How to Get Out of Depression
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Depression is the great disease of our age, our generation with no war to fight, fighting for their will to live. There comes a time that everybody feels like down in the hole. You lose the will to go out, socialize, even to talk with friends. You can't smile you used to do even smile like before.
The most depressing thing about depression is that you get the feeling of it won't ever go away. There are easy ways of getting out of depression like going to a psychiatrists and getting a prescription for anti -depressants. I've had my experience of a depression and I don't like using drugs. So I decided to get out of depression by natural ways or live with it. (It is better to live with your own depression instead of living in a dream offered by a pill.)
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I started to read about depression. I looked at every source I could find. Information about depression is good in a way that you start to realize that it is a disease like a flu. It can come and it can go away.(hopefully) Also reading other people's experiences helps in a way because you can find people that has gone the same experiences with you and their experiences can enlighten your path. Talking with other people is also very helpful. If you have very good friends you can depend on who can back you up in that fragile moments talk with them. If you don't want to expose your problems that's okay too. You can talk with a professional psychologist. I didn't go to a psychologists but I shared my feelings with a person I didn't know who had some familiar experiences with me. The fact that I didn't know that person and he didn't know me helps a lot to share your feelings truly.
I also tried to work on a method to overcome my depression. (Maybe there is already a method like that) I sat down with a blank paper and started writing down every little problem that bothers my mind. I wrote like a brainstorming exercise, let all the thoughts go on paper. At last I found my self writing about little memories I had when I was a kid and I had forgot (which actually I didn't forget). When I read all the things I have written I realized how little problems get bigger like a snowflake rolling down the hill.
Working with your chemicals: There is a chemical-biological explanation to everything going on within our bodies. Serotonin is a chemical which is synthesized in our brain, that makes our mood go up. The depression results as (or caused from) serotonin level going down in our brain. The anti-depressants actually deal with taking serotonin level higher. Serotonin chemical can actually be synthesized in our brain so we don't need pills to get our moods up actually. The best way to increase your serotonin levels is sports. Please don't under estimate the effect of sports because it increases your serotonin level and makes you feel good. Instead of standing in your home swallowing pills, going outside and running on your own is a way much better way to feel good about your self.
Don't forget that you can overcome depression.
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compu, when you have that depression feeling the worst thing is that you start to hate your best friends and try to stay away from them but actually the only thing that can get you out of this situation is your friends. Making too much pressure on them can lead to negative results but pursuing your friend to spend a night for drinking and cheering up togather can be good. Closing yourself in home and cutting relations will make things worser.
You only really know who your real friends are in times of trouble and after this person became ill due to injury he found out his true friends were actually just long term acquaintances!. He would do anything for them at a drop of a hat when ever they needed help but when the shoe was on the other foot it was a different matter.. He was an orphan at 18 months and has no family so it's hard to have someone close to rely on and trust..
People don't want to know people who are ill and in permanent pain and poor, That's a fact of life. They feel uncomfortable around these kind of people.. Even when you get married the vicar will say something like "do you take this person in sickness and health for richer for poorer!! What he's really saying will you still love him and honour him if they are sick and poor!!
Things are getting worse for him but this guy is has so much pride and will not get help.
Thanks for your advice which i will try to pass on to him. I hope you are feeling A ok these days as i know how much depression can vary so much on the depression scale..
This is a great write up. There are many natural ways of increasing serotonin without resorting to taking pills. I also believe that there is a distinct difference between mental depression and physical depression and antidepressants deal more with depression that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.
Today is Tuesday, i have come to the realization that it would not bother me to spend my whole day in bed. Sleep isn't sleep anymore, it's an escape from reality that i use. I have had this depression for years. I am in college, and am a really stubborn person.. however this Thursday i am seeing a phychiatrist to perhaps give me some sort of pill to escape this nightmare.
The thing that creates my depression is a social anxiety that i have, that hopefully he will be able to help me with aswell. The depression i have is due to lonliness of which is created by my anxiety. I go to the gym and run about 6 miles a day... however none of that helps when i come to my room and sit by myself day in and day out.
It has taken me this long to reach out for help from a doctor, because again, i am very stubborn... I am 21 and have no real family.. was a foster child at around 5 years old. I have no one to go to other than myself...and all this creates this depression.
There really is no point to this message, other than myself reaching out to others who might have gone through the same thing as I.
I hate using pills, but there's nothing else i can do at this point... i'm wasting my valuable years by myself.. and i need to break out of this!
Any input would be nice...
Thanks for reading,
-Justin
Justin,
Reaching out for someone else is a start. If those pills can get your mood up I hope that it will be a good start. You said that you don't have a family but you can always have friends.
Well depression has ruined my life to the point that i lost everything eg;family house car job and nearly my life.I ended up in prison due to misdiagnosis which intern lead to wrong meds.I would rather sit and rot than take pills.I battle everyday as i have for the past four years.i drift from job to job because for a week im the king then for a month i cant even face my myself let alone another person.Im 27 and i have been to hospitals to book in for a while to get some help only to be turned away.This was the case on at least 7 occasions i knew i was going downhill fast i was agressive and deeply depressed and was still denied help.I was seeing a psych but even he said i should be in hospital.Well i ended up in prison for something that happened because i was on wrong meds.The point is i asked for help over and over and over but i just couldnt get it because i dint have enough MONEY.There should be more access to these services for people suffering with deppression.
