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Why giving female children a Christian values upbringing will help to increase the rate of abuse to women?

Updated on March 15, 2017

The bible teaches firstly, disregards to circumstances, even if her husband is abusive and slap her around, a woman must be submissive to him and restrained herself by acting in accordance to the law set down for her, by her husband, this also means, even if he is abusive to her child, she must stand by and do nothing. At elderly age, she must teaches these same value to the next generation. Secondly, it teaches a woman must get married, therefore, if she cannot find a nice guy to get married to, she must settle for an abusive husband who slap her around and she must be bound to her husband, till he die. Three, the wife is the husband's property, given to him, by god.


Ephesians 5:22-33 "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, …"

Peter 3:1-22 "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, …"

Ephesians 5:23-24 "For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."

Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord."

Titus 2:3-5 "Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."

Bible passages that teaches if a woman can't find a nice husband, she must settle for a guy who slap her around and be bound to him till he dies include,

Corinthians 11:11 "Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;"

Corinthians 7:39 "A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord."

Romans 7:2 "For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage."

Bible passages that teaches the wife is the husband's property is

Proverbs 19:14 "House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."

According to the work of Dillar J & Pfau M and the work of Philip C McGraw, we can argue a person are more likely to be persuaded to a distorted view when they have limited or no understanding towards a situation, because they don't have the necessary fact to contradict what they are been persuaded to believe in. Children are extremely more vulnerable to be persuaded to distorted view, because they have no understanding towards anything. Thus, a child are more likely to be persuaded to the Christian value above, that helps to increase the chance for a woman to ended up in an abusive relationship. Thus, by giving young girls a Christian value upbringing would help to increase the rate of abuse to women, amount the next generation.

The result of these Christian value, mean Christian women are more likely to put up with abusive spouse, stay in abusive relationships and not report abuse. Statistic from US justice department found violence towards women significantly higher in Christian household in comparison to others. The rate of abuse towards women is Islamic household is also lower, in comparison to Christian household, because they allow divorce, after you think about it three times, thus allowing their women to leave abusive spouse.

Reference


Philip C McGraw 2001 Self Matters Simon & Schuster Source New York
Dillar J & Pfau M 2002 The Persuasion Handbook Sage Publication
Women 2001 Openbible.info viewed 13th/January/2016 http://www.openbible.info/topics/women
Marriage 2001 Openbible.info viewed 13th/January/2015 http://www.openbible.info/topics/marriage

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      Blessed Hill 8 months ago

      Great, I think we are in agreement, it is not God's will for women to be a abused by their husbands and vice versa. I don't see that the Bible teaches that but instead that husbands should love and treat their wives the same way Jesus loves and treats His people. Jesus should always be the example we follow, there is no better.

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      peter565 8 months ago

      I don't have a problem with all white Christians, only those who are Christian fanatics, for example, those who go on angry protests saying "god hate fags" and want to legalized killing gays or those who think it is alright for a husband to bashed up his woman and as a result, bitch slap his woman around, because of what the bible says. Or Christians who preach and/or follow certain biblical teaching, that is a violation of human right. Minus the suicide bombers, these people are no better then ISIS and the Taliban. And the only reason they are not going full on ISIS style right now, is because a Christian version of ISIS and Taliban does not exist, but it does not mean they won't join it, when a Christian version of ISIS emerged.

      And if u think a Christian version of ISIS will never existed u are dead wrong. It already existed before, it is call the crusades and inquisition, full on Christian ISIS style for 1000 years and if the opportunity come, these people won't hesitate to become the Christian version of ISIS to push for inquisition and crusade 2.0.

      If ur interpreting of the bible does not led u to belief it is alright to bitch slap ur woman, if it does not led u to belief in any anti human right value, we are cool. Or if u know to ignore all Christian values that is anti human right and only follow the good ones, we are cool. Otherwise, we got problems.

      US Justice Department's statistic already got strong evidence to support the theory women from Christian household are more likely to become victim of abuse. Finding women married to men from ethnic group that also got higher rate of devoted Christians, are also more likely to become victim of abuse.

