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The Battle With Our and Other's Reality

Updated on February 22, 2017

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Are you a.... or a person?

Do not believe a word those “just the facts” guys say. Not one word about subjectivity, sensitivity and creativity out of their mouth needs to be your reality. It is lopsided. And here we go with a tough one. Do not believe one word from a person who tells you that their religious rules are real.

We are not saying here that what these lineal thinkers think is wrong to them. What we are saying that they are boxing you in if you let them. Just imagine these three claims made by anyone who is creative.

“I am a writer”. The response is ha ha ha! No really, what do you do?

“I am a singer”. “That is nice” but what do you really do?

“I am an artist”. How special, how much do you make a year?

In my very real case. “I am a stay at home dad, who consults and writes”. “That’s cool but what do you do for a living?”

See how that goes and do not tell us that it is not accurate when discussing what we do with a full blown only linear thinker. These comments indicate that yes you are thinking out of the box, but in your case it is so far out that you are in outer space.

Did you know that you have a full human license to not define yourself by what you do to make money? Think of an extreme example. A fine lady is an officer in the PTA, has two wonderful children to whom she is an excellent mother. She has full license to call herself a mom. The fact that she is a high class whore is not who she is. How about a bean counting bookkeeper who is one of 40 in a large corporation. But last Saturday she won the state championship surfing competition. Maybe I am wrong but I would call her a surfer – not a bean counter.

Let us look at the question; Are you a creator?

A vision must be taught but not restrained

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Do not tell anyone but I have not always been a free man. And yet I always have.

I am not entitled to one damned thing, but the world is entitled to my best effort.

I believe that there is something that you wish you could do. Matter of fact I would bet a whole lot that you do. The first hurdle you have to face is actually admitting you want to do something. Funny huh. My young son says he does not like to eat certain foods he has never tasted. This tells me that it is in our nature to first decide we don’t want to…. Come on, the most common dislike is change. I admit it and I am one who don’t let no moss gather around me. Brutal on a spouse when the other spouse changes without permission. Funny huh!

So my advice to those who are married, that when you get over denying what you really want to do, you tell your spouse right away. Don’t just walk in the house one day and say I am turning pro singing. Let me tell you that changing professions on your own without support is just plain stupid.

The other factor here is the insanity reaction like what we discussed above. You just don’t get to declare to someone important. But that does not mean that you can get by without declaring it to yourself. Think it, be it, but be smart.

Niches are a bitch. This idea that we start our journey and have a goal in mind to reach, succeed and end a winner is just about the best ticket to unhappiness in your new endeavor. You stepped out of your comfort zone, congratulations. I beg of you to not just get into another one. “He is a fantastic carpenter and makes good money” but he just might be a better furniture designer and maker. And then he just should give carving a try. And then, and then and then.

We have a direct connection with our fear. It is important to take a look at that fear. In creative endeavors we must feel the fear. Because that is the direction we must take.

This concept takes us full circle. Our “being” is not contingent on our success. Think of it as a gift to the world and therefor your God. No, no not the completed piece of creation, that is fine, but it is in the essence of the creat”ing” rather than creat”ed” where we please our piece of existence. Yes we must ultimately do it for ourselves. Why? Because our part of the whole is all we have control over. So in order to lift up and energize and synergize we have to be adding something. And that is our creativity. Failure is only a mental creative tool it is not possible as a real thing.

So can you create? Hell yes. So do it. I wonder what it will be, or I should say, “I wonder what it will being”.

I started out just fine

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This here be somebodies put it all on the creative line. Wow!!!! Get it on and love that one your are with - that may be you.

Can you fail and feel good?

Can you live with just touching one life?

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I was so afraid to hit the publish button. Baby If I can do it peeing my pants, you can do it better.

Let us take a further look at the “we”. I live here on earth with you. If you want to you can watch TV and get on FB and hate the other side. But that is stealing from my portion of the we as sure as if you took my wallet. You have no moral, spiritual or human right to deny me of your creativity. There really is not you and me in this humanity we celebrate. There is a huge energy of love that binds us together. So you got no damn right to cheat us out of what is really you/us.

This brings us to one another and a part of creativity that is the essence of good. It is the required necessity to belong to a congregation. Please do not join the church of creativity if you are not willing to share your work and lift up and cherish and encourage your fellow parishioner.

There is this really cool hike people do over in Spain. It is a tough hike for some. I think they are just ordinary Christians that do the hike. Something to do with a kind of reenactment of something spiritual, maybe Muslim also.

