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Facebook Smartphones And The Uncaring Generation

Updated on February 22, 2017
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Nell is a trained Psychologist and lives in London England. She has been writing since she was a small child.

Girl falls off bike being filmed
Girl falls off bike being filmed

A phone was just a phone...

I remember a time when a telephone was something that you used to communicate with. It sat on the hall table at home waiting to be used. When it rang all of the family would dive for it to see who was phoning them. Ah memories!

And I also remember those magic years when people cared about the feelings of others too. You know what I am talking about. Asking how they are, making sure that they got home safely and so on.

In fact most of us didn't need telephones. We talked to each other! Gossiped over the wall to the neighbors, yelled hello to the man or boy bringing the newspapers, and held the gate open for the milkman.

Back then people would socialize and laugh themselves silly.

Not any more.

Robert Cornelius took the first portrait photo back in 1839 The very first Selfie!
Robert Cornelius took the first portrait photo back in 1839 The very first Selfie!

Let's just step back in time for a sec..

Something strange happened around 2010. Of course the first 'Smartphone' was actually back in the 90's just as a hand held device. But the phone that we call the real Smartphone came into being properly in 2010.

For a long time the novelty was in picture taking. People were taking photos everywhere. Trees, dogs, cats family members and so on. Then it happened.

The Selfie.

Who did the first selfie for goodness sake?

Actually that's a good question. In fact the answer to that one is......

Robert Cornelius in.....1839! yep you heard me!

The story goes like this. It was the very first photographic portrait ever taken! And he did it by setting the camera up in the back of his store!

Robert was a chemist living in Philadelphia. The photograph was a daguerreotype.

Did you know?

daguerreotype photography.

a photograph taken by an early photographic process employing an iodine-sensitized silvered plate and mercury vapour.

Getting slightly off the subject there, but there is a point....

Back then and right up until recently the people who took photos were serious photographers, artists and scientists. Then along came the more modern camera's and the public still took relevant photos. Family photos, people having fun and so on.

But something weird happened. Everyone got their hands on a Smartphone, and kids and young adults began to morph into really strange creatures.

Away went the caring young people who would help someone in need. And in its place appeared ghouls who would stand clicking away at their phones trying to get the best picture or video of the old lady who had been run over by a car.

And they even take photos of dogs being tortured. Or babies post operation with tubes and swollen bellies, and demand, yes DEMAND that you LIKE and SHARE this photo on Facebook, because nobody had PRAYED over it. In a 'voice' that sounded accusatory and you should be ashamed not to have LIKED it!

Sigh.....What the hell?

Care about your kids? Don't film them while driving!

What the hell happened.....?

I am not sure what's happening. Its pretty scary stuff if you ask me. I have visions of someone falling under a car and nobody helping them apart from me screaming, 'Put those damn phones away and help them!

What has happened to make these kids think its more important to film someone in distress than actually getting off their ass and being a good citizen?

I have even watched on TV when someone was being chased through one of the London Underground stations hotly pursued by a knife wielding thug, and instead of calling the police, or trying to help, at least 20 five people stood there, phones aimed at the action with a look on their faces of excitement knowing that when they get home they can show all their little friends!

WHAT THE HELL?

Well here's a secret that needs telling to these selfish self centered people!

Unbelievable! London underground.

There are no words!

WE DON'T CARE!

Oh not about the people in distress, we care a hell of a lot. The people we don't care about is YOU! You and your stupid video's and photos.

Do you honestly think that the photo or video you take is any different to the ones that all the people around you are taking? No!

And even if it was vagually interesting, do you honestly think that people will remember it two seconds after watching it? They won't even know or care who put it there! That is how fickle people are these days!

So lets get back to the person who may just have died because you wanted a photo!

Here's a thought.

Perhaps if you had saved that person, then it would be you who would be filmed. Your face would be all over the internet claiming you as a hero!

Surely that is more satisfying than filming stuff that means nothing?

Think on it.

What would you do?

Really!? Filming?
Really!? Filming?

Let's help the person before the video, not the video before the person!

— Nell Rose

Oh and while we are on the subject of photos.......!

