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Updated on August 28, 2012

Not All Writing Communities are Friendly

In the few short years I have been overly involved with the internet, I have learned to be careful as to the type of sites I want to involve myself in. This is a massive world and although most people are sincere when posting and chatting online there will always be bullies and difficult users thinking just because we are not meeting face to face, it’s okay to be rude and obnoxious while online. This goes for leaders of forums on well known sites as well as the newly introduced ones. Not all blogs and question/answer sites are created equal. Not all writing sites are friendly either.

As many of my friends and followers already know, I am struggling to be a well known, well liked writer as well as friends to most of the people I communicate with both on and off line. I write on all kinds of topics. I try to help my fellow writers as well as learn from them as I embark on a career not yet launched to the levels of my goals. I’m thankful for every platform given to me to post my efforts on. HubPages has been the perfect community for me, but as I try not to put all my eggs in one basket, I have wrote for other sites just for the exposure to see if I can expand my talents even further. Most are hosted by understanding people who are pleased to be of help to their users.

Rude Forum Monitor

Exploring the world of the fiction writer online, I was excited for a platform that wanted good quality, well written fiction stories based on other works of fiction written years ago only with a new twist or idea on the subject matter. I found a site where not only could I do this, but I also could share my works on social network sites so my already developing audience could see it without much effort. All these writing sites have different ways of displaying stories. So, just as we had to learn the ins and outs as hub writers, these other sites have mountains of information to stroll through as well. The difference of how we converse with other site users however is nothing like Hubpages. I know at Hubpages if I can’t find the answer as to how something works on the site through the learning tools all I need to do is ask for help. Clear prompts lead me to answers without spending hours to find them.

A few days ago I ran into a problem posting my story on another site I started using in December because of document limits. Being confused as to how the site worked, I thought I had to post the story as a second chapter to another completed story. As I’m thinking this must not be right and not being able to find the answer easily, I got on one of their many forums to ask about my problem. Had I known what I know now I never would have asked them anything. Of all people the monitor was the rudest person on the forum. After trying to explain my problem I was quickly informed I did not do my homework as to how the site worked. I try to defend myself explaining I was new to the site but only had this one issue I could not find the answer to and I thought the forum was there to help. I guess it was the wrong forum to enter. I told them I was sorry I posted the question and they need not worry about me ever posting another. Now I wonder if I should have wasted my time posting my stories there at all. I like the site otherwise, but I don’t think I’ll be using it again other than referring my friends to the stories I already have posted there.

No Room For a Newbie to Ask Question

To make a long story short and not cause trouble naming the other site, I want my fellow hub writers to beware when entering other writing sites. If there’s no room for new members to find answers to simple questions concerning the site, there’s no room for us to be there otherwise either.


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      Diana L Pierce 5 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      I wish we had the answers. Bulling has become out of control.

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      Anti-Bullying 5 years ago

      How should we stop this i am sorry situation and stop the world via sliding straight into all-out warfare? The only method is for the particular democracies worldwide to square together.

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      Diana L Pierce 5 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      Thank you, purewater26 and Marla Neorra for your in put on this topic. I'm thankful to Hub pages for the community of mostly understanding users they have here. I hope we always can be proud of our friendships built around fellow writers and their readers.

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      Marla J Neogra 5 years ago from Parkersburg, West Virginia

      I agree with the concept that rudeness is multiplied by the ability to utilize a computer as a technological condom if you will. I have found many people to be much more coldly frank and out right rude if their identity is known only by a forum moniker as apposed to their actual name on social forums or face to face. I am evidently different as I usually treat people on the internet to the same sarcasm I offer in real life or sometimes am more civil on line than in real life. Possibly because my family and friends already know me.

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      purewater26 5 years ago

      I'm sorry to hear what you experienced. I guess the forum moderator doesn't really know the effect of his/her rudeness toward the website as his/her actions and reactions represent the website.

      It silly how some people behave on the Internet. I met many bullies in some online chatting websites. So, I guess the anonymity that is provided on the Internet and lack of real consequences make some insecure people think they have a right to behave like they want.

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      Diana L Pierce 5 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      Thanks, T.R. for sharing your opinion on it. I haven't ran in to much rudeness online, but when I do, I know it's not a site I want to be on.

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      T. R. Brown 5 years ago from Nashville, TN


      I am constantly shocked at forum dialog in general. In my real life I am 6' 3" 220 lbs., so I am generally treated with respect offline if for no other reason than my size. Perhaps my offline life makes it even more shocking when I go online, but it seems folks are much braver, and much more rude, when they have the luxury of anonymity, and the shelter of a computer screen. Ultimately, civility should continue through your keyboard.