of Part -1)
4. Because of the Parental responsibility
What do we read about Ostrich in the Bible? You can find the accurate description of an ostrich in Job 39 verses 13-18 (The New Kings James Version):
13 “The wings of the ostrich wave proudly, But are her wings and pinions like the kindly stork’s? 14 For she leaves her eggs on the ground, And warms them in the dust; 15 She forgets that a foot may crush them, Or that a wild beast may break them. 16 She treats her young harshly, as though they were not hers; Her labor is in vain, without concern, 17 Because God deprived her of wisdom, And did not endow her with understanding. 18 When she lifts herself on high, She scorns the horse and its rider.
Ostrich has no wisdom to think about the future of its generation. Similarly, many people do not bother about their children and break their marriage which ultimately spoils the whole life of their children -- some of them become reckless criminals while others become prey to psychological disorders. In most of the divorce cases, the children are neglected, either the father or mother abandons them and entangles with a new partner. The children brought by a single parent are more prone to psychological sufferings and marital failures. They either hate marriage or live in the fear of divorce. I heard from a 55-year-old Christian woman, United States, saying after her 35 years of married life, “My father left my mother when I was a kid, so I have been living in fear of all these 35 years; but, my husband didn’t leave me and I thank God for his kindness.”
God wants to be the God of His people from generation to generation. He introduces himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. Usually, children knew God Jehovah as the God of their Father in Old Testament. It’s the responsibility of the parents to introduce God through their lives to their children. God has recorded from Adam to Jesus Christ, 72 generations. And it’s not possible to make such recordings of Genealogy today because of the multiple short circuits taking place in marriages. I read a joke in which the remarried husband asked his new wife by phone, “what about the children?” And the wife replied, "Your children and my children are playing with our children.”
Marriage is a bond
5. Because of the Bond of marriage which exists till death
What's the validity period of the marital bond?
According to the Scripture, it is valid till the death. It is mentioned not only in the Scripture but also in each Christian marriage ceremony.
"A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord." (1 Corinthians 7:39 NIV)
"For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man." (Romans 7:2,3 NIV)
Christ and the Church
6. Because of the Truth of Christ and Church
Is this truth of Christ and Church has anything to do with Christian marriages?
In Ephesians chapter 5, Apostle Paul admonishes that husbands and wives based on the relationship between the Church and Christ (NKJV):
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth, and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
As Christ loves the Church men ought to love their wives. Christ gave his precious--matchless--endless--life for the Church because he loved his Church. Christian couples are expected to demonstrate the mystical relationship that exists between the Church and Christ. Based on the relationship between the Lord and his Church, Apostle Paul admonishes husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church and likewise the wives to submit to their husbands as the Church Submits herself unto Christ.
The real transformation will take place in the married life when both the partners get the revelation of the mystical relationship that exists between Christ and the Church. Christ, the perfect one, lives today as the head of the imperfect Church and he is preparing, purifying and perfecting her into a Perfect bride for Him. Today, Imperfect men are the heads of the imperfect women in the married life.
As the head, man has more responsibility to bear with his wife so that she would become a perfect wife and the wife ought to support and help her husband so that he will become a perfect husband. If Christ, the perfect heavenly husband, have been keeping his relationship with his imperfect life partner (the Church) for the past twenty centuries, we--being the imperfect ones--should bear with our imperfect life partners. If Christ doesn't consider our weaknesses and shortcomings we can no longer be the member of His body. He is the high priest and the model husband who sympathizes with our weaknesses and continues to work in our lives.
And the Scripture admonishes us that we have to uphold one another in love (Ephesians 4:2). If husbands and wives accept one another as Christ has accepted them, the divorce rate of believers would fall drastically.
Therefore what God
has joined together,
let man not separate.
God forbids the separation.
7. Because God forbids the separation of husband and wife
Most of the married people don’t recognize that marriage is a bond. The rings that couple exchanges on the day of marriage stand as a sign of marital bond. In India, on the day of marriage, the husband ties a thin yellow rope with a “Mangal sutra” which is a sign of the marital bond and she will remove the rope on the day when her husband dies. There is a bond that keeps the couple as a single being.
The marriage doesn’t keep the two different individuals as two independent singles, but it makes them as one being – Christ called this union as “one flesh". Such a strong bond that exists in marriage is unique and God forbids the separation of the husband and wife.
"And the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” ( Mark 10: 8, 9)
What is your opinion about christians practicing divorce?
It is difficult for the current generation to accept the Biblical truths concerning marriage. However, those who seek the Lord sincerely will surely understand the importance of following God's word even in the married life.
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