5 Ways To Apologize
90
Ways to Apologize
Do you know how to apologize properly? Have you ever been completely dissatisfied by an apology offered to you? There is more than one way to apologize. A simple I’m sorry may not always be the ideal way to communicate your regret.
Dr. Gary Chapman explains this problem and offers a solution in his new book The Five Languages of Apology. According to Chapman, we all have different requirements in an apology, and learning to speak the apology languages will help you to sincerely communicate in your most important relationships.
When I first spotted this book on the shelf, I couldn’t help but think, I don’t need that! If anyone knows how to apologize, it’s me. I was kind of right. This seems to be my area of expertise. I am already multilingual when it comes to the art of apology.
So I bought it for my husband.
5 Ways to Apologize
Here are the 5 Languages, as outlined by Dr. Gary Chapman:
- Expressing Regret: I’m sorry
- Accepting Responsibility: I was wrong
- Making Restitution: What can I do to make it right?
- Genuinely Repenting: I’ll try not to do it again.
- Requesting Forgiveness: Will you please forgive me?
Ways to Apologize: The Five Apology Languages
Can I be sure that my apology will be accepted?
You see, it is one of things that really irks me about people. They just don’t do it right. If everyone practiced apologizing properly, the world would surely be a better place. Now call me a perfectionist if you’d like, but you may feel the need to apologize for it later. If you are going to bite the bullet and say you’re sorry to someone you love because you were truly wrong, you need to own it. You need to accept the responsibility.
This brings me to the biggest apology mistake:
"I am sorry I said your tush looks big in those pants, but…"
Anytime you add the but, you shift the responsibility from yourself to the other person. The but is usually followed by something like “I just had to be honest” or “you drove me to it” or “I couldn’t help myself.” That, my friends, is not an apology. You may possibly be forgiven, but you will not see any restoration in the relationship. Restoring love and trust in a relationship takes genuine effort. An inability to apologize properly can have long lasting effects on a marriage or relationship.
I didn’t really buy it for my husband.
I read it and learned a lot about myself. Now I clearly understand why I don’t feel like sorry is enough. I am high maintenance when it comes to apologies. You need to give me at least three or four of the five languages, well done. Then I can quickly forgive.
Then of course, there is the problem of throwing apologies around far too frequently and without good reason. This is where I get into trouble, I’m sorry to say. What is the problem with that? It’s like crying wolf. If you do it too much, your sincerity will be questioned.
And then there are those of us who cannot, no matter how hard we try, muster up the strength to say those two little words at all.
Ways To Apologize: The Five Languages
|
The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in all Your Relationships
Price: $3.33
List Price: $14.99 |
When Your Apology Is Not Welcome
How To Recognize A Sincere Apology
I know what you are thinking, but before you email this off to your significant other to point out how badly they need to learn how to apologize, wait. Finish reading. Watch the videos. Maybe you can learn a thing or two about yourself. Maybe you could benefit and learn a few new ways to apologize too.
Think about the definition of repentance. It basically means “ I have changed my mind about this.” The point is to communicate that effectively in an apology. The words are not completely universal. One person may feel that I’m sorry is completely adequate. Another may need to hear Will you please forgive me? or I’ll make it up to you or I won’t do it again.
So what does this perfectionist want in an apology? Some thing like this:
"Amy, my beautiful, thin woman, I am so truly sorry .You were right and I was wrong (as usual). I never should have worn my AC /DC concert t-shirt that is 20-years-old and 2 sizes too small to your high school reunion. Please forgive me. I have seen my mistake and will never do it again. I promise to wear a nice polo shirt from now on and preserve your reputation for good decent taste. I will make it up to you this Saturday by taking the kids for the day. Here is a gift certificate for a day at the spa.”
Yes, in my dreams. For the record: my husband does put that shirt on now and then, but he has never really worn it out.
Why Do We Need Apologies? Do We Really Need So Many Ways to Apologize?
When you have been wronged by someone you love, some one you have trusted, someone who is supposed to love you or claims to respect you, something within you begins to cry out for reconciliation. Without it your relationship and the bond you share will be broken. The relationship may go on, but it will be only a shadow of what it was; a shadow of what it could or should be.
