What attracts you to other people?

In reality life involves pain

Happiness, we all want it, we all crave it, we all strive for it...but what is this elusive thing we are looking for?
Happiness, we all want it, we all crave it, we all strive for it...but what is this elusive thing we are looking for?
A sense of pleasure, gladness or gratification, that doesn't last?
A sense of pleasure, gladness or gratification, that doesn't last?
The harder we pursue pleasurable feelings the more likely we suffer from anxiety and depression.
The harder we pursue pleasurable feelings the more likely we suffer from anxiety and depression.
What does it mean to live a rich, full and meaningful life?
What does it mean to live a rich, full and meaningful life?
Does it mean take action to cherish the things that truly matter deep in our hearts?
Does it mean take action to cherish the things that truly matter deep in our hearts?
Does it mean to move in directions that we consider worthy?
Does it mean to move in directions that we consider worthy?
Does it mean to clarify what we stand for in life and act accordingly?
Does it mean to clarify what we stand for in life and act accordingly?
It is a profound sense of a life well lived and such a life give us the full range of human emotions: pleasure, fear, sadness, anger and pain...
It is a profound sense of a life well lived and such a life give us the full range of human emotions: pleasure, fear, sadness, anger and pain...
As human beings we are all faced with the prospect of getting sick and die, sooner or later we all will loose someone close to our hearts through separation, rejection or death...
As human beings we are all faced with the prospect of getting sick and die, sooner or later we all will loose someone close to our hearts through separation, rejection or death...
We wil all come face-to-face with crisis, disappointment, failure and painful thoughts and feelings will follow us....everywhere...
We wil all come face-to-face with crisis, disappointment, failure and painful thoughts and feelings will follow us....everywhere...
We can't avoid pain, we can learn to handle it much better...
We can't avoid pain, we can learn to handle it much better...
to make room for it, rise above it and create a life worth of living.
to make room for it, rise above it and create a life worth of living.
If you love somebody deeply, you know you will feel pain, there is no way to avoid it and you still open yourself to your feelings and accept the pain as a natural part of love.
If you love somebody deeply, you know you will feel pain, there is no way to avoid it and you still open yourself to your feelings and accept the pain as a natural part of love.
Accept the painful memories, do not fear them, they happened in the past and can no longer hurt you.
Accept the painful memories, do not fear them, they happened in the past and can no longer hurt you.
No one wants to feel pain, everyone feels it. Menancing shapes half glimpsed from the corner of your vision are far more disturbing than the things we see clearly.
No one wants to feel pain, everyone feels it. Menancing shapes half glimpsed from the corner of your vision are far more disturbing than the things we see clearly.
Observe your pain, breathe into it and allow it.
Observe your pain, breathe into it and allow it.
If you are breathing, you are alive. It never stops until the day you die, use it to help you stay connected with life...a breath of fresh air, a deep sigh of relief after a stressful day...
If you are breathing, you are alive. It never stops until the day you die, use it to help you stay connected with life...a breath of fresh air, a deep sigh of relief after a stressful day...
Connect fully with your environment what can you see, hear, touch, taste and smell?Abandon the search for pain free existence, the more you try to avoid the basic fact that all human life involves pain...
Connect fully with your environment what can you see, hear, touch, taste and smell?Abandon the search for pain free existence, the more you try to avoid the basic fact that all human life involves pain...
...the more you struggle with that pain when it arises and thus you suffer even more...accept the pain just like you accept the love that inevitably comes with living...
...the more you struggle with that pain when it arises and thus you suffer even more...accept the pain just like you accept the love that inevitably comes with living...
I am coming home to myself, layer by layer, the painful issues of the past soften and resolve.
I am coming home to myself, layer by layer, the painful issues of the past soften and resolve.
I listen to many stories that are riveting, inspirational and moving. Most people have a more difficult journey that mine has been.
I listen to many stories that are riveting, inspirational and moving. Most people have a more difficult journey that mine has been.
Pain and love,
Pain and love,
not angry pain, not tearful pain, not reproachful, nto desperate...
not angry pain, not tearful pain, not reproachful, nto desperate...
Pain and love...pain and bliss.
Pain and love...pain and bliss.
As in birth as in death.
As in birth as in death.

To David J.R.


When I was a little girl,

Grandmum told me a secret:

"If you really want something,

there will be a way."

Is it angels or the power of positive thinking?

Is it determination to act

or the courage to be guided?

Between these impulses the adventure is born.