But the folks going down who made it greet the folks going up in their journey with ultreya which quite literally is an encouragement “Onward!!” We owe that greeting to fellow travelers of those that overcame their fear and began to create.

So we are happiest when we admit desire, overcome fear and share our work. We are most unhappy and the most moribund when we try to gain the approval of the general public. Really an athlete or a painter worry about how much they sell for or how many hits/views they get? Nope those folks do not create. The produce. Good for them, better than being a serial killer.

Let us try to get in your heart. Do you love you? Do you think you deserve real happiness? Do you want to share joy with others and be a light of love? Well bubbas and bubbettes you have got to pony up. Show me you love me by leading the way through the path of resistance and fear reveal to me the light of galloping into creativity. If you can do it, I can do it.

And remember my good friends today I rely on you for a hand up and a kick in the pants. I hope tomorrow you may rely on me for the same yet different. But forever let us count on God made manifest in Love.

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    • Gaurav Oberoi profile image

      gaurav oberoi 2 months ago

      What a fabulous hub this is. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am just getting up and saw your comment during my first cup of coffee. Thank you for uplifting me first thing. Great way to start a day.

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I used to say "I'm Bill Holland and I'm a teacher." Of course I was so much more than that, but that's what I related to...then I lost a teaching job to my drinking and seemed to lose myself in the process. This cemented association with what we believe we are is a dead end way of living life, my friend...at least that's what I took from this excellent sermon.

      Keep it real, buddy, and I'll keep coming back here.

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      gaurav oberoi 2 months ago

      It's difficult to find a good read. This one's fab.

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      Dana Tate 2 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      I love what you said here. My gifts are to lift, encourage and entertain others and their gifts are to lift, encourage and entertain me. We are all sharing the earth together and everyone has something to bring to the table. I have an aunt with an extraordinary voice, her voice was kissed by God. She didn't receive a lot of support from our family or friends so the dream of being a singer just died. She found another way to make a decent living but the passion in her has disappeared.

      When I try to talk with her about singing again, in the church, or anywhere, it's as if I'm talking to a deaf ear. I believe creative people who want to pursue making a living off of their gifts must surround themselves with like-minded, thinking people. Otherwise, you'll get "that's wonderful, but don't quit your day job"-

      I have many projects I'm pursuing, but told know one. ( this is the first time I have been able to keep a secret) it's scary enough stepping out of your comfort zone you don't need negative people in your ear.

      I like to enjoy life. It took me along time to comprehend that I won't be on this earth forever so it doesn't make sense to waste my time on anything negative but to maximize every moment.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, it is really cool that you gave up the moniker and stepped up to teach us all how to spread our wings and fly! Our release from the tether of our own labels is so freeing.

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      Linda Lum 2 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric - This message is beautiful, and resonates loudly. I have a dear cousin, born and raised in Manchester, England. He's a brilliant man--has taught in England, Spain, France. He and his wife visited Slovenia and chose it as their place for retirement. (If you've ever seen photos of it, or read my articles on the topic you'll understand why). The reason I mention him is that, after he retired he fell into a deep depression. His whole identity was wrapped up in his career and without it he felt worthless.

      The last thing I want to be remembered for is that I was a budget analyst, or even the CFO for my church. If I can depart this Earth and a handful of people remember me as someone who made them smile, then I feel my life was worth living.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 months ago from The Caribbean

      I love the spirit of this article. The questions you ask deserve to be answered for our own good. Thanks for the inspiration to re-asses the purposeful creature that God designed each of us to be.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Gaurav that is very nice of you to say. I am glad we have come to know each other.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana, may I be so crude and rude as to give unsolicited advice. Invite your Aunt into your creative struggles. Invite her in to give you advice on overcoming you personal resistance.

      I am not sure where it will go, but I know I love it when someone asks for my help. And just maybe....

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda I must confess something to you. I do not peg you as a mother, a writer, a food recipe and history writer, a superb crafts lady. I just don't. You will always hold the label for me of friend.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, I do step back and wonder about so many skilled and creative people such as you, that have entered into my life. If I had reached a pinnacle like you I wonder if I could continue to step outside that comfort zone and tackle new challenges. Thank you.

