How To Stop Putting Everyone Else First
66Do you have trouble saying no to others? Do you feel like you have to do everything you are asked, so you don’t make anyone mad at you? Are you tired of feeling like you are a door mat? If you keep putting everyone else before yourself, you are going to end up burned out and worn up way before your time. Here are some tips for putting yourself first for a change.
How often do you put yourself first?
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The first thing you have to do is work on your self-esteem. If you are allowing others to come before yourself in an unhealthy manner, more than likely you suffer from poor self-esteem. You probably feel like they deserve your time and attention more than you do. Or maybe you feel like they are better than you, for whatever reason. These are signs that you need to boost your self-esteem.
Stop using others for your measuring stick
Do you tend to measure yourself against others? And when you do this, do you always seem to feel like you are well below them? These feelings are, again, indicative of low self-esteem. Stop measuring yourself against others. You are a unique individual, and cannot be assessed by others’ accomplishments or endeavors.
Learn something
If you have trouble relating to other people without feeling inferior to them, try asking yourself what you can learn from them. What is it about that person that makes you want to do things for them, or become more like them? If this is something that would make a positive impact in your life, then try emulating that. Be cautious, though, not to try to become just like everyone you meet. You don’t want to be a carbon copy of everyone else—you should be YOU.
Be proud of yourself
The most important thing is to learn how to be proud of yourself. Speak up for yourself. Show off and use your talents as often as you can. There is nobody like you. This world needs you in it. Be proud of who you are.
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LOL! I think women in general have a tougher time with this than men do. I'm sure she feels much more comfortable with you, which is very much a compliment. ;)
Great article. I agree, women have a harder time with putting everyone first, but things can get easier if they follow your steps and also remember that they are #1!
You, by far, are my favorite writer, blogger, hubber, or whatever you may call it.
I am at the lowest point in my life right now.
For months, I'm in this roller coaster ride of joy and sadness. I have been trying to figure out what was wrong in my relationship with my girlfriend. And as I read your articles, I realized, that this is exactly what she has been telling me all these time. That I'm giving her all of ME and not living anything for myself. And this is why she feel so suffocated at times.
She told me so many times that I need to stop making my world revolve around her but I couldn't see that because I thought this is the part of her wanting to break up. All I could see is the "idea" that I'm in love with her not realizing she's concerned for my own well being as well.
Thank you for this insightful and eye-opening article. It is a wake up call indeed.
Marck, I'm so glad you found this article helpful. This is why I write....to help others. You've made my day. :)
jim10 says:
10 months ago
My wife has this problem. She lets everyone else walk all over her. But, of course she doesn't have the problem when it comes to me. I guess I must give her high self esteem when I'm around.