Keep in mind that apologizing is all about doing it for someone else. It is about letting them know you have remorse. Oh, and they know. They always know if you are sincere. Don’t you recognize a fake, forced apology when you hear one? How does that make you feel about the other person? You know from experience that fake is not an effective way to apologize. It only makes the situation worse.
More Hubs About Relationships
- 10 Little Ways To Show Your Husband You Care
This hub is a response to a question asked by a reader in 10 Little Ways To Show Your Wife You Care. He asked if I let my husband relax after a long day at work, or helped him out in any way. This forced me... - 16 months ago
- 10 Little Ways To Show Your Wife You Care
Everyone likes to feel appreciated, and hard working women are no exception. When was the last time you did something sweet for the woman you love? If you canât remember, then it has been too long. This... - 16 months ago
- The Power of Words
Written or spoken, words are continuously propelling us through life. They lift us up, drag us down, wound us deeply or heal our hearts. Words have the power to break confidences, build life long alliances or... - 15 months ago
|
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
Price: $4.70
List Price: $14.99 |
|
Making Love: The Chapman Guide to Making Sex an Act of Love (Marriage Saver)
Price: $5.46
List Price: $9.99 |
|
Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing (Chapman Guides)
Price: $5.48
List Price: $9.99 |
PrintShare it! — Rate it: up down [flag this hub]
Comments
This is a good hub and I do agree with Steph about how many apologies are not as sincere as they should be. I only want someone to apologize when I am hurt if they really mean it, and not just because they think a few words will make me feel better.
Amy,
I completely agree that an apology is absolutely a necessary step in the repentance process. Learning how to apologize correctly is imperative to any relationship we are to engage in. Apologies in marriage are especially important, as oft times we as the offender cannot take responsibility as the cause of the hurt, and sometimes it is because we are hurt ourselves. The Languages of Apology is good council for us to follow if we want to have increased love in our lives, don't you think?
Amy
Thank you for sharing. I have read a lot of Dr Chapman books. I always believed apology can be done so many ways and it is the most humbling experience a human can go through. It is very personal. Thank you very much for providing great hub!
Love for you to be my fan!
Tatyana Gann
Hi Amy you know it does suck when you cant get a real im sorry but I am a master to this simply because when Im sorry I never say it unless I really am sorry which is alot lol but when you mean it and I mean when you mean it to me that's pretty convincing and there really shouldn't be and art to tellin that your sorry when your not when im wrong I let them know but you wouldn't believe how many people cant do this my wife for one hahaha so she shows it hey good enough for me.
A sincere apology always works in my book, but you are right about the ones with a "but" attached. The 5 languages of apology spell it out perfectly. There are many ways to apologize, but only one way to forgive. I think that for me, the most important thing after accepting an apology is not holding a grudge and letting the whole thing go. I'm sorry can't work if forgiveness isn't forthcoming. Thanks for another good one, Amy.
What a great topic for an article. How to apologize, really is a multi-step process in order for a true apology to be effective. Of course, that is if we truly are sorry and hope to not ever repeat that which hurt or offended another person. Not that this is always possible, but how do we know when a person has really really apologized for something that was hurtful?
Words are only as good as the actions that follow those words. When a person apologizes for a wrong which they have committed, true repentance means a change in actions. This change is what needs to be seen and felt by someone who has need of an apology.
When we apologize just for the sake of peace or whatever, and really don't believe, nor are really willing to accept, other than our words - that what we have done was all that bad, then most likely our apology will not be complete, and the issue will return.
If we desire to truly apologize for something we have done, then we must understand just how important it is, that we not only say "I'm sorry", but that our actions follow-up to complete a true show of remorse.
Also, it is my belief - that there is never an apology given, without also the process of forgiveness going hand in hand. Repentance and forgiveness are equal partners in order for a relationship to flourish. This, must come from both individuals for a complete healing.
Great Hub:-)
tDMg
LdsNana-AskMormon
Hi Steph, I agree, most of the apologies we hear these days are lacking sincerity. "I'm sorry you feel that way" is not an apology at all, yet so many people use that phrase.