      We criticized the Islamic world for its ill treatment of women, yet, even if we assume all of our stereotype about the Muslims accurate, (which I highly question, consider there are already more then enough western stereotype about Asia, blacks and Islam that turned out to be nothing more white supremacists propaganda bull shit. So, any stereotype that is in favor of the idea that the west is superior, I won't belief it to be real, unless I see it, with my own eyes, otherwise, I will always, only say, maybe it is true and maybe it is once again white supremacists bullshit. And personally, although I've seen representations in favor of the stereotype, I've also seen my fair share of representation that overthrow the stereotype.) The fact the Muslim got fewer cases of abuse to women, is enough, because that is the one and only thing that matters the most and even if the Muslims treat women, worse then the west in all other arena, just the fact the west got higher rate of abuse towards women, then the Islam, is enough to say, they treat women better, if not in each specific topic, then in overall.

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      Blessed Hill 8 months ago

      You obviously have a big chip on your shoulder towards white Christians. That's fine. I have no animosity towards you. I believe the whole the bible even the parts that I don't like. Follower's of Jesus Christ are not abusive towards woman because we imitate Him. Jesus treated women with so much love and grace and we do what He does. So I think you are mistaken and confused about what you are trying to bring across in your article.

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      peter565 8 months ago

      Wow, not only are u a Christian fanatics, u are a racist. I should have figure, most Christian fanatics are also white supremacists, who go around making assumption about the none Christian world, the none western world and places dominated by none whites, to continue their belief of white people been superior.

      They used to create propaganda saying Aboriginal Australian, is a symbol of abuse to women and paint pictures of their wedding to be 2 groups of men pulling the bride in 2 direction, like trying to pull her into 2 pieces, via 2 horse and try invent a bunch of none sense scientific theories, to justify why blacks are inferior and they are so afraid to be proven wrong, the white supremacists that was in charged back in those days, make laws, vetoing, white kids playing with black kids, and disallowing blacks to go to school. But then, people realize everything white supremacists told them are complete bullshit, people get better educated and realized the scientific theory they invented are voodoo none sense and the only reason black ain't doing well, is because they are not allowed to go to school, the white supremacists are still so scared to be proven wrong, they tried to stop contact between white and blacks, but contact increased anyway, and people realized how full of crap, everything the white supremacists told them is.

      Then in Australia, white supremacists kept spreading the rumor that there are alarming high rate of abuse to women, amount aboriginals and a bunch of idiots who got tricked and the ball keep rolling bigger and bigger, until finally the Prime Minister decided to figure out, just exactly what is going on, social workers and police, investigate every single one of the one hundred thousand Aboriginal Australian family, guess what they found, not only is the Aboriginal Australian are more abusive towards women idea a lie, their rate of abuse to women is the lowest, amount all ethnic groups, within the country, but a bunch of idiots who got manipulated by white supremacists propaganda, just made things worse, when they do see a case of abuse to women in aboriginal family and think it is the representation of the whole community.

      Also, yes, some Middle Eastern country do allow child marriage and it resulted in some problems, but guess what there is also a truck load of western countries, that allow child marriages and is creating just as much problem.

      And the whole "Asia is a society where the husband is like a King and wife is like a servant thing?" I've seen my fair share of western people who lived in Asia, saying it is complete "BULL SHIT" in fact, most of the women who lived there felt in comparison the west is more like a society where the husband is a King and wife is like a servant. It is human nature, for men wanting to be masculine and capable protector and woman wanting to have a man that can protector her, so she don't need to be brave anymore. But, unlike ur western bible, who saying a woman should submit to her husband, regardless of circumstances, in Asia, the men strive to become that masculine figure and women search for those ideal men. Now, naturally when a man become such ideal figure and a woman found such man, where she doesn't need to be brave anymore, it is only nature there will be a relationship where the husband do everything and call most of the shots and the wife just...unless they need a 2nd pay check, just stay at home and take care of domestic affair (unless her husband hope for her to still work, so the family can have 2 pay check and he will also help out at home or she still wants to work and have her own career.), which would make her seem kinda like a servant. Racist people like u see this, and start promoting "Asia is a society where husband is like a King and wife is like a servant that serve him on hand and knee." Should I remind u, up till 30 years ago in the west women get paid less in the work place, simply for been a woman, And until after WW2, they belief a woman should stay at home and serve her husband and not work, resulting in lots of conflict after WW2, with women who like been in the work place and husband who demand for her to go home to bake him cookies. And what benefit do women get from ur Christian value of "A wife should be submissive to her husband"? nothing, if she ended up with a good decent guy who is masculine then she is lucky, if she ended up with an idiot, why the hell should she submit to him?