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      gaurav oberoi 2 months ago

      Eric, if you remember, we communicated long ago. I have always found your writings so close to the eternal truth.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 months ago from Southern Illinois

      This writing brought to mind a new adventure I'm just starting. Her name is Catrina and she's 13 years old, lives in a Methodist home for abused children. I learned about her through my church. I signed up to be a pen pal. We started corresponding before Christmas. She can hardly write, but she draws the most beautiful pictures. She has a talent for sure. I believe everyone is creative in one way or another. I've learned if we step up and try something completely different, we win.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Gaurav, now I know why your hubs seemed familiar. Chucacabra for sure.

      I thank you and look forward to more.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby you remind me of two things; My mom made us write letters to others. Especially someone sick or far away from home. What a fine grace to have. And my wonderful first wife. She taught in lock down units for severely emotionally disturbed criminal juveniles. She got pen pals for them. (no return address thank you).

      I think your Catrina will blossom and grow thanks to you. You are an angel.

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      Tim Mitchell 2 months ago from Escondido, CA

      What a wonderful article giving to me more encouragement to keep on writing and publishing. Over the past year or more I have placed myself in a box of being a 'successful' online writer. I have been learning everything I can about it. That is good. But, in the process, I was becoming the formula losing my writer's voice. I miss my style of writing of once before. In other words, I may have become linear as you pointed out to be aware of. So, I will be pondering as I go off seeking to be poetic.

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      Patricia Scott 2 months ago from sunny Florida

      O that I could have read this many many years ago. I was stuck in fear...fear of what others would 'think' about this or that, fear of the unknown, fear of failure...I was a mess.

      And a turning point came in my life, and, I found that I had been immobilized by this FEAR and gradually was able to loosen the chains and move forth. And thankfully I have not looked back since.

      Well said Eric...hoping Angels find you today ps

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim, I have a buddy who is just a fantastic technical writer in the legal field. He just nails it for being "right". But there is not a creative bone in his body. He never operates outside of his comfort zone. He is a good cook in a way. He follows recipes with absolutely no thought to it.

      But he just can't seem to be persuasive. He just does not give a reader a reason to act upon his brilliantly written work. It is void of emotion or passion.

      I always feel your passion.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Patricia I sure know where you are coming from. Mine went the other way. I was so cocksure of myself that any consequence of my actions were fully ignored.

      Then after five decades the vainglory left me. And I had to work my way back to a middle ground between fear and what I now know is hubris.

      Progress not perfection eh?

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      Mel Carriere 2 months ago from San Diego California

      There you go with your silly reality again, as if that were something real. I am really glad you hit the publish button, even though your hand was trembling. Just like our President's hand should tremble on the nuclear button, so should your hand tremble every time you are about to unleash powerful forces out into the world. You are a powerful force of wisdom, and I ain't just saying that.

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      manatita44 2 months ago from london

      God made manifest in Love. I like that! This battle continues ... we try to do our best and hope. Sometimes, someone, somewhere tries to spoil the party. yet we move forward, march, run! Great approach!

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mel I am truly honored. To think a man could digest and make understandable, Tolstoy and Grossman and yet find time to visit me and my ramblings is amazing.

      What is up with this winter weather. Sunny but we must suffer through mid to high 60's. Come to think of it, it is probably perfect for your profession.

      Hard on me for their is not excuse not to garden - pull winter weeds.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Happily we do continue on Manatita. If we focus on the doing and not the completing we serve our God well.

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      Clive Williams 2 months ago from Nibiru

      I am a writer”. The response is ha ha ha! No really, what do you do?

      “I am a singer”. “That is nice” but what do you really do?

      “I am an artist”. How special, how much do you make a year?

      Artistic people are never taken seriously as it relates to making a living

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive it is great to hear from you. I hope you are well. I get no respect in my own home town. Reminds me of a great guy.

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      Mel Carriere 2 months ago from San Diego California

      Prophets are never loved in their own country. Over here in Chula, however, we sure do appreciate you. If you can walk across Sweetwater Rez you'll have some big fans waiting.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well my southern Chula compadre. We almost did walk across it in the heat. We did not need to it only took a 2 minutes to walk around it. It reminds me of mid last century when we put Native American on REZs. Sweetwater looks as dry as a rez. Same in your NM.

      I have to get the right la Preza and Bonitans, and Paradise and Ntl City that Vista crowd before I do any mount talking or water walking.

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      Mel Carriere 2 months ago from San Diego California

      Well, until recent rains it was so dry you could have walked across and just gotten a little muddy. Now you'll have to part the waters like Moses. I can hear your sermons from the top of Mount Miguel - the Dierker Beatitudes.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am trying to work out a plan to bring Charger ex-tailgaters in order to feed the five thousand. And how would I work out a ban against those who may disagree with me. And permits - the county is going to slam me with regs and fees and hiring security -- they whoop the pharisees to bits with their money changing tables. So I will need a whip or two.