Personally I had to take some drugs, but I think that the reason #1 for my recovering was that one thing I got sorted out that was eating me out for years. If I had taken that step earlier, maybe I didn't had to go as far as I did with this condition...
Have a nice day everyone!
I know very well what u guys are going through bcz i'm facing the same hell. In fact, it's worse than hell and there seems to be no way to get out of it. it's equally true that nobody wants to befriend a depressed soul for fear of getting bored; the harsh reality is that people just want to have a good time after a hard day's work and depressed people just don't fit in their scheme of things. A good fmily and a bunch of real good friends is actually a privilege not available to eveyone. In fact it's you and you alone who will have to deal with condition; nobody can really help u out except yourself. Excercises do help but ultimately it all boils down to the daily social, fianancial scenario we face daily. The only thing i feel may be of some help is perhaps a daily silent prayer to God, in whatever form, to lift us up out of this mess. I'm planning to do exactly that from now onwards.
Thanks for some of the information. I have been battling depression since my ordeal with an emergency surgery that went wrong and have been depressed because no one can fix the problem. I see a psychologist which is helping me to get all my frustration out and even if he doesn't really give a damn, he sure plays like he is sincere. My family can only take so much whining and crying.
You can check my hub and read my story of what happened. If you have any advice, it would be more than appreciated! Great HUB!
watching television always helped me not become depressed, maybe people should try that. i good show is prisonbreak. maybe even screaming at the world for your depression, just stand on the top of your roof and yell if done that and its helps me.
its a strange kind of feeling, for me depression isnt something that stays on, but actually is like a light switch. when its on you feel bad but after you get into some activity you do not remember it anymore......for at least a small moment of time. but after sometime when you are not doing anything, it comes back to you and you feel even worse.
All this is so true... also, one thing I learnt from my tryst with depression was that one shouldn't keep their rage or sadness inside them. It always helps if you just put on some music and sing very loudly, or go to a pond and throw in some pebbles really strenuously. Am I right?
i overcame depression 4 years ago.i am 38 i find what worked for me was accepting responsibility for me and my actions.i take my b-12 vitamins and omega 3 and i eat a balanced diet and i exercise ,i also quit the blunt smoking and drinking,abusing drugs makes depression 10 times worst.so i keep a sober mind and live my life.
To overcome depression is a tough job especially when you have to make it work all by yourself. Actually this is possible if you have strong and total control of yourself and the surrounding that might get in the way. But not everyone can do this especially when a person is totally down and the feeling gets heavier and heavier. That person might need help of others and a great motivation to put him/her back on the right track. :)
I love your hub. Thumbs up.
feeling so low and confused like being stuck in a sack! just want to come out and enjoy the light. Its a strange comfort to read others feeling the same you feel less alone
Hi
So good reading other peoples expiriences. I have had a depression for half a year now. Mine is a mix of anxiety and depression.I was working abroad when it started, in the second month of the stay. And wih my stubborn ass, I refused to go home. So i forced myself to perform and smile everyday for eight months, haha, that was some tough shit. I feel like hell, but am a little better than I was six months ago. A long the way i took medicines for some months, but then I wanted to make it on my own. The worst thing is the feeling of beeing shut of from "the light" I haaaaate that. And Ive come to a point when I have exepted the feeling of hating myself. Dont know if it is good or bad, and I want to love myself so much, but I just dont have that ability right now. SAt sometimes during this summer season, I felt obsessed by the dark, not becaus I wanted to do bad things, no not at all, god forbid, but just because I felt like "killing" peoples happiness, or light and cheering feelings. That makes me sooooo angry because the last thing I wanted was to do that. And that just made me not want to see anyone. Is there someone else who had that feeling of "taking out the light"?
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO GET OUT OF DEPRESSION STOP USING METHODS OF SELF DESTRUCTION AKA SEX AND START DOING GOOD THINGS AND GOD WILL REWARD YOU WITH THE LIGHT OF LIFE
I got diagnosed with depression/server anxiety disorder and all my phsychiatrist does is give me pills but they havnt really done anything. The excersice was helping but exam time came up and I lost 269 dollars, my wallet, and fell down my basement stairs got pretty hurt. I dont really know what to do im going to start going to the gym again...but I feel like im constantly battling the University im at educationally, socially, and economically. The cost to my parents has added to the guilt and im too afraid to go home this christmas....I just want to feel better I smoked so much weed at university ive forgotten the better person I was :(
Seems to me depression is an "ailment" of technology... we're constantly stressed out and our inner being yearns to go back to basics... perhaps living in the country or something to that effect, instead of being subjected to all the hustle and bustle..
With that being said, your article is poignant and hopefully should help someone in a similar situation...depressed that is.
