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Mothers Shouldn't Force Their Daughters to Enter Beauty Pageants

Updated on May 15, 2017
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Most Children are Forced to take part in Beauty Contests

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Beauty Pageants Should not be Forced on to Children

Why should your child look like a Barbie doll so soon?

At the early age of five, or six most mothers notice their daughter's talents in dancing.

The problem starts when children are at that age.

These kids are forced into taking part in beauty pageants.

Modeling at young ages, and in trying to get your child to wear make-up, or hairspray are other bad choices. That too, can make the very young girls to look older than they actually are.

Girls become aware of their bodies and want to be skinny.

· Why do most parents want their young children to dance at Pageants?

· Don't you think they should be allowed to behave as a kid and experience their childhood years happily?

The constant change into fancy outfits to look their best on all occasions to change a child's life from living their normal life is not fair to any child.

When a child enjoys such events it is much more different case.

When a child doesn't want to enter into dance competitions, and the mother feels the daughter must, enter these competitions that are not the best of parent.

I do understand if a mother feels her daughter is talented, and wouldn't want her to throw away that best talent.

· Do you not think it is up the child to decide?

Allowing your child to be free of frustration, panic or nervousness is giving your child the space she needs for herself.

It is not allowing her to be herself is ruining her inner self. In most ways most parents won't even think of it that way.

Not only would the young children be concerned about their weight, but will not want to even gain any weight. Children in these situations would want to stay skinny.

This can be driving them to want to eat diet foods, and have diet sodas from early age. The unhappiness can be covered by the focus on dancing.

Her social life becomes nothing. She can hate dancing but is doing it for you. Her laughter disappears and everything around is about dressing-up and what nice to wear.

· Which pair of shoes, or costume?

· What color are her dancing accessories?

The time-table of the dancing classes is made out for her and stuck on the fridge door.

A daily reminder of what she needs to do, and of what she shouldn't be doing. Being a sociable kid is not in her favor.

Young children having their hair teased, and look all glittered up on their faces to make children look older is not such good idea.

They tend to have a low self-esteem, and start to lose confidence in their bodies as they notice their weight increase.

This can sometimes lead to obsessions. If children lose the contest, their first thought would be as follows:

· ''I have gained weight around my waistline and couldn't dance as well.''

All those beautifully dressed girls may not have the problem.

Dieting is one of their major issues, they want to be perfect looking in shape and size.

It is a competitive life from the start, and other activities are neglected. School, the lack of sleep, and the lack of communication is poor with others in their own age group.

Talking to their parents becomes impossible.

The challenging lifestyles leave them quite stressed out from day to day. The problem arises with most parents who fail to see what is going on with their children.

Most mothers focus on what they want for their girls, a choice that is not made by their daughters.

Winning is the only answer!

What these parents don't realize is how their daughters are affected by early dancing contests.

A dream which couldn't be fulfilled by their mothers is now being forced on to their child.

The point of all is to make your child happy and not to force them into doing anything they don't want to.

The appearance has to always be outstanding. Sometimes children can't accomplish too many activities, or learning of other skills in a short period. Time is required to catch up on their daily activities.

It can be a lovely experience, but only if your child chooses to dance on her own. A daughter should not be forced by the parent to take on such activities.

To fulfill the dreams of a mother is not fair to any child.

To make some other person happy while the child loses her happiness in the process, is cruel.

The priority of every mother should be her child.

· Do you think a nine year old girl should bother about her weight and what she has for a snack everything in moderation?

If mothers push their kids into dancing pageants they are only trying to ruin their child's health, and self confidence.

Certain issues can be misleading to children, and children can end up taking dancing very serious. If a child doesn’t understand the reasons for dancing they will fall hard and be most unhappy with themselves.

Lots depend on parents with kids, and beauty pageants.

Any form of competition with kids relies on how parents think, and of their beliefs. Not many parents think that way.

It is in most cases not the answer to any kid's life. As a parent one should see what is more valuable and important to their child's life. Instead of trying to do something that won't benefit their child in many ways, do what interests a child.

You have a child for a short time, rushing into beauty pageants are making your child grow up even faster. The childhood years are not even experienced in these cases.

