Will I Date a Lesbian?
76When the Hubmob topic turned to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Issues, I couldn’t help but recall my first time encounter with a lesbian.
This is a true story.
During my younger years, I confessed that I was in the pursuit of finding the right person to walk down the aisle with and to love and cherish until we both turn old and gray. Somehow, situations in funny and strange ways would come up. Like when I was waiting in an eye doctor’s clinic, a father (who was with her daughter) suddenly talked to me. In that short conversation, he had already offered me his nephew who was single. He was matchmaking me?! I found myself grinning widely. This was a stranger and here he was offering me his nephew. He was serious. In fact, his nephew did show up in our preschool but unfortunately there were no sparks.
And of course being the only girl in the family I was expected to marry someday. So I no longer found it unusual when I was matched, received invitations, got text messages asking if we could be friends, go on a blind date and so on.
One day, my girl cousin was animatedly telling me about a cruise for singles that was offered in itzamatch.com. She said that there was a flyer attached to her credit card bill and she wanted to find out what it was all about. Hmmm, it sounded fun – cruise for singles! Anyhow, she informed me a few hours after that she had already signed up for itzamatch.com. “Why don’t you sign up too? Maybe if you would be interested then we can go together?”
I logged in to itzamatch.com and just filled up my name and the required personal information. I also read about the cruise but I think it was expensive or something and we ended up not going. There were one or two girls who befriended me in the beginning and one even asked for my number. She had mentioned that she was into selling properties and since our preschool was on the look out for rented places, I gave her my number.
A few weeks later, I got a text message from someone. This perosn got my number from the girl who befriended me at itzamatch. His name was Charles and he asked if it was okay if we could be friends. As I said, since I was used to receiving text messages already, I just replied politely.
Charles seemed okay and then he asked if he could meet me personally. Since I am basically a cautious person and I am not into meeting complete strangers on a blind date (unless referred by a friend who knows them personally), I decided to tell him that I was singing in the music ministry and if he wanted he could join the prayer gathering and he could come up and say hello.
Charles said yes.
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The music ministry group was preparing on the backstage when one of our sisters in the community approached me and said someone was looking for me. I assume it was Charles. So I went out and there he was.
But Charles was not a he. Charles was a she!
I was too shocked to say anything much. But I recalled I was able to say hello and glad she could come and attend our prayer gathering. And I told her to please find a seat and to enjoy the talk as well as the singing. “Okay, thanks.” She said.
That was it.
Charles was a lesbian. It was my very first encounter with a lesbian who wanted to date me. She sent me a text message after saying how nice a person I was and how she enjoyed the prayer gathering. She also asked if we could meet up somewhere. So I told her I was so sorry for the misunderstanding and thanked her for making the effort to show up. And how I really thought she was a guy. And I hope she understood that I had to decline.
That incident made me really wonder. So I began to recall and remembered itzamatch.com. So I visited their website and lo and behold, in the profile page, I had failed to see and answer this question.
I am a woman looking for a …. The default answer was woman!
I was laughing at myself so hard. No wonder I was receiving email and messages from the women.
Just a friendly reminder: To avoid future mix ups, be sure to fill up the personal information completely, including what you are looking for!
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Hahahaha VioletSun's comment in your hub "Let's be Gay!" made me really laugh! Thank you for feeling gay with me dayzeebee! LOL Blessings be upon you too. Much love and light... :-)
Oh how you handle situations well and with dignity, that was cool!
dori
LOL, next time, do some talking other than texting. I know how you must of felt when you found out that Charles was a girl?! I remember telling the drummer guy who was about to enter the ladies restroom at church that the boys restroom was that way to save himself from embarassment. He turned around and angerily told me, "I'M A GIRL!!!"
I turned stone cold and told the minister about it. They were just as shocked as I was too!?
:) That was kinda cute and I believe Charles might be grinning somewhere out there too over the misunderstanding! I heard from a Filipino friend that trying to matchmake friends is very very common there and kinda fun too!
LOL!!!! No wooooonder, Daisy said you and I have the innocence in common, LOL!!! I had to chuckle at your comments too. Thanks for being you! :)
This is a funny story, Michelle. How surprised you must have been! You handled it with a lot of grace and compassion, though.