The roaring of the ocean never stops

almost everyone is struggling

colours so sharp

hot, fluffy sand

with dry, salty crust on top

the taste of tears in your mouth

the pain just doesn't go away

and you are not alone

this realization comes

when you open your eyes,

your ears and your heart

and you hear other people out.


You stop and ponder,

why should this be?


Sunshine breaking into trilions

of fragments

in the shallow

the power of money,

love and creation

living so high

falling so low

rocks meeting water

sand meeting grass

blue meeting blue on the horizon

human meeting perfection

the perfection of the human mind.


On a damp,

fog-shrouded morning

a paleoanthropologist from Madrid

stands before the entrance to El Sidron

and gingerely lowers himself into the black hole.


An underground river

had hollowed out

a deep vein of sandstone

ten minutes into the cave

he discovers 'the tunnel of bones',

the last nine Neanderthals,

five young adults

two teenagers

a child about eight

and a three year-old toddler.


All showed signs of nutritional stress

in their teeth

not unusual in young Neanderthals

late in their time on Earth.


But a deeper desparation is etched

in their bones,

they were cannibalized

by the first humans.


Whoever ate their flesh

for whatever reason

starvation

or ritual,

within days they died

the ground bellow them

suddenly collapsed

leaving little time for hyenas

to scatter the remains.


The scientist picks up

the mineralized bone

of our closest prehistoric relative

who dominated Eurasia

for 200,000 years

and with the large brains

and enormous strength

seemed equipped to face anything

on Earth,

except those modern human migrants

from Africa,

us.


Why did one kind of human being survive,

and the other disappear?


With each generation

the humans

became increasingly

skilled

at predicting

and avoiding danger,

even now

when the wilderness

was pushed away

by the modern world

our foreheads are wrinkled

by any of a million

and one other

common worries

because our mind

keeps assessing

and judging

almost everything.


We are living

in quick earning

and spending times,

most people deal with their money

the same way

how they deal with their feelings.


The lucky ones

give and receive

graciously

with a hug and a smile.

They waste money

as if not worthy

of holding onto anything

precious.


Others are insatiable,

greedy

for more and more.


And some are as tight

with their purse

as they are around their heart,

the flow of giving and receiving

is awkward

and embarrassing for them.


In the early human times

the tight ones would not survive,

if your group rejects you

it won't be long

before the wolves find you.


Is it why,

so much energy

is spent,

worrying

whether people will like us?

Always looking for ways

to improve ourselves

or putting ourselves down

because we don't measure up.


We are so sophisticated

now

we can dream up

a fantasy of a person

we would like to be

then compare our real self

to that impossible

perfect image.


Think about the ambition

of any Stone Age man,

the more

the better chance of survival,

the more food

keeps him alive

through times of scarcity

the better shelter

protects him from weather

and wild animals

the more children

gives him a chance

that some of them survive...

and our modern mind

continues to look for more:

money, status, love

new car or new house

if you succeed

you are content

for a while

until you want more....


Thus evolution has shaped our minds

that we are almost inevitably

destined to be never satisfied...


The stories of a happy childhood

are all the same,

the parents love each other,

there are children to play with

and there is a bit of nature

to have adventures.

The stories of an injured childhood

are all different,

unique,

tragic

and complicated,

just like most human lives.


When those children

will grow up,

almost half of them

will at some point

be so overwhelmed

by misery

that they seriously contemplate suicide.


With all the professional help,

advice and wordly wisdom

we can not rekindle

that sparkle of the great fire of life...


Love is radiating from every infant,

springtime,

the power of youth,

what will happen to them

at the end of summer?


We live longer than ever before

but with each extra year

we are loosing the hunger

to conquer the world.


Who knows what the future holds,

there is only hope

warm afternoon sun of mid-life

abundance of harvest

joy of sharing....

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writinglover 3 years ago from Lost...In Poetry

Thanks for the time travel. That was cool. Loved the pictures. Good work as always!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Wow, I have just finished it, thanks for being my first reader, my fellow writing lover and all the best:)


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

Wow, A look back in time, we haven't changed that much. Great hub..Enjoyed reading..


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

thank you, always exploring, I have changed this hub few times before it was accepted, so I feel I change heaps (at least at this hub:)


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Tom Koecke 3 years ago from Tacoma, Washington

"The stories of a happy childhood are all the same . . . The stories of an injured childhood are all different."

How profound! Thank you for finding me so that I have the pleasure of finding you! Maybe that's how attraction in the on-line world works.