I have been depressed for 4 years. I tried everything, from not drinking, pychiatrist (twice a week at $250 an hour)..pills, working, not working, shopping, not shopping, relationships, reaching out to friends and on and on. Now, I have stopped trying. I am hoping that it will just take time and I will get better. The harder I tried, the worst I felt afterwards when it didn't work.
I have always been the type of person that thought that you can change anything you want with alot of work. Don't ever give up. I don't know why I am depressed and have no will to live. I wish I could understand. The only thing I have been told by the professionals is that I am chemically imbalance, but when I was on the pills I just was numb. No feeling one way or the other.
I have also depression nd I agree tht the pils do not work at al only as a temporary respite but they numb you to a degree I hae tat feeling so for me tab s are a nono!!!
I call my depression, "suffering in hell." I have no other way to explain it. Actually I don't tell anyone about my depression. I've been suffering for about seven years now. Badly. It's hard to believe some of the things I did. For example, I would get so bad that I'd stay in the house for a whole week. No phone calls. No nothing. Shut myself off from the world. The reason was that I didn't want anyone to hear my voice. Or know I was suffering. I went from Doctor to Doctor. Pill to pill. Councilor to Councilor. Some helped a little. Some actually made me worse. I am divorced now for four years. I keep on going because I have to. I have two children to support. So I have an obligation to my kids and my job to keep the money coming in for them. I try everything I can. Reading, praying. It helps a little. Wintertime is especially difficult. Exercize is one activity that helps tremendously. For me I find that there are culprits that make it so much harder. Some of them are; winter time, the lack of light and activity. Loneliness, Isolation. The pain I feel from the loss of my loved one. The good news is that even though I suffer, if I think of how bad I used to be compared to now, I shiver. Sometimes I wish I could transcend to that person (ME) who was laying on the ground crying in anquish and hug him (ME). I no longer lock myself in the house for weeks at a time. In fact on a rare occasion I may mildly retreat for a day or two. So it's been a long journey, but I learned alot along the way.
My heart goes out to everyone suffering. Directly and indirectly. Stay persistant. It's the only way.
hi i've been depressed for along time now. becos my life has not turned out the way i wanted it too. i know the stuff like the happens to lots of people and everyone gets depressed now and then and then they get over it. but i get depressed and stay that way.i guess i am just not good at dealing with life. i am too ashamed to see a therapist or worse talk to my friends. it's very difficult to say that my life is not working out and i am so depressed. i am afraid that people will think that i am a losser.i have tried exercise but when your depressed you really don't want to exercise. i am so afraid that things are not going to get better for me.
what if you're competely devoid of any kind of emotion? i don't feel anything at all, like nothing matters, no happiness, no sadness, no anger, nothing at all. I know things and people matter but I can't seem to feel that they do. It's as if I am a shell, a robot, with nothing inside. this is not a way to live
Hi, i can undrstand the hell like feeling a person goes through when depressed as i am also int he same hell. It such a sickening feeling, just cant allow u to come out of it or even think other thigns which makes u feel happy. Pills can help as it gives a hope that thinking that ur not feeling well and u r taking medicine for it. Thats it, other than this feeling, u have to help urself to come out of it and it really this part is the most difficult one. U just cant come out of it that easily, but determination to get out of this feeling, and keeping urself busy(try to)is the only way. But what i face is that , that time i can come out of it and lead a normal life for only a few days, as i get bouts of depression, Every few days, i feel that i am depressed again and just cant make through this time. And even when i am writing this, i am feeling depressed, finding it hard to come out of it. But, somehow i ahve to come out of it, either by involving myself in some activities or by taking pills.
DEPRESSION:THE SOUL THIEF,I was depressed from elementary school all the way up til I turned 38.I let depression rob me of so many oppurtunities,so many years out of my life.For example in high school The prettiest and most popular girl in school asked me to be her date to the prom,and I didn't go because I felt like I wasn't good enough to be her date.Another time,When I was 17 I was offered a internship/aprenticeship by a syndicated newspaper cartoonist (my dream has always been to be a succesful catoonist like schultz,and walt disney)but I didn"t jump on that oppurtunity because I thought that the cartoonist was making a mistake in choosing me....because I am not that good.never mind the fact that I was the top artist in my school and I was lined up for a full scholarship to the art institue of Atlanta.Another oppurtunity gone.I have been in so many relationships with some really fine women and always I would feel like "what is she doing with me?"I have trashed so many good relationships on account of "I am not good enough."I have self sabatouged my life behind that feeling.At 38 I had a talk with the man in the mirror and I said "ENOUGH!" I will live my life and never sell my self short again.and that is the point I am at right now.Enjoying my life.Good or bad.And this one thing that I have noticed about depressed people,myself included,they are usually highly intelligent,very creative and usually have A lot of things going for them,but they are blinded by depression and can't really see themselves I say "ENOUGH!"
