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Seven Most Important Reasons Why A Born Again Christian Should Not Opt For Divorce-Part 2

Updated on April 1, 2017

Parental responsibility vs Ostrich apprach

Seven Most Important Reasons Why A Born Again Christian Should Not Opt For Divorce–part 2 (continuation of Part -1)

4. Because of the Parental responsibility

What do we read about Ostrich in the Bible? You can find the accurate description of an ostrich in Job 39 verses 13-18 (The New Kings James Version):

13 “The wings of the ostrich wave proudly,
   But are her wings and pinions like the 
   kindly stork’s?
14 For she leaves her eggs on the ground,
   And warms them in the dust;
15 She forgets that a foot may crush them,
   Or that a wild beast may break them.
16 She treats her young harshly, as though 
   they were not hers;
   Her labor is in vain, without concern,
17 Because God deprived her of wisdom,
   And did not endow her with understanding.
18 When she lifts herself on high,
   She scorns the horse and its rider.

Ostrich has no wisdom to think about the future of its generation. Similarly, many people do not bother about their children and break their marriage which ultimately spoils the whole life of their children -- some of them become reckless criminals while others become prey to psychological disorders. In most of the divorce cases, the children are neglected, either the father or mother abandons them and entangles with a new partner. The children brought by a single parent are more prone to psychological sufferings and marital failures. They either hate marriage or live in the fear of divorce. I heard from a 55-year-old Christian woman, United States, saying after her 35 years of married life, “My father left my mother when I was a kid, so I have been living in fear of all these 35 years; but, my husband didn’t leave me and I thank God for his kindness.”

God wants to be the God of His people from generation to generation. He introduces himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. Usually, children knew God Jehovah as the God of their Father in Old Testament. It’s the responsibility of the parents to introduce God through their lives to their children. God has recorded from Adam to Jesus Christ, 72 generations. And it’s not possible to make such recordings of Genealogy today because of the multiple short circuits taking place in marriages. I read a joke in which the remarried husband asked his new wife by phone, “what about the children?” And the wife replied, "Your children and my children are playing with our children.”

Marriage is a bond

5. Because of the Bond of marriage which exists till death

What's the validity period of the marital bond?

According to the Scripture, it is valid till the death. It is mentioned not only in the Scripture but also in each Christian marriage ceremony.

"A woman is bound to her husband as 
long as he lives. 
But if her husband dies, 
she is free to marry 
anyone she wishes, 
but he must belong to the Lord." 
(1 Corinthians 7:39 NIV)
"For example, by law a married woman 
is bound to her husband 
as long as he is alive, but if her 
husband dies, she is released from the law 
that binds her to him.
So then, if she has sexual relations with 
another man while her husband is still alive, 
she is called an adulteress. 
But if her husband dies, she is 
released from that law and is not 
an adulteress if she marries 
another man." 
(Romans 7:2,3 NIV)

Christ and the Church

6. Because of the Truth of Christ and Church

Is this truth of Christ and Church has anything to do with Christian marriages?

In Ephesians chapter 5, Apostle Paul admonishes that husbands and wives based on the relationship between the Church and Christ (NKJV):

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth, and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

As Christ loves the Church men ought to love their wives. Christ gave his precious--matchless--endless--life for the Church because he loved his Church. Christian couples are expected to demonstrate the mystical relationship that exists between the Church and Christ. Based on the relationship between the Lord and his Church, Apostle Paul admonishes husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church and likewise the wives to submit to their husbands as the Church Submits herself unto Christ.

The real transformation will take place in the married life when both the partners get the revelation of the mystical relationship that exists between Christ and the Church. Christ, the perfect one, lives today as the head of the imperfect Church and he is preparing, purifying and perfecting her into a Perfect bride for Him. Today, Imperfect men are the heads of the imperfect women in the married life.

As the head, man has more responsibility to bear with his wife so that she would become a perfect wife and the wife ought to support and help her husband so that he will become a perfect husband. If Christ, the perfect heavenly husband, have been keeping his relationship with his imperfect life partner (the Church) for the past twenty centuries, we--being the imperfect ones--should bear with our imperfect life partners. If Christ doesn't consider our weaknesses and shortcomings we can no longer be the member of His body. He is the high priest and the model husband who sympathizes with our weaknesses and continues to work in our lives.

And the Scripture admonishes us that we have to uphold one another in love (Ephesians 4:2). If husbands and wives accept one another as Christ has accepted them, the divorce rate of believers would fall drastically.

Therefore what God

has joined together,

let man not separate.

God forbids the separation.

7. Because God forbids the separation of husband and wife

Most of the married people don’t recognize that marriage is a bond. The rings that couple exchanges on the day of marriage stand as a sign of marital bond. In India, on the day of marriage, the husband ties a thin yellow rope with a “Mangal sutra” which is a sign of the marital bond and she will remove the rope on the day when her husband dies. There is a bond that keeps the couple as a single being.