I have been corrected by my darling husband. The t-shirt is not AC/DC. It is an Iron Maiden concert shirt. How could I confuse the two?!?
SweetiePie, I absolutely feel the same way! I don't want someone to say anything that they don't mean, especially if they don't understand how they have hurt me. It is meaningless and makes me feel worse.
Hi Diana, yes, the Languages of Apology is excellent advice, as well as Dr. Chapman's other bestselling book The Five Love Languages. Learning to develop and keep the bonds of love strong in all of our relationships should be top priority!
Tatyana, I though I was your fan! I will fix that now. :)
Dear Amy, if we would have only used the sincere apology many more times in our lives, many our problems wouldn't have been our problems any more. Thank you very much for this wonderful hub about 5 ways to apologize. All videos are very short, yet so powerful and well presented.
Hi Oberbrekling, apologies are the source of much frustration, I think. Thanks for commenting. :)
Thank you Robie! Yes, being able to forgive is so important. Without an apology it is hard, but not impossible. Sometimes we have to forgive anyway, for our own benefit.
Thank you, Kathryn, for your insightful comment. It is true there is more to reconciliation than an apoplogy. It does go hand-in-hand with forgiveness. :)
Hi Ervin, I had not thought of looking back at how life woud be different if apologies had been made when neccessary! Wow. So much pain could have been avoided. That is great motivation to apologize properly in the future! Thanks for the new perspective. :)
I think I would like your husband - my wardrobe has a few classic clothes from bygone eras hidden away for nostalgic moments lol
You would like him! He is the kind of guy everyone likes. He is holding on to his heavy metal from the 80's with no apologies. We have Star Trek and Star Wars ornaments on our Christmas Tree too. :)
I have soooooo much practice at apologizing that Dr. Chapman could have just called me up for his research.
Good hub as usual. My only addition is that I think it is okay and even necessary to apologize to our kids when we screw up. It is also a valuable teaching moment to apologize to someone, especially a spouse in front of a child. It models many good practices for them.
I didn't say it was easy, I just think it is valuable.
Thanks for another good hub. NEIL
My wife has taught me the lesson about not using "but" along with an apology, and I'm coming around...
.
.
.
"but" I still slip every once in a while ;-)
Dear Amy,
Your article is right on. When a person apologizes it diffuses the argument or issue immediately. I like a clean slate everyday communicating with everyone, especially business clients. Thanks again!
very good!! and you know I think the constant o i'm sorry people say for nothing is so annoying....but i'm a sucker for a heartfelt apology. I'm in their corner and eager to forgive most of the time.
such valuable information amy....thank you!
LoL! Very good Hub.
Neil and Joel, you guys made me laugh! Sounds like you both are getting first class training in this. :)
Neil, I agree that apologizing to or in front of your children when you make a mistake is very valuable. It restores their trust in you and teaches them how to apologize genuinely.
Hi Judy, I like a clean slate every day too. I think people underestimate the power of an apology in the business world. So many problems could be avoided by simply apologizing.
I am a sucker for a heartfelt apology too, Marisue. People could get away with a lot around me if they knew... oh wait...they already do! Thank you for reading. :)
Thank you Googlecashmoney, glad you liked it.
I love this hub! This so true sayit if you mean it if not don't bother. Great Hub
Very good advice. Too often in an effort to protect our own ego, we simply cannot (or will not) admit that we were wrong. This is when the "I'm sorry, but .." excuses are used.
If we could just learn to take responsibility for our actions and to admit when we are wrong, quit trying to be right all the time, as you said, the world would be much better place to live.
nice advice. I guess the key about winning is not about beating down opponents but get what you want.
Thanks Debby, I am glad you like it!
Hi John, you are right our egos get in the way all too often. It is hard to take responsibility sometimes, especially when it means admitting that we caused someone we love pain. Apologizing isn't always a quick fix, but it is the first step towards healing. Thanks, as always, for your thoughtful comment.
Thanks Mike. Hurting another person to "win" is not really a victory at all.
Nice hub! Thanks for the input
hey...
readin everythin ,everything seemed perfect.. i too believe in true apologizing,but ii wanna ask u one thing... i dont no if its a good thing or a bad but i aologize too often ,at times evn on da cost of my self respect.!i dont no watz more imp in life... ONES SELF RESPECT OR APOLOGY!