Please explain to me this obsession with Selfies? Why on earth do you honestly think we are the slightest bit interested to see you gurning, yes gurning! at the the camera with that stupid fish pout on your face!

Who the heck came up with that idea? You know the ones. It goes like this:

Hi, this is me in the local bar!

This next one is me in the club next door.

And this one....? Oh yeah, I was in the toilets of the local store!

Okay.......!

Trouble is, not only do the photos look stupid and meaningless, we:

1. Don't care where the hell you are

And...

2. Your stupid face with your stupid pout is so close to the stupid cell phone you could actually be sitting on the moon wearing a tutu because we can't see behind you! Jeez!

There said it...got it off my chest.

So..(deep Breath)

Next time you want everyone in the world to know you are walking along the street, in the bar, in the club and so on either take a photo of the darn place, or shut the hell up! Oh and those Selfies?

Chuck them (metaphorically) in the trash!

A cross between a pike and a dummy! The Selfie!
A cross between a pike and a dummy! The Selfie!

Last word on the subject....


Please bring back your humanity! There, I said it.

Stop filming those horrible accidents where you can save someones life instead of filming it.

What is your problem? As I said earlier. You want fame? Then be the one person who helps the injured. Believe me, your face will be all over the news so fast you won't be able to say Selfie!

Put the phones away. See the world in all its full glory. And help your fellow man.

Simple really.

© 2017 Nell Rose

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      Bill Holland 5 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I mentioned once on Facebook that I don't understand the fascination with selfies, and quite a few people were a bit indignant over my statement. LOL I've chosen to remain quiet about it since then. :) But I do agree with you 100%

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      Paula 4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bro...I HEAR you!! I've spent all these years avoiding the guy with the camera!! "DON'T take my picture!!" WHO the hell takes their own? Obviously, Everyone! Hey bro, I say, "Let 'em be indignant!"

      And 'NELL,' my dear friend from across the pond~~I'm suing. U posted the picture of my bike accident w/o my permission. That scenario is exactly what happened to my fat butt, the first time I hopped on a bike after about 20 years of no peddling!

      I was cruisin along just fine until I hit a rock & went flying off my seat, rolling onto my neighbor's lawn, under a crab apple tree, one shoe on and one off. Who needs to be distracted by using a device? I'll have you know, this clumsy Grandmother can be involved in an accident, simply walk out the door in the morning!

      You know I love your writing, girlfriend.

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      Yves 4 weeks ago

      The pouty blowfish selfie is the dumbest thing imaginable. I despise it as much as you do. But more importantly, Nell, something is disastrously wrong when members of society do nothing to help someone who is in serious distress, and to add insult to injury, give themselves permission to film the victim. It's heartbreaking---this lack of common decency.

      Another relevant hub, Nell. Great work, as usual!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Savvy, yes I totally agree with you, they do look like blowfish! I don't know why the are so uncaring these days, its just beyond my comprehension, hopefully its only those trolls that show themselves, not real life nice people.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Paula, LOL! it happened to me to! I was coming out of work, the ground was slippery and boom! face down like a landed fish! I am probably one of the most clumsy people around! always great to see my friend from over the big ol' pond! :)

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Bill, they do look like demented blowfish, simple as that! lol! but its those horrible people filming that do my head in, thanks as always.

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      Paula 4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Nell...If you are as clumsy as me, we'd best never go anywhere together! Neither of us will return in one piece! Besides, how does one "clumsy" help the other when they're both on the ground??

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      LOL! well what you do is, one hangs onto the other ones arm while the second person keeps an eye on the floor! LOL! that way, hopefully, nothing drastic happens! Mind you my Best friend many years ago, was as clumsy as me! she walked into a pub with an umbrella still up, and trying to put it down she yelled hello to everyone, swung round and the brolly knocked all the drinks off the bar! LOL!

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      Martie Coetser 4 weeks ago from South Africa

      There is a fine line between 'acceptable' and 'unacceptable'. Via the pictures we take and post we expose our obsessions, or at least what we like/love the most.