I have only praise for this magnificent piece!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, Tom, very kind of you, happy to find another fellow hubber who is attracted to my words...yes that's how attraction works in this world of ours:)


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Denmarkguy 3 years ago from Port Townsend

I like this, a lot-- great piece of reflection in life and living... and "what it all means."

It seems that those who grew up with happy childhoods are forever exploring and expanding... while many of those who were injured (myself included) are just trying to find PEACE somewhere, often through quiet and "less."

Good stuff!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Yes, Denmarkguy, I know what are you talking about, I have been there too...thank you for stopping by, my new follower and thank you for your kind fan mail:)


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mckbirdbks 3 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

You decorated this with such interesting pictures - dreams, fantasy, the unknown and unobtainable. The writng stirs the pot deep as if nothing has changed for mankind and perhaps so. Nature still reigns supreme, unconquerable. Interesting piece of writing.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, my fellow hubber from Texas, nice to hear from you and very grateful for your interesting comment, beautiful insight that enriches my story:)...all the best:)


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

Beata, you're an exceptional artist. You capture and share the issues of life so well. ". . . this realization comes when you open your eyes, your ears and your heart and you hear other people out." We can all identify.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, MsDora, the life experiences learnt hard way, we all can relate to that...happy that my experiences are useful for more people than me...always glad to hear from you and all the best:)


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annart 3 years ago from SW England

I find this one your best yet. Not only are the pictures breathtaking and the comments beneath them inspiring but your profound observations are wonderful and so true. There are many things here with which I identify, perhaps that's why I love it so much. Loving life and people shines through, along with all the difficulties that entails. This is a great comment on life from the beginnings of time. Well done indeed! Voted up, awesome and beautiful, and shared.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, my fellow hubber, and yes, you are right, loveing life and people is hard in times but worth all the effort, without that love there would be no purpose in writing for me....this hub is the great example of that:)....B


Sueswan 3 years ago

"Is it why,

so much energy

is spent,

worrying

whether people will like us?

Always looking for ways

to improve ourselves

or putting ourselves down

because we don't measure up."

We are own worse critic.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Very true, Sueswan, very true...thanks for your input and all the best:)...B


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brightforyou 3 years ago from Florida

OMG your photography is amazing! Thanks so much - happy to follow you - can't wait to see more!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

happy you liked it and looking forward to hear from you more:) B


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AMFredenburg 3 years ago from Southwestern New Hampshire

Wow, lots to think about! Thank you for your insights!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

happy you liked it and thank you for stopping by:) B


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Andy McGuire 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

When I read the title, I thought there'd be something about boobs in it, but oh well. LoL

This is very well written and I look forward to reading more.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

ha,ha...sorry to disappoint you, Andy...you should have write your own version, I guess:) Thanks for nice comment anyway:)....B


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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

Wow.... an amazing hub, thought provoking and very illuminating. You've excelled yourself here.

A great piece.


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unknown spy 3 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

The intro just hooked me right from the start. i love it!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thanks my fellow hubbers, it was written with someone special in mind, happy you liked it and all the best:)....B


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doeryroberts 3 years ago from Canada

This a really beautiful Piece of writing , loved it.


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Radical Rog 3 years ago from Plymouth

The pictures here are great and the words reveal a person with an open mind, an individual willing to ask questions. The only way you can come to know the truth is by asking questions. You cannot believe and have faith that something is true because belief and faith are founded on a hollow thought, an empty shell that exists without knowledge. Only when you have come to know can you truly know the truth and you do this by asking the questions those who would have you believe and have faith do not want you to ask and cannot answer themselves.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Beautifully said, Radical Rog, happy to have so well rounded and open minded follower, all the best my fellow hubber and looking forward to hear from you again:)......B


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Just found your message, David J.R....welcome to Hubpages and looking forward to read your own beautiful pieces of writings:)......B


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kellyteam 3 years ago from Michigan

Wow! Beata Stasak this is great and the pictures are beautiful. Your thoughts are deep within this masterpiece. Keep up the good work. Its amazing. Thumbs up, beautiful and a share!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, Kelly for your beautiful comment, this piece talks to so many people, I think the key is that although it talks generally about feelings we all face, it was written from the heart with one person in mind....


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Wendi M 3 years ago from New Hampshire

Beautiful...that's all I can say!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, Vendi, happy you liked it:)


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Monis Mas 3 years ago

I enjoyed your hub very much, and the pictures are beautiful!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you Monis:) ...happy that you stopped by:)


moonfroth 3 years ago

This is the first of your pieces I've had the pleasure to read. Provocative and well-written. Thank you.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, dear fellow hubber for your kind comment, happy it was worth of your time:)


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quicksand 3 years ago

Well done Beata! Great work indeed! However, I would say we are in the best of times and certainly not the worst of times! The spring of hope is the spark that will set ablaze a great future! Over optimistic? Well, I like it that way! Cheers!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Always better to be optimistic, I am there with you, thank you for stopping by and cheers!


