Why are marching band mother's not willing to let new mom's help out with the ba

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   stylezinkposted 12 years ago

   Why are marching band mother's not willing to let new mom's help out with the band?
   
   It's my son's first year in his high school marching band. I've received numerous emails they send out asking for help. I volunteered 3 or 4 times this year and I have to say that will be it, unless something changes. Every time I have went to help out the mom's that have been there in previous years clique together and assign each other tasks while the newbie's stand there, and yes, we all introduced ourselves. They are full of attitude when you ask them for direction and act as if you are inconveniencing them. Why do you suppose that is? Have you had a similar experience with other mom's?

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   trimar7posted 12 years ago

   Unfortunately, this is human nature. People bond with other people and often have trouble accepting change. People also get territorial. Some parents even view it as competitive. They feel if they are more connected with the teachers their children will receive special attention. My advice is to continue showing up. Eventually there will be someone who is more open and will include you. Just remember who you are volunteering for - the children. Keep that as your focus and keep being kind to all.

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   shea duaneposted 12 years ago

   the same thing happened to me when I volunteered to be class mom. there was so much competition. this one's cupcakes are organic; this one's juice is organic and pressed in her own kitchen.... yadda, yadda, yadda. people who are insecure are naturally defensive and letting soemone else in may show that they are not the best at everything. like trimar7 says, be there for the kids... the kids are always great and always accepting. no kid ever turned down my non-organic cupcakes lol   8-)

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   IntimatEvolutionposted 12 years ago

   That has been the same song and dance, which is as old as time itself.  You "newbies" need to group up, stand firm in your ideas and don't let some old fart get in the way of your memories.  Simply band together and push them aside.  If you have to start a freshmen band night at one of your newbies houses to go over fun ideas, pep meetings, and practice- do it.  Slowly start inviting sophomore band students and so on and so forth.  Win the teenagers over.  Keep the menu for the night easy, serve soda and pizza and before long all the band members will be routing for your ideas.  If you want to be apart of it, then figure out a way to do just that.  All be darn if I'd let some petty nonsense get in the way of my memories being a good mom to my son.

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