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What It's Like to Be a Tall Woman

Updated on June 9, 2015
This is my life...
This is my life...

Curious are you? I see all you shorties trying to hide the fact that you're staring at me as I walk in my wedges through the store. I'm only 5'10", still within the normal range of height and yet the victim of your constant stares and whispers. Stay awhile and I'll let you know some truths, myths and other interesting things from the life of a tall woman.

Height is one of the few physical characteristics that science hasn’t figured out how to manipulate—yet. The average woman in American is somewhere between 5’2”-5’6”. The typical American man is approximately 5’10”. I stand at about 5’10”. Believe it or not, I’m about to be shortest in my immediate family. My youngest child is dead even with me at age 14! My other three have already passed me. When I’m with them, I feel “normal.” When I go out into the world, I stick out—and I’m not even that tall!!

According to the website Yougov, the perfect height for women is 5’6”. Being a bit over the average 5'4" is a good thing, according to their research, as long as you don’t cross over the 6’ mark. Only 9% of the men surveyed think that no tall is too tall. Those are some slim odds.

The average American woman stands around 5'4". The average man is somewhere around 5'11--too short for me to consider. What if I want to wear heels?

Ever been to a nail salon with a tall woman? We all know the best nail techs are Asian and these Asians are typically tiny. I feel like a giant compared to them! They try not to stare. The brave ones talk to me about my height. And, of course, they're not used to seeing such big feet on a woman. It's hard to feel feminine in a place like that.

How Tall Are Your Favorite Celebrities?

Katy Perry
Kim Kardashian
Taylor Swift
Lady Gaga


Truths About Being Tall

  • It narrows the dating field way down. This is a very good thing. So many times a guy would be interested in me but I wouldn’t be interested in him. My excuse of height was my typical reason.
  • We all want a man who is bigger and stronger. This includes when I wear heals.
  • It makes for great conversation at a party. Every time I wear heels to a party, we inevitably spend 20 minutes discussing my height.
  • You can see and breathe in a crowd. This is one of the best times to be tall. I’m claustrophobic so big crowds would make me crazy if I was a shrimp.
  • I can gain 20 pounds and still wear the same size clothes as before. Five pounds on a petite woman are evident to all. Sorry.
  • You stand out, like it or not. Good luck trying to blend into a crowd.
  • If you wear heels, people secretly stare. Sometimes they openly stare. Many times they ask how tall you are. Thanks for stating the obvious.
  • Airplane seats are uncomfortable. Who wants to have their knees crunched for hours?

One more piece of good news: USA Today reported in 2013 that for every inch above the normal height, a woman’s chances of developing cancer increases by 13%. Yeah.


  • You should model. Not all of us are model material.
  • Clothes fit better. Hah! Do you know how hard it is for me to find a pair of pants that are long enough? I have to deal with long legs and a Kardashianesque backside!
  • Women’s shoes. They are NOT your friend. Your choices are flats or stilettos. Big people wear big sizes. Very small selection of size 11s for my girls. I would have thought the cross-dressers would cause stores to beef up supply.
  • You're lucky to be tall. It grows on you.
  • On the tennis court, it IS possible to lob over my head. Darnit.

Research done at Rice University and University of North Texas
Research done at Rice University and University of North Texas | Source

Size Does Matter

I can’t believe it. I found an article that backs up what I’ve been thinking a feeling for decades. The Daily Mail shared some scientific research that if women want to feel more protected, find a man who’s taller that they are. Duh. They say women are more concerned about height than men. Sorry if you’re a petite man. We feel more feminine and better protected. For me, knowing that my husband can and would defend my honor in a second is quite sexy.

Haven't we evolved as a society? We're in an era of strong women. All the research I have found says just the opposite.


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    • my_girl_sara profile imageAUTHOR

      Cynthia Lyerly 

      3 years ago from Georgia

      Just goes to show that we are all insecure about something, whether we're tall or short. Being a tall woman means we have to deal with the stares of others on top of our own internal insecurities. I wore heels to church and then the grocery store last week. Oh, the stares!

      Thanks for the comment and for reading!

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      Peter Messerschmidt 

      3 years ago from Port Townsend, WA, USA

      Interesting hub! As a related aside, I'm 6'4" and one of the odd things I experienced a LOT when I was still in the "dating market" was that most of the women who seemed interested in me were short (5'4" and under) and I even had a couple of really tall women suggest they were... "a little uncomfortable" with someone my height. Reading between the lines, it seemed related to some irrational fear of "no longer being the one noticed." Could be these were just particularly insecure tall women... but I found it odd.

    • my_girl_sara profile imageAUTHOR

      Cynthia Lyerly 

      3 years ago from Georgia

      You are too funny. I live on the north side of the ATL. So nice you come to visit periodically. It's a great town!

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      3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      OK! but where were yesterday when I nearly slipped off the ladder??!!LOL

      My son & his family live in Georgia....outside of Atlanta! I like to visit when it's not TOO hot & humid!

    • my_girl_sara profile imageAUTHOR

      Cynthia Lyerly 

      3 years ago from Georgia

      Fpherj48, some of my best friends over the years have been your size and smaller. And I'll help you reach things on the top shelf any time!

    • my_girl_sara profile imageAUTHOR

      Cynthia Lyerly 

      3 years ago from Georgia

      Thanks for reading and for the comment, Jodah.

    • fpherj48 profile image


      3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Tall, short or in-between....the most important thing is the size of your attitude and air of confidence.

      Short-average girls wants to be taller and perhaps, vice-versa.....I don't know. Now & then I will curse my 5'3" trying to REACH things on the top shelf......OR, more importantly trying to "get in someone's face." LOL

      I thoroughly enjoyed reading your hub. Thanks so much!..UP+++

      Peace, Paula

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      John Hansen 

      3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Very funny but 'real' hub. Oh, the trials of a tall woman. I enjoyed reading this very much. Voted up.

    • my_girl_sara profile imageAUTHOR

      Cynthia Lyerly 

      3 years ago from Georgia

      I appreciate you reading my hub and so glad you enjoyed it. Writing this blog was very cathartic to me because I've been stuffing in all of these thoughts and feeling for a long time. As to the cancer article, I take it all with a grain of salt. Thankfully, cancer does not run in my family. Have a super summer!

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      3 years ago from Europe

      Awesome Hub, about a somewhat funny subject. I read your Hub yesterday already, but wasn't able to comment due to hurry. I like your second picture very much! These cancer rates must be related to hormones I think.


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