How to Handle Appearance in a Size 0 World?
Let's be honest, folks. Men and women will never be on the same playing field. Many from both sides of the gender aisle have tried, but not too many have made a breakthrough in that regard. Their mutual perceptions about life, society and aesthetics are just different. Sometimes, that can be a good thing in order to see all sides of a story, but in terms of synchronicity it's not a conducive ideal to work with.
As the old adage goes, men are from Mars and women are from Venus. In a nutshell, both genders will likely never be on the same wavelength. Men tended to act like children or blunt animals who attack when cornered. There was no happy medium. On the other hand, women view the world from either a more analytical view or from a more emotional point of view. Sure, they are some women who can be the right combination of both, but that's a rarity. Okay, both genders can be their own worst enemies when it comes to themselves, but some wear that more on their sleeves than they would like to admit.
Here are six things you can follow or need to understand when it comes to gender politics and about accepting one another's appearance. Read onto see if there was a way to fit in a small size world and how it can parlay into gender relations for better or worse.
Choosing a proper tact when it comes to discussing appearance-
When it comes to execution, women tend to be a lot more tactful than men. As women, we live to prevent ourselves from automatically being catty with everyone, unless it's out of spite. Men, on the other hand, sometimes go straight to being spiteful when they play the looks card. As soon as they go there in the fight, that's when the next world war starts.
Flipping those pages of a magazine doesn't help-
What is it about people having to look a certain way? Almost every young startlet in Hollywood is like a size 2 and beyond. Some are so scary skinny that it's creepy. There's no fine line for anyone at all because there's no happy medium when it comes to someone's appearance. You can either be too skinny or too fat. It's ridiculous that everything can be judged by someone's looks. When you go to a job interview, you can easily tell when your potential employer is sizing you up from the neck down. They're thinking, "how can this person make our employers look better than the current crop?" Well, the observation might not be as crude as that but you get the picture.
We all ogle each other in one way or another-
Let's be truthful for a minute here. Women are just as guilty as men at ogling the opposite sex. We watch exotic dancers just as much as men do, even though it is them we're usually watching. Women can stare at attractive construction workers as they use their tools. It's a fact of life, ladies. We like to have some good eye candy in our presence just as much as men do. This is why sometimes regular average joes are afraid to approach women for fear that they won't meet a certain aesthetic. Give them a chance, because they might be a true diamond in the rough even if they don't have a six pack.
Men need a bit of training when it comes to sensitive subjects-
Women should know right off the bat that it's a dicey subject to ask a man straight out if they think she's fat. They're basically just asking for trouble. As if they were throwing chum in the water to get the sharks hungry enough to eat. Obviously, guys should know better than to say moronic stuff when it comes to that silly question, because it hurts the woman's confidence. It also hinders their chances of getting lucky for at least a few days.
Beware what lies beneath your man-
Realize that there's more to a man than meets the eye. They're not all cavemen looking to hunt and gather. Sure, they mature differently than women, but they can evolve just as much as women can. Men are like a mix between little boys and Chihuahuas. They always want something to be a certain way and bark the dickens out of their vocal cords when they don't get it. Keep in mind that their bark is always worse than their collective bite if you return the favor and complain about their ever changing appearance. Of course, that's when the gloves come off because their insecurities come out to play just as much as ours.
Never let something bother you for too long-
When a judgmental fellow or boyfriend crossed a line and said something inappropriate, you should never sweep it under the rug. Address it head on in a diplomatic manner. Let him know that he should think about what he says before he says it. That dialogue might have worked when he was a kid, but that's no longer the case. Tell him he should learn to either keep his mouth shut or learn a better way of saying what he means with kindness; instead of rudeness. Even a mild compliment was better than a flagrant insult. It was all about the proper spin. If you give a compliment, someone else will likely give you in return. It's as simple as that.
Focus on yourself and let everyone else fall to the wayside-
Sadly, we live in a perception based society where size 2 or 0 seemed to be the common denominator that everyone aspired to look like. Of course, it was impossible to do so, unless you wanted to look like Pez dispenser. It was better to be healthy and happy than some falsely unhealthy illusion. Fashion models and Playboy centerfolds have warped the definition of what it meant to be "pretty." Living up to some false ideal that not even those models can follow through with in the end.
In conclusion, both genders need to turn out their televisions and close though phony imaged magazines. Focus on what was in the mirror. If you like what you see, that's all matters. Everyone else can just fade away and stay away for good.