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Why do talks on religons go sour?

Updated on November 19, 2014
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Joe is a writer, music composer and guitar teacher. He has been writing professionally for the last 10 years. He resides in New York City.

I think the real problem here is that you're trying to prove something to someone who doesn't have the willingness to learn. The person doesn't believe for a reason, The reason may not be a good one for you but it certainly is for them. Whatever their reason is you should first hear them out on it fully. You should be patient and take interest in what they are saying as it is what they believe.

You believe in something and would want the respect given to you by another so the thing to do is to hear them out. Listen to what they say and then when they have felt that they have said all then thank them for sharing that with you. They will be much more receptive to what you have to say afterwards since they have already said their peace, their attention would come off them and onto you.

Their interest for you will increase and they will be more likely to listen to what you have to say. The thing to not do is make them wrong for what they believe so be careful. This is probably a major point here in most religious arguments is that the people talking on this subject usually verbally attack one another and make the other person wrong for what they believe.

In the past people have tried to use force to get others to believe something else and it may seem to work temporary but in the long run it ends up backfiring on the enforcer. This has been seen down the ages and is something that repeats throughout history. Force never works in the long run.

The best thing to do is respect their belief, Even if is very opposite yours. Respect and agree are two different things. We all have the freedom to believe whatever we want and due to one's own experiences each person will believe what they have experienced. What is funny is that sometimes a person will realize that they have had an experience that was beyond normal explanation and realize that there may be "something more" out there.

Even if not you can share your beliefs with them and maybe you can find a middle ground with them that might open the door to them finding "the light switch."

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      Joe Lustica 3 years ago from Manhattan

      @ALL4JESUS did you read the article?

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      Barbara 3 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      First, edit your title.

      The topic you so eloquently address is a tough one. Of course there are places less free than the US where one does not have the right to believe what he wishes to believe... or does, but it means he loses his life. There are those who believe it is their duty to change the minds of sinners and convert them so that the converted can also rise to heaven and be with God. There are others who are simply into power. I guess I don't like manipulation on any level... from either side and any religion. I don't believe God is manipulative!

      Anyway, I like how your words flow so easily and express your ideas without flourish.

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      ALL4JESUS 3 years ago from USA

      We must first be comfortable in our faith and recognize that only God can judge.

      And perhaps most importantly, only God can give grace.

      The feeling of God's love is one of the most wonderful experiences in the world. To share that feeling to start a conversation of questions is a tremendous job but a job that is rewarding.

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