Misunderstandings in Relationships | What is Misunderstanding

In Cambridge dictionary the word misunderstanding means –“when someone does not understand something correctly”. This some one can be I myself, you, our friends, pets,aliens , or any possible being having the cognitive power. Although the word misunderstanding is extremely easy to spell, its inherent meaning is still very difficult to understand. Someone had once said that something very easy is very difficult as well-actually this is true when we have the tendency to pay less attention to the easy things of our life.

The purpose of communication technology is to send the messages with some level of quality so as it can be intelligible to its receiver. While a message pass through a communication channel, it keeps losing its energy due to various factors (interference,distance, presence of other sources of signals etc..).At the receiving end if the signal is too much corrupted then the detector fails to decipher it, which results in unintelligible message for computers or human brain. I think in case of human relationships somehow similar kind of things happen which make us misunderstand the other persons’ point of view. In a word, misunderstanding is failing to understand the actual theme of a message.

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Why we fail to understand the message: because we all have invisible boundaries of the insights of mind and intuitive power. When someone’s message falls beyond the limit of the horizon of one’s mind then his brain disagree to accept the message. Actually no one is responsible for this kind of situation, everyone is right from his thinking perspective. Then why there are so many differences among people. Education, social background, families, religions, demographic locations even temperature has effects on human mind, living in a particular atmosphere, to develop his reasoning power which is not necessarily will be the same with a person living on any other part of the world-this fact works well to a certain class of people. Since all the physical laws and the morality remains the same irrespective of place, race or creed, someone who has a sound understanding of the physical and mental system should reach at some level of understanding at any level of life including both the material and the physical world.

There are several types of misunderstanding, mostly fall into the broad categories of relationships of families &friends, religious ,social, international, scientific, philosophical etc. Most of the fights and hatred start from misunderstanding in the form of all the mentioned broad categories. Misunderstanding raise doubts which might be ended up in a crisis. For example, a couple might ended up in divorce which was deeply rooted in misunderstanding between them. Due to the lack of understanding many of today’s established scientific theory was rejected initially in the past. The same is true in case of political leaders , why some leaders stress more on environmental threats to the world and why other leaders do not pay much attention on the environmental issues. One of the explanation can be that they fail to understand that what is a current crisis to others might occur to their countries or they simply don’t understand the importance of environmental crisis or it can be intentional denial of the actual situation which is very unlikely to the characteristics of the great leaders.

Minimizing the misunderstanding is not very difficult. Firstly, one must need to have some kind of mind set that any misunderstanding can be solved .Secondly try to figure out the main reasons of the misunderstanding; write down your point of views and the other persons’ point of view about the misunderstood topics or issues. Are there any similarities between your and your opponents’ point of views. If yes, keep working on how to find out more similarities with your opponents and try to listen to his points carefully even if he says any wrong thing without opposing let him vent his feelings. Now keep focusing your similarities with him and talk to him about only the similarities or the any positive sides of your opponent and prepare yourself for some scale of sacrifice and ask him for more time so as you can understand what he is exactly trying to mean. Conversation should not be stopped ………Time has the power to melt any iceberg, everything is succumbed to the charm of time and misunderstanding is no exception to that.

Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.
Albert Schweitzer

Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

How to overcome misunderstandings

There is no harm in appreciating your opponents. The person you misunderstood can be your best friend or any close one, due to a misunderstanding about a silly issue he /she can’t be left alone. All the doubts and misunderstanding in any relationships only can weaken our power of growth in any aspect of life. Because most of the time you will find that misunderstanding happening between two the parties those are sharing a common goal. Everyday we are heading towards the path of unknown and our ending is closing in on us, we don’t know if we ever meet the people ,whom we see in our daily life or hubpage, after our death. If there exits a next life or not is not a matter of discussion in here .Lots of lives and energy has been wasted in the name of religions, which is just a philosophy of life only. The same is true for countries which were at wars in the past. Our first job is to behave as a human; What is human: I don’t think human is just a biological creature with a delicate mind of extraordinary reasoning power, I would rather like to see human as a concept of a virtuoso artist , our job is trying to match that concept as close as possible.