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Yahweh Hates Divorce? (Divorce and Remarriage, Episode VII)

Updated on April 7, 2014

Is it Divorce that God Hates? Or, the "Putting Away?"

Many have referred to Malachi 2:16, which states that Yahweh “hateth putting away,” as authority to reject divorce out of hand—straight across-the-board.

“For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, sayeth the LORD of hosts:therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.” (Malachi 2:16)

To begin with, the Bible student must consider the message of the Prophet. Beginning at verse 11, it is discovered that the subject is idolatry: “Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved,” (or ought to have loved), “and hath married the daughter of a strange god.” (This is a highly unusual allegory, in that Yahweh is normally depicted as the husband, and Israel as the wife. But here the pictures are reversed, and Israel is pictured as the husband, and Yahweh as the wife.)

The Prophet, here, is using marriage as an allegory to rebuke Judah (the husband) for putting away Yahweh (the wife of Judahʼs youth) and marrying “the daughter of a strange god” (a reference to Israel's idolatry). In v15 of the text, the story of Abraham, Sarah, and Hagar is employed as an example of how one is to deal with the “the wife of his youth.” Although Abraham took a second wife (Hagar), in order to have an heir, he did not deal treacherously with Sarah (the wife of his youth). Abraham (who v15 states, had the “residue [excellency] of the Spirit”) did not deal fraudulently with Sarah (the wife of his youth) in order to be a husband to Hagar.

Most likely the “putting away” mentioned here does not regard a “Certificate of Divorcement,” but the discarding of the old wife for a new one. Certainly this was Judahʼs sin. Yahweh had not been lawfully divorced: only pushed to the side. The wife of Judahʼs youth (Yahweh) remained in the tent, just not in the marriage bed. That place of intimacy was occupied by “the daughter of a strange god.” This is, no doubt, what is meant by the statement: “....for one covereth violence with his garment.” In the customs of the Bible it was a token of marriage for a man to cover a woman with his skirt [garment]; see Ruth 3:9 and Ezekiel 16:8-14 were this is illustrated. Therefore, for Yahweh to tell Judah that he “covereth violence with his garment” was the same as saying that Judah was doing violence to his wife [in this case Yahweh] under the pretense of remaining married.

Moses addressed such treachery and injustice to a wife, when he decreed that if a man was to “put away” his wife he was to give her a “Certificate of Divorce.” The “Certificate of Divorce” authorized the wife to remarry. Whereas, if she was simply “put away” she remained married, but was rejected, despised, and unloved. This is the meaning of the Prophet when he writes: “Therefore, take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously ... .” Also, in verse 16, to “...coverth violence with his garment...” means to conceal treachery under the guise of marriage. Ruth asked Boaz to: “... spread therefore thy skirt over thine handmaid.” Thereby, Boaz would be indicating that he would take her as his wife (Ruth 3:9). When Yahweh is reminding wayward Israel of His care for her, He said: “Now when I passed by thee, and looked upon thee, behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over thee, and covered thy nakedness: yea, I sware unto thee, and entered into a covenant with thee, saith the Lord God, and thou becamest mine.” (Ezekiel 16:8)

Thus, Judah had concealed his treachery to Yahweh (the wife of his youth) under the guise of marriage. The spreading of his skirt (garment), in professing to be a true worshiper (after all, temple worship had been reinstated and was considered as the anchor of Judahʼs nationalism), cloaked all of the “violence” that was actually perpetrated upon Yahweh (the wife of his youth) by Judah, in taking another wife: namely, the “daughter of a strange god.”

Before Malachi 2:16 is used to ban divorce right across-the-board, one must come to peace with the facts of Scripture. The facts of Scripture are these:

Moses, through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, instituted the “Certificate of Divorce” to counter the injustices done to wives by husbands whose hearts were hardened toward them; Wives who would be “put away” with no legal recourse to remarry; (Deuteronomy 24:1-4).

Yahweh, Himself, divorced Israel; he gave her a “Bill of Divorcement” (Isaiah 50:1; Jeremiah 3:8).

The scribe/priest Ezra ordered a nationwide divorce for all men who had married non-Jewish women (Ezra 10:2-3).

Jesus allowed divorce for fornication (Matthew 19:9), and because of the demands of the Kingdom (Mark 10:29-30; Luke 18:29-30).

The Pauline Privilege allows for the dissolution of the marriage contract for the cause of abandonment—divorce is inferred, if not implied (1 Corinthians 7:15).

Therefore, that which Yahweh “hates” (from Malachi 2:16) is the unjust “putting away” of a faithful wife in such a manner that she has no chance of happiness in the home of a husband that will accept, respect, and love her. From all that has preceded we conclude that it is not divorce, per se, that God hates, but the treacherousness of hardhearted men who defraud faithful wives. (See Malachi 2:12-16 cf. Matthew 19:8, i.e. “because of the hardness of your hearts.”)


Apostolically Speaking

☩ Jerry L Hayes


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      Levertis Steele 3 years ago from Southern Clime

      Yes, I believe that God hates the putting away without divorce because neither party is free to marry. If the husband puts away and marries another, he commits adultery. If another marries the wife who was put away, they both commit adultery. He likes the decency of doing it right, but does He want it to happen?

      I hate divorce. I am saddened that, according to popular reports, 50% of marriages end in divorce. I hate it when children are caught in the middle and suffer the loss of a parent in the home. The glue that once held marriages together is breaking down fast. “What God has put together, let no man put asunder.” I know that God does not approve of all marriages; therefore, He does not put every marriage together. I do believe that God hates divorces that are done for wrong reasons. Many of these divorces are based on frivolous reasons like spying someone else more beautiful or handsome. Some divorce because they are bored with the present partner or no longer find pleasure in the marriage bed. Some divorce because the husband lost his great job and is working for less money. Some divorce because they fell in love with another after having an affair. Some divorce because the wife stopped wearing makeup and high heels. The list goes on. I believe that God hates such divorces.

      I think about how God sent Hosea to marry Gomer in order to experience first hand what Israel was doing to Him. God was the husband and Israel was the harlot wife. Yet, He took her back every time! If a man or woman can forgive the infidelity of the other, and the marriage can heal, I believe that God smiles. That is very much like His relationship with us. However, Gomer was the kind of wife that most men cannot endure, even today. She actually had babies for her "John"! Even though many of us human beings cannot endure such a marriage ourselves, on the other hand, we want God to take us back no matter how many times we sin. I believe that God expects us to stay in a marriage unless something is going on that we cannot endure. He knows that we cannot take as much as He can. He is the Saviour!

      In cases where spouses are endangered in a marriage or unreasonably disrespected as with continuous infidelity, I believe that God wants the offended spouse to find peace. So, He approves of the divorce, although I believe that He would prefer that the unfaithful partner repent. So, a divorce may be the only solution. In a time when diseases like AIDS is killing millions, who wants to continue taking back a habitual infidel like Gomer? Yes, I do believe that God hates divorce, but approves it in situations where one partner, for example, refuses to change. That does not mean that He likes it or does not see where the offensive one could clean up his/her act and be a better spouse with God’s guidance of the marriage. When God is put first in a proper union, He blesses it. When He is not the Head, it may fall apart.

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