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Today I Married My Friend

Updated on August 26, 2017

Today I Marry My Friend

The coming together of two people in love at their wedding ceremony. Memories replay as your reminded of a lovely couple who requested the presence of those they love to come share in the witness of their marriage covenant. They prepared for this day knowing the importance of their decision to live a life in a commitment. To continue their walk hand in hand. They stand before God and ask that He enter into the center of their life as a couple.

Love is such a beautiful thing. Choosing a marriage or relationship with Christ at the center is the embodiment of desire for a lifelong love. We seek love from infancy to young adulthood, into adulthood, and at long last our golden years. We may wonder in our youth why they're called the Golden Years. I imagine if we are lucky enough to reach this stage in life. We not only understand the title golden, but we would readily bask in the warmth this well-earned entitlement would bring.

Perhaps you will take a mild leap with me and allow me to note that GOLDEN is a wonderful word choice for this rite of passage. If we remove the L then we are left with GOD-EN, one more little play on this word by changing one more letter and we can arrive at GOD- IN. How beautiful a thought to have God in all of our years as a married couple, not that would be golden.

We all can look up to them as they golden with God in their years. There is significance to a couple who has come through many storms together. The couple who has experienced many milestones while turning to God as the glue to their union. After time has passed, a couple can be keenly aware of how much more beautiful their love becomes when they continually surrender their marriage and life to Him.

As with a fine cheese, a relationship can be aged to perfection or what we perceive as perfection. If you have ever sampled beautifully aged sharp cheddar, then you know it can be an acquired taste. To some it may seem bitter; to others, it is something to be savored. Ultimately the refinement cannot be denied when one experiences this pure naturally aged cuisine. At the first sampling, you are painfully aware of the time and skill that went into producing such a product. Its worth is enhanced as it is aged. With each year of excellence, some actually receive the stamp of vintage. Meaning the act of time with a known length of existence has been achieved. This is one way of describing a Christ-centered marriage.

Many couples may not be fully aware of this inner desire to have a life guided by our Heavenly Father and yet He is ever present. Anyone coming together in love has this option. When we seek Him first, this allows for a solid foundation in which you will grow and mature in His word. When a couple chooses this Christ-centered marriage they enter into a communion with Him. When a couple is brought together in God’s love they are an example of the Bridegroom, Christ and His Bride, His Church. They live a life of faithfulness to Christ and they are blessed to be a living example of His Love. Together they await His second coming where The bridegroom and His Bride will have the official Wedding Ceremony and the promise of eternal life will, at last, be attained.

The one I will grow old with

The idea that there is not a weighty and meaningful period of patience and compromise, attention and compelling thought toward the fervor and development of a marriage, well folks this idea would be futile.

To place Christ at the center of any relationship is the most important place to start. To believe that although we become one flesh, that this would also make us flawless, is a serious mistake. We must recognize our flesh is still flesh. When we have a companion in reverence and adherence to what it means to place Christ at our center, we have lifelong accountability.

Sadly we may at times take advantage of the one who is by our side. This is not typically an intentional cause but rather one of complacency. We after a period of time may be at risk of placing ourselves in higher regard than our bride or our groom. This is when as a couple we remind each other to go to His Word and seek guidance. The bible has such beautiful examples of counsel for a marriage and relationship.

The fruits of the spirit are just one glowing example of such counsel: There are nine in all. If we live a life together with these in mind or at least periodically reviewing these fruits immediate healing to a relationship can occur. If one explores these words individually they can remember to use them readily. The last may be the most important. Self Control to think and go to God before we act what a concept!

1. Love

2. Joy

3. Peace

4. Long-suffering

5. Kindness

6. Goodness

7. Faithfulness

8. Gentleness

9. Self-control

When God chooses for us that partner in life. The one we will marry and call lifetime friend and teammate. We must also recognize this is the beginning of a journey. When you choose to have a Christ-centered marriage this by no means gives you a free ride. You are going for a beautiful ride on a roller coaster, as ups and downs will continue to come your way. Each peak will be a high and each valley a low, but all will be worth it in the end if you remain enthused toward the finish line.

In a Christ-centered union, you have chosen to be armed together, to protect one another from the storms and to defend the attacks with a shield of confidence and strength. You realize you have the armor of God in front of you and your hope is in Him. Together you are mindful to seek Him first for this is the way you should go, always together in a covenant for His glory.

Mark 10:6-9

"But at the beginning of creation, God 'made them male and female.'' For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Romans 12: 9-21

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary:

"If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

God Gave Me You ~ Dave Barnes

© 2012 The Stages Of ME


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      The Stages Of ME 4 years ago

      Dear Avaliasvision ~

      Thanks for stopping in, for reading and commenting. I wrote this for a sweet young couple I know quite well. They have been through much together and are so on fire for God. They are doing so well and seeking God's plan for their future. I am glad you like the hub, and I pray you find this kind of love. A love with Christ at the core is a beautiful thing, I have been married for a lifetime and I love him as much as the day God gave him to me. We have two wonderful kids and we are growing in the word together, every day is a beautiful journey, when God is leading you. Many blessings to you always

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      Jennifer Arnett 4 years ago from California

      What a wonderful reminder to keep God at the center of marriage. Marriage is such a beautiful picture of Christ and the Church. I hope that one day I get to experience that love.

      I really like your line, "It is just now you have chosen to be armed together, to protect one another from the storms and to defend the attacks with a shield of confidence and strength." Very powerful!

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      The Stages Of ME 5 years ago

      Josh thanks for the nice comment ~ God Bless

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      Joshua Zerbini 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Great hub on marriage, I love it! Voted up, awesome, and sharing!

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      The Stages Of ME 6 years ago

      Thanks so much ~ beautiful couples make it easy to relate to Gods Word

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      NICE!!! Voted-Up!

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      The Stages Of ME 6 years ago

      Thank you Deborrah ~

      They are a special couple and I do so appreciate your comment ~ thank you ~

      Blessings to you as well:)

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 6 years ago

      The Stages OF ME, What a breath of fresh air... This is absolutely Lovely and so TRUE! What a nice tribute to this couple!

      LUV your example:"After time has passed a couple can be keenly aware of how much more beautiful their love becomes when they continually surrender their marriage and life to Him. As with a fine cheese, a relationship can be aged to perfection or what we perceive as perfection..." AMEN!!

      Love blossoms and grows in marriage as you KEEP GOD as the CENTER! It helps you weather the storms of life and provides a committed life partner to share in life's Celebrations as well!

      Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love,Grace, Joy, Peace Blessings!

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      The Stages Of ME 6 years ago

      Thanks they are a special couple ~ I hope they have many years of Joy ~ they have a great start:)

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      Susan Ream 6 years ago from Michigan

      Kathy, Lovely reflections on marriage. GOD IN YEARS .. Yes, God has been in the years of our marriage too - through the good the bad and the ugly teaching us to put Him at the center and to love one another as He has loved us.

      You have a beautiful heart dear one!

      God Bless and keep you close to HIS heart,