      Porta Potties??

      Maybe I should just rent space from a mega-church.

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      Mel Carriere 2 months ago from San Diego California

      The rules and regulations associated with being a modern-day Messiah. No wonder Trump is pissed.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Don't get me started Mel. PETA was all over us about the Donkey thing. Arborists were protesting the palms. Got sued for practicing medicine without a license and that wine deal required us to get a liquor license first. That hanging out with prostitutes charge was bogus. The EPA all upset about the swine jumping into water. And hiring a lifeguard for John's work.

      Today is just brutal. They shut down our 501(c)(3) and are taxing our alms. This loitering charge harassment.

      Things were so much easier under Caesar!!

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      Mel Carriere 2 months ago from San Diego California

      I think my aging, continence-challenged bladder just leaked a little laughing at this. When you think about it, I think things were a lot easier in those crazy New Testament days. Doing the Lord's work can get you worse than crucified now. How did you deal with the Fisherman's Union demanding fair compensation for those rabble-rousing Sons of Zebedee casting their nets into the fetid, not so sweet waters of our local reservoir?

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Again you go with riling me up. Unions!!? That whole business of fish and bread without buying union got me in major trouble and boycotts. Caesar Chavez understood but they went around him. The overtime (unpaid like USPS) for the disciples got met with placards.

      And don't even mention all this work on Sunday. Arguing with Saduccees was easy compared to CA labor codes.

      That horribly salton sea called the dead sea - ain't got nothin on Sweetwater.

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      Marlene Bertrand 2 months ago from Northern California, USA

      The first time I hit the "publish" button, my heart was beating rapidly and I almost fainted at the thought that someone would read what I wrote and then laugh and criticize me for thinking I had the nerve to call myself a writer. And, since we are being honest, I have to admit that the first time I called myself a Christian, I wanted to turn and run away because I was afraid I wasn't good enough to claim such an honor. I have since learned that I could never be good enough to feel worthy. Just being me is all the good I need. Lots of love to you, my dear friend.

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      Eric Dierker 8 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marlene you just reminded me of the first time a child of mine called me dad. Not da da or daddy but really understanding what it meant. What a trip. Now without a child of mine within 200 miles I turn and look when a child says it.

      Strange isn't it the way our minds grade us and label us and accept us? When will we ever really learn.

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      Mel Carriere 8 weeks ago from San Diego California

      Oh but that wonderful Tijuana River, with 140 million gallons of raw sewage rolling downstream into the ocean. Now there's some water I wouldn't want to walk on.

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      Eric Dierker 8 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      What was that river that caught afire? Coyahuga? And the New River from around Brawley to Mex. The pollutants we send from the Colorado and Imperial valley into Mex should be worth... 1 million buddies crossing a year. Just an idea My thirty something son with degrees in philosophy and art throw around.

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      Mel Carriere 8 weeks ago from San Diego California

      All true but I work on the edge of the TJ river, and I get to breathe the sewer every day. I was wondering why it stank so bad and why I haven't seen a duck, egret or coot on the little ponds down there. Then comes this report yesterday about a leaking pipe that started spilling sewage into the river February 2, and wasn't fixed until last Thursday. The IB mayor is pissed. A surfer buddy of mine got a horrible rash on his face swimming in the toilet. Are they paying us back for trump?

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      Nadine May 8 weeks ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      What a great post Eric, you made me question myself. Mmm I would reply that I'm a multi-tasking graphic artist grandmother and author.

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      Eric Dierker 8 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mel, I think when I first crossed at that river it was just raw sewage, say '77. In fact that sewage does not have papers. It is here illegally. And we just catch and release it.

      Some kind of very strange parallel. Both countries just treat the border like hell.

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      Eric Dierker 8 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Nadine, it is good of you to come by and let me know. I think that is a fine description. Of course I know your authorship. And I only know about you from what I read but, for me you are a loving and caring friend.

      I guess just different perspectives.

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      Lawrence Hebb 5 weeks ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Your last statement reminded me of a slogan World vision used to use. "A hand up, not a handout"

      By the way, I love 'outer space' as that's where anything can happen!

      Enjoyed this a lot.

      Blessings

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 5 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim I had this home on the bluffs of Leucadia, 3 children and a great wife. Great job in La Jolla and it did not buy happiness. I do not even search now. I let come.

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