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Spouses' Rights Upon Each Other In Islam

Updated on March 17, 2017

Introduction:

When a woman loves her husband, she suffers a lot if he doesn't treat her kindly. Women in love, become like captives by choice in the hands of their husbands. so, a husband must take in count the rights of his wife. A wife in such conditions must be rewarded well when she provides her husband his rights. As a result, Allah granted women the paradise for obeying her husband and earning his satisfaction.

In this article, the reader will learn:

  1. Wife's rights upon her husband.
  2. Husband's rights upon his wife.

Wife's rights upon her husband:

  1. To teach her Islam.
  2. To handle her financial needs.
  3. To keep a healthy relationship with her.
  4. Not to abandon home.
  5. To help her in the household chores.
  6. To be patient with her.
  7. Not to use divorce to threaten her.

Rights of Wives in Islam

Explaining in details the rights of the wife:

1- To teach her Islam:

A wife should learn the teachings of Islam. A husband is to teach his wife what she doesn't know. That makes a husband like a teacher to his wife. For instance:

  • The husband should teach his wife the ordinances of Allah.
  • The husband should remind his wife to perform the prayers on time.
  • Allah blesses spouses when they awake each other at night to perform the optional night prayer. Both can do the same without prior permission from each other. When refusing to get up, one can sprinkle water on the face of the other.


2- To handle her financial needs.

The husband must spend money on her needs. For instance:

  • To buy her clothes.
  • To buy her food.
  • To pay for her education.
  • To pay for doctor visits.


3- To keep a healthy relationship with her.

A husband should be gentle and nice to his wife. For example, the husband should:

  • Not to slap her in the face.
  • Not to be nasty with her.
  • Learn what pleases her and do the same for her happiness.
  • To pay attention to her sexual needs.

4- Not to abandon home. A lot of husbands abandon home when they are upset with their wives. The same is not allowed in Islam. When a husband is upset with his wife, he can:

  • Abandon the bed they share.
  • Sleep in another room.
  • Stop talking to her.

He cannott:

  • Abandon the house and spend two nights in his mother's for example.

5- To help her in the household chores.

The same includes doing:

  • The shopping.
  • The laundry.
  • The rubbish disposal.
  • The cooking.
  • The sewing.

6- To be patient with her.

A husband should be patient with his wife when she:

  • Does not pay attention to what he says.
  • Lakes patient in dealing with him.
  • Forgets what he asked her to do.

7- Not to use divorce to threaten her. Threatening the wife with the divorce is wrong. It makes her:

  • Feel she is not the woman of the house.
  • Loses feeling secure.

A Husband should not:

  • Mention the divorce in each simple and complicated argument.
  • Make her feel that losing her marriage life, is the cost of any mistake she does.

Does housewife have to do housework at home?

In Egypt, husbands refuse to assist in the household. They consider the housework for women only.

Wife's duty of doing Household

Husband's rights upon his wife:

  1. To take care of the house.
  2. To take his permission every time she goes out.
  3. Not to take off her clothes outside the house of her husband
  4. To take her husband's permission–when he is at home- before performing optional fasting.
  5. Not to allow anyone to enter the house without his permission.
  6. To take his permission before spending from his money.
  7. Not to ask for a divorce as long he maintains a healthy relationship with her.
  8. To be patient with the poverty of her husband.
  9. To respect her husband.
  10. Not to abandon the bed they share together.

Explaining in details the rights of the husband:

1- To take care of the house.

She's the woman of the house. She takes care of the house. Her husband shares with her the same responsibility. When the wife needs a housemaid, the husband has to hire one for her as long he can afford that.

2- To take his permission every time she goes out.

A husband may return home and not find his wife. When she comes back, she tells him she was visiting her mother. It is wrong. A wife must call her husband and take his permission before leaving the house. The emergency exceptions happen there. The child is sick. She has to run to the doctor. She calls her husband. His mobile is switched off. She can leave a note at home and run to the doctor without permission from her husband.

3- Not to take off her clothes outside the house of her husband
It is required to protect women. For example, when she visits her friend, she should not change her clothes at the friend's house.

4- To take his permission before performing optional fasting.
That doesn't apply in the following cases:
- Fasting in Ramadan is not optional.
- The husband is not at home.

5- Not to allow anyone to enter the house without his permission.
A wife -when the husband is not at home- can't call the repairman for the house maintenance.

6- To take his permission before spending his money:
A woman may use her husband's money in buying the requirements of the house. She should take his permission about the amount of money she will spend. After she buys things, she wants to take his permission to use the same things for the home. That doesn't mean the wife needs to give her husband a phone call before taking one tomato from the fridge. For example:
The husband owns a farm. She took one of the farm's animals and prepare it for lunch. She needs to take his permission.

For instance: the husband and the wife buy food for the month. They agree that the food in the fridge is for the month. She need not call him before using taking a chicken from the fridge.
but, they have a guest. She thinks she should take two chickens from the fridge. She knows Taking two may cause a shortage in the home supply. Here, she needs to take his permission.


