Speaking The Language Of Unconditional Love

The Quest For Unconditional Love

The quest for unconditional love surpasses even the quest for the Holy Grail, From the beginning of time, from the first breath taken, this is what all of mankind seeks. Infants and toddlers give it without realizing, but soon, very early on the quest to have their own love to be fulfilled begins.

The quest for acceptance, for praise, for worthiness, for unconditional love. We are all now seeking the one thing more seemingly elusive than all myths and legends combined together. We seek from parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, co-workers, friends, associates and companions, still seemingly elusive. For many along the way the quest is ended as a determination it is only a myth, there is no reality to unconditional love. Settling begins, compromises, false finds, we sometimes believe we have found it in places no love exists at all.

Myths Have Many Different Faces

Light bulbs shine brightly, but they burn out and have to be replaced.  They are not unconditional
Light bulbs shine brightly, but they burn out and have to be replaced. They are not unconditional

The Myths and Pretenders

It shines brightly, new love, new success, it seems to be the end of the quest. Like this wide variety of light bulbs, it burns out, has to be replaced. The light stops working when we seem to need it the most. We keep a supply on hand, but is it the right one? This is not unconditional, what if the power goes out? So many variables, how can we be sure?

The face of the myths are very familiar to all of us. Why do you love me? What do you love about me? What does love look like to you? The rules, the different forms, the things to learn. What if the reason for love goes out, like the power. What if the reason for love burns out like the light bulb. Is unconditional love just an unlimited supply of light bulbs with a unique design, shape and size for each of us?


Love Is An Unconditional Link

The Language Of Unconditional Love
The Language Of Unconditional Love

The Elusive Quest Ends Here

Can it be real? It does really exist? What would we really do with the Holy Grail if we were to find it? What do we do, how do we act, who are we with unconditional love? If you are really ready to find unconditional love, if you know what you would do with your Holy Grail, keep reading.

Love is Unconditional For All

Ultra violet view of the sun.  Image Credit:  SOHO
Ultra violet view of the sun. Image Credit: SOHO
wisteria in bloom
wisteria in bloom

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love lies within, just one choice away from arriving...yes, it is a choice. Like the sun, it is always there, it shines on everyone unconditionally. Yes, we may say that sometimes the sun is obscured by clouds and unseen during nightfall. The sun is never gone however, it is always waiting for the next moment to share its light, energy and warmth with all who are willing to embrace it. Sitting in a darkened room does not make it go away, Lack of acknowledgement does not lessen its energy, the love still exists with the same consistent intensity, for everyone equally and unconditionally. Flowers bloom for all equally and unconditionally, their beauty, fragrance is there we need only embrace it. Yes, the blooms do not last forever, but they return and reseed and grow more of its own kind. Seen or unseen, in bloom or dormant the flower is unconditionally available for all..

Make the choice, remove the false limitations, look inside, let it bloom, let it shine, it has always been there and will always remain, it is constant and unconditional, it is real. Choose To Love Unconditionally. Start with yourself, giving is receiving, give to yourself, receive from yourself, give to others, receive from yourself......and maybe even others as they learn they have a choice. Share the choice, the only contingents are the ones we create, erase them, remove them, raise the blinds and let the sunshine in.

Speaking The Language Of Unconditional Love

How do we talk the talk, How do we walk the walk? Now that the choice has been made and the realization that the quest has been found and the excitement dies down, we have to figure out what to do with our Holy Grail. We have shown it to everyone, they know it is found, but now it is just a thing. The shine isn't as bright as we had hoped, it isn't as exciting as the quest. Now we have to care for our Holy Grail, maintain it, cultivate it, grow it and share it.

Remove the labels, remove the explanations and justifications. Love Just Is! We can continue to dislike avoid and correct certain behaviors associated with ourselves and others. Love is separate, it just is. Love is an emotion that flows true and uninhibited, it's source always known, complete and dependable. Love not only endures all things, it supersedes all things. A cloud cover may pass, but the sun is still there.