O.K I had to take a break.Depression has led me on a wild ride in this life of mine.And have done things that I must definitely am ashamed of and I have lost things that I can never get back such as my wife the one woman that i truly loved and truly loved and understood me.I pushed away.you see we never made to the altar we was engaged and while we was engaged I did ever thing in my power to push her away.A month before she was to get married she came to me and asked me COULD SHE GET MARRIED.And I looked her in her eyes and saw the love that she had for me,and I felt the love that I had for her And I told her"go ahead he will be better for you than me."because deep down I didn't feel worthy of being loved."ENOUGH"I battled with alcohol and drugs for almost twenty years.In and out of trouble for ten years only to come out of depression with a criminal record hanging on my back like a ton of bricks.even my "partners in crime"was trying to help me saying things like"why are you doing this? you are not like us."Meaning they did what they did to survive because that was the only way they knew how to put food on their tables.But me I was a high school grad a veteran with a hon. discharge,and two years of college.Why? because I felt that I wasn't smart enough,never mind the fact that I made good grades and was always placed in positions of responsibility,on almost every job or everything that I have been involved in.ENOUGH! at 38 a sat down and examined my life where I've been where I'm going and I decided that Depression is not going to control me or influence my life ever again.Because I am a Man and my MIND may be depressed but my SOUL is not.I will MASTER My MIND,and I will RAISE my EGO And ELIMINATE ALL WEAKNESSES AND THINGS THAT ALTER OR AFFECT MY MIND OR THE CHEMISTRY OF MY BRAIN SO NO MORE DRINKING OR SMOKING WEED this walk this time will be SOBER.it is not easy i started this journey at 34 but i totally committed at 38 I won't sit here and lie and say that I don't feel depressed at times but I don't sit around and sulk like I use to.I keep on pushing.here is some things that work for me.1.no drugs and alcohol,because they affect the mind.and depression is a illness of the mind,so you want to keep your mind as strong and clean as possible.2.take vitamins and eat right.this provides the nourishment for your mind to help it stay chemically balanced.3.dress nice.this is something that makes me feel good about myself.so I try to dress nice every day of the week.4.exercise this keeps your body in great shape,CREATES BRAIN CELLS,AND RELEASES HORMONES THAT GIVE YOU A NATURAL HIGH.5.live.do things even when I am depressed i find that once I go and do something with my time I am no loner depressed.THESE are things that work for me.I really hope that they work for you.LOVE LIFE.LIVE STRONG.WORK HARD.PLAY HARDER.
Depression has been found to having a spiritual origin due to possession by a ghost. This fact is been negalected and thus the total cure is deprived off.
This is the link to my hub where you can have a detailed case study of such a case. Please do go thro and drop in your comments. Also if you find it interesting, do forward it to many more who can get a benifit of this information.
regards
http://hubpages.com/hub/Depression-an-outcome-of-G Dr. Anjesh
I have been depressed for past 15 years. I never come out of it. Depression is my other name. I found the reason in Vedic Astrology. Acording to Vedic astrology moon controls our mind, thoughts, feelings. The posititon of moon is very important at the time ou ones birth. I was unlucky. The moon was in the worst position called as 'pap kartari yoga'. Few astologers have suggested me to wear a pearl in my index finger. I never went to any doctor, I never had any treatment on my depression. I accept it as a god gift. I know my life is in vein. May God help others.
i used to be very active. i always play sports, went to the gym etc. But now i'm so depressed i dun even have energy to exercise!
Glad I found this website. I have been so depressed. It seems like it hit me all at once. Two weeks ago I entered a dark hole mentally and my existence has turn upside down. I am feeling acky, lethargic, worthless, angry, hopeless. I feel lonely and yet I am not. I don't know if it is a result of some chemical imbalance or situational, or maybe a combination. I hear amongst men that are 50 and over, is classic feeling.
I don't know what to it is. I will get out of this whole. Glad to know others are going thru the same and that I can get ideas. Perhaps I will try working out today or something.
i keep sleeping all day and staying up at the nite i also feel low is that depression
I want to note something someone said above, that depressed people are intelligent. That is very true. Another thing someone else noted is that you don't feel bad when you are in the middle of an activity, only during times when you are alone, or evaluating yourself in a social situation, anxiety or negative thoughts. I feel that depressed people are intelligent people who do realize little things that most others do not think twice about. Think about that very talkitive hyper person who says whatever, and has no inhibitions. Yes, they might say off the wall things and get annoying. But at the end of the day.. they don't give a damn what others think of them and they are happy as hell! Oh yea, they may seem weird at first, but then you realize they are interesting, because they are free and spontaneous. Regardless of being different. Lets face it, life is full of influences in the way you should act, what you should say, etc.. especially in America you almost have to put up an act everywhere you go. You just have to snap out of it, and believe it! A lot of things in life can bring you down, because its far from perfect or fair. I feel, that the key to getting out of depression is to say fuck the world, I have been given the gift of life, and i'm gonna live it to the fullest while forfilling my obligations. Simple as that. You cannot let small things bother you or devalue yourself. No one else is better than you, every man is created equal, its the way you think that holds you back. You have to take yourself seriously before others can do the same thing. Take every moment for what it is, and see the light of the moment! OH yea... STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS... trust me I know... drugs lead to too much mood changes... and makes everything worse... alcohol as well.. you just cannot sustain those feelings... if your going to drink... drink occasionally. Have self control.
i am 13 i have depression i get mad i break down and cry i avoid contact with people then crave it i feel nothing is worthwhile so dont do anything about it and ive forgoren how to sleep i cant get my mind ready to drift off i no longer go to school the only thing that keep me happy is reading about other peoples hapines! Im scared
i want to end it all but cant that makes me feel evan worse i hate myself
I'm glad to have come across this post and all the comments. It's really reassuring to know that I'm not the only one that feels this way and that people can be compassionate among strangers because everyone understands what it feels like.