      I would love to see u go to some none western countries and go around saying they chop off people's hand and is for less then touching another man's genitals, you probably get bashed up. The only country that chop off people's hand right now is Saudi Arabia and that is for robbery or been a thief. And despite many Arabic nations, disallow displaying public affection, it is call keeping the general community PG rating. It is same as why in most places in the US, u are not allow to walk around nude, in the city and u are not legally allow public-masturbation or having sex in public. The Arabic nations, just tend to take a step even further, maybe taking it a bit too far, in our standard, but never the less it is still doing the same thing, which is keeping society PG rating for children.

      In addition, if u think chopping off a woman's hand for accidentally touching another man's penis is right, then there is something very wrong with u, if u belief it is right simply because it is a sin in ur bible, then there is something wrong with u. The principle of right and wrong, is whether a person violated the principle of peace and harmony within society and between people. If an action violate such principle of peace and harmony, it can be constitute as wrong, but whether an action that violate such principle of peace and harmony is wrong, would need to consider both the mean and the end, if it does not violate such principle, it isn't wrong, even if it is immoral or even if it is a sin, in ur bible. Just because something is a sin in ur religion does not make it a violation of peace and harmony between people and society, therefore, it is not wrong and when ur bible order the persecution of people who sinned, in accordance to the rule of ur religion, u are the one who violated the principle of peace and harmony, therefore, it is ur bible and ur religion that is doing something wrong.

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      Blessed Hill 8 months ago

      A wife shouldn't be touching another man's genitals in the first place. The Law was given to show what is sin and that sin has consequence. What would society look like if there was no consequence for wrong actions. Most of modern day law and order is based upon the Mosaic law to some degree or other. When society has no boundaries it will inevitably spiral into anarchy. If chopping off womens hands offends you buddy then maybe you should go to the United Nations and make a case against nations like Turkey and some Asian nations that practice the same punishment for lesser crime's. And they aren't Christian nations.

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      peter565 9 months ago

      That is the whole verse, buddy and "If two men, a man and his countryman, are struggling together" that is the part about 2 men fighting right there. And yes, by accident, I didn't copy paste the 2nd part of the verse it says

      “If two men, a man and his countryman, are struggling together, and the wife of one comes near to deliver her husband from the hand of the one who is striking him, and puts out her hand and seizes his genitals, then you shall cut off her hand; you shall not show pity."

      In other word, it say, if 2 men are fighting and wife of 1 man came to aid her husband and accidentally touched the other man's genitals, her husband must later chop off her hand. Seem pretty abusive to woman to me.

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      Blessed Hill 9 months ago

      Deuteronomy 25:11 is talking about a woman helping her husband, who is fighting another man, by grabbing the other man's genitals to stop the fight. It's more like a woman abusing a man in that verse. Quote the whole verse so people can see that it's actually old covenant law against women touching men's genitals that are not their husband. I think your argument doesn't really carry water because it is made from a point of view that is ignorant of scriptural relationships.

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      peter565 9 months ago

      Deuteronomy 25:11 [If two men, a man and his countryman, are struggling together, and the wife of one comes near to deliver her husband from the hand of the one who is striking him, and puts out her hand and seizes his genitals] That ain't my word, its the bible's word. Seem like quiet a case of abuse to woman to me.

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      Blessed Hill 9 months ago

      Wow, you do a great job of taking scripture out of context to make your case. Unfortunately it's a very weak one. A woman is to submit to a Godly husband not an abusive one. Paul's letters are written to believers and how they should conduct themselves. Read Corinthians 7 and you will see how a believer and non believing spouse are to conduct themselves in marriage. I would say if a man beats his wife he is not a follower of Christ and the wife is not bound to him by covenant.