Most kids don't know what beauty pageants really mean and are in it just for the parent's sake.

Kids don't know what they are expecting from such competitions at young ages. It feels like a dream to them.

A child shouldn't feel this kind of disappointment about whether they are chosen or not. It can make a child feel less confident and not feel good enough in comparison to other kids of the same group.

If a child loses the competition they can feel down and sad about their performances. These are not appropriate points for any child.

Lots of time is involved in pageants and too many hours in practicing the run ways.

All of which can be tiring and stressful on their daily activities. Not being able to live like kids their childhood years can be taken away very fast.

Dressing up your child for a beauty pageant is a costly affair and one child has to look better than the other.

Most parents don't even consider the points mentioned here.

Events such as this can make children think of looking better than the other from a very young age. However, the whole experience gradually becomes a very important part of their lives.

They tend to grow up often to be troubled about their appearances.

Parents who force their kids into competitions and those who push their kids to the edge of winning can make it a priority to win all contests.

When parents force the issue in winning a child can be most unhappy.

This is if they are constantly forced into pageants.

It should be more fun than a serious event for children to learn and experience about their self-esteem.

Pressure should not be part of a fun filled event.

It can be a self-image to many kids but should be introduced when much older, and when most understandable.

Children need to play and be normal with their own age group.

They need to enjoy their stages of life without the interference of such competitions.

· If a mother doesn't care about how her child feels then who will take charge?

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    • DearJamieLegih profile image

      DearJamieLegih 4 years ago from home

      Personally I hate the thought of young children slapping a load of makeup on, back combing their hair and being put into a competition however I also have to see the other side of it as these competitions are just like all other competitions, there is a winner and a loser no it may not be the best moral thing to put your child into but i suppose if your child enjoys the competition and can make a few friends in the process then socially its good for the child. So from a moral aspect I say nope, but from a childs social perspective, yes, as long as they express an interest and want to do it and are not being forced.... honey boo boo is a classic example of what a parent should NOT do for competition! go go juice is made by the devil after looking at that child's hyperactivity (but also counteracts your theory on eating disorders although I do see your point). Interesting and thought provoking hub. good work :D

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I don't agree with these parents, but...

      In a way I did the same thing when I got my son into one of Americas top schools and robbed him of his youth.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      No child should be robbed of their youth thanks for commenting

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I am not for it either, children shouldn't be dressed up as barbie dolls and should be able to mingle with other kids and live happy lives. No child should be under pressure. Thanks for your true opinion.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      I personally think its just wrong for children to give up their childhood for this, its wrong to dress kids in a way that basically makes me feel really uncomfortable, its totally wrong, but that's only my opinion, voted up! nell

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      I agree with you and all here. It's forcing a child to miss out on what is really important-a normal childhood! Thanks for sharing! Passing this on.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Children shouldn't be robbed of their childhood, so agree, thanks for commenting and the vote up have a lovely weekend.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for stopping by appreciate the effort , and passing this Hub on.

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      Mellissa Withers 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      I knew of a family that did this to her daughter. The mother would get so upset because her daughter wanted to come play at my house all the time because there was not as many "rules." She was not allowed to play sports or do any activity that would break something. She had to eat only healthy stuff with no "treats." The mother stopped talking to me because she asked why I did not enter my child, and I replied with I would never do that to my child. The daughter is missarable but does not want to disappoint her mother. However, I do see the light of rebellion in her eyes. It's said that the children learn a whole different set of rules in this especially that beauty is what makes you win. Then when they hit the real world, it does not always work that way.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for sharing your experience I think parents wo force their kids into beauty pageants are not thinking of it does to them. It is really sad.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      I don't like little girls walking on the ramp and hurling kisses like grownups.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      To the point and I agree with you thanks

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Children need to be children and I find children giving adult expressions very funny. I think you hit the nail right on the head Devika. A child's innocence and childhood should be protected for as long as possible.