It's incredibly difficult to speak with friends sometimes because they may be more judgemental or completely ignorant to the causes and impact of depression and mental illnesses and simply fear of losing friends because they will judge and be deeply irritated with an individual who is depressed. I'm so afraid of my friends sometimes...because they can give the most terrible advice or simply be cruel. At the end of the day it's up to myself and real friends that will be compassionate and constructive.
I'm finding lots of help from these other posts and simply surrounding myself with positive things and keeping myself busy to realize that the things I do are worthwhile and socializing...distractions mean living life and taming an inner demon.
Schizophrenia and depression run in my family. I've hid from friends, written suicidal poems, cried myself to sleep, hid from friends for a whole week here and there, starved myself, cried endlessly on and off for days and completely underestimated my own self worth. I got really depressed again after I had an acl reconstruction. I couldn't take proper showers, was greasy, couldn't walk, was in pain if I moved too quickly or forcefully...while my usual schedule was to be active and adore sports and especially aggressive sports. Then the worst came I got full body hives (allergic reaction) as a reaction to the stress from the surgery. I was a leper on crutches. People gawked at me and jumped and sat far from me. It lasted a month. I failed my interview in everyway possible because of my physical discomfort and gave up hope on finding employment after graduating and felt like a worthless monster.
The hives have cleared up, but I still get anxious around strangers, cry all the time and attack myself. When i feel upset or sad for no reason, that inner demon preys on that and I'm reminded of how stupid and weak I am for feeling down for no reason.
I have nothing to gain by staying like this and nothing to lose by putting myself out there, so I'm going to join toastmasters, quit my gym, go back to my beloved outdoor sports with friends, be more dedicated to volunteering at the animal shelter, take a few guitar lessons and get over that anxiety by forcing myself to sing, play and live life among my friends and strangers. Oh yea...tell people I need a job because maybe they can help. I can't waste away anymore. Thanks! To everyone, keep your head up, volunteer, stay active...
A major help for me was volunteering with the kittens. They were so helpless and affectionate, they didn't judge me, they needed me and were unbearably cute. I'd be beaming by the time I came home. Yay animal therapy!
I hate the people who are like "All you have to do is exercise and discover new hobbies and do natural happy things. Drugs from doctors are evil and unnatural and only hurt you durr-hurr."
When many with real depression find it nearly impossible to do the simplest tasks like getting out of bed in the morning, putting on clothes, taking a shower, or even taking out the garbage, getting out to exercise is a nearly insurmountable task. Telling us that it's such an easy, effective solution? Seriously?
I'm not refuting the fact that exercise is beneficial. But telling people that all they need to do is exercise and "sports" when these people don't even have the motivation or energy to carry out simple daily tasks? Insulting. They're trivializing a serious problem, or not even understanding it even though they think they do. I'm convinced that these people (like the author) have never experienced real depression.
Medication helps in finding the motivation and energy to enjoy the things we like, such as exercise, hobbies, etc, which opens the road to improvement. When people think the medication provides an instant solution, this is as wrong as the idea that exercise alone provides an instant solution without medication. Medication is not the solution but provides the means to the solution.
Telling people to get out and go running and exercise and throw out their prescription when these people can barely get out of bed in the morning? Such sage advice. Are you a doctor? "B-b-but you just need to find the motivation from within yourself!" Do you know what depression even is?
For those of you who can find the energy/motivation to create and follow an exercise regiment while suffering from depression--congrats, you're one of the most strong-willed people on earth (either that, or you weren't actually suffering from depression at all in the first place). For those of us who don't have the will of a hundred men, we have medication.
Dear Blahblahblah,
In the same way that you are offended about people in this post discounting anti-depressants and the attitude that you should just go outside and take a walk and poof your depression will be cured, I take offense at your comment that those who DO muster up that tiny shred of energy to leave their house and force themselves to take a walk or run probably don't really have depression to begin with. Bullsh*t! We are ALL in this hub because we have depression. There is no need for you to diminish anyone else's symptoms or the way they deal with their illness.
I have been very depressed after I decided to write the most powerfull emotionally letter to my ex girlfriend after finding out that she was dating someone else. I finally concluded after 8 months apart that my life was meaningless without her and that I would comit everything i had to her and offer to marry her. I was rejected as I was one year too late. I cried for 2 weeks solid, I was in utter despair, I wanted to commit suicide. I could not sleep even with strong sleeping tablets, I was agony itself. I spoke to anyone who would listen and paid to see a Councillor which did help. I am normally stable but I was losing my mind. My best friend told me that my mother had loved me and brought me into this world not to throw it away. It gives you insight into other souls pain and to reach out to those who share your world and you need to give of yourself to others.