The marriage doesn’t keep the two different individuals as two independent singles, but it makes them as one being – Christ called this union as “one flesh". Such a strong bond that exists in marriage is unique and God forbids the separation of the husband and wife.

"And the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” ( Mark 10: 8, 9)

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It is difficult for the current generation to accept the Biblical truths concerning marriage. However, those who seek the Lord sincerely will surely understand the importance of following God's word even in the married life.

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    • newjerusalem profile imageAUTHOR


      18 months ago from India

      Sure Dora. We need to seek the Lord at every stage of our life for his fresh directions to complete this earthly journey. Thank you so much for encouraging my writing work.

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      Dora Weithers 

      18 months ago from The Caribbean

      Victor, you make a very good presentation in favor of remaining married. I appreciate your Biblical view. However, for your readers who are already divorced, I would like to encourage them not to feel condemned, but to submit their lives and their status to God whose awesome strength (including His mercy and compassion) is made perfect in human weakness.

    • celafoe profile image


      18 months ago from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans

      VICTOR- before the grace period? Jesus is grace and He had arrived.. The Kingdom of God was on the earth upon Jesus arrival, His words were from Him AFTER all authority on heaven and earth was given to Him. Yes the necessary act of His death had not yet happened but that does not negate His words. In the scripture quoted He clearly said (talking to the jews only) "moses said, but I say this" . Y es it is best to never divorce but adultery is very difficult, esp multiple adulteries with NO REPENTANCE so He gave an out for this transgression that is so destructive. Not first choice but a special grace.

      You cannot use the old testament to make a point on how to live under the new. The old was FULFILLED, FINISHED, COMPLETED, DONE AWAY WITH ACCORDING TO SCRIPTURE as it was only from Moses until Jesus would come, temporary and now done away with.

      Luke 16:16-17 "The law and the prophets were until John. Since that time the kingdom of God has been preached, and everyone is pressing into it. 17 And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for one tittle of the law to fail.

      According to this scripture the law and prophets, the age of the jews, was finished when John came preaching Jesus. this also means it will be finished when Jesus (shortly thereafter) FULFILLS THE LAW THEREBY ENDING IT.

      The OLD TESTAMENT LAW was GIVEN ONLY TO ISRAEL AND ONLY FOR THAT AGE WHICH ENDED WHEN JESUS CAME. HE WAS IN CHARGE WHEN HE ARRIVED BUT THE DOOR TO GOD was not opened to WHOSOEVERWILL UNTIL HIS DEATH. The new age of grace and mercy was here when He arrived but was not fully implemented until the Holy Spirit arrived in Acts 2 giving those who would repent and follow Jesus the power to do so. Now the jews are NO LONGER GOD'S CHOSEN, BUT THEY THAT FOLLOW JESUS ARE. JEWS THAT DO NOT FOLLOW JESUS ARE NOT CITIZENS OF THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Their age is gone. finished, fulfilled done as the temporary time limit has expired.


    • newjerusalem profile imageAUTHOR


      18 months ago from India

      Hello KingdomCome, Thanks for your comment. Primarily, God hates divorce. He allowed it in Old Testament only on the ground of Adultery. In Hosea, we find a different story. God directed prophet Hosea to live with his wife who has fallen into adultery. "

      Then the Lord told me, “Love your wife again, even though she is loved by others and has committed adultery. Love her as I, the Lord, love the Israelites, even though they have turned to other gods and love to eat raisin cakes.”

      So I bought her for 23 ounces of silver and 10 bushels of barley. Then I told her, “You must wait for me a long time. Don’t be a prostitute or offer yourself to any man. I will wait for you.” (Hosea 3:1-3).

      Jesus spoke about the divorce based on adultery before the beginning of the grace period. I agree with @charlie. Love, forgiveness, and acceptance are of grace. Love covereth multitude of sins.

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      18 months ago from those of the Ecclesia

      You said in point number seven and I quote " God forbids seperation of huband and wife" and this is a flat out lie. In Matthew 19:9 it states: 9 And I say to you, whomever divorces his wife, EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL IMMORALITY, and marries another commits adultery, and whomever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."

      Jesus is saying here that sexual immorality is a reason for divorce.

      Jeremiah 3:8 it states: 8 Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce...............

      Hummmm something to think about.

    • celafoe profile image


      18 months ago from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans

      I do not disagree with this but you are dogmatic and do not explain part of what scripture says and thereby cause guilt to some that have no guilt.

      The new testament is based on mercy and forgiveness, not harsh laws for which there is no forgiveness.

      We live under the new testament, therefore when you discuss this issue you must also include the other verses that contain information pertaining to it. Otherwise you may cause problems for people that do not understand the whole issue.

      1 Cor 7:15-16 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

      There is only one unforgiveable sin, only one and we must always allow God to do what He promises. Under this final age, the age in which JESUS CHRIST THE SON OF GOD, has ALL POWER AND AUTHORITY until the end when He give it back to His Father, mercy and forgiveness rule, not fiudgement, judgement comes at the END OF THIS AGE.


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