Inner Beauty Is Most Important

I'm the littlest one
I'm the littlest one
age 14
age 14
the world tells us to develop our looks, NOT our inner beauty
the world tells us to develop our looks, NOT our inner beauty
do we really want to look like this??
do we really want to look like this??

Do you feel pressured by the press and Hollywood to be beautiful?

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Low self esteem can lead to bulimia and anorexia :(

Here's a little story about Me.

I was brought up in a very large family, I am the youngest of 10. Yes, ten! Ten children....wow. Yeah I can't believe it either. Wow.

When I was a kid, I always heard people say, "Wow! You're one of ten?!" And it seemed so awesome. They would say, "You're such a good looking family." "Oh, we can tell you're an (last name.) I have to say I felt pretty special being the baby, and I still do, though things are quite different now and I feel special for a lot of different reasons. Back then I felt special cause I was cute, I was little, I was the baby and treasured. But life in our family wasn't easy with a father who yelled all the time; I found it quite scary at times, and with a mother who wasn't always well mentally who told me "the devil is in the closet" that we slept in, our room.

Well, when I was young, neighbors always complimented my looks as did my family. It seemed really important or a big deal that I was beautiful, that I had natural blonde hair, but it was too important. As I look back today, I see how vain I was, and I think, "If only I was as smart then as I was beautiful, " because being street smart or wise is worth 10 beautiful girls, or something like that. Fact is, being taught the truths of life and given the opportunity to grow in a very educated and open minded way is far more important than being pretty. At least I think so!

So, now here I am at what some may call middle age, but 35 is really still young! I've finally found my way in life, at least I know what I want now. I'm still the baby and I'm really proud of myself for so many things, because from where I came from, I just know I've come a long way. You see being from a dysfunctional family with lots of issues of codependency....and more things...well I'm just glad I am what I am.

When I say I'm proud of myself and I feel special as the youngest, it's not anymore because I think I'm the prettiest because I'm not, and I'm glad because life is so much more... But I feel special because I love people, and like to help them. I feel special because I know I'm trying my hardest. I know I'm quite the opposite of my parents in many ways, and that makes me proud. I don't mean to sound disrespectful, but I'm not a packrat like my parents (I hope I never will be!) and I've conquered my issues head on- I've become assertive, I've overcome codependency, and many other things. I speak from the heart and I am the same person here, at home, in public, I don't put on a fake facade.

It's good to like yourself and deep down I do, I really do. But we all get insecure at times, like whether we are wearing the best clothes or makeup, do we look good, do we act appropriate, do people like us, etc. It's negative thoughts and it inteferes with your own self worth.

Vanity

In today's world vanity is more common than ever and it shouldn't be. Musicians have to be beautiful as opposed to being talented. Girls feel pressured to be size 0 and who really wants that, I mean what man really wants to f*** a stick?!

Seriously. Take me as I am, I'm honest and direct to your face. What better way to be? Holding in things makes you Passive aggressive......

Being told that looks are most important is a lie. And I've proved myself for I fell in love with someone who I first thought was very unattractive- I was able to put personality and intelligence above looks and I'm proud now that I see the difference.

Vanity .....The bible says something like (I'm not good at quoting exactly) vanity of vanities, all things but to love God is vanity.

I just looked at a picture taken 6 years ago of a relaxing vacation I took in Florida with my Mom. Just the two of us, having a good time, I was younger, better fit, prob better looking lol, maybe, and happy.........and.....the atmosphere was GREAT!

Seeing myself relaxing in a hot tub reminds me of what God has in store for us, that he has prepared a place for us, Wow!

Anyway, vanity is foolish. Take it from me, Instead of always trying to look pretty for the camera like I did, or thinking everyone's watching me in the crowd or room, take time to develop your intellect, your manners, your etiquette, your mind, your beliefs. For God did not create us to be above one another and we know that as Christians we are no better than each other.

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Harlan Colt 5 years ago from the Rocky Mountains

The more of your hubs I read the more awesome I think you are. Sometimes we grow up to be the person we swore we never wanted to be (our parents) and sometimes they teach us NOT to be like them by being themselves!

This is another great hub dearie. I vote up and awesome!

P.S. check this link for a cool bible verse program. I use it now and again, it comes in handy once ya get the hang of it. http://www.swordsearcher.com/download.html

They want you to pay for the advanced version, but if you don't it has a free basic search function, which is what I use.

- best Wishes

- Harlan


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

You're right, and thankyou very much!

I checked it out, and I love the name sword searcher!

~Rose


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

My compliments, Rose. You have very good reason to be proud of yourself and your imposing writing skills. Brava.


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kashmir56 5 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Rose, great hub, I have never thought of myself better than anyone else, and don't think anyone is better than i am because of what they have or who they are.We should look at others has God see us, we are equal in His eyes even though we are sinners He still loves us and He see the good qualities within our life and that is what we should look for in others .

Awesome and vote up !!!

P.S. If you want a great podcast that gives you a daily scripture reading and something to meditate on and some music for free you can check it out here.

http://www.pray-as-you-go.org/

You don't need a iPod or mp3 player to play them.....enjoy !


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

drbj, thankyou :-) your comment is very appreciated ;)

kashmir, I agree and thus the point of this little hub:) thankyou! I will check that out ;) Keep on living for God ;) love Rosey


sord87 5 years ago

There is a time all of good things will come back to us,as long as we believe and stand as ourself,i think you are one of them,our past is not carried forward right.thanks for great story and advice as well!


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

HI sord87, ...oh so you mean that I can only do better......hmmm I think your right.

thanks!


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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, I totally agree with everything you said, beauty can only take someone so far, but intelligence and being kind is the most important thing a person can be, we all lose our looks as we get older, but personality has to endure, cheers nell


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

Hi Nell,

It was challenging for me because my parents instilled in me into thinking looks were the end all be all and most of my siblings still think you need a gorgeous partner, and it's asking for too much at times. I'm just glad I see the whole picture now! Yes, we all do lose our looks when we get older! ha! Thankyou :)


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Mitch Alan 5 years ago from South Jersey

"You don't have a soul. You ARE a soul. You HAVE a body." ~ C.S. Lewis

Great work...keep hubbing...


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schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago from USA Author

@Mitch Alan,

Nice quote, thanks for stopping in :)


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Mitch Alan 5 years ago from South Jersey

You can't go wrong with C.S.Lewis...


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA Author

Yep, C.S. Lewis is great!

Thanks again!

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