What are the 10 indicators that parents from lower and lower middle class socioe

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What are the 10 indicators that parents from lower and lower middle class socioeconomic backgrounds
   
   have a more brutal, colder, non-nurturing, and overall harsher attitudes and approaches towards their children than parents from middle, upper middle, and upper socioeconomic backgrounds who are usually more loving, caring, and warmer towards their children?
   
   

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   wychicposted 10 years ago

   Bookmarking this one, I must write a hub . Short answer -- I come from the severe end of poverty. As in, we live in Wyoming and had no heat, we'd sometimes go for days without food, our house was an old trailer that no longer had any insulation, etc. My sister and I were raised with a full awareness of how harsh life can be. It was constantly pounded into our heads that if you can't earn it, you don't deserve it. People are not out there to help you, they're out there to see how they can take advantage of you. Nothing is more important than getting your bills paid and food on the table.
   
   Sadly, in a very depressed area, that meant that my parents worked themselves nearly to death, refused government assistance, and still couldn't gain any traction. It meant that money was the constant "elephant in the room," and they were always stressed and trying to find ways to fit more work into the day. When we played, it was just my sister and I, and it was just to keep us out of the way. Whenever possible, we worked. That's just what you're expected to do.
   
   For people who are better-off financially, the entire "messaging" of childhood is different. The importance is on education, bettering yourself, finding productive ways to be valuable to the world -- even being happy. These things are totally foreign to someone who doesn't know where his or her next meal is coming from.
   
   In short -- it's not that money-poor parents care less, or love less, it's that they're constantly in survival mode. They think that by imparting the world's harshness to their kids, they're helping their kids survive. If you already know you have a good home, food, clothes, etc., then mere survival doesn't even seem to come into play and quality of life can take on a greater importance. This is the fundamental difference in thinking that I bear in mind while raising my kids, because it is a huge factor in keeping the poverty cycle going, or in finally breaking it.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      What you have stated is true.  Each class has its own modus operandi so to speak.  Poorer people have TO SURVIVE and think about ONLY the bare rudiments of survival.  The more socioeconomic affluent classes think & act upon the higher human needs

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      grand old ladyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I look forward to your hub.

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