I am 38 and am currently going through the third major depressive episode I have had in my life. At this point I feel so tired of life and I think of suicide everyday, although I couldn't go through with suicide. I know I will get over this episode, but just everything I think of is negative at the moment and I am so over-sensitive I am hurt and offended by almost everything. I feel I lost control over my life and have let things go over the past few months (friends, social life, hobbies). I go to the gym three times a week and it does give me relief but it doesnt last and I wake up every morning with a terrible feeling of dread about the day ahead. Sleeping is my escape now from the horrible feelings I am going through.
Dear all,
the worst kind of depression is that of a breakup, specially when one is dumped with no reason at all. I can understand exactly how all you out there feel and are gong through. Its really is the most shattering period of ones life. I have been dumped after a year in a relationship. I have never felt this lonely, suicidal all the time..
Bjkard,
I am glad you posted because my depression is similar to yours. I just turned 40 and am going through my 4th bout of depression. Mine are always triggered by a major loss or change. This time it's worse: I had quit my job because i couldn't take it any more. but freelancing meant lower income. In a few months time period, I had to sell my house, broke up with the man I thought I was going to marry and my freelance work disappeared. I am now in a depression that is deeper and has lasted longer (10 months so far) than any I ever had before. I live in a tiny apartment, where I used to have a beautiful house, I have lost hope of having my own family and children, and I don't have the energy or focus to find work, so the financial pressures are building. All this makes the depression worse. I even had to leave my little dog at a friend's house because he is too nervous living in an apartment and barks at EVERY noise out the door.
I have had days where I thought about dying and how to kill myself. I always think about how to do it painlessly and is there a way I could make it look like an accident so my family wouldn't be so hurt.
Then I tear myself away from thost thoughts as they are like a black hole--even blacker than where I am.
With all that is happening, I want to live this life for as long as I am supposed to live it. Even if it's not the life I hoped to have.
So many things people said here--using sleep as an escape, not wanting to leave bed or your apartment, feeling distance from friends and family because 1) you know they can only take so much of your negativity and 2) they stop calling as much for that very reason.
When I think about how alone I feel -- and the fact that, even very kind people don't want to be around someone who is depressed for very long -- makes me feel sick to my stomach.
Sure, we can pay a therapist--but that's only an hour a week -- and it takes money. Your therapist can't come home with you and hold your hand.
I have to say anyone who has a spouse or significant other who is patient and understanding about the depression, is very lucky. Being alone, night after night is hell.
What I can't seem to find is the motivation to do ANYTHING because I have no hope of life being better. I don't want to kill myself, but when people talk of doing things to FEEL better--I guess I don't believe I can, so I think why bother?
Anyway, i'LL STOP NOW.
Thanks to all who have posted. It is some help as I am here alone, to see that, at least in the wider world, I am not alone.
I have suffered from depression in the past and know the negative effect it has on the individual. I am happy to say that articles, books and exercises related to this condition helped me greatly. In return, I reach out to youths and try to help them out of it. But severe cases are referred to highly trained professionals. It is all about expression. A person who rarely communicates tends to get depressed very often. The trick is to snap out of it as quickly as you can. The more you let yourself swim in it, the more you are unable to get back on your feet refreshed.
Your hub, bloggerdollar, is indeed recommended. I say this because, when people find themselves in a situation, they think it is the worst case ever. But coming together to discuss problems is a step.
I am in pain, people seem to not understand me...or just dont like me. Its actually hard to figure out. This is what causes my depression. I am the type that reaches out to everyone, trying to help, befriend, and be there in need. I sometimes think I'm trying too hard. I have not turned off my phone, but I'm about to test the theory that no-one will call me or email if I don't call them. I think the only people I can trust count is my family. I really dont think I have any true friends, just aquaintences. I have a degree, good career and good start in life. I moved to a city where I have no family, about 3 years ago. My motivation in life is achieving all my goals in life, 600k home, 100k+ autos, and a loving family (reverse order). I tried making friends and am an active soccer player. Its true that sports take out depression, but when you go home, all by yourself, you feel like youre back where you've started. Back to that test...I know in my heart that all my 30+ whatever amount "friends" that have my number will no contact me if I don't do it first. Thats the frustration I am feeling. Its been this way all my life. When I do have a stable gf, depression goes away, but I dont want a gf just to feel better, then to know shes not right for me. I'm sick...in and out of depression like a light switch. I've scared my parents before with suicide, even though I cannot do it, because of my love and faith for God. This sounds like it doesnt make any sense...do you all remember my first sentence?
i m a 27 years old guy. I am suffering from depression for last 6 years. i took anti depressants for one year but then i read about the side effects caused by them and stopped it. but without it, the life seems to be like hell. I am regularly taking about 6 miles walk and an hour for table tannis.Still i feel my life like a living hell. what should i do?