      Great hub. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for the vote up and so true on your comment

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      Eric T. Shortridge 4 years ago from MidWest

      Ironic, that I had a similar conversation yesterday... very well said... and many valid points to consider... reminds me how some parents try to live out their dreams through their children... putting so much pressure upon them... and those judges seem to share a profile similar to a pedophile, imo

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Yes that is correct and no child should be living dreams of their parents thanks for commenting

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      Childhood should be a fun time for children, not being forced to act like and look like an adult. Children should not be wearing make up, teasing their hair and taught to act sexy! To me this is a form of child abuse and these parents should be ashamed of themselves! Voting this up and more! :)

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for the vote up I don't agree with any child living in this way take care

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I feel the same as you do. Seeing these little children dressed up like Barbie Dolls and acting sexy is so outlandish in my opinion. They should be allowed to run and play like most other children. There is plenty of time in later life to wear makeup if they wish. The childhood years are so few and fleeting. I wonder how many of these children who actually do win the titles turn out to be happy and successful adults? Even child movie or television stars often lead less than happy adult lives it is often reported. Of course there are the exceptions to the rule. Interesting hub!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for reading and leaving such an insightful comment

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      Renee 4 years ago

      Nice hub and discussion about a very important issue. IMO, parents should focus more on building the character of their children, educating the hearts and the minds and not pushing their children to focus on the outside, on beauty alone. And to give the wrong connotation that what is important is to diet so they remain skinny, as well as other wrong values. Very recently I also wrote a hub about some of the quotes that parents should be thinking about, what they should value. Remember that all the things/values that our children will learn and use in the future they learned it from us. Voted up and across, shared & pinned.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Awesome thanks for the positive comment, and for sharing, vote up and Pinned I appreciate all comments have a lovely day.

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      RTalloni 4 years ago from the short journey

      Much of what goes on with the pageants you write about here is nothing short of criminal. Your hub has generated some insightful comments. There is an old gardening rule that applies: "Early bloom, early rot."

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good comment from you and thanks for reading

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      IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      it happens and its sad to see some mothers are forcing their kids into pageant..why don't they do it themselves.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Exactly that so agree! Thanks unknown spy

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      Cathy Nerujen 4 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      There is something just so very wrong with this thing of having beauty pageants for little girls, and seeing the girls done up like adults. They are made to look like dolls. And it just disturbs me to see a kid in a photo this way... it is an end of innocence and a cold view of how some parents value material wins over childhood, and decent upbringing. And the people who support it and sponsor these events share part of the blame for it.

      My fear is that this is setting these kids up for high aspirations and conditioning them to comply with a society that more values a sly sexualizing of youth than a true appreciation of individuality and personality. It is a slippery slope... and I don't understand why the law allows these contests.

      I am half expecting to see some condom manufacturer sponsor one of these events some day, and then there will be an outrage...

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Children who are pressured into such ways of life is sad and the parents are to be blamed in many ways too. Thanks for the insightful comment

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      Marlene Bertrand 4 years ago from Northern California, USA

      Whenever I see a child all dolled up with make-up and overly teased hair, I become sad for the child because I feel that the parent is somehow living through the child. Through the child, the parent can gain some of the beauty and accomplishments they feel they missed out on in life. I am like you, DDE. I say, let the child be a child. And, if the child wants to enter contests and so on, then that's OK. But, the moment the child no longer wants to participate, then let them quit without remorse and send them out to be the child that they are. I think everyone ends up happier that way.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You said it all too thanks for reading and commenting, take care

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      peachy 4 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      very interesting hub. Frankly speaking, one of my friend is forcing her daughter into beauty contest which i find that the child is becoming a show-off, not polite and her studies went down too. I wish i could speak up but this is her personal affair. Furthermore, the child prefer to go on stage instead of focus in her study. Bad mommy. Voted up

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mothers who force their kids into such events are not thinking of about their child's needs. Thanks for the vote up!

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      L.L. Woodard 4 years ago from Oklahoma City

      I think that most of the parents who put their children in beauty pageants believe they are doing it for the child. I also think their motives are misguided. Until the prominence of the Jon Benet Ramsey murder, I didn't even realize there were such pageants and to be honest, my first reaction was one of disgust.

      Great hub: voted up and Shared.