In the language of unconditional love, the only why is because we choose it. There are no ifs or buts, no maybes or contingents. Mo matter what we choose to love. Love is not condoning, it is not behavioral based, once again, it just is. Love is love; everything else is everything else. To speak the language of unconditional love, we must divide the land from the waters. They are not the same thing, they are two separate elements and must be distinguished one from another. Speak the language of unconditional love, let it flow like the waters. The land is a different subject, although water and land touch, intermingle and are connected, they are not the same thing. in the language of unconditional love the waters care not what the land does, it flows irregardless of anything and goes where it may. Unleash the waters of your unconditional love. Choose it, let it flow, speak a new language of energy, give to yourself first, then share.

My Own Unconditional Love Statement

I choose to love indiscriminately and completely. I choose to love myself because I choose it. I am loved because I accept it. I am love by choice. No matter where I go or what I do, love is my constant companion, clouds may obscure it from me, but I know it is still there. I love the being, the doing is separate. I love all beings, their actions are not connected to my love, they are separate. My love can flow through the actions and create new possibilities. My love is constant like the energy from the sun, the warmth, the light is always present. I give my love freely as it cannot be contained, it is unlimited and unconditional.

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Universal Laws 7 years ago from UNIVERSE

Brave subject!! I remember having "unconditional love" as my focus to learn from around ten years ago. It brought me to my knees! I met a soul mate/past life comrade, it took me the ten years to love unconditionally and let it go and expect nothing. Wonderful, sometimes painful but always stretching experience, opened me up to a new way of loving and being. The unconditional love I learnt first was for myself in allowing myself to walk away constantly when things were not right for me but still loving the other person. Daring to be in an loving, intense connection with someone not knowing where its going is one of the most healing,growth experences. One of my mottos, "Keep on loving but live in a scenario free zone"


lilyofthevalley 7 years ago

I am speachless! Beautifuly written.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

lilyofthe valley: Thank you, as soon as you get your voice back try the new language of unconditional love.

Universal laws: I appreciate your sharing of your personal experience along this journey. your motto is a very good view in an unconditional love zone

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fortunerep 7 years ago from North Carolina

I think i fell in love with the idea of being in love and being loved, you are right there is no such thing as unconditional love.


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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Ahhhh but I do believe in unconditional love! Thank you so much for your comments, everyone loves the idea of being loved and falls in love with it. A whole different idea however to attach no strings to love.

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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California

Most of us is in love with love, but unconditionally love, for me, the jury is still out on that one. However I really like the hub.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

I appreciate your visit and your input fastfreta. I am with you on the unconditional love!

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Jen's Solitude 7 years ago from Delaware

Love, what a intricate subject. Can you love yourself if you accept abusive behaviour from someone else? Can you love someone who hates you? Are there universal principles of love that can be attached to any situation? Does anyone deserve our utmost devotion? I've been studying the subject for years and have discovered that the more I learn about love, the more I still need to learn. HaHa Great hub!

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missblogger 7 years ago from baguio :))

pErfect!! :))

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

missblogger: Thank You!!!

Jen: I appreciate you bringing your shovel, it can get very deep in this subject matter. This isn't all of the answers, just a piece of the puzzle. To answer...Yes, eventually that love will move events. Yes, not a huggy close situation however. Yes, don't attach it is an emotion not a thing. Devotion and love are definitely separate subjects. Truer words were never said, the more we learn, the more there is to learn.. Thank You Jen!

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SEM Pro 7 years ago from North America

Beautifully written emohealer! I used to love unconditionally - it would flow in as fast as I could let it flow out. Then, I begun to realize that without boundaries for ourselves, there are folks who'll take extreme advantage of that unconditional love. Now, I feel I do well to stay on contract with myself: "I risk being vulnerable". Staying out of judgment is a huge accomplishment. Being compassionate feels wonderful for all concerned. Through vulnerability we grow. In the mirror of our creations we see our deepest beliefs and feelings... When it all boils down to a single seed - I think the only time I truly feel unconditional love is when I'm in a state of gratitude. Could that be true?