its a strange, interseting and sometimes unreal feeling for me, i have always been a happy person, goodlooking, very high IQ, and voted most funny when i was in school, but after years it slowly dies i got less excited about life it just diddnt seem things where worth while anymore, people ask me out to do stuff and the first thing that comes to mind is " why its the same shit and i dont find it fun anymore" i have lost interest in so many things and its strange because i use to be full of life, and well know for being a crazy funny goodlooking chick, now i look back on my last few years and think, what have i done to myself i have sold myself short so many times and let people in my life that where not worthy, some times i look back and feel sick when i think about the things i have done and said ect, it is crazy because this has just hit me out of nowhere its like i woke up and BANG GUILT!!!!!! thats all i have is guilt for everything ive done i have always had to do things the hard way, never listened ect, and now im paying for it, why cant i be normal, and the more i talk to people about my regrets the worst it get cause they say" why would you do that and your crazy when at the time i diddnt know and better, my spirit has died my hope and faith is gone and my will to live is running out fast!
I always keep my emotions to myself. I have social anxiety. I can't even hang out with my friends anymore. I want to but it's like this thing is holding me back. I get depressed for no reason at all. I could go to sleep feeling fine, and then the next morning I don't even want to get out of bed. It feels like I have no purpose in life. I don't want to take pills to feel better. I exercise quite often but it doesn't seem to help. I feel like I can't be around anyone anymore. I don't want to bring them down too.
interesting to read all those suffering from depression,
i have been suffering from it for eight months nowandall i can say is its HELL....and the feeling is horrible, that i wana run away from it...the more i try to do that, the more it gets worse
then i get irrational fears and weird thoughts
any idea how do i get out of this???
I am a man, 48, living alone. Since a few weeks I am on a dangerous slope again, sliding into a depression. A few years ago I was in a depression for a year or two. I am quite fearful of getting into that same spot again. Today I have taken a day off of my work, but actually I could not get out of bed this morning, feeling quite depressed and exhausted. I have already taken 5 days off in total whilst I don't want to have a free day, but actually I am depressed. Last week I have called in sick a whole week, thinking, let me be at home for one week, things will be better. But I am not really feeling much better. Especially in the morning I have a heavy curtain in front of my eyes and in social situations I feel less worth than others.
The couse of my depression lies in two things. 1. Not having a partner to meet my needs. 2. Not having work that I like. But the degree in whether I like my work or not, depends on my mood. In depressive mood I don't like it and even get appauled by it. I know, I just have to look and find a nice life-companion. Things will look different then. But it is far from easy to meet nice women in my country. There is a lot to say about depression and how to get out of it. A lot of advice in this hub works. But when you are alone you have to initiate everything yourself. No one talks to you, no one stimulates you. I find this very hard. But I have to take action, otherwise I will be sliding down even further. To everyone, hang in there and good luck. It is a temporary situation, NOT permanent.
Hello Everyone and thanks for sharing your stories. I find courage in reading and hopefully we all will get over this ugly situation called depression.
A few years ago, I had a major depression. I self diagnosed myself with a major illness and felt the world was over for me. I was so depressed. But when I got definite medical test results and realized I was not ill after all, my depression gradually disappeared.
Now, I have a nice job, but can't seem I am able to keep any job for a significant amount of time. This makes me so depressed. My last job I was for only two months. This is not good. I get quite scared when I realize people sometimes work at the same workplace doing the same job for 20, 30, 50 years... How do they do it? Anyway, long story short, after I failed at my last job, I fell into depression. I am depressed for over two months now and can't seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have lost confidence in myself and feel guilt and worthlessness, and when I remember how carefree I was during the last 5 years, I get even more depressed and sad... Why can't I go back to that? How long will this my depression last?
While I am able to get out of bed in the morning, put on clothes, go to work, etc, I have lost most of my energy it seems and running like a car on the last drop of fuel. I sometimes wish I can drop dead, have a heart attack or any other illness and die soon, as I cannot commit suicide because of my religious beliefs and have to wait until sweet death comes all by itself and relieves me, or better yet, I will get out of this depression and live carefree again, as I tasted the feeling before and it was a sweet life... It no longer is...
I m 21yr gal.. regular gum goin..still cnt gt over the feelin of depression... i face constant fear of losing my dear ones.. I m losing my professional interest.. I used to be ambitious years ago..today i feel like locking my self in pain and cry my heart out lying shattered on floor.. I so much feel like ending mysyelf rather than living fear of losing my loved ones.. Nobody can understand..so i m afraid to convince them to tell my part.
I have suffered from Major Depression over the last eight months - it started to affect me virtually overnight starting with panic attacks as soon as I woke up in the morning. It is the most debilitating illness I have ever experienced and the effects should not be underestimated.
I am currently receiving counselling and have been taking citalopram for the last couple of weeks. I am starting to feel my 'old self' again however I have the occassional bad day. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel - I hope that this post shows that with help you can beat this illness - As I think that I am now on the road to recovery.
