Online Dating: When to End it

So you had no luck meeting guys in bars. You decided to give online dating a chance. You saw a cute guy and messaged him. Three months passed and you still aren't feeling it, maybe it is time to end it.

If you have not found time to meet after a month that could be a red flag. Maybe he is hiding something.

If you speak on the phone but seem to get bored than maybe he is not the guy for you. When a guy you like calls or messages you, you should be getting excited. You should not act like you are getting a call from just anyone.

Can you relax around him? If their are a lot of awkward silences and you feel tense then he is not the guy for you. When you meet the guy for you, you are happy and relaxed. It should come easy.

If you are talking to a guy and have these feelings it is time to let him go. Yes people can grow on you but don't settle. You could meet him if you want and agree to be friends but if it is not there don't force it.

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dashingscorpio 2 years ago

Online dating is very much like posting a Want Ad to fill a position. If someone is responding to your profile/ad it's because they are interested in the position. If you are responding to theirs profile/ad it is equivalent to you sending them your resume.

A mistake a lot of people make (women) in particular is they aren't willing to take the time evaluate (several) prospects before offering a candidate the position. They become emotionally invested too quickly with one guy that they almost become "exclusive" before a relationship has even been established!

The sad truth is there are an awful lot of people that "want a mate" but they HATE the dating process! Your attitude effects your altitude!

Your subconscious mind will never allow you to succeed at anything you despise. Dating is supposed to be FUN!

A person should have a mate selection process where they judge applicants based upon several factors. Some people who contact you will be ruled out right away, others you correspond with using the online site's messaging/email system to see if you are on the same page. After a few weeks if you're comfortable you exchange personal emails or possibly phone numbers. Throughout this process you are still "interviewing" other clients. You may narrow it down to 3-4 prospects who you decide are worth meeting in person. Keep in mind your goal is not to "find a mate" it is to find the "right mate".

If a candidate behaves like they don't want the position or you realize they lack the qualifications they you remove them from the running.

Online dating is just a (tool) for meeting other people. Too often people who have bad experiences will blame them on online dating. That's like an obese person blaming their (fork) for being overweight!

Whether one is online or offline each of us gets to choose our own friends, lovers, and spouse. If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!

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