WAITIN 4 YOUR REPLY
Apologies can go a long way, if done right! Dont apologize unless you really mean it. And if you mean it then you should take the advice from this hub.
Great Hub. Apologies are sooo hard to do. Mainly because they should be meaningful, heartfelt with no buts. We have rule in our house, we never go to bed without kissing goodnight and saying I love you. Love is never having to say you are sorry...but sometimes you have to!
HI Samta, I agree with Rcat's advice. Don't apologize if you don't mean it, and you shouldn't have to apologize for something that was not your fault. Apologizing too much is a problem because it can make you seem insincere.
Thanks rkat. :)
Sixtyorso, you are right, apologies are hard to do and many people are really uncomfortable with apologizing. Taking responsibility is key, as well as keeping in mind that oyu are doingit for the other person. I love your goodnight rule!
“I’m sorry, but…” is an absolute no-no. Either you are truly sorry for what you have said or done, regardless the circumstances, or you’re not.
As far as the languages are concerned: to me there’s only one language, the language of the heart.
Apologies (at least sincere ones) are in short supply these days. Everywhere you turn, in the media, at work, at your kids' school - Gosh, even here at HubPages, you'll see people making mistakes but not owning up to it. Trust is founded on people accepting responsibility for wrongdoing. If we can't even get to that first step, then the entire basis for the relationship may be shattered. I really enjoyed reading this Hub.
Hi Anata, I agree completely! All of the ways to apologize have to come from the heart to be really be heard on the receiving end.
Thank you, New Day, I am glad you enjoyed this. Everyone, it seems, tries to brush off the responsibility on to someone else, or claim it is beyond their control in some way.
Thanks to both of you for your comments. :)
I think a heartfelt apology is essential to forgiveness. When you have been wronged, you need to know that the person who wronged you is truly sorry for it. If they aren't how can the relationship continue? You don't trust that person anymore.
There is someone in my life who I REALLY want to forgive, but I can't because they can't, don't won't? Apologize. When this is the situation I believe the only thing you can do is live your life without that person.
Very good hub amy jane ...I find myself needing this information at this time in my life. I have reunited with my X and I was not sure I wanted this. It is all about this subject. We seem to keep slipping back into the same issues ...You know the deal ...first time shame on you and then the next time shame on me. Maybe this book could help to get it right.
My best to you!
Perfect! I just has a discussion about 'apoloigizing' with my significant other. It's the sincerity that is always missing when the apoloigizing occurs. I'm trying to teach this to my son and believe me, it's hard! Thanks for this!
Some very good points. Next time I'll know how to give the perfect apology. Thanks.
Hi ArticleCK, I agree, true regret needs to be expressed in an apology and I think that is exactly what is left out all too often. Yes, sometimes we have to move on if we don't get the apology we need, but I do think sometimes we need to forgive anyway, for our own peace. Leaving anger to grow within us is not a good thing either. Thanks for reading. :)
gjcody, I think it is so easy to fall into old patterns. It takes true commitment to make changes in our lives and learn how to apologize and forgive. I wish you the best in restoring your relationship and I hope this was a help to you.
Thank you for sharing it is something all of us should great article !!!!
I think the key is to look at the matter from your own perspective. What I mean is that if you apologize because you think or expect that the other person wants that or feels comforted you’re already on the wrong track. You should apologize because YOU feel you have done something wrong or made a mistake.
Hi Nickel, I agree that teaching sincerity to a child can be very challenging! I am right there with you. :)
Karen and Aevans, thank you for reading and commenting.
Hi Anata, yes, I would not recommend that anyone pretend to be sincere. I think it is very obvious to most people when you are trying to apologize, but really aren't feeling remorse. If you aren't sorry, you shouldn't fake it. That is more harmful to the relationship, in my opinion.
This is a beautiful hub to reflect on. Owning up to our mistakes and sincerely apologizing for it can make a huge difference in our relationships. :)
Thanks so much, Michelle. I think it is difficult to maintain relationships long term if we are not willing to own our mistakes and ask for forgiveness. It is really in our own best interests too! Thanks for reading and commenting. :)
Hi Amy, nice hub. Especially, I liked the not-using-but point :)
Thank you weblog! That is one of my favorite points too.
