6 Reasons Texting is Better Than Calling
I have seen a lot of judgment out there about today’s generation preferring texting or email to voice or face-to-face communication. I’m constantly stumbling across blog posts about how it’s such a tragedy that today’s youth are trading personal human interaction for typing on a screen.
While there’s some truth to this, I personally think all the criticism is too harsh. I love texting. I feel like it was invented just for me. Honestly, I’m not always ready to talk to people, and texting and emailing allow me the flexibility to deal with things on my own timeline. (If there’s an emergency, people will call and use that magical voicemail invention. Right? … Right??)
Face-to-face interaction is completely overrated. I could kiss the people who invented texting and email. I hate forced social situations, and if there is a way to deal with them without leaving my house, then sign me up!
Notice I said “forced” social situations. I do, in fact, enjoy the occasional voice and face-to-face interactions with a select few people. But for all the others, I prefer written communication (or generous amounts of alcohol. There’s a reason it’s called “social lubricant.” Those forced social interactions are a pain in the ... well, you get it.)
Without further ado (because I know you’re on the edge of your seat), here is the list of reasons that I prefer texting and email to using the phone:
1. I get to think before I speak.
Texting, email, and other forms of written communication allow me to carefully consider my words before releasing them into the universe. If I feel pressured in a conversation, I tend to throw out an emotional response and regret it later.
I’ve always felt that I express myself much better through writing, so texting and emailing allow me to effectively communicate what I’m trying to say. (Unless I accidentally text the wrong person.)
2. I remember the conversation.
If I have a conversation over text, I am more likely to remember what was said. Don’t get me wrong, I remember significant conversations I have had over the years as if they just happened yesterday. I have an excellent long-term memory. But if I’m dealing with things like a grocery list, for instance, I’m much more likely to commit it to memory if I see it in a text.
If I do forget, I can simply go back and read the message without having to call my husband (repeatedly) while I’m standing at the beer cooler to ask if he said he wanted Sam Adams or Dos Equis. (Turns out, it was neither. He wanted scotch, and I was in the wrong store.)
3. I get to multitask.
I love communicating with my friends and family, but sometimes I need to get stuff done. Texting lets me do that. If you want to chat with a simple, “Hi, how are you?” you are much more likely to get a comprehensive response if you text instead of call.
Also, my daughter takes phone calls as her cue to climb my leg and practice her super-sonic howler monkey screech, so I’m going to be far too distracted during a phone conversation to give anything you say the proper attention.
If we’re having a text conversation, I can read your words (as many times as necessary with a toddler shrilly singing her personal rendition of “Rain Rain Go Away!”) and give a thoughtful response.
4. I don't like talking to everyone.
There. I said it. Don’t worry. You’re not one of them.
I mean, I guess you could be one of them.
Yeah, you’re probably one of them.
Now that the cat is out of the bag, allow me to distract you with a generic example: If I have to deal with customer service for my cell phone account, I would much rather use the handy dandy chat feature on the website than sit on hold with someone I can barely understand who won’t stop trying to sell me some ridiculous add-on service that no one will ever need.
Oh, and, remember that toddler climbing my leg? Customer service chat is the Best. Invention. Ever.
5. It saves time.
I know what you're thinking. How could typing on a phone possibly save time? Keep your shirt on. I'll explain.
Let’s say I’m throwing a party. If a guest has a simple question like, “What time is the party again? I lost my invitation,” a text message is the perfect way to ask the question and obtain the information. For one, I’m not wasting at least twenty minutes per person on obligatory small talk (since everyone loses their invitations. How? How does this happen to everyone?)
The added bonus is that they have the information on hand in case they forget again. Unless they lose their phone - in which case they have also lost my number. So … win-win.
6. I hate talking on the phone.
I wasn’t always this way. I used to love grabbing the cordless house phone from the living room, hiding in my bedroom and talking with my friends for hours (or until someone needed to use the internet).
Now that I’m an adult, talking on the phone is more of a chore than a recreational activity. I rarely make or take calls out of enjoyment. Even drunk dials are a thing of the past. (Sorry guys. I know you miss them.)
If I make a phone call, it is to schedule an appointment, call customer service (in only the most dire situations, of course), do a phone interview with a potential freelance client, or call my daughter’s pediatrician in a panic because she has a stuffy nose (Yeah, I did that once. Don’t judge me.) My point is, the phone is no longer fun.
I’m sure there will come a day, in the not-so-distant future, when texting and emailing won’t be the preferred forms of communication. When that day comes, we will text because we have to and not because we choose to.
The future bosses of today’s texting teens are going to text them work assignments. Or they will open their phones to messages from their mothers that say, “You never text anymore! :’-(” (That’s probably happening somewhere at this very moment.) They will deal with endless promotional text messages trying to get them to buy the latest product or service.
Then, they will resort to the next popular form of communication – whatever that might be.
I hope it’s owls. Oh please let it be owls.