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Why are people MISERABLE?

Updated on October 4, 2012

Life's seasons dishes all kinds of situation our way. It's our free will to choose how to react to it that sets the course of consequences due to our decisions. Bad consequences are good teacher as well as good consequences resulting from a wise action. Why are people miserable?

Most of the time it is because they try so hard to be 'in control' and refuse to accept that they are capable of 'normal' mistakes. Often times, these individuals unconsciously hovers "unforgiveness" towards no other but -themselves. Misery is being bitter about the past..unable to let go of an 'imperfect' memory. Because we tend to think that we are the master of everything that happens, thus makes us responsible when plans didn't get executed well..or bad things happening when we do not expect it..

If we can adapt 'grace' in our lives, maybe we will be gracious enough to understand "The Serenity Prayer". Maybe by reading the story of the two monks in Zen teachings may help. These two monks were passing "a lady in distress" along their journey. One monk did what he had to; in order to help and went on unaffected; the other monk who watches was disturbed by what he saw the first monk did and couldn't let go of the whole incident in his mind.

Mental misery is normally born out of a judgmental mind. One has to break the chain and/or stop the cycle then leave the circle of Misery. When one is able to look in, from the outside of the circle, the truth of the situation began to dawn. Many times, the hardships in life that we struggle very hard to swim through at a point in our lives; are usually knee deep, wadded through streams at the end of the trial.

Be cheerful of heart. It was mentioned a long time ago.. Storms of emotions, floods of hardships, poverty of necessities or health, whatever afflictions we find ourselves in..

No matter what comes our way:

"This,too, will come to past."


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      Sabrina Mei Han 2 years ago

      Smile when face problem that's the most important. Don't let problem control you but you have to control the problem. Make sure your happiness is come from your deep heart to really make you happy inside and outside.

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      Ashley TKL 5 years ago

      Thank you Shrikrishnap..

      You have deep thoughts and a reflective one, too. It's my pleasure to have you reading this hub and share your views. I look forward to your visit again!

      Sincerely;

      GJAB

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      Shrikrishna Potdar 5 years ago from Bangalore

      Nice hub and different thought. It is really true "One has to break the chain and/or stop the cycle then leave the circle of Misery."

      As it is said there is always is a reason for our misery.

      Once one becomes miserable, it is really difficult to break this never ending cycle of thoughts? Why this happened to me? Why I only have all problems? and I a time comes when one feels loneliness.

      Knowledge the fact "Everything is impermanent" even misery is impermanent helps one to come out of misery.

      "This,too, will come to past." should be the always be remembered when one is miserable.

      Thanks for a nice hub.

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      Ashley TKL 5 years ago

      Hey,Haunty..

      Pleased that you visited. Yes, people can get attached to misery and sometimes, hard as it is to accept;they are those who are used to being miserable, it became a comfort zone, part of their perceived identity.

      Cheers!

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      Haunty 5 years ago from Hungary

      Thanks for the great read, GinJill. If only I could remember this every time I beat myself up for the same thing. I think people sometimes cling to their misery.

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      Ashley TKL 6 years ago

      Hi, Susie!

      Thanks for dropping by..

      Keep believing!

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      SusieQ42 6 years ago

      Thanks for sharing a bit of wisdom with us! You're right, this too will pass!