How to Make People Happy

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How to Make People Happy

Happiness is a universal goal. We all want to be happy and usually surround ourselves with people who do make us happy, or at least we try. There are several things you can do to make others happy. I have narrowed it down to 4 areas:

  • Listen
  • Be Entertaining
  • Appreciation
  • Acceptance

Listening to people makes them feel important. When you listen to them you are subconsciously telling them that what they have to say makes a difference. It also fosters a sense of intimacy because you get to know them better and if you are good at communicating with another person that intimacy will grow. This is an area that is one of the main complaints of married couples, that one or the other person does not listen. By not listening to someone you are, in fact, telling then that they are not important and that you will not waste your time communicating with them. It's a subtle form of disrespect. No relationship can survive this for very long, so if you want to make someone happy listen to them when they are talking. Make sure to actively participate by asking questions and if you truly value the person you are talking to you will want to know what is going on in their lives anyway.

Everyone wants to feel special and needed, everyone! If you want to make people happy seek out the special qualities, talents and traits that make your friends who they are. Ask them for advice, comment on their special abilities and never take them for granted. These are the areas that make us who we are and by appreciating them in your mates you will help them to further develop these areas. If you want to make people happy you have to help them be the best they can be and this is done through appreciation.

Next, BE ENTERTAINING. Yes, you need to provide pleasure to the people you want to make happy. Pleasure can be in the form of laughter or communication or just by being an interesting person. We all have boring, humdrum lives at times. When you have someone in your life that is uplifting and interesting it makes life a little sweeter. I'm sure we've all had friends that when you talk to them they crack you up, these friends are truly precious, they are the kind of people you want to have in your lives forever because it makes life fun and colorful. This is not to say that you have to be fake or that sometimes you can't be down but even in the dark periods if you can connect with someone through laughter it makes it a little more palatable.

Finally, acceptance is crucial. None of us are perfect, we all have our faults and just as we would want others to accept us through the good, the bad and the ugly we need to accept others even when they are not acting in ways we would like. Unconditional love is a great gift. If you want to truly make others happy give that gift. It's not as easy as it might sound and you might not choose to give that gift to everyone you know but the people that you do give it to will be happier for it and so will you.

Making other people happy is one of the greatest gifts one can bestow. I don't know about you but the people who can make me laugh and in their presence is joy are some of my most treasured friends. It is a priceless quality in these days of difficulty, bad news and gloom. If you can hone these skills for yourself you will never be without a friend and that, my dear, is the greatest thing of all!

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sean.rutger 7 years ago from USA

Great hub... I try to make my friends laugh every day. Why don't more people know this? Thanks for giving everyone a crash course in being social.


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for the nice comment, it really is just common sense but that seems lacking today!


james 7 years ago

thanks for the advice


james 7 years ago

thanks for the advice


mike 6 years ago

make yourselves happy.


SONIYA 6 years ago

BUT WHY DON'T DO THE SAME THING WHAT EVER NICE THING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM?


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

I don't understand your question Soniya?


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tweetter 6 years ago

Really nice hub, every one want to listen them............. Means every one wanna talk........ Thanx for the advice@@@@


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for the compliments tweetter.


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Sandyspider 6 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

We should always try to make others happy. What goes around, comes around.


stephanie vest 6 years ago

I don't understand things and why they happen to me. I have been working so hard in the resturant bussiness. Just bartending, but i do very well, people love me. Know that i am 35. and doing this for a long time. i am where i want to be. but it seems that know matter what. things come up. My manager wants me to come up with how we make are employess happy. i just tought about my self. If i am happy and the guest are happy. why worrie about the emp. so does any one know what i should do


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

It's good business to keep your employees happy, that way you wont have to constantly be searching for new ones. I worked for a company once and it was the best company I ever worked for. They were very affirming, we had picnics with the whole group of us, on Fridays (once a month) we had wine and sort of a mini party, the bosses door was always open and as long as we got our work done they didn't care if we came in a few minutes late every once in awhile. In other words we were treated with respect and I will never forget it. That is what I would do if I were an owner of a company. A little kindness as an owner goes a long long way (especially in today's job climate).


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Debbie Bills 6 years ago

When we really listen to some one it does make them feel special. Happiness is about building relationships.

Debbie


merry 6 years ago

how to make my family happy is my goal


Sam Scott 6 years ago

i want to make my friends feel welcome but my mom yells and says we need to go outside and not mess up the house


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Can you go somewhere else like a Starbucks or one of your friends houses? Sit down and talk with your mother and tell her what you just told me, offer to pick up after your friends have left so that your mother doesn't have to worry about a messy house. Also, is there a basement or attic area where you could hang out?


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dragonsin 6 years ago

nice hub and nice article.... but i wondering how to make my friend happy if i'm not happy?


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Well that's another situation. If your friend is really your friend then you will never really be able to keep him/her happy without your own happiness.


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dragonsin 6 years ago

thx...


declan 6 years ago

i wish i could make evri1 in the world happy but i don't know how to do that.....+2348066071984


Toto 6 years ago

Very good to make people happy


lk 6 years ago

hopw to make person i love to happy


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lea86 6 years ago

Yeah, I think to make people happy is actually make us happy in return, because the result will make people like us; and when we are among the people that 'make them happy', we usually will make more friends.Thanks.


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

True, thanks for commenting.


be happy 5 years ago

I think the biggest of the 4 is acceptance. I believe that you have to be able to accept negative things in life. If you don't you're going to be disappointed.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

That's so true. Also, having low expectations helps :)


mini 5 years ago

i really feel unlucy all of my sisters r intelligent xept me yyyyy///?// that's really bad iwanna die


mini 5 years ago

wat if someone asks about my grades how will he feel i hate my parents n school n my life i hate evrythin xcept my friends my teachers ask my sisters y is she dull in studies n then my sis tells mom how does she feel i wish i wasn't even born my fathers also ignore me sometimes like he is fed up 4m me plz help me


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

mini: Try to ignore your family and make your friends your family.


stef 5 years ago

@mini: i have that same problem, but what i learnt is to make yourself happy first. forget the bullshit and the opinions of others because the only opinion that matters is yours!!! love yourself for who u r and not what others want u to be! give it ur all: 100%!! hope this helped and ur not alone ;)


saira khalid 5 years ago

I always try to make happy to my friends and my family and

other people who always be angry i like all people who's

muslim's and non mulim's because god make all people not me

and other...so be happy life is not long but try to make it

slime!(:(:


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Tonipet 5 years ago from The City of Generals

Help them! I think it's one that makes people really happy. It makes them feel needed and yes, important too! Lovely hub Brie. Learned something new and great. Thanks.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Tonipet


chawla 5 years ago

helping them makes them really happy


asooooooooom 4 years ago

I always try to make happy to my friends and my family and other people ^_^


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veggie-mom 4 years ago

Beautiful & shared, thanks for the gentle reminders!


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for the kind comments Veggie-mom.


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internetgeek 4 years ago from Hyderabad, India.

Wow! How to Make People Happy, this is really interesting and wonderful. You have specified excellent 4 areas to be happy. Thanks for sharing and voted up :)


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for voting it up Internetgeek.


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FordeAhern 4 years ago from Broadford, Co. Limerick. ireland

Love your hub and all is true in what you say. thank you foe sharing it. voted up and interesting


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks FordeAhern.


Diduni 4 years ago

True,thank for commenting....


Syarah  3 years ago

Love and happy what you can do


Lyn  3 years ago

My family is happy everyday why is because that my mother and father did not scold as everyday and we a happy


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Yes, Lyn, having a good family makes a huge difference in life!

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