7- Not to ask for a divorce as long he maintains a healthy relationship with her:
Some women use divorce to threaten their husbands. She knows her husband loves her. When she wants him to buy her something, her husband can't afford, he refuses. She asks for a divorce.

8- To be patient with the poverty of her husband.
A woman should not make trouble with her husband because he is poor and can't afford to buy her certain things. She has to be patient.

9- To respect her husband.

Spouses are not to curse each other. A wife may pay attention to her behavior with her husband. She shouldn't behave in a way that hurts him.

10- Not to abandon the bed they share together.
Some women may refuse to have sex with their husband to stir up his anger, no more, no less. It is not allowed in Islam. There must be an excuse, for example:
- She feels tired or sick.
- She is not in the mood, the husband may understand.

But using sex to manipulate the husband is not allowed.

In conclusion, Islam specified the rights of the husband and the rights of the wife. They need to leave together surrounding each other with love and peace. They should take care of each other. They should always keep a healthy marriage.

Please share your opinion through the following poll:


Do you think that Islam gives the wife rights less than given to the husband?

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      Muhammad Helmy 6 months ago from Egypt

      You're welcome!

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      Ashutosh Joshi 6 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks for your perspective, I believe interpretation may be different here in India or vary on case by case basis probably because personal issues like these are dealt by Muslim law board which is independent of Indian judiciary.

      But still issues like polygamy, nikah halalah and triple talaq have been raised and debated umpteen number of times by Muslim women as infringement of their rights. I guess I'll leave it that and see how these rights are defended.

      Thanks again!!

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      Muhammad Helmy 6 months ago from Egypt

      You said: I understand you are trying to put in merits into the issue.

      No, I am trying to disassemble the components of the issue to give you a different perspective.

      You are against divorce.

      Your comment discusses:

      - The divorce.

      - The reason for the divorce.

      - The way it take place (through social media)

      - You also discuss the fallout from a divorce.

      All those points are arranged in Islam differently.

      Whether or not the man involved has a commitment in the form of marriage with his wife and the children born out of their love?

      Yes, men in Islam have commitments. 

      They are towards a mother with children after divorce.

      Such commitments are:

      - He has to pay the delayed portion of the dowry.

      - He has to provide her shelter. For example, to rent a flat for her.

      - He has to pay her and her children the monthly expense.

      The court assists in specifying the monthly amount based on his salary and the requirement of the children and their mother.

      It seems that Muslim women in India face problems.

      They don't  get the rights Islam guarantees them. 

      The same reflects a shortening in the judicial system in India, not in Islamic law.

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      Ashutosh Joshi 6 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you for that elaborate response, while I understand you are trying to put in merits into issue however I still feel that it is an infringement of the woman's rights.

      While I am not so familiar with the laws in Egypt hence I would rather speak with regards to my observations in my own country - India. There have been several appeals filed in Indian courts wherein the men have divorced wife without any reasoning and let her on her own to suffer along with the children. Some cases men just informed via text or whatsapp message with the three words.

      Anyways not going too much into the specifics, the point that I was trying to make or more so understand from you is whether or not the man involved has a committment in the form of marriage with his wife and the children borne out of their love? Even though I am not a feminist but I still feel that Triple talaq is patriarchal and has been missued by men time and again and then we have the muslim law boards that provide men immunity allowing them to escape responsibility.

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      Muhammad Helmy 6 months ago from Egypt

      Men miss-use the "Triple Talaq".

      The miss-use of "Triple Talaq" has bad effects. It increases the percentage of divorce. As a result, courts in some countries–like Egypt- don't go by the verbal "Triple Talaq" that is pronounced by the husband. It is to reduce the percentage of divorce. In such countries, "Triple Talaq" takes place when the husband divorces his wife three times separately.

      However, I don't believe that "Triple Talaq" defies woman's rights. Let's discuss it.

      We should be specific. Which right does it defy specifically?

      Does a woman have the right to force a man to stay with her? No woman has such a right.

      When a man uses "Triple Talaq", he burns all the bridges between him and his ex-wife.

      Does a man need to use "Triple Talaq" to burn such bridges? No, he doesn't. He can divorce her–using only one of the three chances- and refuses to return under any circumstances.

      A break-up is a break-up.

      What is the philosophy behind "Triple Talaq" in Islam then?

      It increases the value of the woman. It makes the man reconsider his decision of the divorce. When he values his wife, he thinks several times before divorcing his wife even for one time. Men don't think before using the right to divorce, don't deserve to live with the woman. It is one of the ways Islam elevate the status of women.

      The man who divorced his wife three times - separately or using "Triple Talaq"- is allowed to return to the same wife after she marries to another man. In other words, after the ex-husband sees his ex-wife has sex with another husband. It burns the heart of the ex-husband, doesn't it? It is a punishment to him. He thinks that using "Triple Talaq" burns the heart of the woman. The truth is, he punishes himself. However, the wrong practice of Muslims spoils the concept people have about Islam.

      Thanks for commenting on my article.

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      Ashutosh Joshi 6 months ago from New Delhi, India

      What is your opinion on the practice of 'Triple Talaq' and whether or not it defies the women's right as a spouse?