Jokes and Joking Around - NOT!

Why some people don’t seem to be able to take a joke: The serious side of Joking around... But everyone loves a good joke, right?

Well, in my opinion, a good joke depends on a few things like...

• Who is telling the joke?
• Where is the joke being told?
• And what is the intent of the joke?

Am I suggesting that to ‘tell’ a joke, has a motive? Absolutely. What kinds of jokes do we tell?

• Joke about subjective things, that make everyone laugh.
• Jokes about ourselves.
• Jokes about other people.

Lets keep this simple. This should narrow down the basic element “about” Jokes and the telling of Jokes. Are you surprised to find out that jokes have purpose? Well, they do.

A few in the crowd have figured this secret about jokes and purpose out; and they have been quite successful in their lives and how they use “jokes” to navigate their world.

I think we need to accept the FACT, that not everybody likes a joke and should NOT therefore feel uncomfortable with the joke. Most, that just don’t like the joke and find no humor in them... are most likely those that are the ‘brunt’ of someone Else’s “joke”. Somehow, this is not funny and when everyone in the room is not laughing together - something is not right?

Some Jokes are not funny... even though they are supposed to be. Let me explain... Have you ever known someone, who in the name of just “joking around’, has a way of making others in the room feel bad... as they sit there laughing and excusing themselves -- in the name of the “joke”?

Interesting phenomenon this is, and that you might notice the next time this happens it happens... Watch how everyone else in the room also laughs with the perpetrator? Why? Because... jokes are supposed to be FUNNY! In order to be part of the laugh... we are obliged to join in the laughter. After all, jokes are funny.

Problem is... what if it is not funny, to ONE person in the room? But hey - everyone is laughing because of how it was said. But what was actually being said in the “name” of joking is not always funny - when subversively - it was more than likely using another person - to bounce the ball off of to get the laugh.

Do you recognize this scenario? Because some people do see this, especially IF you happen to be the one, that the “ball” has just hit and bounced off!

“They just don’t know how to take a joke”! Ignore them. They have no sense of humor".

The next time you meet up with a clown, who just happens to be a “bully” in the name of a “joke”. Please don’t let them off the hook.

This is the serious side of joking around, that must not be allowed to be passed off as okay. It is a called sarcasm by some - and of course “always” served - tongue and cheek.

This type of passive aggressive behavior is absolutely no joke. It is wrong and abusive and too often in our society found tolerable.

I love a great laugh, just about more than anything I can think of... When was the last time that you had one of those truly aching belly laughs - the kind that made you cry.... and even had your sides and stomach hurting? Oh, it felt so good. You were exhausted, but in such a good way - when you finally calmed down and dried your tears.

Now that was great therapy. Most often, when we experience the positive side of “joking” around - it is “with” others and about something that we can “all” in the room relate too - together! Nothing like laughing at ourselves... together - with everyone else.

Lets not abuse any longer - other human-beings, in the name of a joke.

Because that is just not funny!

Write-On!