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      Justsilvie 4 years ago

      Interesting Hub! I think childhood is too short these days as it is, this adds another thing to make that time even shorter. I also wonder how many of these mothers are living vicariously through their children. Voted up and shared!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Parents who push their kids in to pageants don't know anything about good parenting thanks for the vote up, and share.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mothers should be good role models for their children in this way they are just ruining their kid's lives from an early age and even later. Thanks for the vote up and shared.

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I agree with you completely. As parents we need to be looking at the child's likes and dislikes and be helping her grow up into a nice human. Forcing kids into dancing, etc can also ruin their personality. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Voted up and sharing!

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      Carol 4 years ago from Greenwood, B.C., Canada

      This is just so wrong is so many ways. I hate to see little girls dressed up like adults and made to dance in frankly sexual ways. The parents can only be thinking of themselves. Thanks for bringing this to our attention. Voted up, interesting and shared.

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      Christin Sander 4 years ago from Midwest

      I cannot see any redeeming qualities in these pageants. They objectify little girls and turn them into sexual objects at such a young age. It teaches them that life is all about looks and performances and not about being valued for being genuine and naturally amazing. It's sad. I agree with you wholly.

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      Mike Robbers 4 years ago from London

      They just shouldn't! Thanks for the hub on a sensitive subject.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I don't think any parent should treat their child in this way thanks for the vote up and sharing so appreciated your efforts.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Definitely wrong and thanks for the vote up, interesting and shared have a lovely weekend.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Parents who force their kids to take part in pageants are not good parents thanks for showing up, take care and have a great weekend.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Very true thanks

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      vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

      I so agree with everything you say here. Beauty pageants are a sad way to introduce little girls to the world of modeling and such. The influences are too strong for girls at a young age. Mothers need to protect their daughters instead of live vicariously through them. Thank you for sharing.

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      Stephanie 4 years ago from Canada

      Beauty pageants prepare girls for a life of feeling like they are constantly having to look their best or they will not win in life or have anything; that if they come in second place or are not the prettiest thing around no one will like them -- and the only way to be the best is to glam up and look like a Barbie doll or you're not good enough. Makes me sick.

      If my child wishes to participate in something like that then I will cater to that, but not in the way these women do.. and I also will let them know what to expect and not make them feel as if that winning is the only way of life, nor will I spend thousands to make them look the part.

      Voted up and useful. Thank you for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for commenting and sharing appreciate all comments and efforts

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for the vote up, useful and share I totally agree

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Agree with most of what you've written here.

      However, I don't think the excuse that the child enjoys the competition is relevant because I think a lot of women who are living through their daughters vicariously use this defense whether it's true or not. Children under the age of 10 have no understanding of what beauty pageants stand for much less if they want to promote what pageants stand for. Often even adults don't seem to understand that there are more important things in this world than looks.

      Young children tend to want what their parents want for them and they are influenced by wanting to please their parents. If Mom or Dad think they'd be "so cute" dolled up like a miniature prostitute, then they naturally want to do what pleases Mom or Dad.

      No person should be allowed to enter a beauty contest before the age of 14, and frankly, I dislike beauty contests under all conditions no matter what the age of the participants are.

      Beauty contests insinuate, if they don't state it blatantly, that the only thing that matters is appearance and looks. I think beauty pageants send the wrong message to participants and viewers alike -- that superficial and shallow are more important that intelligence and good works.

      Sexualizing little girls and training or forcing them to behave as though they were years older is the ultimate in irresponsible parenting. Like it or not, beauty contests send the wrong message and nothing can change that.

      Superficial and shallow are not values worth instilling in anyone. Sexualizing little children, and this happens mainly to little girls, is setting them up for possible sexual abuse, and teaches them that if one hair is out of place they aren't good enough. They may have the ability to do incredible things because of their intellect, but even if they find the time to develop that intellect (because looking perfect at all times is their first goal and responsibility) and do important things as a result, they will always feel second class and not as good because they broke a nail or the wind disheveled their hair.

