How We Could Increase The Birth Rate Among Young People

Introduction

Why is the birth rate in the West below replacement level, and what could be done to boost it? Government incentives like cash payments have failed from Europe to Singapore, while year long maternity leave and government childcare guarantees hardly make a difference. What would lead to a cultural change and stable native population birth rates?

Knowledge

Ensure that women know that their fertility drops at 30 and significantly after 35. You can't wait until you are 40 to start trying to have kids. It is already too late for many if you wait until almost 40 to try to have a family, and if you manage to have a child, it is likely to be only one, not the two children most would-be mothers say they want.

And egg-freezing isn't the solution it is held out to be, since the success rates with egg freezing appear to be lower than standard IVF.

While children benefit from exposure to the arts and sports, they don't have to be in formal teams or shuttled to events constantly.
While children benefit from exposure to the arts and sports, they don't have to be in formal teams or shuttled to events constantly. | Source

Reasonable Demands on Families

End the threats of calling CPS if your 8 year old walks to school, if the kids play in the yard without parents supervising every moment. The pressure to have a parent always present makes raising children too hard to manage if you have more than one.

Children do not have to be involved in multiple activities outside of school. Parents are not neglecting their children if they aren’t constantly flitting from activity to activity.

A college education has become the minimum requirement for a middle class lifestyle. However, your children do not have to attend a much more expensive private school, much less an Ivy League school, to get a good job. And recognize that not all kids are college material, and those who aren’t should learn a well-paying trade from vocational schools from welding to plumbing to CNC programming to diesel mechanics. As Mike Rowe says, the “dirty jobs” are denigrated in society but pay very well. The problem too many face is the expectation to save as much as a house for each child’s college education, so they only have one child to ensure they can pay for that premium degree. If they were more realistic on routes to a good paying job, they would know they could afford to raise two or three children instead.

Pets are not people, nor should your pets be called your children.
Pets are not people, nor should your pets be called your children. | Source

Priorities of Would-Be Mothers

Stop telling women to have it all, because there is no such thing. And if you want children, children should not be last on the list to career and friends.

Stop harping on overpopulation. We've already hit peak child worldwide, with the projected population growth only the result of a 2 billion member generation filling up the population pyramid to turn it into a cylinder. In the developed world, the birth rate is below replacement rate, and relying on immigrants with very different cultures to fill in the gap is creating chaos.

The marriage pool is greatest in your twenties, yet our society says find yourself, then find someone perfect. Many women abandon great guys because he lacks on item on a long laundry list of requirements. Or they try to live the “single” life, flitting from relationship to relationship without commitment, ignoring the emotional toll of a woman’s nature to seek emotional intimacy with those she has sex with while he is more comfortable having sex without emotional intimacy. She ends up bitter and alone, desperate for a partner, and has to far too often settle in her 30s for a man far below her minimal standards to have someone to marry and have a child with. Where did all the almost-great guys go? They were married to women who did make finding a partner a priority in their twenties. The men who remained single enjoy a larger female pool each year, while single women face increased competition and decreased value in the field because of age. The inability to find a partner after having spent too long trying to enjoy being single, mostly because we don’t warn women of the ticking biological clock or the realities of limited prospects waiting until 30-something to try to find a partner, is why so many single women are relying on artificial insemination to make a baby while they still can. And most of these women won’t have the resources to have a second child.

If, as a society, we stopped celebrating women having the same free-wheeling sexual activity that men crave, and encouraging those who want children to find someone and have those children at a younger age, they would have the support of a partner and time to have two or more children.

We should also stop promoting pets as fashionable alternatives to children, and instead recognize the impulse to have children and support those who want to have kids instead of telling them "you're too young" when they are old enough and mature enough at 25 to have kids.

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savvydating 9 months ago

Wonderful article. Many women in developed countries fear that the world will end if a woman has more than 1 child. Some people believe no one should have children. That social experiment has failed miserably in China, and they are now suffering the fiscal effects of their 1-child policy---not to mention the lack of enough women for Chinese men to marry.

And so, all of your points are well taken by this reader.


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dashingscorpio 10 months ago

Very interesting!

Having children is an (option) for most women and not a requirement.

People who don't want to have children shouldn't have children.

Truth be told the younger a person is the less financially stable they are for the most part. It's been estimated that it takes almost$300k to raise a child adequately in the U.S. from birth to adulthood.

Last but not least most young women prefer to date men in their age range. The problem with that is most guys in their 20s have no interest in becoming their parents!

The very idea of settling down, getting married, signing a 30 year mortgage, and having children is like watching their life flash before their eyes!

The average 20 something year old guy just moved out of a dorm or his parent's basement. In addition to pursing a career path their main interest is playing video games, watching sports, partying with friends, and getting laid.

Very few guys grew up "dreaming about their wedding day."

Marriage and family are generally not considered before age 30 or beyond. Therefore young women who have their sites set on marriage and starting a family would be better off to date older single guys.

The only other option is to wait for their age group to reach that age.

It's not politically correct to consider the fact that not everyone who has children produces a healthy self-reliant contributing member of society.

Some children grow up to be criminals, some are born with serious medical issues/deformities, and others have learning disabilities.

The reality is having children is not always the "blessing" it is promoted as being. We have over 7 Billion people on the planet.

There is no need for any of us to worry about extinction.

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