Mothers Shouldn't Force Their Daughters to Enter Beauty Pageants
Beauty pageants should not be forced on to children
Why should your child look like a barbie doll so soon?
At the early age of five, or six most mothers notice their daughter's talents in dancing.
The problem starts when children are at that age.
These kids are forced into taking part in beauty pageants.
Modeling at young ages, and in trying to get your child to wear make-up, or hairspray are other bad choices. That too, can make the very young girls to look older than they actually are.
Girls become aware of their bodies and want to be skinny.
· Why do most parents want their young children to dance at Pageants?
· Don't you think they should be allowed to behave as a kid and experience their childhood years happily?
The constant change into fancy outfits to look their best on all occasions to change a child's life from living their normal life is not fair to any child.
When a child enjoys such events it is much more different case.
When a child doesn't want to enter into dance competitions, and the mother feels the daughter must, enter these competitions that are not the best of parent.
I do understand if a mother feels her daughter is talented, and wouldn't want her to throw away that best talent.
· Do you not think it is up the child to decide?
Allowing your child to be free of frustration, panic or nervousness is giving your child the space she needs for herself.
It is not allowing her to be herself is ruining her inner self. In most ways most parents won't even think of it that way.
Not only would the young children be concerned about their weight, but will not want to even gain any weight. Children in these situations would want to stay skinny.
This can be driving them to want to eat diet foods, and have diet sodas from early age. The unhappiness can be covered by the focus on dancing.
Her social life becomes nothing. She can hate dancing but is doing it for you. Her laughter disappears and everything around is about dressing-up and what nice to wear.
· Which pair of shoes, or costume?
· What color are her dancing accessories?
The time-table of the dancing classes is made out for her and stuck on the fridge door.
A daily reminder of what she needs to do, and of what she shouldn't be doing. Being a sociable kid is not in her favor.
Young children having their hair teased, and look all glittered up on their faces to make children look older is not such good idea.
They tend to have a low self-esteem, and start to lose confidence in their bodies as they notice their weight increase.
This can sometimes lead to obsessions. If children lose the contest, their first thought would be as follows:
· ''I have gained weight around my waistline and couldn't dance as well.''
All those beautifully dressed girls may not have the problem.
Dieting is one of their major issues, they want to be perfect looking in shape and size.
It is a competitive life from the start, and other activities are neglected. School, the lack of sleep, and the lack of communication is poor with others in their own age group.
Talking to their parents becomes impossible.
The challenging lifestyles leave them quite stressed out from day to day. The problem arises with most parents who fail to see what is going on with their children.
Most mothers focus on what they want for their girls, a choice that is not made by their daughters.
Winning is the only answer!
What these parents don't realize is how their daughters are affected by early dancing contests.
A dream which couldn't be fulfilled by their mothers is now being forced on to their child.
The point of all is to make your child happy and not to force them into doing anything they don't want to.
The appearance has to always be outstanding. Sometimes children can't accomplish too many activities, or learning of other skills in a short period. Time is required to catch up on their daily activities.
It can be a lovely experience, but only if your child chooses to dance on her own. A daughter should not be forced by the parent to take on such activities.
To fulfill the dreams of a mother is not fair to any child.
To make some other person happy while the child loses her happiness in the process, is cruel.
The priority of every mother should be her child.
· Do you think a nine year old girl should bother about her weight and what she has for a snack everything in moderation?
If mothers push their kids into dancing pageants they are only trying to ruin their child's health, and self confidence.
Certain issues can be misleading to children, and children can end up taking dancing very serious. If a child doesn’t understand the reasons for dancing they will fall hard and be most unhappy with themselves.
Lots depend on parents with kids, and beauty pageants.
Any form of competition with kids relies on how parents think, and of their beliefs. Not many parents think that way.
It is in most cases not the answer to any kid's life.
As a parent one should see what is more valuable and important to their child's life. Instead of trying to do something that won't benefit their child in many ways, do what interests a child.
You have a child for a short time, rushing into beauty pageants are making your child grow up even faster. The childhood years are not even experienced in these cases.
Most kids don't know what beauty pageants really mean and are in it just for the parent's sake.
Kids don't know what they are expecting from such competitions at young ages. It feels like a dream to them.
A child shouldn't feel this kind of disappointment about whether they are chosen or not. It can make a child feel less confident and not feel good enough in comparison to other kids of the same group.
If a child loses the competition they can feel down and sad about their performances. These are not appropriate points for any child.
Lots of time is involved in pageants and too many hours in practicing the run ways.
All of which can be tiring and stressful on their daily activities. Not being able to live like kids their childhood years can be taken away very fast.
Dressing up your child for a beauty pageant is a costly affair and one child has to look better than the other.
Most parents don't even consider the points mentioned here.
Events such as this can make children think of looking better than the other from a very young age.
However, the whole experience gradually becomes a very important part of their lives.
They tend to grow up often to be troubled about their appearances.
Parents who force their kids into competitions and those who push their kids to the edge of winning can make it a priority to win all contests.
When parents force the issue in winning a child can be most unhappy.
This is if they are constantly forced into pageants.
It should be more fun than a serious event for children to learn and experience about their self-esteem.
Pressure should not be part of a fun filled event.
It can be a self-image to many kids but should be introduced when much older, and when most understandable.
Children need to play and be normal with their own age group.
They need to enjoy their stages of life without the interference of such competitions.
· If a mother doesn't care about how her child feels then who will take charge?
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© 2013 Devika Primić