      Quite recently I unfriended a woman who posted four to five selfies daily, ramming herself down everybody's throat. I just couldn't handle her anymore. I also hate those pictures of tortured and butchered and extremely ill/injured people and animals. Yes, we should know what goes on in this world, but some pictures should only be displayed in an 'envelope' marked 'not for sensitive viewers' to be opened by those who want/need to see them.

      But really, Nell, you may by all means post some more pictures of yourself. Whether selfies or not, I love seeing you - as I would when you were my friend in real life.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 weeks ago from Orlando, FL

      LOL - those photos!! I agree with you Nell, our society has become so dependant on technology that we forgot what life was like before we had phones. I am guilty of being rude at times and almost walking into poles while texting, but I am glad I haven't yet! :)

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      CMHypno 4 weeks ago from Other Side of the Sun

      Or the ultimate stupidity of the people who stand there filming natural disasters and then get killed or inured? It seems people don't want to live or experience real life any more, they just want to either film it or watch it on a screen.

      Also the privacy of the people they are filming never seems to bother them. If I was splattered over a road, the last thing I would want is to also splattered across social media. There is absolutely no sensitivity to other people's feelings anymore. Are we witnessing the death of emapathy?

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Cynthia, yes it seems that empathy is dying out, which is pretty scary if you ask me, people feel more for their stupid phones than their family! good to see you on here!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      HIya Linda, yes I have texted walking along the road too! lol! but I wouldn't stand and take a photo of someone falling on their face! lol!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Martie, Five selfies a day? Jeesh! lol! I would scream! but saying that, I do have a friend who tends to do it every couple of days with her boyfriend. She insists on putting her face right up to the phone! Arghh! As for those horrible photos, I think people need to start having a reality check. one of these days it will be them on the wrong side of the photo, then perhaps they will think twice about it. Thanks Martie, that's really sweet of you! not that i like my photo, but...LOL!

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      Anne 4 weeks ago from Spain

      Hi Nell. I finally got talked into getting a smartphone a couple of year's ago and its one of the best things I ever bought. But the last thing I would think to reach for if I saw someone in trouble unless to call for emergency services. I don't see many people these day's but I know for sure if I saw some of the things you describe I would not be able to stop myself saying something to all the dimwits filming instead of helping. My goodness whats the world coming to?

      Hope you keeping well. X

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Anne, always great to hear from you! Yes I totally agree with you. I have a smart phone, but hardly use it. I just have a normal tiny speak phone! lol! and keep the other one for emergencies and photos. I am fine thanks, how you doing?

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      Nell, You get my vote, hands down. I am soooo sick of looking at selfies. My grandkids haven't a clue. How I long for a face in a frame on my shelf. I just got home from shopping, a woman weighing 300 lbs. was sitting on a bench in front of Walmart, her thumbs were tapping at warp speed. She was oblivious to anything or anyone. The whole world has forgotten how to communicate or help someone in need. Your rant is my rant, and many others, I'm sure.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Ruby, yes that drives me insane too! I always call those finger and thumb movements going so darn quick, preying mantis! because that's just what they look like! thanks as always.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Nell, I couldn't agree more. Everybody wants a picture. As for me, I get tired of downloading pictures. I wish somebody would just call instead and let's talk like old times.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      Praying Mantis...lol..I'm still laughing!!

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      Linda Crampton 4 weeks ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've raised some excellent points in this article, Nell. The obsession with taking selfies is very sad. Even sadder is the decrease in empathy that is developing in some societies. Although technology has improved our lives in many ways, there were definitely some advantages to living in the past when phones but not smartphones existed.

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      FlourishAnyway 4 weeks ago from USA

      I don't get the point of so many selfies or why people take photos of their food. And the not helping? Terrible manners. It all comes back sooner or later.

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      snigdha.s 4 weeks ago from India,mumbai

      Rightly observed.Is it self obsession or what God knows, but why risk your life in some cases just to become a short memory......

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      Mary Wickison 4 weeks ago from Brazil

      I agree with you Nell, but as my mom used to say, it's just a phase we're going through. When people stop putting a thumbs up on images or commenting, I think people will stop posting horrible selfies.

      We are in a 'look at me' era where everyone thinks they should have their 15 minutes of fame.

