Will I Date a Lesbian?

When the Hubmob topic turned to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Issues, I couldn’t help but recall my first time encounter with a lesbian.

This is a true story.

During my younger years, I confessed that I was in the pursuit of finding the right person to walk down the aisle with and to love and cherish until we both turn old and gray. Somehow, situations in funny and strange ways would come up. Like when I was waiting in an eye doctor’s clinic, a father (who was with her daughter) suddenly talked to me. In that short conversation, he had already offered me his nephew who was single. He was matchmaking me?! I found myself grinning widely. This was a stranger and here he was offering me his nephew. He was serious. In fact, his nephew did show up in our preschool but unfortunately there were no sparks.

And of course being the only girl in the family I was expected to marry someday. So I no longer found it unusual when I was matched, received invitations, got text messages asking if we could be friends, go on a blind date and so on.

One day, my girl cousin was animatedly telling me about a cruise for singles that was offered in itzamatch.com. She said that there was a flyer attached to her credit card bill and she wanted to find out what it was all about. Hmmm, it sounded fun – cruise for singles! Anyhow, she informed me a few hours after that she had already signed up for itzamatch.com. “Why don’t you sign up too? Maybe if you would be interested then we can go together?”

I logged in to itzamatch.com and just filled up my name and the required personal information. I also read about the cruise but I think it was expensive or something and we ended up not going. There were one or two girls who befriended me in the beginning and one even asked for my number. She had mentioned that she was into selling properties and since our preschool was on the look out for rented places, I gave her my number.

A few weeks later, I got a text message from someone. This perosn got my number from the girl who befriended me at itzamatch. His name was Charles and he asked if it was okay if we could be friends. As I said, since I was used to receiving text messages already, I just replied politely.

Charles seemed okay and then he asked if he could meet me personally. Since I am basically a cautious person and I am not into meeting complete strangers on a blind date (unless referred by a friend who knows them personally), I decided to tell him that I was singing in the music ministry and if he wanted he could join the prayer gathering and he could come up and say hello.

Charles said yes.

The music ministry group was preparing on the backstage when one of our sisters in the community approached me and said someone was looking for me. I assume it was Charles. So I went out and there he was.

But Charles was not a he. Charles was a she!

I was too shocked to say anything much. But I recalled I was able to say hello and glad she could come and attend our prayer gathering. And I told her to please find a seat and to enjoy the talk as well as the singing. “Okay, thanks.” She said.

That was it.

Charles was a lesbian. It was my very first encounter with a lesbian who wanted to date me. She sent me a text message after saying how nice a person I was and how she enjoyed the prayer gathering. She also asked if we could meet up somewhere. So I told her I was so sorry for the misunderstanding and thanked her for making the effort to show up. And how I really thought she was a guy. And I hope she understood that I had to decline.

That incident made me really wonder. So I began to recall and remembered itzamatch.com. So I visited their website and lo and behold, in the profile page, I had failed to see and answer this question.

I am a woman looking for a …. The default answer was woman!

I was laughing at myself so hard. No wonder I was receiving email and messages from the women.

Just a friendly reminder: To avoid future mix ups, be sure to fill up the personal information completely, including what you are looking for!