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OneShiningMoment 3 years ago from Chicago, IL

This was incredibly thought provoking and was a joy to read. Thank you for this.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, OneShiningMoment, happy I have shined in your life for a second:) All the best...


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the girls 3 years ago from Los Angeles, California

Awesome pictures! Your emotions and life experiences are well expressed - both in words and through the lens :-)


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you 'the girls', happy you liked it, the life shared is the life well lived:)...one would hope so anyway....all the best from Beata


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tiffany delite 3 years ago from united states

thanks for this hub. the pics you have featured are absolutely beautiful and amazing! thanks again...blessings!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

thank you, tiffany, happy you liked it:)


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Dan Barfield 3 years ago from Gloucestershire, England, UK

Great hub! Loved the photos too - really evocative stuff. Voted up :)


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, Dan, it was written with an image of a friend in my head and it is always easier to write for one special person only but make it universal for everyone...it becomes more personal and yet still general enough for like minded people to be able to relate....all the best from B


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

You have shared such beautiful photos, and you have a creative mind indeed. voted up and interesting!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you, my fellow hubber, I just try to think out of the box:)


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WalterPoon 3 years ago from Malaysia

Beata Stasak, how are you doing with your hubs? I see you write mainly poetry, a very challenging and difficult medium to write. Your photos are excellent to promote your hubs in Pinterest.

As you can see, I just put a headshot of myself in my profile a few hours ago. Why do I do that? If you want to have better visibility in Google Search, you need a headshot photo in your Google+ profile (a requirement since mid-2011). Actually, I have written 2 hubs on traffic, one on Pinterest and one on Google+.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you WalterPoon for your friendly advice and stopping by, I write poetry because this is the most comfortable way for me to express myself:) I am not big on promoting myself, just like to connect with like minded people and write when I feel like:) It is just a hobby for me after all:)


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WalterPoon 3 years ago from Malaysia

"Writing is like prostitution. First you do it for love, and then for a few close friends, and then for money." -- Molière (1622-1673)

LMAO.


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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

Very profound, beautiful and thought-provoking.

Thank you for sharing this excellent work. Voting up and sharing.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Ha,ha so far I have three other paid jobs that keep me secure enough, you know WalterPoon there are writers, and there are writers...and I belong to that other category:) If once I have to write, I think it will be for me the time TO STOP:)

Thank you 'tusiness87' I am happy you liked my little piece of writing, it was written for my dear friend and seems to inspire many people, which is always good to know:)


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christianesk 3 years ago from The Global Hamlet

Very interesting perspective on the human desire for acceptance.

This world has been subjected to futility, but thankfully everything beautiful points to its Source, and that is the place I am aiming for.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Good luck and safe journey to reach your place of eternal peace and acceptance, christianesk, we all have to find our own way to get there:)....let me know when you find it:)....B


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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

You raise some interesting contemplations here as you draw from what man was, what he is and what he is becoming. I actually had a migraine before I started to read this but became so engrossed that my migraine has eased off quite a bit. Thank you for this:)


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Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you 'grand old lady' for stopping by and very happy my little writing help you in some way, at least you have your head cleared now and you can keep contemplating...where we are now...thank you for your beautiful comment and all the best:)


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WalterPoon 2 years ago from Malaysia

What attracts you to other people? When my professor first told me that it is just one word, "self-interest", I felt offended. I didn't like the answer, even though I was then 30 years old. But as I grew in the last 30 years, I discovered how ultraprecise he was. He has died since, but this one word lingers on.

We can pretend that what he said is not true, which was what I used to do after hearing it. I wanted to prove him wrong, but truth remains the truth. Point is to acknowledge the truth first as the starting point. Yet, self-interest must still be guided by fairness and compassion for other people... not by greed and hatred.


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Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia Author

Very well thought Walter and very true, your professor was very wise man indeed, but I would call it self-preservation not a self-interest as such, we need to fullfil our needs, wants and inner desirees too in order to survive and to strive physically, mentally or emotionally, and you can't do it alone...you need the other people, the right people around you, don't you think so?

The trick is to sustain a correct balance between receiving and giving....but you can't give back what you haven't received yet, can you?

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