The How of Happily Ever After
Happily Ever After Tales
The How of Happily Ever After
At the end of all of those stories comes the “happily ever after”
We spend our lives searching for the sequel
Going through the dark woods and thorny gardens in search of the answer to how
Because they never tell you that part
Details abound in every line of every fairy tale and nursery rhyme
The shine of the gossamer threads of the princess’s dress is bright
The exact shiny red color of the poison apple seems real enough to draw our lips in
We know the number of breadcrumbs in the forest that were desperately left as a trail
We can understand each step of how to get to the end of the story
But when we get there, all we find is the single, vague line
“And they lived happily ever after”
But how?
What they don’t tell you is how every character that you learned to love
Must spend the rest of life achingly figuring out
What it means to live happily ever after
They don’t tell you that Cinderella constantly battles a seething anger
Which inexplicably arises every time that her prince fails to pick up the slack
Of household chores
Or pick up the babies that never seem to stop crying
She struggles to compare this life to the old days slaving away for her stepmother
And she knows that it is better now
But she is angry anyway and she doesn’t know what to do with that
They don’t tell you that Snow White ages and insecurities abound
She’s not the fairest in the land anymore and she knows that’s the cycle of life
But she can’t help hating the crows’ feet around her eyes
And sometimes she sips her coffee and looks at the list of names in her cell phone
And she wonders if there is something wrong with her
Since she can only make friends with dwarves and animals
She wants to feel beautiful again
Or at least to experience the drama of witches and kisses
But she doesn’t quite know how to do that in her happily ever after
So she rinses out her coffee cup and continues with her day
Little boy blue still falls asleep on the job
Little Miss Muffet hasn’t stopped being afraid of spiders
Hansel and Gretel have incestuous fantasies because of the horror that once bound them
The three little pigs are still trying to rebuild their homes
And the truth is that the two are rather angry that they lost things
And their brother didn’t
Little Red Riding Hood can’t stand the sight of picnic baskets
Rapunzel gets a panic attack every time that she has to go to a salon to get her hair cut
The London Bridge keeps falling down
And Jill picked herself up off of the bottom of that hill
But she never quite got over the fact that Jack left her there
And she still doesn’t quite trust men
The truth is that they’re all doing a lot better than they were doing before
They struggled through their difficult circumstances and they prevailed
There is even happiness sometimes
But what they don’t tell you is that
Happily ever after
Is hard work
After the initial excitement of being rescued is over and safety has taken its place
The fears and traumas set in
Co-dependency and rescue fantasies and addictions are inevitable
Imbalances of power in relationships, insecurities in the mirror
Sometimes Sleeping Beauty gets so tired of trying to live happily ever after
That she just wants to get back into that bed and go to sleep
But they get up and go on
Figuring out each day how to move through the past
How to live in the present
And what it means to be
happily ever after