Hi dori, I confess I am very much naive when it comes to dating esp. coming from a very conservative family. I'm glad too that turned out okay. :-)
Hi mayhmong, I will remember that next time someone wants to date me. LOL
Hi Kate, do you know, it's also a Chinese tradition. LOL
Hi VioletSun, hahahaha I love you for being proud to be gay! It is wonderful to connect with you. Dayzeebee is laughing so hard at both of us. Can you hear her laughter? :-)
Michelle: Let me listen..... yup, I may not be able to hear her laughter but can feel it through the miles. LOL!!!! :)
I have a good memory, and do remember thinking to myself, why I was getting quizzical looks, when all I was saying is I was proud to be happy! LOL!
This is a very funny story. I'm glad that you chose a safe location with people around to meet, otherwise it would have been even more awkward for you both.
Hi Shirley, I was very surprised. But it wasn't Charles fault. I didn't fill up the form properly. LOL :-)
Ha, ha, ha, ha....Michelle, this was funny.
When I was exploring one dating page, I refused circa 400 guys, so they started to connect me with women..After that, I finally closed my profile. Felt really uncomftable...with the deepest respect to the choices of others, it is not mine (at least not in this life, he, he).
Poor Charles... Maybe she will also learn the lesson to use female name...
Great Hub, as always.
Hahaha, that is really hilarious. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing great humour!
The interesting things that can happen from a typo or missing a blank on an online application. You handled that so eloquently.
Your article along with everyone elses is succeeding in making this subject matter no longer sensitive, amazing what an open mind and a keyboard can create.
VioletSun, I can just imagine! You are so adorable. hahaha :-)
Herald Daily, you are so right. It would have been really awkward. :-)
Tatjana, you refused 400 guys? LOL the female name, oh yes, that would have helped. :-)
I wish a Lesbian would have asked me out when I was single. Living in LA, I have got my fair share of gay dudes asking me out for cocktails.
I don't do cocktails. I drink beer.
I would have thought the same as you. It's seems charles was playing a bit coy too, because 99.9% of the time charles would be a man.
Regards
Ha ha maybe you became so excited that you overlooked one of the most important thing to fill up. That was really funny! Btw tnx for the link. =)
Hi Melody, thanks for dropping by to read this hub :-)
Hi emohealer, that was said so beautifully. Thank you so much! :-)
Hi goldentoad, what a pity! LOL They missed out on the goldentoad fun! :-)
Hi rb, yes Charles for me was a man's name too! Regards. :-)
Hi Charia -- Sol! :-) I really didn't see that part and missed filling it out. LOL You are most welcome!
Cute article. I have been approached by lesbians before, too. But it is too funny how that happened to you! I am scared of those dating websites after the experience I had with my daughter's father!
oops, not sure why it duplicated
Not meaning to draw all this attention to myself here OMG!
Hello advisor, hahaha it's okay. Sometimes the comment box does go crazy. LOL Thanks for reading this hub though and all the comments so I approved all of them. :-) You got me curious...why what happened with your daughter's father?
So glad for emails telling us when our favorites post a new hub. I'm still smiling after reading this one! I can only imagine your surprise finding out Charles was a woman. When I married and first moved to the big "city" from a very small, remote country town, I was approached and asked out by a lesbian. I went home and told my husband I wanted to move back to the country! With him, of course! We're still here, in the city, 31 years later. Thanks for a very entertaining hub.
Thanks for another interesting hub, Michelle. You handled the situation with tact and grace, I thought. Very amusing story. Ya just never know, do you?
Delightful story, Michelle, and a great example of exercising kindness while being honest.
I just went out to itzamatch.com to see how they gather personal info, and I can see how I could have made that mistake, too! I wonder if Charles wasn't limiting her own possibilities by using that name. If a profile has a man's name, yet also says it's a woman looking for women, potential dates just might think there's a fake or troll on board and not venture even a "hello". Poor Charles. I surely hope her parents didn't really name her that. :)
Oh how funny Rip. Were I single and young I would be after you for sure.
Hi DoodleLyn, I was shocked because I never expected it! LOL Wow, you've been married for 31 years already? That is truly special. :-) Thanks for coming over and reading this one.