Hi amyjane I just wanted to share this with you and your readers about an apology that I just made to a fellow hubbist now remember Ive been in constructio for 20 years anyway this was a sorry from the heart and now they are my fan as well as I am theres plz. take a lookhttp://hubpages.com/hub/So-You-Want-To-Hire-A-Cont
wow... I've just learnt so much about apologizing! I never realized before the real meaning of the different ways of apologizing. Thanks for sharing this, a good and sincere apology said on time can save a relationship!
Oberbreckling, thank you for sharing that! That was awesome that you were able to go back and apologize with such sincerity after getting so angry. I applaud you for that! Many people would have simply walked away and not taken the time to reconsider the other person's point of view. Apologies truly can build a bridge to a friendship.
Thanks Princessa, I am so glad you enjoyed this! A true apology spoken from the heart certainly can save a relationship. :)
Amy, you did a great job on this hub. I think no matter how sincere we think we are in apologies there is always room for improvement. I have never read The Five Languages of Apology but I have read the Five love languages by the same author, so now I've read your hub I wlll have to make reading this book a priority.
I loved this. I'm very sticky about the apologies I recieve, too. If it's not sincere, I'll usually forgive, but I'm still quite hurt. When I was a teenager, I stopped apologizing if I didn't truly feel sorry. It was a rather over-the-top response to my little sister's accusation of insincere apologies.
However, it didn't work. Although I only apologized, and apologized nicely with no caveats, when I felt honestly bad for what I had said/done, my sister still accused me of being insincere. It was really quite irritating.
One should always accept their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. As acceptance is a sign of humility. Amy a Great hub.
Great hub! I find that since I got married, I am doing 10x more apologizing than I did as a single dude. Lots of good tips and advice.
Thanks Steve, if you liked the 5 Love Languages, you will definitely enjoy this book. Dr. Chapman is insightful, as always! There is always something more to learn when it comes relationships. :)
That One Girl, Yes, some people may not accept even the most sincere apology because they want an excuse to stay mad. It's sad really, that they would rather hold on to their hurt than forgive. Not to say that forgiveness is easy, but it is neccessary if we want to move on. Thank you for reading and commenting. :)
The Cynosure, thank you! Accepting responsibility is so important, I think, because without it there is little hope of change. If we can't own up to our mistakes, how can we change our future actions?
Thanks Shuey, marriage will test your communication skills in a whole new way. Best of luck in your new adventure. :)
What a new and good topic! We all need to realize the importance of those words. So many people do not use words like thank you, excuse me, and I am sorry.
I had a hard time with that one myself when I was younger but someone pointed it out to me and I noticed it. It took a long time to correct it but it sure did make a big difference in my relationships when I did.
We all need to hear those words when someone has hurt us in some way!
Thank you Sandilyn. this is an interesting topic to discuss because most people just take it for granted, thinking they know the best and only way to do it. Looking at the "languages of apology" helps us to understand our own needs and the needs of those around us. Thanks for commenting! :)
That short and quickly uttered word "but" actually ruins the whole attempt for apology. Sounds simple when read, but has already become an internal habit of me :-(
Very profound and, regretfully, true-to-life thoughts, Amy. Thanks for sharing!
You're welcome, Charlemont. That "but" can be tough to get rid of. I think it becomes a habit. Breaking that habit will be worth the effort for those you are apologizing to! :)
Regrettably so I am far to cynical and facetious to ever appologize. But I would like to appologize for any offense that might of been taken when I wore my 20 year old AC/DC shirt 2 sizes to small for my mid-drift during my reading of this hub.
(it's almost scarey how Amy knows what I am wearing)
I will throw it out immediatly and replace it with my much more in style 13 year old KISS muslce shirt.
Oh no! Not a KISS t-shirt! My husband has one of those too. Big problem!
Thanks for stopping in to make me laugh. :)
Amy Jane, I do, most sincerely apologize for not reading this hub sooner. Isn't the AC/DC shirt just part of a man's boyish charm? I must admit that I would never wear that shirt. Mine is a Deep Purple shirt from 1986. Can I keep wearing it if I apologize each time?