      Little girls trained to be obsessed with their appearance will never learn to value their worthwhile abilities because their parents taught them from the time they were babies that they are in this world to always look sexy and perfect and their only real purpose is to be pleasing to the eye and to perform sexually. Like it or not, prancing down the runway dolled up like a miniature prostitute is a sexual act and gets a lot of pediphyles excited. Why would any parent want to draw that kind of attention to their child?

      Little girls should never be sex objects. There's plenty of time to be forced into that role by society when they are grown up. Indoctrinating little girls to believe their only value in this world is to be a sex object and a decoration, constantly comparing themselves to other similar women to determine how they compare to other sexualized decorations is deplorable.

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thanks for the vote up and interesting and I agree with your opinions

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      Kelley 4 years ago from California

      Children shouldn't be allowed in beauty pageants until they're teenagers. Then again, in the U.S., it's a free country, right? So why shouldn't they? At any rate, kids shouldn't be dolled up to look like adults - there are too many child molesters out there. Later!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      USA being a free country shouldn't make kids to be such freaks, pageants are not for kids and most parents just fail to see the damage they are doing to their children. thanks for showing up have good day!

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      DREAM ON 4 years ago

      I agree with so many of your comments and it is such a sad thing to take away a childs youth for what? Money,fame,image it is just wrong.They should teach the parents a lesson and dress them up like kids and make them act like kids and see how they like it.Very informative hub.The rules will change if enough people complain.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Parents who force their children into such kind of lives are not thinking of how their children feel but about themselves only thanks for commenting I appreciate all the efforts made here.

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      Shelley Watson 4 years ago

      I agree with your comments and those of your visitors. Au fait especially had very strong feelings with which I would agree. I believe that children should be children and be happy, carefree and play for as long as possible. I believe that gives them the strength to later handle life ups and downs with some equanimity rather than being brought up in a pressure pot of shallow values and not knowing anything different. So very sad and I feel a form of abuse - that's right out there with no strong guidelines to protect the children.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Children shouldn't be rushed into growing up in many cases it is up to the parents to know that before their children ar e out of their home. Children learn everything at home from the beginning so parents must be show a good example.Thanks for stopping by CyberShelley

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      John 4 years ago from Irvine, California

      I'm going to be honest... I didn't read your hub, but your title shouted out to me "Go rant in the comment section!". Every time I see a child beauty pageant I want to throw up all over the place. My daughter is 6 and she desperately wants to look like the women in magazines and on TV, but its just not in her genes. I don't understand why moms and dads feel that having their children participate in these types of events is any way beneficial to their children.

      That's all. Thanks!

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      Indian Chef 4 years ago from New Delhi India

      DDE we hear stories daily how the girls and boys who are in tv shows and in movies are being made to work so hard for more than 16 hours a day and not only they loose innosense but also they are not able to study. They just become an earning machine for their parents and parents always try to fulfil their dreams by making them work like donkeys.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Childhood years should be lived up to and not taken away glad you stopped by thanks for the thoughtful comment

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      FullOfLoveSites 4 years ago from United States

      Nothing's right in these kiddie pageants. If mothers have been frustrated at becoming beauty queens when they were younger they shouldn't pass their aborted dreams to their young daughters. These little girls not the same as their mothers. Let kids be kids.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Definitely a problem with mothers who put their kids in such situations thanks for commenting have good day

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      sads 4 years ago

      i think any mother does this , she do it cause she isn't t happy about her body and want to fill that gap with her daughter doing that , they are like

      Cannibal , or vampires feeding from their daughter what they don't have

      i totally think they are whores

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sads, I totally agree with you about such kind of mothers forcing their daughters into Beauty Pageants, have a nice day, thanks for your feedback

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      This is totally the mother's doing of course. That child had to be forced or lead in desiring this for a lifestyle. I have watched many of these behind the scenes and the children always seem to be miserable but up on that stage they are a star. If and when that child is murdered and/or raped it has nothing to do with this or generally they deny it even has anything to do with sex. Men must make up all these things. Women know better.

      Great write. ^

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackie Lynnley so glad you stopped by so agree with you thanks have a lovely weekend

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      Kahlan 3 years ago

      In my opinion the parents preparing their kid for a kind of specific job, a healty parent never want their daughter to start this kind of "profession".

