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Should I Have Short Hair?

Updated on February 11, 2020
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I've been dreaming about a short haircut for a time before I gained the courage to go and cut most of my hair off. I did not regret it!

Should I Have Short Hair?

The answer is yes. There might be some women and men, who think otherwise, but if you dreamt about it, you should try it. What's there to lose? Scroll to read more!

Photo by Alex Perez on Unsplash
Photo by Alex Perez on Unsplash

Honestly, I didn't consider cutting my hair short for as many years as I heard others do, but when I got the idea, I wanted it so bad. But the fear of being called a man, the fear of people thinking I wasn't going to be as pretty anymore, made it quite a hard decision.

I was over a relationship when I finally decided to do what I want to do, and I got an appointment at the hairdresser pretty soon after. It was funny to hear my hairdresser say: "Are you sure about this big hair change? Honestly, I'm a bit scared!" She said this because she had seen clients crying because they didn't like their short hair. No wonder she was scared.

I was scared too. I'd never had such short hair before, mine touched my shoulder at it's shortest state. I was afraid that people would say it looks bad. I worried that people would find me less attractive. But it was at least a decision and a choice that I wanted and liked, and not one that more people would find acceptable.

Will People Call Me a Boy/Man?

To tell you the truth, yes. If you go to a school or you are surrounded by younger and free-spoken people, you will hear this for sure. But I'm telling you, this doesn't mean they mean it. Having short hair is associated more with men, it's also another chance to tease you, and some people will take that. That isn't meant to be harmful every time. If it is, the best to do is to just simply ignore these comments, this makes it easier for the judgy people to get over the topic faster.

There might be people on the street thinking you are a boy/man if you aren't dressed extremely feminine. That's the case with me! What I say is, everyone who needs to know my gender already knows it, and the new people will learn by time. This is my personal view, but it isn't important for strangers to know whether I'm a boy or a girl.

If you don't want people to ever think you might be a male, but you want that cute pixie, it's obvious, but have something very feminine close to your face, or on your face, so that when they look at you, it's clear. This could be jewelry, makeup, scarfs, hairbands, a pretty choker or something that is connected to the female gender.

The most important is to not let a comment saying you look like a boy influence your confidence. Prepare yourself for this short little sentence. Then when you hear it, say: "There that was!" and move on. The less You deal with it, the less They will.

How Will People React?

Diversly. And you might hear things and see reactions you don't expect. Not just negative, but positive!

When I cut my hair short, I thought the older men in my family will think it looks bad, and I look like a boy. But the exact opposite happened. Most of them said it's pretty. That surprised me.

Then someone asked me if I was transgender. And in this case, the best way is to say the truth, calmly. If you're not, don't take it as an insult. They might be serious. If you know they aren't, do the very same thing. A simple and honest answer is checkmate.

Some girls were horrified when they saw I got free of most of my hair.

I thought the boys will have the worst things to say, but it wasn't so intense. Some of them didn't react to it at all, which for me, is just as nice as complimenting it.

Conclusion; if you think you've prepared yourself for everybody's possible reaction, you didn't. You could never predict Everybody's reaction. Just be open to what they think, and decide whether you're going to listen to them or not.

Photo by Eunice Lituañas on Unsplash
Photo by Eunice Lituañas on Unsplash

How Do I Know If I'm Ready To Do It?

My advice is: have a deep conversation with yourself. Ask:

  1. Would this haircut do more harm than good for me? (Write it in percentage!)
  2. How much do I care about other's opinions?
  3. Would I feel more like myself with that hair?
  4. How much would the comments affect my opinion?
  5. Will I take the extra time and money to take care of it?

I went into the salon knowing that I'll come out of there feeling better. Doing this made me more confident, more certain about myself, and now when I look in the mirror, I feel like I truly see myself in it. I've listened to other people judging me and telling me their advice to be more pretty, now this is me owning them. The reason why I tell you this is because I have an emotional connection to this hairstyle change. Maybe you are only interested if it is practical or not, maybe you just want a simple change in your look.

If you go in there just the way I did, I think you'll come out just as happy as I did.

Pros and Cons

Pros:

  1. You might feel like a queen of confidence after the change. Just a side affect.
  2. A pixie cut is pretty, rare and unique.
  3. Some women say a pixie makes your clothes look more expensive if you style it like a pro.
  4. It's easier to wash and dry.

Cons:

  1. A pixie needs more money, both for the hairdresser and the products to use on your hair. Shorter hair doesn't mean less maintenance!
  2. You have to visit the hairdresser more regularly.
  3. You probably have to spend more time doing your hair.

A Safe Way To Reach The Pixie

Patience. If you're unsure, take time, go to the hairdresser more regularly, and cut just a little more off each time. The sudden hair weight loss can scare some people. Some freak out from not feeling their hair on their neck anymore, or from not being able to control it. There might be a chance that you will hate short hair because you didn't get to it properly or comfortably. A little risk-taking is still healthy, but not a huge one if you're uncertain. Try to avoid scarring yourself for years!

And if you've figured that you're not ready, that is absolutely fine. You made a wise decision. I still recommend to try it one time though! Especially if you thought about it too!

Photo by Cassidy Kelley on Unsplash
Photo by Cassidy Kelley on Unsplash

It's Okay If You Don't Like It

That is a possibility too. Go and do the change only if you think; "It doesn't matter if it won't turn out well." Because it really doesn't! I got a longer type of pixie cut for the first time, which grew a lot already after a month, so if you don't like it, it takes little time to grow back, especially if you leave it quite long on the top.

Theoratycly, hair grows approximately 1 cm each month, and two months of growing is a lot for a pixie. If the top is long enough, you can imitate a bob, ask your hairdresser to help in that, and the problem is getting further away already.

I Hope I Could Help!

If there are any questions that came up while reading the article, feel free to write a comment or message me with it, I'll be happy to answer. I attached a YouTube link at the bottom of the article for motivation. I really like what Gabriela said there, it honestly gave me the confidence to go and get the appointment. So I got to say thanks to her! And thanks to you for reading my article!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Dal Bodo

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