Hi All! I feel your pain, There's nothing like the crap we are dealing with and when you're in this Hell it's so hard to find your way out. I'm 58 and this is the second time on this ride and I'd give anything to be off it. ( For you people out there that have had this as a major part of your life, I have nothing but admiration for you ) The first time I went through this is when someone I loved decided it wasn't mutual an moved away. I found a book " Feeling Good the new Mood Therapy" and I think it really helped me get out of the funk I was in, but this time this Hell came on out of the blue. I'm retired have all my toys, house, etc. and a nice pension. I have my health ( sort of ) , a few friends and no reason I can think of to feel so terrible, but now that I'm in this black hole I'm really scared because I have nothing but time and I can't sleep 24/7 although I would if I could. My few friends are there, but unless you've done some time in this Hole it's really hard for them to understand that it takes every bit of strength you have just to move. Nothing sounds enjoyable. My sleeping pattern is a joke, I've no interest in food, so my stomach is starting to give me another reason for bad sleep. I'm doing the same stuff I've always done, but now I'm sitting here trying to figure out how I enjoyed any of it ( Which I did ) but now it looks like a really sucky tomorrow and I wish there a place where you could check in and out ( permentley ) without the hassle of a friend or a love one finding a mess. We put animals down when they're sick or hurting, but we are out of luck until our we run out of money.I feel bad about whining but reading the letters above has been the only thing that makes me feel I'm not the only one going through this stuff. The thought of going to a counselor or shrink and giving those big bucks up doesn't help. I guess I'm just going to do my best to move through this, I wish myself and all those above and the ones that are suffering all alone a lot of luck. Thank You for letting me vent. Take Care All
iv recently started a course of antidepressants at 20. my depression started with social anxiety at school when i was 15. its taken me five years to get help because i didnt understand and when i did i understand i was embarrassed. i feel i cant justify my depression becasue i am an educated,attractive woman, have popular friends, dont come from broken home, dont drink or take drugs and have good prosepects yet all i can focus on are the parts of me that arent good enough. my depression really spiralled when i lost 2 close friends in tragic accident, suffered two miscarriages and my partner left me. i hid my feelings from everyone and as a result isolated myself. i felt unappreciated at work, constantly analyzed myself and how others percieved me. i thought i was ugly and i didnt hold my morals as highly and as a result i done things im ashamed of which made me feel worse coz i knew that that wasnt my character. id wake up in the morning gutted that id have to face the day and couldnt wait until i came home to crawl back in to bed and sleep. deciding that i needed help was good and im on a low dosage but im also taking steps to get myself out of this rut that iv so long taken solice and comfort in. depression can be comfortable. im making more of an effort to see my friends and truly enjoy their company. iv applied to uni and hope im well enough to deal with the pressure of it although im no longer gna expect too much from myself. iv found the key is to take baby steps and trace the root of my depression. suffering so young is hard coz i cant remember being truly happy but im optimistic that i can be one day once iv over come low self esteem and depresion. depression affects every aspect of life and i hope to one day be able to live without that cloud. this is the first time iv admitted to anyone, even family and friends how i feel so thanks for letting my put it out there. its helped. take care.
Hi everyone. What a relief to read that others suffer from this terrible 'burden' as much as I do. I too it would seem, have a lot going for me - a good job, loyal boyfriend and family - basically no reason to complain, yet I am paralysed by anxiety/depression which has taken over my life on and off for more than a decade. This is the third time I have lapsed into this horrible downward spiral - the first I now realise was when I was in my early teens which I mistook as inadequacy/inability to fit in, the second hit me a good few years later, funnily enough when I thought I was finally on the right track. I always felt that I wasnt 'quite right' but never realised what I was suffering with - even the second time, I just shut down. Slept for days on end, refused to go to work, cook, clean, socialise. Just cut myself off from the world. I went on a high dose of antidepressants which numbed the pain but felt embarrassed that I was taking these so stopped. I dont know at what point exatcly but from somewhere, I found the strength to get myself right and slowly I became more outgoing -to the extent where people at work actually admitted that I had 'changed for the better'. However, for the past four mohnths I have been sinking again which finally came to a head a couple of days ago when I just lost it, became hysterical and couldn't face the day ahead. Realising that I need to get help straight away, I took myself to the docs and poured my heart out. Luckily my GP was really understanding and advised me to take a few weeks off work and take a low dose of meds to try and calm down. I am now trying to get my head around this thing as I now realise that it is an illness and nothing to be ashamed of. I truly believe that the only people who can understand what you are going through are those who have lived through the hell themselves. I wish everyone the best and hope you find the strenght to overcome this - I know from my own experience that it can go away, you just have to be prepared to deal with it should it return!
compu-smart says:
2 years ago
Very encouraging hub. I know someone who has suffered from depression due to illness and now they have so much physical pain which obviously leads to mental pain so sports is out of the question. They refuse to see a psychiatrist and take anti depressants because like you do not like taking pills, and they feel embarrassed about having this illness..They have turned there phone off and disconnected there doorbell and don't see or speak to anyone for months. it's eating him up.. I wish i knew how I could help him. He used to be such a happy go lucky, healthy, sociable, person and now is entirely the opposite.!