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      So agree with your comment and thanks for coming by Kahlan have a great day.

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      Kathleen Cochran 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      A friend of my daughter's tried to get her to join her in entering a beauty pageant in high school. Her justification was that they would earn scholarship money for college. I let my daughter decide, but I cautioned the girls there were many things I pretty girl could do to earn money. They decided not to enter.

      Putting little girls in beauty pageants is child abuse. There should be laws against it. But then, I'm not crazy about any contest based on a female of any age's looks.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Kathleen Cochran I so agree with your points here and glad to read a comment from you thanks for taking part in this hub

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      It's very sad trying to encourage children to be adults when they are not -- especially when that involves putting make-up on them and having them prance about on stage in costumes, scantily clad. It is inappropriate and concerning. It speaks more about the parents and our society that we tolerate it than anything else (where is the father in all this??).

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Yeah so true where is the father in all of this, you mothers seem to be in control over their daughters more than the fathers and due to lack of self esteem from most mothers they push their daughters to fulfill what they couldn't do or have. Thanks FlourishAnyway for commenting have a good day

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      When my daughter was 4, she took a music class offered through parks and rec. It was so adorable. But at the end of it, there was a recital which I hadn't known about when I signed her up. She had to wear this frilly blue dress. I put her hair in a pony. There were moms that took this thing really seriously. Other little girls wore make-up. I saw moms yelling at their children for not keeping their hair straight. By the time the curtains opened on stage, my daughter was so frightened, she just stood there and looked down. She wouldn't do a thing. I felt so badly for her. It really broke my heart that I even considered doing that.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello CraftytotheCore so true sometimes you don't know i the beginning how it will affect the child but once you realize it then avoid it wells aid and I am so glad you came by nice to read another comment from one of my best supporters.

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      I actually love beauty pageants for kids but I want them to look like children and not little women and men. Your, Mothers Shouldn't Force Their Daughters to Enter Beauty Pageants was very interesting. I agree children shouldn't be foreced. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      moonlake very kind of you to stop by at my hubs, I really appreciate you coming by at Mothers Shouldn't Force Their Daughters to Enter Beauty Pageants thank very much for the vote up and have a pleasant day

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      Indian Chef 3 years ago from New Delhi India

      DDE I fully agree .. not only beauty but also dancing or singing shows. We had a contestant who was only 3 years old and she was dancing Indian classical which is very difficult and takes lots of hard work. Of course the girl did not learn it on her own for sure but she must have been forced by her ambitious parents. Very good hub voting it up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Indian Chef thank you for the vote up I disagree with parents who behave in this manner

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      Kittycat 3 years ago

      Think little girl running around in shorty shorts blowing kisses and doing dances for older woman is just plan weird. And some parents make their small children do beauty pagents. Some kids can't talk and they don't have eny say in what they want to do.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Kittycat parents who do such forceful ideas to their children and especially if they don't have say should not be allowed. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Annonymous 3 years ago

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Annonymous thank you

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      I think something is wrong with making a five year old child look like a 22 year old woman. Why are these children made to look like that? Why can't they look like children? It's wrong on so many different levels.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi jtrader you are so right, it is so wrong to treat girls of that age in such a made up way thank you for commenting on my hubs.

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      Maggie.L 3 years ago from UK

      This is so wrong! I really disagree with this and think that parents that do this to their children are totally irresponsible. Important topic - great that you've covered it.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Maggie.L, I don't approve of any parent in trying get their children into beauty pageants I am so glad you understand my point here. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Sharilee Swaity 2 years ago from Canada

      DDE, I agree with you strongly on this issue. I always feel so bothered when the child beauty pageant reality shows come on, and cannot watch the show for very long. It just seems so wrong to put so much pressure on these sweet young girls. Thank you for writing about such an important topic. Take care.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      prairieprincess thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts here a subject that has many issues with young girls. Have a lovely Sunday.

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      poetryman6969 18 months ago

      I've never understood the need for this. I think it does more harm than good. Let kids be kids.

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      Devika Primić 18 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      poetryman6969 thank you for commenting.

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