      Regarding the lack of support in an emergency situation because they're busy filming it, in my opinion, should be seen as illegal. I hate suggesting we need more laws but isn't this similar to those who watch a crime being committed and do nothing?

      I think there should be a law which says, all phones have to be locked in the boot (trunk) whilst driving. If people are fined high enough, and consistently there will be a change in attitude.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi BL, I totally agree with you. It should be illegal, as that guy on the video found out, he has been arrested. But it should be across the board. Thanks so much for reading.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks snigdha, thanks for commenting.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      I totally agree Flourish, something weird is happening, pity we don't get a huge breakdown of all the smart phones! lol! that would get them! thanks for reading.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Alicia, maybe if we made it illegal as mentioned above, they wouldn't do it. thanks as always.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      LOL! well that's what they look like Ruby! Guys tend to use one finger to scroll down the screen, but women drive me nuts with those darn thumbs!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi MsDora, yes wouldn't it be lovely if people just phoned for a chat? makes me so mad, and sad too, thanks as always.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 weeks ago from The Beautiful South

      Phones are a horror today and it is gross what interests people. I am thinking of your comment at FB too about the wounded dogs people love to throw out there and right after that I saw a video of a dog dragging its back legs across a highway with cars stopped and one guy was going to help it when all at once it stood up and walked away! (I guess it was scratching its belly!) I so wanted to send you that in case you didn't see it but thought you may not watch it to the end and think I was a sicko. lol

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Hi Jackie, LOL! no, I usually sit and watch them all, and of course you can say what it is first. thanks for reading as always.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 weeks ago from United Kingdom

      I'm embarrassed to say that my oldest girl is guilty of the 'trout pout' pose when she takes selfies. On the other hand, it would never occur to her to just stand by and film someone in distress. She would probably be the first to call for an ambulance and then comfort them till help arrived.

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Ah, that's great to know phoenix. There are some good kids still out there. Thanks so much for reading.

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      Genna East 4 weeks ago from Massachusetts, USA

      I've never taken a selfie, and don't understand the attraction. Progress always comes at a cost. And the new age of smart phones are part of that cost when we use them indiscriminately, with such uncaring, voyeuristic enthusiasm. It's certainly a judge of character, or lack thereof. I loved this hub, Nell. Well done, and well said!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      Thanks Genna, yes its pretty sad isn't it? thanks so much for reading.

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      Karen Hellier 4 weeks ago from Georgia

      I totally agree with you on this. And the selfies...Puleeeze! I am so tired of seeing pictures of my Facebook friends that are in their late teens/early twenties when they share their selfies. I am FB friends with a lot of former students of mine and they all do that. I am so tired of seeing them posing...in their bathroom mirrors, in their car, in their yards, at work...come on people, get a life. Or maybe they don't have much of a life and those selfies are what they look forward to?!

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      Nell Rose 4 weeks ago from England

      LOL! you might be right there Karen! yes all they care about is a selfie! I think getting a life would be preferable! Thanks for reading.

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      quicksand 3 weeks ago

      Hi Nell,

      It's sooo very easy to take a selfie nowadays that I really pity my ancestors. What great pains they went through to create selfies!

      The method, although crude comparatively, was simple. They dab some vegetable dyes on one side of a papyrus reed, which would typically have an area 1.5 times the size of the face, then they smash the dried leaf, the side with the paint, on the face.

      The impression of the face that appears on the papyrus reed is, although not too accurate, good enough for that era!

      Cheers!

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      Nell Rose 3 weeks ago from England

      LOL! sounds a bit messy quicksand! thanks for reading.

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      Shauna L Bowling 7 days ago from Central Florida

      I'm with you, Nell. Put down the damn phone and keep your eyes and heart open.

      It scares me how many people use their phones while driving or walking down the street or having a meal with someone... it goes on and on.

      I'm glad you got this off your chest. Hopefully those who are guilty of what you mention in this post will take a good look at themselves and change their ways. It very well could save a life.

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      Nell Rose 7 days ago from England

      Thanks Shauna, yes it just drives me completely nuts! specially the ones driving cars at the same time! thanks for reading.

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