Hi rmr, I think if you keep apologizing and no one is deeply offended (and the shirt covers your belly adequately) you could keep wearing your souvenir shirt. You are right, there is a boyish charm to it. Honestly, if I need a good laugh my husband will put it on and catch me off guard. It always kills me. I just can't help laughing at him! So if you don't mind the giggles...by all means! I am glad you finally got around to reading this (I bet you thought it was all serious). Now I know that there are many men out there torturing us women with their old t-shirts!
if only i can get my wife to read this.. LOL - i dont think she was ever taught how, when or why to apologize!
Yes, sometimes people don't learn this as a child and it really effects their relationships long term. Also keep in mind that it is unlikely that her parents apologized to her / or eachother when she was growing up, so in a way it is simply that she is not familiar with the benefits of apologizing.
Great article, thanks. For me, saying I'm sorry, or you are sorry is just the first step. If I don't see a change in behavior then it means little. We are what we do, what we say, how we act and react. Words are the property of all, while actions are the depth of who we are. Tana
Love this one. It's hard to apologize sometimes, but I have to if I feel it's needed because it bothers me not to free myself of the guilt and the other person needs to hear it.
It sounds sad, but maybe it would be helpful to put the five factors in bullets so they're easier to read and think about :) I like the addition of the definition of repentance in here too; it really get the point across.
Hi Tana, thank you for reading and sharing your insights on apologizing and creating change. I agree!
Flutterbug, so glad you like it! Apologizing and be forgiven is an important step in learning to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we have made.
Thank you, Glasvisage, I think many people forget what the word repentance means! It is one of those that get thrown around to much in the wrong ways.
Amy, thank you for the article, it came really handy to me since I had to do an apologize to someone I deeply love, when I was trying to figure what to say, came to surf the web and found the article, God has mistery ways to give us messages, lol, it helped me a lot to try to do it right, but mostly, helped me to understand I shouldn't let my self step out of the line, thank you, and next time you have to clean windows or wax the car remember old t shirts provide smooth rags to do it, hahaha.
Hi Maria, thank you so much for reading. I am so glad to hear that you found this helpful. lol, I will remember that about the shirts! My windows are looking a little hazy. :)
your presentation is simply awesome... well-written, well-researched, and well-organized.... it really made me stop and check on myself. thank you. you have educated and empowered me. hats off...
Thanks so much Dayzeebee! Apologizing is my specialty. These skills are very useful for me and I am you enjoyed learning about them. :)
wew nice hub..
but sometimes somehow we feel so hard to say "sorry"
Hi koncling, I agree, it can be so hard to apologize, especially if the person you owe that apology to is not gracious about recieving it. Sometimes you just have to do it anyway. :)
I am going to make this hub required reading for my 12 year old. Thanks for this insightful. pertinent hub on a subject everyone struggles with from time to time, including myself... :-)
Thank you, Stay at Home Dad, I am trying to teach this to my 8-year-old, and she is starting to get it, so good luck with your 12 year-old! I agree, we all struggle with apologizing at some point. :)
thank you amy , for this valuable piece of information. i was very poor in those 5 languages so far.(i think ), now i am genuinely repenting.i will be thankful to you.
You're welcome, nisanth. Thank you for reading and comenting. I think that learning to apologize is essential to our relationships.
Sorry is very usual word and often doesn't satisfy when we are really hurt by someones act.
Hi Topstuff, I agree. "Sorry" is rarely enough for me!
Wow! I totally agree with you. BTW, the blame-shifting, (that all too consistent, but,) in an apology <really irks me!> ... guys... you're not really apologizing at all when you're adding that one <tiny> word in! (And girls, too.) I never realized what an art there is to apologizing, it is something I do all too naturally.
Hi Nicole, I do it so naturally too! This book really clarified for me why I have trouble with the way other people attempt to apologize. I am so often unsatisfied! I forgive anyway, but it just isn't as easy.
That was a great hub, very informative.
Thanks torino70! :)
saying sorry is also is an art, which people very rarely possess . Nice hub. loved it.