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

SEM Pro: Wow! Yes! Gratitude and love are so reciproccal they can replace each other in any given situation or sentence. To define one, requires the other, the emotion is esentially the same. By combining, there in lies true compassion.

Staying out of judgement is the key to how it is done, because in a state of gratitude/love there can be no judgement only acceptance.

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SEM Pro 7 years ago from North America

Cool then, thanks! Did you look at Deepak's vid on the G hub? Had never thought about how the ego cannot exist in a state of gratitude. Have only known that when I'm grateful, it is, as you say, pure acceptance, appreciation and love.

Hehe - I am so grateful for you to discuss this stuff with! Guess Girl, that means I love you unconditionally! :)

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Yes, I did look at the vid, I am a fan of Deepak to begin with and have been a follower of sorts for a time.

LOL...I appreciate the dance as well...so I also love you unconditionally!!!

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tonymac04 7 years ago from South Africa

Beautiful and thought-provoking on an incredibly important topic. Thanks for sharing your wisdom so unconditionally!

Love and peace


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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Hi tony, Thank you so much for sharing and letting this hub find you. You are so welcome, Love and Paeace for you too!

Kim Garcia 7 years ago

Wonderfully expressed!! You have a pure heart, and it shows. Love and the analogy of the Holy Grail is perfect. Yes...what would we do if we found it? Would it just sit on a shelf after a few months of adoration and collect dust? Once the initial infatuation and sheen wore off? True love is unconditional, whether we fade and tarnish with the years, love endures. Bravo!!! I love this one! Peace ~ K

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Oh Kim, Thank you so much for finding this page and sharing your own heart felt expressions here. We always find what we are looking for, Let your Light Shine, Peace and unconditional love to you!

JagranKiran 7 years ago

I love you, right now, in this moment, I love you, and it brings me so much joy to love you, to tell you how much I love you, there is no expectation, there is no fear of rejection, no judgement, because it is right here and now, and in this moment unconditional love flows through me. Thank you for creating the opportunity for this love to be shared. All around the world people are waking up to this experience, and soon we will all be able to join hands and give enough love to those in need, to those in power, to those in war, to those in fear. We will raze the consciousness of this planet so that no one is left behind in the dark. It just takes a little courage to illuminate the soul, but one person shining gives courage to the next person, and like a chain reaction love can change the world.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


I have never been so amazed or bowled over with a comment, you understand on a level that made my love and gratitude grow, not only unconditional, but unlimited. You say it even better than I have thought it. You are so right and so much more, I love you the same and experience the joy with you, the world is awake our hands are joined now. Illumination is no longer a spark, it is bright and the lights are joinging and shine brighter together. Thank you for sharing here and now. You have a personal invitation to share the message you say so eloquently and true at any classes and seminars I am involved in. (my apologies in the delayed response, I was in the mountains in North Carolina at the onset of a healing retreat for a couple of days.) Thank you again and true love and light to you, let it shine!

JagranKiran 7 years ago

wow thank you, this experience is quite amazing, i am lost for words, I think when something goes so deep there can be no words, we are left with a silence, and this silence feels like an infinite lake of bliss. Sometimes my mind questions it all and I pop out of the experience and into some fear or expectation, but just allowing that to be, it passes, the lake of bliss is ever present, I am learning to trust in the love of the universe, it is supporting us in every breath. It is simply a matter of letting go, I am learning more and more everyday. :-)

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author


Learning yes, but teaching as well! Giving is receiving and you radiate and flow with that undertanding and energy. Letting go of fear allows use of the key of trust opening the door to the entrance of worthiness, in silence we hear and experience all that just is. Your presence is a blessing, Thanks again!

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awsydney 7 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Great hub emohealer. This is surely one subject that many people grapple with and have difficulty demonstrating. If only we have more of this in our world and not be ruled by material well-being. Thanks for sharing.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Thank you so much awsydney! We do have more of it and it is growing everyday it all begins with just one, ourselves as we make the choice, one at a time we are attaining the higher vibrations of unconditional love. Let your light shine and become one today to share your unconditional love!

