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Protect your Child from Predators on Internet

Updated on May 21, 2010

Children are the most important part of any family. Without children there is no real family as such, so they are precious and we as parents need to maintain their safety in all aspects. To protect your child from predators on internet is not always easy. Children like to have their own little secrets that they will only share with their friends. Sometimes to them, their parents do not understand how things work. All parents are so old fashioned; they are not cool anymore as they are too old.

Now isn’t that a horrible feeling. You know you are not as old as they think. Yet even their language at times is of another country. So if this is truly the case, how can we possibly help our children? They forget that we have been there and done that and we know the little quirk of hiding things from the Mums and Dads.

Be honest. How many times did you tell your mother or father that you were going to Tim’s for a sleepover. When in actual fact you were somewhere completely different. No I was too shy to do that, although I saw it happen with my own children and their friends and it really annoyed me how they could lie to their parents. In all honesty, I told the mother, I am sorry, but I did not see your daughter here last night at my son’s birthday party. I will not tell you there response, although you can imagine their reply, I think.

If children cannot be honest with their parents in real time, what hope have we of controlling their internet connections and friends?

Internet security

Security on the Internet

The internet can be terrific although the predators have made it very scary too andChildren or teenagers to this day still do not accept the fact that parents really care what happens to their children and are just trying to warn them of the dangers. No matter what you say to them, they think that you want to spoil their fun. They cannot see the danger lurking behind the friendly faces on their computer screens. So often these faces are not of the person behind the screen either. They believe they are their friends and this is more so for the loner or shy type of teenager.

I used to say to my kids, that when we do not want to know where they are that they need to worry. In plain English that is when they know that we do not care. While we are repeatedly asking where they are going and who with, it means that we truly DO CARE about their welfare.

What prompted this article is a tragic circumstance that happened in Australia this week. A young girl met up with a guy she had met on Facebook. No one knows the circumstances, except to say they found her murdered the next day.

This is why EVERY parent needs to be vigilant with their children and their activities on the internet. Do not play the nice parent that just does not cut it. If you truly care about your children, then keep a vigilant eye on the people they talk to on the internet. The people they are friends with as well.

I know about the privacy act, and agree with it to a certain extent. BUT in real life, our children are our responsibility not the governments even though they think they can control everyone. They do not understand each and every circumstance and problems in every different family. Different circumstances need different actions.

I believe in the saying you can watch a thief, but you can never ever trust a liar. A child can look you in the face and lie through their teeth without batting an eyelid.

Bedroom computers

Get rid of the computers in the bedrooms. Yes I know that will be hard. Bring the family back together. Discourage the teenagers disappearing off to their bedrooms to their own computers to do their so called homework. Put the computers back in to the family room. Believe it or not, children can still work on homework in a larger environment. How else do classrooms work, they are filled with students, and therefore where is the difference. They just want privacy, and that is where it all starts, deceit and secrets.

Encourage trust and responsibility

Encourage your children to bring their friends home. Open your home to your children and their friends. Be there for them, talk to them as though they are an adult. Try not to talk down to your child, as you will lose their respect very quickly.

Try to keep calm, count to ten when your youngster answers you back. Do not start world war three. If you do not react and yell back there is no argument. It takes two people to keep an argument going. They will get bored if you do not react with whatever they are trying to get a rise out of you. Wait until you cool down and talk it out together logically. Try to see the funny side of things and keep it light.

Have your family meal at the kitchen table. No more taking meals off to separate bedrooms anymore. Encourage a family environment for your family. Talk to each other and share your concerns, and ask them if they have any problems. Create an enjoyable environment at the table, share jokes, funny situations and keep it light. Above all be a happy secure and loving family


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      susanlang 7 years ago

      You're very welcome--and thank you for this hub--I know it will help many!

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      susaniang, thanks for stopping by, it sure is important to look after the future generation Thanks

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      susanlang 7 years ago

      One good story deserves another..yours' is very constuctive in providing the important message of my story about a young girls' real life Myspace profile. This is a great read and will help many!

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Nemingha, You have hit the nail on the head, they think they know everything. They do not understand that the day we die is when we actually stop learning. Everyday there is something new to learn. Look at the things us hubbers are learning about. thanks for stopping by

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      Nemingha 7 years ago

      The internet is certainly a double-edged sword, especially for children and teenagers who think they know everything while knowing nothing! Great article!

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      Jannyc yes you are so right we still help our kids and they are both over nearly 40, No matter the age they are still our kids. And you just cant be too careful with teenagers they need all the help they can get.

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      JannyC 7 years ago

      I fear the teenage years for my son. This is pretty much common sense though to be in your kids lives as much as you can. I know my mom was still in my business well when I was past my teens Lol.

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      ethel, I would hate to be bringing up teenagers today thats for sure. Hows they eyes going.

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      Eileen Kersey 7 years ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

      Great advice Eileen. I know times have changed but that is why parents need to be so vigilant

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      MPG Narratives, glad you do that and agree wholeheartedly.thanks

      Support Med, It is terrible the things happening in the wonderful world. We just have to be careful. thanks for stopping by

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      Support Med. 7 years ago from Michigan

      Excellent article. Sad, sad about the girl. Yes, they will get angry when parents keep tabs on them, but it's absolutely essential. Good tips for family unity.

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      Marie Giunta 7 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Eileen, like you I was shocked at the story of the girl murdered because she was tricked by a fiend (definitely not a friend) on Facebook. With two teenagers who are constantly online I am continually checking on them and DEFINITELY no computers in the bedrooms.

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      pretty darkhorse, thanks for stopping by and commenting.

      mpcpanda, Thanks for commenting and sharing this information. I no longer have this problem as no more children at home but it was easier in my day, It is not so easy these days, And parent need to be active with their kids by sharing meals and talking openly. Yes I know they have their secrets. What child doesnt. But we need to stop giving them access to computers in there rooms and shutting themselves away from the family. thanks for that.

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      MyPCPanda 7 years ago from Cyberspace

      Good hub... The bottom line is that if parents REALLY want to keep their kids safe online, they need to know what said kids are doing on the computer, and what is happening in their online lives. Blocks and filters are easy to get around, and talking alone will get you nowhere… (if you think your kids are going to tell you, honestly, everything they are doing online – you are a fool). Education is a great thing, and very necessary, but how can you consider yourself educated if you don’t know the simplest information – like what your kids are really doing. If you have monitoring software, like our PC Pandora, you will know everything they do and will be able to talk to them about it. If you aren’t monitoring and don’t know what they are really doing, how can you be sure they are safe? It’s not an issue of privacy (I have no idea where and when kids were granted endless privacy because they exist – in my day privacy was earned through trust and an established good behavior record), nor is it an issue of trust – it’s called being a 21st century parent. If you don’t know what your kids are doing online, you aren’t doing your job as a parent. If you aren’t monitoring what your kids do online and watch them, someone else will… Visit my hub for more info...

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      trust and responsibility are very important, children indeed should be protected, very good hub, I rated it up Mam, Maita

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      Eileen Hughes 7 years ago from Northam Western Australia

      breakfastpop, thank you so much for that great comment. cheers. thanks for stopping by to read it

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      breakfastpop 7 years ago

      This is an incredibly important hub with terrific advice. I give it a thumbs up!