Hi RedElf, yes you never know...life does bring us interesting and funny experiences which makes me look back and well...made me smile at myself! :-)
Hi Sally, it's wonderful to hear from you once again. I don't know if she was named like that. I know of a lesbian who deliberately changed her name because it was her preference. I think she didn't do that to mislead me. After all, in my profile, I had written I was looking for a woman. Silly me. Now I'm really more careful. LOL
Hi ralwus-CC! Now that would have been something! Hahaha
Indeed a funny slice of life hub there Ripplemaker ! But you are a doll and I am sure you will find your sweetheart soon . I gotta admit that Is the first time I have ever heard of a woman named Charles . Reminds me of that Johnny Cash song " A Boy Named Sue " .
I have to come back and see everyone's else reaction to this!
How funny. Sounds like you handled it beautifully and respectfully....no wonder she thought you were a good catch. (I've never heard of a girl named Charlie either.)
Lol! That's so funny! You certainly handled the situation with class and style!
Hi tony, awww that is sweet of you. Thanks for having a laugh with me. "A Boy Named Sue" ... I should listen to that song. LOL
Hi may, that makes the two of us! Hahaha Thanks for revisiting. Have you ever had a similar experience? :-)
Hi Cindy, looking back I was also amazed that I was responding as if it was an everyday occurence even if I was astonished that Charles was a she! I guess I also didn't want her to be embarrassed. :-)
Hi Christoph, I did laugh so hard at myself when I discovered what I did. Thanks for dropping by :-)
This story is too funny Michelle. I'm glad you decided to write a hub about it and share your experience. That must have been a very awkward situation. Like every one else above said, you handled it so well. ;)
Great hub, Michelle ... a delicate and potentially embarrassing situation you got yourself into, and then handled it so well. And, now you have narrated it in such an amusing manner!
Somehow, one doesn't think any less of a woman who might have such a tendency. After all I appreciate the beauty in a pretty woman. How can one blame someone else, of whichever gender, to also appreciate and like what I do.
But strangely enough, I - and I think other straight men - can never fathom how guys get attracted to each other! Sure we might keep a straight face and even have a pleasant conversation in a social setting, but I'd never be able to be friendly to a gay man. I'd mistrust him and think him a bit weird.
Hi sis dottie, it was a short awkward situation for me LOL and I'm so glad I didn't offend Charles for my mistake. Glad to see you here :-)
Hi Jaspal, I guess there are things that can never be explained. :-) Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts.
Ripplemaker, I saw that one coming as I was reading the story, but if I'd have been in your posistion, I wouldn't have! That is SO funny! I have several friends who are lesbians, and have even gone on trips with them (other straight girls were there, too), but my husband goes ballistic everytime. I have no idea what he's so worried about.
That's a trip. You're a good writer, I think I'll become a fan.
Just for the record I would be willing to date a lesbian . But I think Susan would take a peice of pipe to my kneecaps !
rofl! what a story! Thank goodness you thought to check! I mean think of the heartache you would have kept causing. lol. Oh my goodness. Thanks for sharing ripplemaker.
My defination of a Lesbian - A waste of 2 people, great funny story though ; )
Hi Laughing Mom, It's no wonder Dayzeebee said I'm so naive at times and wouldn't know what hit me! Hmmm I wonder why your husband goes ballistics? LOL Maybe you've been eyeing some girls and he caught you doing it? Hehehe
Hi Manmoth, welcome aboard. Thanks for thinking of being my fan. :-)
Tony! Ouch! LOL
Hi Frieda, sometimes we do the craziest things and truly get surprise along the way. I had to check! My mind was wondering how it happened. LOL :-)
HI BC! Glad to see you! Hope all is well with you! :-)
So.. I take it the answer to your title question is "No!" LOL. Funny story and you really handled the situation well. So calm and cool -- go ahead and have a seat and enjoy the music, CHARLES! OMG, I would have died!
I did wonder when you mentioned the online dating site if it was specifically for gays. But I'm assuming that if it was, you would have noticed right off and not filled in your profile!
The other day I got what looked to be a fabulous offer in my inbox. It was from a cruise company. The price was right (they are giving cruises away these days) and I clicked to read more. Turned out to be a gay singles cruise! Not sure where they got my email address. Maybe if I send it to you you can forward it to Charles:-)!!!
Hi Mighty Mom, when Charles left my side, I remember running to my friends who were seated already and said, "Charles is a girl! Charles is a girl! What have I done?" I was too shocked I guess. LOL Itzamatch.com was not a dating site for gays. That I am sure. Haha When I clicked the "looking for a man" thing, soon I had emails from the men. But it has been a long time I've visited that site. As for charles, I no longer know where she is. I don't think she still would want to talk to me either. :-) I wish her all the best though and hope she finds her love.
