What To Do When Things Don't Go Your Way-When Things Get Wrong?

Always thinking and analyzing on the why's and how's is very much helpful when things don't go your way. Handling things with confidence and rationality is something that matters .
Always thinking and analyzing on the why's and how's is very much helpful when things don't go your way. Handling things with confidence and rationality is something that matters . | Source

There are times in the life of every person when things start to move on the wrong unexpected ways. Your life takes many twists and turns and sometimes these turns can make you into an anxious, frustrated, or depressed individual. You start looking at life in a negative way, totally lost, dazed and confused on what to do and how to handle the sudden unexpected developments that leave you worried and full of anxiety.

When you are faced with low times, what should be done? The solution for this is not very difficult to implement. All you are required to do is to give the whole setback a thought and try to change your attitude towards the things by following these very simple actions.

EVALUATE:

Whenever something does not go your way, all you need to do is to take a step back and evaluate where it all went wrong? What exactly is the mistake you have done or whose fault it is in the whole situation? Always remember evaluation is a process that helps you a great deal in clearing out your mind and heart from bad feelings that lead you to negative thinking and you tend to lose the positivity factor in an easy manner.

VENT OUT:

An important thing to remember when things do not look good enough to you is to find a way of expressing your disturbed feelings. You have to vent out in order to stop lingering over the problem. Expressing yourself always helps. You can share whatever bothers you with anyone who is close to you and whom you can trust wholly solely on. Not only this, crying out, shedding few tears over something is also another good way of catharsis. Make sure that whatever way you adopt to utter your feelings should not effect or hurt anyone .Don’t try to show your anger or frustration on anyone or even on yourself. Just take few moments out in a good way to release yourself from all the inhibitions that bother you.

IT IS NOT ONLY YOU:

Always keep this thing in mind that it is not only you in this whole wide world for whom their dreams don’t turn into a reality. There are many people out there who are facing problems and are faced with the unexpected turns in their lives. Realizing that you are not alone is a feeling that fills you up with confidence that if other people are dealing with bad things then you should also show courage to face whatever awful comes your way.

TAKE A BREAK:

Whenever things are down for you, another good thing to do is to take a break from your daily routine. Try to relax yourself .Go for some vacation or even at home try to take few walks. Keeping yourself away from the stressful things is sometimes a great help. The break will help you relax your nerves; you can freshen up and will start to look into the good aspects of a certain bothering situation.

THE OBSTACLES CAN BE OVERCOME:

When something doesn’t feel right to you, you have to change your perception about things. You have to develop the attitude of an optimistic person who always is of the belief that obstacles are not meant to be an end of the road for you. There is always a way out for everything and similar will be the case with whatever odd has happened to you. Obstacles can be overcome and only you have to understand this fact by looking ahead with a different eye of setting things straight.

IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE:

You also have to consider the factor that things could have taken the nastiest turn for you. So when something doesn’t go your way, just try to realize that you are in control of your happiness and with your thinking you can change your thoughts. Be thankful that a certain situation is not as much worse as it could have been. Always keep this reminder in mind that God never puts so much strain on you that you can not handle.

DO YOUR BEST BUT DON’T OVER DO IT:

It is always a great thing to put your best of the efforts in resolving something that has not turned out to be so good. You have to evaluate, analyze, and sort out the problem in the best possible way to resolve a certain situation .However, you also need to relax and not stress or fret over things too much. Do not kind of kill yourself in order to set things straight. Always keep one thing at back of your mind that everything happens for a reason and if something has not gone your way and you are unable to figure out the best solution, then understand there must be some fine reason behind it. Maybe a certain thing was not good enough for you, that is why it didn’t go well.

LEARN THE LESSON:

Last but the most significant of all is to concentrate on the learning points. Think over the lessons learnt from your experience and make a vow or try not to repeat the same mistakes again .Learning from your errors is a very good thing as they serve as your opportunity for your personal growth which may help you evolve in a better and a mature person.


When things don’t go your way, the best thing to do is to avoid jumping to the conclusions and taking everything as the end of the world. Always think and analyze over the why’s and how’s and then move on. No one in life is always ready for whatever bad is thrown their way. You have to handle everything with courage and rationality and move on by keeping the following in mind,

“What’s meant to be will always find a way”

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molometer 4 years ago

Very sound and sensible advice. Sometimes we need to just breathe and step back for a while.

Voted up useful and interesting. SHARING this on social networks.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you molometer for your wonderful comment,votes and sharing :)


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Jlava73 4 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

Hi learner365,

You always have some valuable insight to share on topics that effect us all at some point in life or another. Voted-up!


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sankari.nayagam 4 years ago

I loved the pictures you had selected for the hub! "It could have been worse" is a very valid point and a more sensible way to face a problem! Sharing your thoughts with my followers!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi Jlava73

Thank you very much for your always appreciation and your time for reading my Hubs. It is a good feeling to know that people can learn something from what i write.Thanks again :)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi sankari.nayagam

I am glad that you liked the pictures.Thank you for appreciating and sharing :)


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poowool5 4 years ago from here in my house

Great hub, learner365, love your pen-name -- so true, we are always learning, all the time -- and all the fab pix of penguins :)

I found your hub when I was adding links to my GPS hub (when things go wrong)...I took a similar (though more jokey) angle, maybe you'd like to have a look. We share some sentiments, but you make many great points. It is so important to be able to deal with set-backs in a healthy and positive way. Thanks for the tips. Voted up and useful!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi poowool5...Thank you for your kind comment.I am glad that you liked the Hub and the pictures as well :) Yes it is important to deal with any odd situation that life throws at us with a positive approach otherwise our survival on this earth may become a bit hard with all the negativity in our mind.

I will surely check out your Hub.Thank you for your time and appreciation again :)


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gmaoli 4 years ago from South Carolina

I was impressed with the Hub overall, but what got my attention the most was the bit about doing your best, but don't over do it. Everything happens for a reason, as you say, and just as success does happen for a reason, so do failures. We have to be willing to learn something from both. That's the only way we will be learn how to grow up in our lives...and more importantly how to fully appreciate it.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi gmaoli...thank you for your wonderful comment. Yes it is true everything that happens is also our learning experience.Both good and bad have some strong lessons to teach us.All we need to do is to realize how to take them and what to learn from them.

Thanks for your time and reading the hub :)


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

A great hub with great advise, sometimes we over do ourselves and lay blame when things are not going right not knowing there are limits. Thanks for sharing, voted up and shared as well.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi and thank you dwachira for your appreciation,votes and sharing :)


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learner365 2 years ago Author

I am glad the post has been helpful to you.

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