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Facebook: Creating the "Peter Pan" Generation

Updated on November 1, 2011
Wendy: "Peter! Facebook does not control our relationship" Peter: "Facebook is our life! I don't want to grow up! Get her Tink!"
Wendy: "Peter! Facebook does not control our relationship" Peter: "Facebook is our life! I don't want to grow up! Get her Tink!"

Yesterday while hanging out with my boyfriend and talking about our relationship I caught myself doubting his loyalty because of the simple fact that we were not "in a relationship" on facebook. I was a bit buzzed off of wine but I actually started contemplating scenarios of my boyfriend and all his facebook lovers. I haven't felt a feeling of doubt like that since high school which made me think about the setting of facebook. I call this Facebook movement one of the top tools in the rising Peter Pan generation. People born in 1986 until now who will have the most difficult problem being an actualadult. Every Time they want to be an adult they can just go on to facebook and enter high school all over again where they know what is going on with everyone. You have a counter in the corner that tells everyone how many friends you have, racy or drunken pictures showing either how pretty you can be or how much you can drink, and you have statuses where you can say whatever you want about who ever you want and actually be tagged in the post so the whole facebook world knows your business. In thinking about this I had a horrifying revaluation. "Oh my god, This is exactly like highschool"

If you aren't in a relationship on facebook technically to many people you aren't in a relationship at all. I mean it doesn't matter if you tell the person you are with that you love them everyday or that you know you both wouldn't cheat facebook has helped in planting a seed of doubt just like those annoying mean girls in high school who always had someone or something to talk about. One time when me and a boyfriend broke up and changed our relationship status from "in a relationship" to "single" an angry former friend of mine "liked" (a button that is under every post for the people who didn't want to be a part of this highschool bs) the fact that my boyfriend was now single. How childish is that?

The Tech Journal's article Facebook is the new Cause of Divorcehas a story about a woman who actually found out her husband was divorcing her through facebook. WHAT! Honestly? Imagine you are just going to check your facebook and you see your husband post on his friends wall "Yeah dude I think I'm over Melissa" All I know is he would have to pray that he wasn't in the house when I read that!

I have more friends than you! I win!

At the University of College in Londonthere was a study saying that if you have more facebook friend's you have a bigger brain. I guess celebrities have bigger brains then all of us, I'm also the Queen of England, and today I looked out my window and I saw a pig fly past! This is my theory. The more facebook friends you have or the less amount of facebook friends you have is statistically, morally, and logically irrelevant. It shouldn't be that big of a deal. But the Peter Pan generation has turned this into a fun little game of popularity. So whether that bigger brain study is true or not my opinion is I don't think your brain can be growing when your immaturity level is an hormonal teen still stuck in high school.

My Facebook horror Stories

  • I am a former Sorority member (talk about people stuck in high school) and I was horrified to find out that one of the frats at my University had a secret group where they would rate women and talk about the women they slept with. I just happened to get my self in a drunken predicament and happen to be one of those women.
  • Today I was actually "tagged" (When someone highlights your name in there post in. It will link back to your profile.) someone's post. A guy who I confronted for hitting on my sister posted a Happy birthday on her wall then told her not to reply cause I (then he tagged me) would get mad.

Hopefully our friends, co workers, fellow students, and even our selves will one day grow up and use facebook to touch base with loved ones and network. It is a very useful tool. It just fell into the hands of a generation who was to in love with high school to let go.

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    • Dr Billy Kidd profile image

      Dr Billy Kidd 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Yes, great point, Bredavies! I think you're getting the psychology behind it. On the internet it is a public shaming when someone cuts you down. When it's just you and another person in a conversation, it's just you and that person. So it's personal and you can process it. But the thought of 30 people, say, instantly knowing that your ex b.f. says you're a slob because .... and shows a picuture... that's a public shaming.

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      plinka 5 years ago from Budapest, Hungary

      Interesting hub. And what about people who aren't on facebook? They don't exist or have no brain? I remember a South Park episode on facebook friends. :-)

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      Bredavies 5 years ago

      It is insane! It can effect someone so much because the thought process is "If it's not in person it can't hurt as much." I think it is worse cause on the internet the words are there forever.

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      Dr Billy Kidd 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Thanks for the walk through on how young people might see facebook as important. I had a client who almost committed suicide over the online nonsense about him (only the gun didn't work and then his boyfriend stopped him). I think what gets to me are the absolute jerks who are so wrong but feel so right. Thanks for clarifying things with your writing.

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      Bredavies 5 years ago

      Well I hope one day it just because a connection tool instead of a dramatic environment. Thank you for reading.

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      2patricias 5 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

      Thanks for sharing your interesting views on Facebook. It does seem to show up that some people are "stuck" in terms of growing up - or should I say, NOT growing up.

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      Bredavies 6 years ago

      Thank you. :)

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      Gen-Rev 6 years ago

      Some good insights, Bredavies. Thanks for writing.

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