Thanks adeshwar, it is indeed an art. Glad you liked it. :)
Hi Cat, yes, I think that is the most common cop-out in apologizing. Saying "I'm sorry you are upset" is not an apology at all. Thanks for reading. :)
Where did that come from????
Hi Torino - I just got rid of that strange comment...weird!
If a person says I'm sorry and then continues to go on and on about what happened, it wasn't a sincere apology. The actions following an apology and the body language speak volumes as to whether it was sincere or not. I can always tell. Good hub. I wish more people would pay attention to things like this.
Hi market solution, I agree, body language also plays a big role in offering an apology. It makes things fairly clear if there is any question of sincerity. I'm glad you enjoed this. Thanks for adding your opinion!
Hi Amy. Nice hub! Apologizing or accepting an apology really makes a heart lighter and brings warm feeling. :) Great information.
Interesting hub. Some people have a hard time forgiving, no matter how well the apology is performed. They just want to hold a grudge for spite. I think it also depends on the severity of the offense. If you have damaged trust so severly, you will be hard pressed to be easily forgiven and even if you are forgiven you may not get that trust back.
Hi Beth, Thanks so much! An apology does lighten the heart!
pcdriverupdate, you are right, for some people forgiving is more difficult than apologizing. Being able to forgive lightens the heart as well, even if it doesn't include "forgetting" the offense. Thanks for reading and commenting.
reaaly nice piece of information...thanks
You're welcome, blogit! Thanks for reading.
Great hub! It is so hard to apologize, and even harder to do it the right way -- thanks for teaching us how!
You're very welcome, funwithtrains! I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading. :)
Just wanna let you know that i had a lot of fun just reading your post. I thoroughly enjoyed it :)
Thank you childcen! Glad to hear you enjoyed this. :)
amy jane,
Good article. We all goof up now and then and owning up to our blunders is a good thing. You're right though; too many apologies is like crying wolf!
Madison
Hi Madison, I know from experience that apologizing too often isn't a good thing. It leads people to question your sincerity. Thanks for reading!
Nice tips for Apologizing.
Thank you!
wow what a great hub! thanks for the tips on how to apologise with sincerity.
You are so right. I know I'm not the best at apologizing. So I need that book. As does everyone else, of course. Thanks for the lead.
Amy- I agree if we apologize with out being defensive and also make sure that we don't ever repeat the same mistake again then it would send the message that the apology was sincere in the first place. Great hub.
Great Hub Amy. If we could all learn to do what we learn it would be a much nicer world.
Thank you all for the comments. I'm so glad you found this apology advice helpful!
Great Hub!
Thanks Highway Star!
hi amy...great hub...i have enjoyed reading it...its really good to apologise for your mistake that will make you relax and also the person to whom you are saying sorry.and thanx for adding some more imotion in this sorry word...i am sure it will work.thanx anyway....have a look for this one...i am sure you will like it....
http://hubpages.com/hub/Worlds-most-costliest-phon
thanx
Thanks Britney, I'm glad you liked this. I will take a look at your hub too. :)
Hi Amy,
Great Hub! I absolutely love discovering (profound knowledge) something you can immediately apply to improve the quality of your life! This is what your Hub on
5 Ways To Apologize offers-quick to the point information that can greatly improve your relationships. Become a fan of mine and get your message out to everyone!
Take Care,
Jim
Thanks so much Jim! I think a proper apology is easy to give once you understand how to do it. And it is so simple. :)
Hi Amy, lovely hub. Sometimes just by saying sorry, lots of problems do get resolved, ofcourse it should be sincere.
Thanks Jayb23. Apologizing seems so simple, yet many people have trouble with it! It can resolve so many issues in our lives if we just learn to recognize when we are wrong. It opens the door for forgiveness.
stephhicks68 says:
13 months ago
LOL - the AC/DC T-Shirt is definitely an offense that demands an apology! But in all seriousness, Amy, I find that so often these days, saying "sorry" lacks many of the 5 factors you outlined above. In fact, public apologies these days usually sound more like "I'm sorry you feel that way," instead of "I'm sorry I said or did something to hurt or offend you." No one wants to take any responsibility any longer. That should all change if only they would read this Hub.