Keys to Building Self-Esteem
Dealing with self-doubt
Matthew 17:14 gives the story of a man who had a son that would often be driven by demonic influence to throw himself into the water and fire. This suicidal tendency continued on for a long time because Jesus asked the father how long had the child been in that condition. The following response by the father was... since the boy was a child. This means that at that time the boy had been experiencing this problem for quite some time. People who continue to fall into the same problem often doubt themselves because their experience of getting the same results is proof that they do not believe they can change. They may keep doing the same things expecting different results, and if they want different results, then they must change and do something different.
7 Characteristics of Self-Doubt
Failure to see previous accomplishments is a problem because focus remains on past failures.
- Critical of oneself:
Negative self talk only adds to the doubt
- Habit of complaining:
Israel saw themselves as grasshoppers compared to the sons of Anak (Numbers 13:33) and they murmured and complained against Moses , Caleb and Joshua because they did not believe they could enter the promise land.
- Gives up easily:
Many who doubt themselves give up before they even try.
Excuses are a way of escape for the self-doubter
Self doubters may compare themselves with others and see themselves as incompetent.
- Sense of hopelessness:
Self doubters may feel there is no hope for their future
- Self doubters may blame others because they refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.
Self doubters must not focus on past failure, but use them as stepping stones
Faith in God and his word enhances faith in oneself
People who believe in themselves display a level of confidence that radiates in their actions and words. They write out goals and objectives and devote their energy toward bringing their dreams to pass. In Mark 11:22 Jesus said to have faith in God. Faith in God brings a confidence to oneself because Jesus said the individual can speak to the mountain and see the mountain removed. Just speaking the word is not enough though because according to James, faith without works would be dead being alone. Works must accompany faith and a person must not have self-doubt if they are going to carry out their responsibility.
A person believing God cannot have self-doubt because their faith must have supporting action
7 Keys that help restore faith and confidence
Do a bible study on who we are in Christ, for example the bible says that we can do all things through Christ that strengthens us.
- Make a habit of finishing what you start:
Unfinished projects give a sense of failure
- Make sure goals and objectives are obtainable and do not exceed out of a persons ability to reach.
- Never give up:
Quitting is never an option
- Celebrate small successes
- Network with people who know more than you and are willing to help you.
- Only listen to constructive criticism which is meant to build up and not criticism that discourages.
- Remember God believes in you because his gifts that he gave you and I will never be taken back by him:
The gifts and the calling of God are without repentance (Romans 11:29)