Very funny, and a very simple mistake (I suppose). :-)
BUT, Tatjana's reply was even funnier, "Poor Charles... Maybe she will also learn the lesson to use female name..." LOL
Good stuff!
Hi dave, yes tatjana is wise LOL :-)
ROFL Ripplemaker, oh I can just picture the look on your face when you found out, especially you as you are such a sweet and a giving person. Lol thanks for sharing that .xo
Hi Michelle -
Nice hub, very funny! Reminds me of an experience I had along similar lines which you may have inspired me to share by writing a hub on the topic too....
I didn't have time to read through all the comments so you may have already answered this questions, but was Charles really a woman and not a man who had a sex change?
Such a sweet, humble, gentle spirit...it is evident you have such a beautiful heart in how you express yourself! You and Daisy both are genuine blessings to the lives you touch! Thank you!
Hi Blondepoet, I don't think I could ever imagine what my reaction will be. LOL thanks for reading and dropping by. :-)
Hi Christinekv, looking forward to reading that hub! And yes Charles was really a woman. :-) Thank you for your words that inspire me. Blessings to you too.
Eheh, alwyas read very careful what you sign ^_^'
Hi anime, hehe yes I've been very careful after that incident. :-)
That's a great story- did you ever end up dating a lesbian?!?!
Hmmm maybe you should re read the story again??? :-) LOL
Michelle
Enjoyed the story - I had a laugh (at your expense, sorry!) But that should make you all the wiser now. More TRUE stories please! LOL :D
Hahahaha Glad you had a laugh Cris...during our embarrassing moments, I believe laughter is the best medicine after all. :-) LOL
I really enjoyed your story about the misunderstanding. There was a funny episode of Sex and the City where Miranda's coworker matched her with a lesbian because he thought she was one since she did not have a boyfriend. She told the co-worker no she was single, and then had to break the news to the lady that there was a misunderstanding. This took place during a company baseball game, so both of them decided to go ahead and play anyway. Her supervisor thought they were a couple, so Miranda brought her new friend to a dinner party just to try and get promoted at work. That was a funny episode about misunderstandings. I accidenally have put I was a man on some websites that are just blogs.
LOL That indeed was a funny experience on misunderstandings. :-) Thanks for sharing that incident. To be able to laugh at our mix-ups makes life easier and happier too. LOL
Very funny experience but life is full of those strange broken telephone type communications. Lovely story.
Great to see you sixtyorso! Could it be you also have a similar funny experience yourself? (Wink) LOL Thanks for coming over! :-)
The topic is really something of interest to many viewers......Thanks
Thanks for dropping manujkhera and being interested enough to read this. :-)
Very funny! I can tell you are a very charming person! We all have our "oops" moment.. thank you for sharing yours :-)
Enrapturedflame, you are right about the "ooops" moments. Your comment made me laugh. LOL Hope your oops moments made you laugh too. :-)
Thanks for sharing your funny life experience. It's entertained me!
God bless,
Wow thats quite the story! haha
Thanks metaphysician and Drew for the visit! :-)
LOL, that's the kind of story that feels our days with laughter.
It was entertaining...
hmmmmmm
Hy there! I am new to Hub Pages and just put my first hub "up". I really loved this hub, and it never ceases to surprise me how people react to women who are gay, or (in my case) bi-sexual. You have other hubs that are really good.
The Irish have an interesting saying - never be backward about being forward! Lol! I think of this when reading this hub! Take that as a compliment from a Brit!
Anath: glad this one put a smile in your face :)
Loua: thanks! :)
reeltaulk: Hmmmm.... LOL. Okay you got me there..wondering what you are thinking!
Cheekygirl: I guess because it was my first encounter? LOL And I really thought the person I was talking to was a he. I'll think of that saying, "never be backward about being forward." Hmmmm.... Thanks for coming over and reading this one. :)
Well, the irish have some funny sayings. Mind you, us Brits can come up with some right corkers. Its just I can't think of any right now! Lol! I'm happy to oblige! : )
dayzeebee says:
4 months ago
Hahahahah Ripplemaker this hub is very you...and confirms the common ground with which you and VioletSun share --- "innocence"!LOL. Your stories never fail to make me feel so gay! ROFL. Be blessed little one and may the joy you have in your heart create many ripples of love around the world.:)