The Dating Theory

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Have you ever spent the night sitting in a bar all by yourself wondering what is wrong with you?

Have you spent more nights sitting on the couch alone then enjoying the company of the opposite sex?

Are you almost positive every last fish out their has been taken and you will eventually be the only one left?

Are you lonely?

Well, with the help of “The Dating Theory,” hopefully these situations can be remedied and before you know it, you will be out there on the dance floor with the person of your dreams.

The idea behind “The Dating Theory” is simple. It is based off looks. Now this may seem rather shallow, but if you think about it, it takes maybe seconds for one person to judge another. If you are on the long end of things, maybe you take a minute to judge somebody else. If you have obviously already judged a person that quickly, it really doesn’t give you much time to really get to know them. Therefore, when it comes to dating, the looks are an essential aspect to “The Dating Theory.”

A while back, there was a website where you could rate other people’s looks. You got to decide if they were hot or not. This website is still around and it teaches us something very valuable about our society. We rate each other based off of our looks.

Is it right? Probably not. But we are human and it seems we all have done it. (If you think you haven’t, you are probably lying to yourself) It is the reason we consider some people attractive and others not. It is why some people we would consider dating, and others we put in “the friend” category. In dating, we need to be attracted to the other person. While everybody’s tastes may be a little different, the bottom line, we choose our prospective mates almost entirely off looks.

When it comes to looks, everybody has their own level on the scale of hotness. The idea behind “The Dating Theory” is: your position on the scale is directly related to the person you will be able to date. For instance, if you are a 10, you should be able to date a 10. If you are a 5, you should be able to date a 5. If you are a 1, you should be able to date a 1.

For those 10s out there, they have got it made in the dating world. They have got the looks and because of that, they can pretty much pick and choose who they want to date. They can date other 10s or they can go lower. And obviously, if you are more attractive than the person you want to date, they will want to date you. It will even be exciting for them because they will think they are jumping up the scale for free.

Now obviously, if you are on the lower end of the scale, this does not mean there is no hope for you out there in the dating world. But that does mean you will need other influential characteristics to boost you up on the scale of hotness.

Fame and Fortune!

If you want to boost your numbers on the scale of hotness, you are going to have to work that sex appeal. You need to move past just pure looks and work on the many other factors people will instantly notice.

Now what are these factors you may need, you ask? Most of them can be attained with a bit of work and effort.

The easiest way to boost your sex appeal is to win the lottery. This lottery must be big enough to make you an overnight millionaire. The point is, to easily boost your sex appeal, you need a fortune. (Who said money can’t buy love?) If you have the dollar bills, and you are flashing them all over the place, you will instantly become more attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex. (Especially if you buy them a drink!) However, you don’t necessarily need to win the lottery. If you come from money or have inherited millions, this will boost up your score as well.

The other option to instantly up your hotness is by becoming famous. Now if you are the average person out there, you might think the easiest way to become famous is by robbing a store or killing someone. While robbing a store might make you instantly rich and famous, it definitely won’t up your hotness levels. In fact, it will probably lower it. After all, jail time is definitely not attractive. Killing will also lower your hotness level. This is because you will have instilled fear in the opposite sex. Therefore, fear will push your hotness level down.

So, if you are trying to increase your hotness level by becoming famous, try writing a best seller, staring in a blockbuster movie, or become a model for some world known product. That will give you better results for increasing your hotness levels.

Confidence and Personality

Now obviously fame and fortune will take time, plenty of hard work, or plenty of luck in order to obtain. If you are looking to score a date for this weekend, you might struggle to become an overnight millionaire or put out that blockbuster movie. Therefore, you might have to concentrate on the actual skills you can work on: confidence and personality!

Have you ever noticed that girl walking hunched over, dressed in a baggy t-shirt. No? Didn’t think so! So that is my point. If you have no confidence, who is going to notice you? Probably not that future date prospective you have been eyeballing for the last couple of weeks.

Confidence is a key ingredient to upping your hotness level. Now I am sure you have noticed the girl who is chatting every person up and laughing like she has just heard the funniest joke. Or maybe the guy who has the glint in his eye as he chats with his friends. They have confidence. They don’t necessarily have to be a 10, but their number has increased just because they have got the sex appeal working for them.

Often times people who have confidence walk with a certain step. Their head is held high and their shoulders are back. People notice them. They have confidence in their walk. So, if you are struggling on the hot scale, try walking in an erect position. Maybe it will bump you up a couple notches.

So now that we have your confidence fixed, let’s check out your personality.

Personality is probably the most important aspect of sex appeal. If you have a personality of a wet mop that was used sometime last week and never rinsed, chances are good, you will not keep any person’s attention. (And if you smell like that wet mop, chances are good you should shower before heading out into the dating scene again!)

Having a personality has a big influence on your looks, but it does vary from person to person. For instance, if you can hold an intelligent conversation, you will probably up your ranking. If you can make someone laugh, that will also help. Or how about trying to just be nice. If someone realizes you are a genuinely kind person, that will probably up your hotness levels as well.

If you want the opposite sex falling at your knees, or you are just trying to get higher on the hotness scale, you must accentuate those traits other than your looks. Focus on improving your personality, confidence fame or fortune.

Now where does that put you on the scale? By simple observation, it seems the top of the scale and the bottom of the scale have more sex appeal than those in the middle. So, why do those in the middle have the least amount of sex appeal?

Those on the top of the scale are pretty lucky. They have all the options. They can date whoever they want on the entire range of the scale. Knowing they are already on the top, probably boosts their confidence. With the added confidence, they probably have learned to have a personality as well. With some fame and fortune, they are unstoppable. Their sex appeal is out of control.

The ones at the bottom reek of sex appeal as well. Have you ever run into that person who hit every branch on the ugly tree, yet, for some reason, never has to worry about not having a date on Friday night.

Suddenly, the not so attractive start to look a little more attractive. Why? Because they are funny. The key is, the ones on the bottom are constantly trying harder and harder to increase their sex appeal. They are working on getting higher on the scale, therefore they try harder. They also stay in their own league. Because of this, they will probably end up getting more dates.

The ones in the middle, they are a whole different story. They don’t realize they are in the middle. Therefore, they don’t try to increase their sex appeal. Instead, they are sitting at home all by themselves wondering why. It is as if they are trying to obtain the top notch hotties, because they are almost there. Yet, it doesn’t work. So instead of listening to “The Dating Theory”, they end up sitting at home alone.

There are several different dating theories out there. This one is purely based off of looks and sex appeal. Both of which, in today’s society, can be worked on. However, there is a lot of truth in the theory. For instance, if you ever truly look at a couple, does one usually look “out of the other person’s league?” Most likely not. That is because the most successful unions work when you date at the same level of the scale.

Now, by human nature, we judge each other. By looks, we are either attracted to another human or not. Each person does have a different taste, and even if the looks are what gets you there in the first place, it is the other traits that will eventually keep you there. It just goes to show, you should never judge a book by the cover. In life, it is the inside that really counts, and after the looks are gone, it is what is inside the person that will keep you attracted to them in the long run.

However, this hub is about dating and not about marriage. So, while you are out there having fun. You can read the book later.

 If you are in the mood for a good laugh, this video is not to be missed. This is the inspiration behind this hub. The reason behind the video is to start a discussion about "The Dating Theory." I would love to hear your comments below. In addition, don't forget to check out the video and leave your comments there as well. Thank you Darrel Wagner for the great idea. If you would like to check out other videos this man has made, check out his youtube profile here.