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green light 7 years ago from Orange County, CA

i am at a real loss for words.. all i would like to say is that reading this makes one feel some sort of healing from within. great great work as always emohealer!

Keep on spreading love and peace!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

green light,

How wonderful for you to have that inner healing feeling and to share it with me and others. I am so glad you found that experience for yourself within this hub. You help inspire me to continue the work of emotional healing... love, light and peace for you as you continue your journey as well!

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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Your hub made me ponder again in the wee hours of the morning. Hahahah When one reaches the point of understanding unconditional love and being able to experience the beauty of it, life will change for sure. And it will heal us tremendously. I love your inspirational hub as you help people heal with your gift of wisdom and love. :) Blessings to you!

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina Author

Pondering in the wee hours of the morning must be contagious, that is when I write and publish most of my hubs. :)

Thank You for visiting this page and leaving your blessings behind as this was a day I needed to be reminded of this message that was given to me of unconditional love. It is a gift that keeps on giving even to the giver. Thank You so much for your sincere message may we all heal in love together! Love, Light and Blessings to You as well!

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C.S.Alexis 6 years ago from NW Indiana


Being so busy over the past year I have spent little time reading and have much catching up to do. So thankful you posted this in a recent link.

It is amazing how love can set us free. It is ALL ABOUT THE LOVE and life is so much easier to deal with when we learn and understand this truth. Once taught, twice learned. Great share.

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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

My dearest Sue...How sweet is that line:"I give my love freely as it cannot be contained, it is unlimited and unconditional" The is the way the Great Architect shares His/Her love. True love is just there for the taking and once we understand that we begin to truly share it with every human being we encounter along the path. In the end we are but ONE!

Two thumbs up!

warmest greetings and lots and lots of blessings to you, dear Sue.

Your friend,


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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Cs Alexis: Susan, so glad you appreciated the article and that I was inspired to share it at this time when the world speaks so much of love. As each person sees something different when reading the same thing I like what you saw, the freedom....Thank you for sharing your thoughts and response here. Much Love to you....Sue

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Mystique 1957: Al, Thank You for sharing your unconditional love in this unconditional place...this is how The Great Architect and Creator shares and how I share as well and lights go off and the rooms and open spaces become brilliantly lit as we share our love in this open manner. Much Love unconditional and unlimited to you, I want you to feel it in your whole being, for it is real!

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justmesuzanne 6 years ago from Texas

Very challenging and very important and ultimately the only thing that will make a difference! :)

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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina Author

Yes, Suzanne, the only thing that will make a difference!! You summed it up perfectly...Thank You for your contribution to unconditional love =) I Love you Friend!

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zzron 6 years ago from Houston, TX.

This was a really nice subject. A very good example of unconditional love, would be the kind of love you may have between you and your dog or cat. And of course the kind of love between you and God.

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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

Sue: I posted a quote in Facebook,somehwere along the lines, that "love is not a mere sentiment, but a state of awareness", (from Dr.David Hawkin's) I think this is where unconditional love fits in. Love to me is what is in everything, in all of creation and its the human experience that sometimes obscures that light of love that is within. Guess you said that, just doing some pondering of my own out loud. :)

I agree with this "Unleash the waters of your unconditional love. Choose it, let it flow, speak a new language of energy, give to yourself first, then share."

Beutiful hub, and great way to start my day! Thank you! Good to have you back in Hubpages.



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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

This is a virtuous hub, easy to read, but hard to follow. I like to think that I'm capable of giving unconditional love, but when I love, I want to be loved back. Does that make my love conditional? Hmmm, I guess I need to ponder on your thoughts about this topic. Glad to have come around here. Thanks, Friend.

Justsilvie 6 years ago

Excellent Hub! Seems that sometime the hardest people to love unconditionally are those closest to us, our spouse or partner. Maybe because they are in the position to cause us the most pain.

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Fluffy77 5 years ago from Enterprise, OR

Great hub and pictures. You make so much good sense here.

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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Interesting article which i so much enjoyed.

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